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Q: ok so ive known this guy for a little more than a month. we met one night when i was out with my friends. we talked almost everynight and last night we finally hung out...well we hooked up and im just afraid he wont call me again..so if he doesnt what should i do?

If he doesn't call you, don't worry!

Try keeping yourself busy by watching tv, surfing the internet, playing outside (riding a bike, etc..) or have a friend over.

Before you know it, time flies and he'll call!

If he doesn't, try to get a hold of him, call him, text him, if he has a computer, e-mail him!

Just don't worry about it, just think positive :)

-MADLYxINxLOVE

Q: Is it possible to like 2 or more people the same amount? (Romantic "like")

Yeah, it's possible to like more than 1-2 people. I would call it something for having a 'thing' for them, you know? ;)

-MADLYxINxLOVE

Q: I havent had a boyfriend for like 3 months but it seems likes it been forever. I want a boyfriend bad. Is that a bad thing?

Wanting a boyfriend isn't a bad thing, it's absolutely normal and natural.

But wanting one so bad and just hooking up with guys you barely even know, is a bad thing. (Though, I am not accusing you of doing that.)

But what I would do is try to keep my mind off of getting a boyfriend. Like hanging out with some of my friends, go shopping, talking on the phone (not about guys) all that good single girl stuff. you know?

Sorry I have included more information for what you asked for

But I hope I helped and good luck :)
-Paper_Heartsz

Q: ok. i have 2 best friends who i've been inseperable from since like 4th grade (one of them though since like kindergarten). and now i'm going into highschool. we're always together, (most of the time lol) i can tell them anything, we have so many laughs and fun times together, and i can totally be myself around them, which is great because i'm really shy. but last year, well technically still this year..lol 8th grade.. the one who i haven't been friends with since kindergarten..lets call her Jen. well Jen has been occasionally telling me some stuff about the other friend "Rachel" about how she annoys her sometimes, and stuff like that. ok so i was just talking to my friend Jen online. and this is sort of what she tells me:

she was like: no offense because i know you are really good friends with Rachel but i really dont like hanging out with her. then she gives me all these reasons why. she also telling me that she thinks Rachel has become conceited, and gave me a reason. "she just like acts immature sometimes and tries to be funny when she's not" thats also something she said. "like I'll be her friend and everything.but i definitely don't want to hang out with her a lot in highschool"

so my question is. do you think it is right of her to say this? we're supposed to be BEST FRIENDS, yet she's saying all this shit behind Rachel's back. i don't want our friendship to just die, i mean i have the greatest times with these two girls. high school will be a huge change and we'll make new friends and everything but i don't want it to completely tear apart our friendship. idk i just can't believe she's saying this because i feel like i have the best times when all 3 of us are together and now if Jen doesn't want to hang out with Rachel it will never be the same. what should i do/say to her? do you think it was right of her to say this? if you want the reasons of why Jen said what she said then give me your email and i'll tell you. thank you.

For what your friend is doing 'talking crap behind one of your closest friends' back isn't the right thing to do.

This is what causes drama, most of the time.

But if you ever talk to the girl who keeps talking about your friend, Jen I believe you want us to call her. To tell her she needs to talk to Rachel about this whole problem and to stop trying to get you in the middle of it.

You can't really force her to be Rachel's friend. And you can't really force the group to stick together, though you did say something about "High school is a big change and we'll make new friends."

You can go and make new friends that won't talk about your other friends behind their backs. But you can still hang out with Rachel, and still have good times with her, and still hang out with Jen. Though you three don't have to hang out like you two used too.

But you can still remain friends with the both of them.

But if Jen keeps talking about your friend Rachel. Just tell her you don't want to know, you don't want to be put in the middle of anything or loose friendship with anyone, and just to go tell Rachel how she feels about it NOT you.

Hope I helped, good luck, and have fun in High School.

