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I have been cursed to be born into a family of six kids, thus making me pretty much crazy. However, some good comes of this: I have a wide range of experiences, from hair catching fire to my mom barbequeing with gasoline (true story). So, I've grown quite a repertoire of knowledge, experience, and wisdom to share with the world! Oh, and I can type in complete sentences, which pretty much rocks.

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Hi, I'm in theatre and I have an audition coming up in August for a Shakespeare play that my school is putting on. Our director is really strict and wants everything to be authentic, so for the part I need to learn a "Queen's English" accent. I tried watching a bunch of movies but whenever I actually try, it never sounds right. So I was wondering if anybody knew of any ways I could learn without having to hire a coach.

Ah, one of those angophile directors. Lovely. Anyways, what one of my friends did when she was in this situation (she worked at a Rennaisance fair), was to look online for websites on the Rennaisance period, and many of them focus on linguistics. There were several that explained the way that things should be pronounced, including phonetic spelling and short midi files you can listen to for an example.


Break a leg!

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im having trouble findin the rite bra that will give me good cleavage, it seems like ever bragive me bad cleavage and it doesnt push me up im a size 34c but i think it may b the wrong size. please help me solve this problem and if there is anysite that i cna go to that like shows examples of bra sizes that may also help!
thanks a ton

Personally, I think some of the best bras you can buy are from Victoria's Secret. Granted, they are a bit on the expensive side, but they have sales often, and they really are very sturdy. They have styles that will fit anyone, and many that are padded to help with the cleavage. When you go there, you can ask one of the sales associates to measure you and tell you what size you should be wearing.


Or, if you'd like to measure yourself, you can get a tape measure and measure across your bust and around your ribcage right below your breasts, and write these measurements down. Then you can search on the internet for what each of these measurements translates into for actual bra sizes.


Good luck!

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I know another boyfriend story sorry.My boyfriend is in new mexico we have been going out for 4 months now and he pays for minutes and I know long distance but does it hurt to call me.He told me he would call once a weak. and he never does he did not even call on my birthday i had to wait all day [that crushed me] then i called him and all he said was i'm sorry and i have to go i'll call you back later that was on the 25 of june. I mean he did not even say happy birthday. everyone says he treats me pretty badly all the time with the things he says and stuff he does or does not do. people say i should break up with him. When i get mad at him as soon as i hear his voice i'm notmad anymore. my friends say that that is an abusive relashionship.verbal wise what do you think and should i break up with thanx sorry it's so long.

Listen to your friends! They seem to see this relationship pretty clearly. He is taking advantage of your feelings for him. He obviously doesn't care what you think, yet he won't allow you to express how upset you are with him. Just leave the guy and find someone closer by who will treat you like a lady, as it should be.

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I am a female gonna be 20 next month.Me and that guy we've been together for 4 months.In the beginning it was so beautiful we were like 2 little birds but by the end of may everything change even if i call him he does'nt wanna stay on the phone with me, not only that but everything change about him.I ask him to break up he doesn't wanna,he said dat he still has the same love that he had the 1st day we have met.Do you think he got another girl or wat?Cuz I don't know wat to do

Oh, dear, red flags all over. If he can't even have a conversation with you, how can he have a relationship with you? I say leave him. He doesn't want to break up, but who cares? He can't make you stay in a relationship that you don't want or that doesn't benefit you anymore. It's your choice. Not his.


I hope everything works out for you.


Good luck!

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Ok so I'm 16/f, and I feel really weird because most of my friends have done something, and I've barely even kissed.
Everyone I meet is always like 'how can you still be a virgin?' and it feels a bit uncomfortable.
The things is that I always hear older people say to keep it, that they regret doing it in the first place, but why? My friends dont seem to regret it. And almost no guy would go out with someone who's not sexually active. At least no guy I've come across thinks differently.
What should I do?

Oh, see, your main problem is not that you haven't had sex, but that you allow other people to get to you. Who cares if you're a virgin? Whose business is it what you do in your own bedroom? The fact is that it's your decision when you feel ready to go beyond your current experience. Yours and yours alone. No one should pressure you into doing things you're uncomfortable with, otherwise, those are the kinds of people you shouldn't be around. Especially with guys. You should want a guy that will love to be around you for who you are, not because you're good in bed.


