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should i be mad at her?
i'm 17. female...me and my best friend *stacy* where always together 24/7 before and after school. then i started summer school. she would come up there and help my mom. well one day she ran into her old boyfriend. started hanging with him. *jon* introduced me to *jason* we started daten. then about a week later stacy leaves jon then jason leaves me. now stay and jason are together. i ask her why she did that she said "s***t happens and to get over it" that really hurt me she was my only and true best friend. now should i be mad at her and have nothing to do with her. or give her a 2nd chance?
-keep in mind when she started hanging out w/ Jon again she changed alot to the point that me and her parents noticed her haveing more attitude and the forbid her to see him but she keep doing it and she is stuck on the fact that she is 18 and she can do what she pleases
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Think about this decision and ask yourself if she is really someone you want to hang with for the rest of your life, Jason or no Jason. If the answer is no because of her attitude, wait and see if she changes. If not, drop her. She's not worth it. If it does change, think about hanging with her, but without Jason. I hope that helps!
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Starting off with your best friend, Stacy:
Ask yourself, "if she was a true, best friend, would she have done this to you, though she knows he's your ex, he left you, and now they're together?"
She's not a true best friend at all. I say, don't talk to her for a while, she made a bad choice between you two's friendship, and it sounds to me, she cares more about this guy then you. And that is not what a friend should do, especially if you dated him. So there are consequences for making a bad decsions, especially over a best friend's ex's.
Though she is old enough to make her own decisions and do whatever she so, pleases. Just let her go on with this, she will soon have to realize what you two once had, and misses it.
You have every right to be mad at her, because first off, he's your ex; she's your 'only and true best friend'
I say, invite her over, sit her down and let her listen to you. As a friend she is, she should do so. She should understand that that comment she said to you "Sh*t happens so get over it." really hurt. And that it bothers you that her and this guy are together. And her attitude has totaly changed. Give her examples like "We used to hang out so much, but ever since this guy came into our picture, we've stopped, what happened?"
She should get where your coming from, and look back at what she has done to you, and how you felt about it, if this were to have happened to her.
I wish the best for you two, good luck, and I hope I helped.
-Paper_Heartsz
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Well, dear, it looks like you and your friend have moved in different directions. She seems to have changed into the kind of person that you don't need to be around. This kind of behaviour is destructive and you don't need that sort of thing in your life. She is clearly not sorry about what she's done, so why should you forgive someone who hasn't asked for your forgiveness? As hard as it may sound, you need to move on and find some new friends. Just as long as you do this in a mature, not vindictive, manner then you will be fine.
Good luck!
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Well, i am a person and i believe in giving 2nd chances. But what she did was absoloutley wrong. And if she is supposed to be your TRUE BEST FRIEND, then you should NOT stop being her friend, but just don't concider her a BEST friend anymore. And just kinda leave her alone for a little while. Obveously she is careless of your feelings! :)
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