-Paper_Heartsz

Q: i'm 17. female...me and my best friend *stacy* where always together 24/7 before and after school. then i started summer school. she would come up there and help my mom. well one day she ran into her old boyfriend. started hanging with him. *jon* introduced me to *jason* we started daten. then about a week later stacy leaves jon then jason leaves me. now stay and jason are together. i ask her why she did that she said "s***t happens and to get over it" that really hurt me she was my only and true best friend. now should i be mad at her and have nothing to do with her. or give her a 2nd chance?

-keep in mind when she started hanging out w/ Jon again she changed alot to the point that me and her parents noticed her haveing more attitude and the forbid her to see him but she keep doing it and she is stuck on the fact that she is 18 and she can do what she pleases

Starting off with your best friend, Stacy:
Ask yourself, "if she was a true, best friend, would she have done this to you, though she knows he's your ex, he left you, and now they're together?"

She's not a true best friend at all. I say, don't talk to her for a while, she made a bad choice between you two's friendship, and it sounds to me, she cares more about this guy then you. And that is not what a friend should do, especially if you dated him. So there are consequences for making a bad decsions, especially over a best friend's ex's.

Though she is old enough to make her own decisions and do whatever she so, pleases. Just let her go on with this, she will soon have to realize what you two once had, and misses it.

You have every right to be mad at her, because first off, he's your ex; she's your 'only and true best friend'

I say, invite her over, sit her down and let her listen to you. As a friend she is, she should do so. She should understand that that comment she said to you "Sh*t happens so get over it." really hurt. And that it bothers you that her and this guy are together. And her attitude has totaly changed. Give her examples like "We used to hang out so much, but ever since this guy came into our picture, we've stopped, what happened?"

She should get where your coming from, and look back at what she has done to you, and how you felt about it, if this were to have happened to her.

I wish the best for you two, good luck, and I hope I helped.

-Paper_Heartsz

Q: Hi. If it helps, I'm 15/f. Ok, I think I might be gay or bi. Lately, I have found myself wanting to be with a girl more than with a guy. A few weeks ago I was at the waterpark with a friend, and I checked out almost every pretty girl I saw. Now, honestly, I don't know if it is because I might be gay, or because I find myself wanting to be a lot like them. Also, there is this girl at my school who just graduated. We were friends, and she was also gay. We played softball together for 2 years. I found myself wanting to be with her more and more everyday. I have had this 'crush' on her for as long as we have known each other. First, it started out with her looks, but I as I got to know her, it became stronger. I haven't had a real 'crush' on a guy since then. I don't really find any boys that attractive any more, but I find myself checking out girls more and more often. Also, when I watch movies, I check out the girls more than the guys. It's just like the guys are there, and the girls are there for me. It's hard to explain. I mean, I don't really want a boyfriend. As awkward as this sounds, I WANT A GIRLFRIEND! You know, how usually girls dream of doing sexual things with a hot guy they see in a movie or something? I do that with girls!! Someone please tell me your honest opinion.

I must say, a lot of young teenage girls are going bi/gay. And I find that absolutley okay.

It seriously isn't what anyone thinks about it, it's what makes you feel, and if your comfortable for what you're doing.

Though, I have to be honest, MOST guys are jerks, and I can see why girls are finding other girls more attractive and a lot prettier.

But if you ever find the girl you would want to be with and feel more yourself with. Then go for it, but just let your family and close friends know what your choice is.

They should understand that you're old enough to make your own decisions of what makes you happy.

Hope I helped and good luck.
Paper_Heartsz

Q: if you could change/improve anyhing about your school, what would it be? im doing this for a research class so responses are appreciated =]

-Better food.
-More room in the cafeteria.
-More (after school) dances.
-More clubs/sports (after school)
-Bigger lockers.
-Clean floors/carpets/sidewalks.
-Dress Code.
-Cell phones allowed in school.
-Allowing Holding hands, and possibly giving a peck on the cheek. Nothing serious.
-Clean buses.
-Allowed to chew gum, but must be thrown away.