And trust me, you certainly aren't the only one. There are plenty of happy and well-liked people who haven't had sex yet. And if anything, you should be happy that you've stuck it out for this long. In our world, we are bombarded daily with images of the media shoving blatant promiscuity right in our faces. Well, snub the media machine and be yourself.


Just chill out and enjoy your youth, without the fears of sickness or pregnancy. Trust me, you'll hve more fun without those worries in your life.

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Im so bored this summer! I have no friends..It sucks. I do during the school year but when summer comes no one calls me to hang out :( what do i do

I think your real problem is laziness. Here are some ideas to fix your laziness issue:


1. YOU call THEM. Yeah. Simple, but effective.


2. Get a hobby and make some new friends. Again, easy.


3. If you can, get a job. Make some money. Contribute to society. All that jazz. (You know the economy's down.)


4. Do some volunteer work. You know. Again. Doing things for other people just to be nice.


5. Read. Do something to improve yourself intellectually.


I hope that gives you some ideas. If not, you can always sit around and feel sorry for yourself. That's always fun.

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How do you ask out a guy that you really like, and you know that he likes you. We`ve kissed and hang out alot! He has told me he likes me alot and stuff, but i don`t want to wait anymore because i want him to be mine and only mine. what should I do?

And what kind of things can i do around him to show him i like him alot / love him

Again, a very uncomplicated question.


You know he likes you. You like him. Half the work is already done! I think that just asking him out would show him that you like him just fine. So quit wasting time and just ask him!

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I like this boy he always stares and smiles at me. I was in flag football and i was on his team and then this girl joined after me and later at lunch he walked up to me and said im training you for football alone then the girl said what about me and he said no way!! I have heard lots of rumors that he likes me and im starting to not like him but i still don't know if he likes me. i'm so confused does he seem to like me???

Yes, he probably likes you. But that doesn't matter. The thing that matters is...do you like him? If yes, then ask him out. If not, then do nothing. Just because he likes you doesn't mean you have to like him back. It's not really anything all that complicated.

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last year i went to a new highschoolwhere i knew just about nobody, and i met this girl who eventually became my best friend, danielle.

well we have been through alot but lately she has been trying to act all cool, like saying she was drunk when she wasnt or lying about going really far w/ guys to get attention. i talked to her about it a million times and we even stopped being friends for almost 2 weeks because of it but in the end she just goes back to it.

Then i learned to except it because she would grow out of it, shes a smart girl and we are best firends and love eachother.

But then she went to a party. we are sophmores and she gave 3 other incoming freshman guys a bj at one time. I was really mad at her for being so stupid but stuck by her because she did say that she knew she shouldnt have done it.

now im wondering if i should stick by her and try to help her which never really seems to work or to separate myself from that behavoir because her reputation is ruined from all that she has done, and being with her is starting to damage my reputation too. and i dnt ever want to be in a situatuion where she is at party being an idiot and she gets drunk and there goes my ride home or i have to watch over her like a baby. But then again, she was my best friend and i dnt want to just ditch her. i have no idea what to do? stay or go?

A friend's value can always be judged by their behaviour. You have clearly tried and tried to help her see the error in her ways, yet she continues to make bad choices.


I think that you need to open up your eyes and see where this is going. She can only bring you trouble. For example, she could be caught with drugs or anything, and you'd be guilty by association. Trust me, it happens all the time. So you need to tell her that you aren't going to bother being friends with her until she gets her head on straight and grows up, if ever again. You don't need that negativity in your life. Save your reputation and leave her to her party time. It may be difficult, but that is probably the best decision right now.


Good luck!

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do girls like it when you look them in the eye when you talk to them

One's gender is immaterial when considering something like that. It's a matter of being polite. When you look someone in the eye, you appear as if you really are interested, confident, and most of all, honest. It's a habit that everyone should get into because it's polite.


And as a side note, personally, I adore it when my boyfriend looks me in the eye. He has such gorgeous green eyes! But anyways. I hope you see what I mean.

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My brothers gay..
Its not that bad.. i mean.. hes not really girlie.. hes 18 and still lives with us tho (he graduated).. his boyfriends come over all the time.. and im ok with that.. its not too weird.. but when i talk about it with people.. its hard.. and almost like.. embaressing to say hes GAY.. but i know that there is nothing ot really be embarresed about? help?!