Hope I helped, and good luck

Q: my (former) best friend made a myspace about how much of a slut she thinks i am!! she even put up photoshopped pictures of me making out with half the guys in school!! what should i do??

I'm truly sorry I'm late at responding.

But the best thing you can do is report it to Tom (The creator of MySpace)
Hopefully she deleted it by now.

Again, Sorry for responding late.
-Paper_Heartsz

Q: wat does lylas mean? lol i no its stupid but its been racking my brain

I must say, though, you might as well already know it.

But it means: Love You Like A Sister.
There's also another one, LYLAB.

LYLAB: Love You Like A Brother.
Just letting you know what that meant also :)

-Paper_Heartsz

Q: well the ppl who i thought were my friends always go put and never bother to call me to ever go but then when they need a ride home they always seem to call me cause i can drive i cant stand it what should i do ? should i get new friends and let them know how i ffeel ....Ill rate!!!

You deffinatly need to go get new friends.
These friends are very immature and just using you just because you can drive (for what I read it seems like they do.)

You should try talking to them, and tell them if they were your friends, they wouldn't call you up just to get a ride, they should call you up to hang out.

Tell them it bothers you how they never call you just to hang out, just for a ride.

You should stop picking them up. Maybe because if you drove them where they needed to be located once, they think it would be okay with you if they just let you do it for them all the time. This needs to stop, and speak out your mind.

Trust me, after you let it all out, hun, they should stop calling you and they can find their own ride(s).

Meeting new people who won't treat you like that is a gift. So go out there and make better friends that they need and deserve you.

Your friends that you 'thought were your friends' can go find other friends, they certainly do not deserve you as a friend. your too good for them.

-Paper_Heartsz

Q: Hey, may 29, this kid Mark asked me out. I love him so much, and a week later he dumped me. I loved this kid alot.

July 15, this kid Felix asked me out. I said yes, he was cute. I forgot all about Mark. I seemed to love him. I just spoke to Mark, and he seemed to like me again. Gosh, now i like BOTH of them.

The problem is, Felix really likes me, and i feel so bad if i would dump him for Mark. Mark on the other hand dumps every girl after a week or two.

Felix said, he would commit succide if i broke up with him. I know he ment it. Last night he said he had a pocket knife to his throat, because he had no one to live for. But then he relized he loved me. So, he put it down.

HELP! I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO I CRY ALL THE TIME

Woah! I think you should just tell both of them that you need space.

"Last night he said he had a pocket knife to his throat" Did you see him do this to himself? Or did he just call you up and told you that. Cause if he did that through phone, and was seriously, you should tell someone about that.

And as if for your ex, Mark, he sounds more like a player, and an immature player, I should add. Dumping every girl he goes out with for 2 weeks.

Hun, I think you should leave both of them. You don't want to put yourself into a position where someone will want to 'commit sucide' because you want to be with someone else/date other people.

Good Luck!
-Paper_Heartsz

Q: Hey today I asked my husband to fix me 2 pop-tarts you'd think all the work involved was poppin em' in the toaster but no he puts butter on the back of them. Have yall ever heard of this? 5's for all thoughts.

No, i never heard of this before, but it sounds kind of tempting to do.

I shall try it sometime. =]
it was really sweet for your husband to do this for you.

Q: my friend kayla .. thought it would be a GREAT joke to IM my boyfriend and act like some girl looking to hook up .. and the thing is that kayla has a tendency to make things up .. or to invision things differently when she doenst like the person .. and she really really didnt like how my boyfriend treated me.

well she called me after she 'IMed him' as mandy moody, and he apparently asked her for pictures, her age, grade, and said that he had a girlfriend but wasnt thinking it would last much longer, becuase 'i didnt put out'.

so when i heard this, i got very hurt and very upset. and i tend to make snap decisions and judgements in the heat of hte moment .. so i broke up with him .. now i realize talkin to him would have been a better idea.