Well, since you didn't really ask a question, I won't really give an answer. Just a comment:


Get over it.


He's your brother. You shouldn't be embarrassed by him, especially when you claim that you are okay with it. Either admit that it bothers you, or get over it. The world would be a better place if people would stand up and be honest about their beliefs.


(Sorry if that was a bit too blunt for you. But you just did one of my pet peeves. Cheers.)

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Im 5'8" ish.. and i LOVEE high heels.. but i never buy or wear them because i feel so HUGE with them on.. im only 16 and i dont want to be intimidating (especially to boys!) Do guys find tall women attractive or do they prefer shorter (5'5", 5'6") more attractive? By the way..the way to describe my body is muscular.. my thighs are really toned and im about 151 lbs. Oh, and i have big boobs. Should i stick to flip flops or go with high heel strappy sandals which id LOVE to wear and feel confident!?

Oh, by all means, darling! If you like the heels, go for them! It's great that you feel confident in them. Many women (like myself) don't quite feel like they belong in them. Just don't wear them all the time because they could give you foot problems. And as for what guys like, you should know that different guys like different things. And any man that can't handle a beautiful, confident women probably doesn't deserve her.


Have fun!

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How do you know when to consider someone your boyfriend or consider yourself someone's girlfriend?

In general, just because someone asks you out on a date, it doesn't mean you are boyfriend or girlfriend. It means you are going out somewhere to get to know each other, but you are allowed to date more than one person. You are official once you have decided to be exclusive with each other.

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How do you deal with backseat drivers? My mom and my boyfriend are the absolute worst! With my mom, I tend to get really nervous when she starts up and it greatly affects my driving. And when my boyfriend does it, it just makes me upset to where I just pull over and let him drive.


And I know most of you are going to say talk to them but we all know that doesn't work. I've talked to my mom about it plenty of times and she stop for about 30 seconds until she sees a red light and says something like, "Make sure you don't run that!!" Yeah okay mom, like I don't see the red like AND all the other cars stopped in front of it.

Well, as you've already taken the mature route and tried to talk to them, here's something a bit catty you can try:


Next time they do that, pull over and ask them to open the door. Tell them to get out and start walking. Obviously, they're going to tell you you're being crazy, so then just say something like, "Well, since you don't want to walk, you're stuck with me driving. In MY car. If you don't like the way I drive, walk. If You don't want to walk, then stop complaining." That should shut them up nicely. ;)


Good luck!

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so i'll start by telling you a bit about myself.

i am 15 f. i don't want to sound arrogant but yes, i am popular which is why i don't get what is going on. I am vasrity cheerleader as a sophmore and have no trouble w/ guys and have alot of girl friends. so this is my question...

i got into a figth with this girl and it got bad, but girls are catty. she tried to ruin my reputation, but i ruined her life =] i got her kicked off of class vice president and her friends hate her. but to be fair, she really deserved it im not kidding. she posted pictures of me that were like edited and crap to make it look like i was naked, like photocopying my head onto the pic or w/e. and posted it on alot of the lockers. idk why she did it, shes just jealous b/c im dating her ex bf. seems to me like SHES the sociopath not me...

so after this i got in trouble, the school sent me to a therapist to talk about why i act the way i do. he diagnosed me a sociopath. But um... sociopaths are psycho anti-socials and im the center of attention. Im not a freak, i love shopping and guys and they say just b/c im a little decieving and like it my way, makes me a sociopath???

can somebody please explain to me how a popular varsity cheerleader can be a sociopath because i am way not antisocial.

I think the thing that really clued me in to the fact that you are a sociopath is that part you added at the end: "i'll do anythign to get on top". That is the definition of a sociopath (as I learned in my psychology class). A sociopath will do anything to get to the top, no matter what it takes. Even if that means they ruin other people's lives or hurt them emotionally, they will get what they want. They generally have a sense of self-importance, as well as a feeling that what they are doing is "right", even though by standard moral idealisms, it is found to be unacceptable. This really is a problem, however. These behaviours are not only destructive to other people, but to yourself as well. Your school did the right thing to send you to the psychologist.


Also, to answer what you were wondering about being anti-social:
Yes, you are anti-social by a psychological definition. Those who are anti-social have little or no sympathy/compassion for the feelings of others. They cannot relate to people's suffering. Howeer, the common definition of anti-social, the one you were using, is one who does not enjoy the company of other people, and that does not apply to you.