the more and more i think about it, the more and more it seems as if kayla maybe did say that just to get me to dump cody .. her own sort of motivation in a way .. because for someone who had such a problem with me not puttin out, he never made any moves .. all the things we did do I INITIATED! .. so i guess my question is .. what should i do .. try and talk to him .. see if i can get him to take me back .. how would be the best way to go about doing that?

guys opinion .. would you take someone who did that back ..?

i mean i wasn't completely happy with how he treated me, but i cant do this anymore. i cry constantly. the only time i dont cry is when i sleep, and then i dream about him. so i wake up and cry more .. i liked this kid for over a year. 7 months of that was trying to get over him. now ive dated him and fell harder, and now i have to give him up. what kills me is i didnt lose him, i let him go ...

First off, I don't think your friend, Kayla, should have even have been into your relationship business, you know?

Did she even ask you if it was okay to pull a prank on your boyfriend?

If not, then she isn't a good friend. You should talk to him and tell him it was all Kayla talking, and that it really hurt that she told you that 'you didn't put out'

You may never know, he might have never said that, maybe something your friend wanted to tell you to get you two to break up. That is what I'm thinking.

But first, you should talk to your friend, and tell her that it was wrong for what she did, and that your (ex)-boyfriend meant so much to you.

Then, talk to him and tell him that he meant everything to you, and start talking to him as friends. Maybe hang out at the mall, movies, park, your house, his house.

Hope I helped, and good luck!
-Paper_Heartsz

Q: Well I've known this girl for about a year now and we're really good friends, but I'm starting to like her more than a friend (if you know what I mean.) The only problem is I don't know if I should ask her out or not. If I do and she says "yes", then great, but if she said "no", that would just be really awkward and it would be wierd every time I see her again. So...what should I do?

I have had the same problem. Or at least something similar.

I had a crush on this boy for the longest time. I told him I liked him on the last day. Then the next day I told him how i felt about him through the phone. I thought he wouldn't like me back, but things came out great.

You shouldn't be scared to ask her out. Yes, you can get nervous at first. but that's natural. I was nervous to tell him I liked him. But you'll never know. Make this time a memorable.

Girls find it pretty attractive/sweet when guys tell them how they feel about them. How much they like/love them and care for them.

But it never hurts to give it a shot. Trust me, in the end, you won't regret it.

Good luck! :)
-Paper_Heartsz

Q: I am in 7th grade and i have very small boobs. I mean, and advice on how to make them look bigger or grow faster? Please don't tell me just to be comfortable with myself because, let's face it, i'm not. Boys seem to only like girls with boobs. HELP!

signed,
boobless.

There isn't much you can't do.
Unless you want to "stuff" your bras. Which people call really slutty, and fake.

But the best thing you can do is wait.
It isn't the best thing to do. But most guys find it more attracting if your boobs are 'real' then having you "stuff" every morning for the rest of your life making them look realistic.

Just wait, don't worry hunny, they'll get there :]

Q: I am in a serious relationship with a guy. We are only in 8th grade, but i know that he is "the one." I really can't explain it. We love each other and have kissed a lot and made out. Do you think i am ready to let him take off my shirt. He tried once but i didn't think i was ready, but now i think i do. I really want to. Should i go for it? We wont have sex or anything, we will probably be naked around each other.

You shouldn't do this "just to get it over with"
if you feel like this guy is the right one for you to be 'taking off your shirt' then go for it.

if this guy treats you right, and just wants to go looking down your shirt just because you two kissed/made out, you really shouldn't do it.

Do it, if you REALLY want him too. Don't do it because he is telling you too.

But if you feel it 'is time.' Go for it, sweetie.
Hope I helped =]

Q: ok sorry if this may seem gross but this is it:
when ever my frinds make me laugh they make me laugh hard. i laugh so hard...... i pee in my pants,what should i do is this normal?do not ask me to talk to a doctor or my mom either (personal reason).

This is completely normal.
I've had this happen a couple of times before.
So it's no biggie.

But before you 'pee your pants' ask to be excused to use the restroom. sometimes peeing your pants CAN be embarrassing. but be aware before you do.

That way, when you are about to laugh too hard, you make it to the rest room just in time.

Hope I helped.

Q: So, as questions like these always begin...

There's this guy, who I very much like, and have liked for quite a while now. Quite a while being around a year or so. Well, at the time I was dating my ex boyfriend of two years, so of course I didn't break up with him like I should have. I'm so smart...

Well, this guy has been sending me mixed signals. I really, honestly think he might like me, but I'm not sure. I've had a major, major crush on him for the longest time, and I've always hoped he'd work up to asking me out. He'd been talking to me for the longest time, then he suddenly stopped. I wondered what was wrong, but then the bomb dropped.

Anyway, today I found out that he's moving.

Yeah, it really struck me. He's not moving too far away, only about an hour away, but still. Argh! So now, I teeter on the fence between telling him how I feel and not. Should I? I'm so confused.

A girl in my class is having a pool party on Saturday, but should I tell him tomorrow or should I tell him Saturday? Should I even tell him at all?

Any thoughtful answers would be appreciated.

I have a little story to tell, if you don't mind:

Yesterday (the 25th) was my last day of school. I have had a crush on this kid, since the beginning of April. No one ever knew. But at the last day of school, I told him I like him.

Trust me, you would want to tell him before he moves, even on the last minute.

You would feel so proud of yourself afterwards.
=)

Q: Does anyone know why every time a guy and a girl are friends, one always ends up falling for the other ..but they dont like them back?! That happened to me twice and i just want to go out with my best friend soo bad and he dosent like me like that..Soo yeah why does this always happen?

There isn't really an answer to this question.
It's what other people act to one another.

It doesn't happen all the time. But sometimes people just fall for their friendship. But it depends on how the person treats them for what makes them like them.

But there isn't a right or wrong answer to this.

Q: I don't know why every girl seems to think that all men are controling ass holes. I know that most women have had bad experiences, but that's not excuse to totally rat on guys just because you've been hurt once or twice, because in the end that just gives you a worse imagen, and more of a reason for guy's to think that they actually do have more power then you. I'm a guy, but to be honest I'm not a normal one. I'ma girly man to be honest. But I do hate how all my girl friends complain to me about how guys are asses. I may not like a lot of people, but I still do find it offencive, and I'm tired of it

I know how it is.
I hate it when that happens, too.

But sometimes people judge others just because ONE guy treats them wrong, they think all the other guys will do the same.

I agree with you.

But I have to admit, there are SOME that are asses, and some that aren't.

You should just talk to all your 'girl friends' that that really offends you, and don't like it when they call people the same gender as you "asses"

They should understand since they must think you are deffinatly not one.

Hope I helped.

bio

Basics.

They call me alex
I live with one older brother and two little sisters.
I'm taken and in the 9th grade.
I am my own person. I don't try to copy other or try to fit in the crowd.
I like being weird. People tell me that sometimes, but it's okay.
I could care less who thinks of me as what.
I act like a kid sometimes. But sometimes I have those times where I want to be a treated as a young adult.

Music.

Music is life. Without it, my world would be blue.
I can't really stick to one type of music. Like some people I know.
I listen to basically anything that has meaning, or something I can dance too. Or just love the song.
I love listening to music from rock, heavy metal, death metal, rap, r&b, techno.

School.

I'm in high school.
I have the most awesome friends in the world. Yes, I know your jealous.
I don't believe in popularity or labels.
Popularity. No one is popular. Everyone is the same. Alright? OK!
Labels. Kids, get a life. Don't label, if you don't like it, they don't either.
I hate it when people just basically backstab you, I have a lot of those suckers walking around my school.
I most DEF. hate it when people change just to fit in a crowd, for another guy, or just to get attention.

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