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Ok so here's how it works, I babysit 3 kids, one is 11 year old girl, a 8 year old boy and another 5 year old girl. I constantly have my hands full. I watch my employers kids, I clean her hous, I do her dishes, and stay there all night, most of the time, she usually stays out and comes home the next day. How much should I charge her? Thanx for the advice in advance..

The common charge for babysitting these days is anywhere between $5-10 per hour, per child, but it also depends on what you can work out with your employer.


This may seem like a lot, but it's not when you think of the nature of babysitting: You are taking time out of your day to spend time at someone else's house, you are watching these kids, preparing their food and feeding them, entertaining them, and putting them in bed. Also, as you said, you clean her house and do other household things, which you actually shouldn't have to do (but are nice things to do which show how attentive you are).


So, just ask her how much she thinks you deserve to be payed, with that range of payment in mind, and see what you can work out with her. You never know, maybe she'll give you more!

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My friend said the first time she smoked a cigarette, she got "high" and she felt jittery and light-headed. Is that true? I mean, can that happen with a cigarette? I'll rate high for good answers. Thanks

It isn't a high as you think of with other drugs, like marijuana. It's more of a light tingly feeling on your skin, a lightheadedness, and a sudden burst of energy. This is commonly known as a "buzz".


All of this can be explained by the fact that not only was it her first time smoking, but because the main ingredient in cigarettes, nicotine, is what they call a "stimulant". It speeds the heart and breathing. This usually happens any time you smoke a cigarette, but it's less noticeable if you begin to smoke regularly.

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Ok,I'm 18/F and the other day I caught my brother he's 16 dressed in my clothes,I mean everything bra,panties,mini-skirt the works when he saw me he started crying,,,,too make a long story short he told me he has been wearing my clothes for a while and that he wants to be a girl. He said that he's sick of pretending and asked if I would help him shop and teach him about makeup,I love my brother an told him I would but I find this very weird. What should I do ?????

Well, I'm sure that was quite startling for you! But I guess this is the time that he will be needing your support a lot. He may or may not be going through an identity crisis, or he may genuinely be gay; one way or the other, you need to support him now at this critical time.


However, despite what anyone else says, I don't think you should try to dissuade him from anything or change his behaviour at all. All you can do is support him: if this is a phase, he'll get over it on his own; if it's not, then you will simply have to accept this as part of who he is. Trying to change him will only further confuse him and he may begin to resent you. Just try to understand why he feels the way he does and be the best sister you can be.


I hope everything works out for you.

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When I was 10 years old, I had a incident where a grown man stopped me next to the road and he wanted me to touch his penis. Since the age of 16 I have had a problem with giving a guy any form of foreplay. Some times I could masturbate them, but that was guys I did not really care for.
I am in a 5 month relationship now and love my boyfriend very much. I have told him what happened to me and he understands, but I want to be able to take part in foreplay with him, I just get to scared. I can also not be naked infront of him when it is not dark. I think this is all connected to my childhood. Other than that our sex life is good. Can anybody please help me? I am a 21 year old female

Oh, dear, that's very unfortunate. What happened to you as a child is completely wrong and I'm sorry that such things should happen to anyone. Just be very happy that you have such an understanding boyfriend!


I think the only way for you to really deal with this would be for you to get some therapy, either with a regular therapist or a sex therapist. If you have never dealt with this problem before now, then you need to do it right away. It will be hard, but the longer you leave this negativity in your life, the longer you are allowing it to hurt you.


Good luck!

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We have a little Chihuahua, and when he goes outside to pee, he pees on his front leg. He does lift his hind leg, and that's when he pees on his front one. If he were to sqat instead, he wouldn't pee on it, but he's a boy dog, so he lifts his leg.

Is there any kind of harness that we can get to keep him from being able to hike his leg when he pees? We go through baby-wipes like mad at this rate. :-(

I get the impression that your dog is rather young, correct? If that's so, then he will probably grow out of this. Many dogs start out not knowing how to hike up their legs, but they soon get tired of wetting themselves and learn to do it right. In the meantime, you should just keep an eye on him to make sure he doesn't make a mess.


Good luck!

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