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It feels weird being the only one
Ok so I'm 16/f, and I feel really weird because most of my friends have done something, and I've barely even kissed.
Everyone I meet is always like 'how can you still be a virgin?' and it feels a bit uncomfortable.
The things is that I always hear older people say to keep it, that they regret doing it in the first place, but why? My friends dont seem to regret it. And almost no guy would go out with someone who's not sexually active. At least no guy I've come across thinks differently.
What should I do?
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why would you wanna do something about that? i mean, you feel uncomfortable about it, but all these guys your talking about--u say they only like girls who are sexually active, but you dont need those guys, because they make you feel uncomfortable about being a virgin. so, wait for the guy who respects that.
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don't worry about it things will happen when they happen and you'll be glad you had to wait cause it made it better!:)
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have you ever heard the say why by the milk when you can get the cow for free, well all your girl friends wont be getting any sale cause they already gave there milk away so u keep ur virginity and when the right guy comes he will know you a keepa
keep it up sista dont give in
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just wait for the guy who doesn't care.
if someone really likes you, then that won't matter to them.
you guys can just work your way up to doing things that are comfortable together and stuff...like that. lol.
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maybe your just waiting for the right one to "go all the way" with. i know how it is to feel uncomfortable to hear ppl ask how im still a virgin but you honestly should be proud that your not taking any risks of bringing another life into this world this young... if you do have sex and the guy turns out to be a jerk, you def. regret it and maybe your friends dont regret it now, but they will in the long run. just wait, your time will come
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Hi, alot of older people rushed into sex not realising that they could get a girl pregnant. Of course once the girl delivers a baby it can ruin their:
1. Social life
2. School and exams
3. Future career
4. Freedom to do what they want
I suppose that's what they are trying to say. Although these days contraception is a big thing and many people are using it. You will have sex when you feel as though you want to and have known a guy for a while as a boyfriend. It is simple, have sex when you want to. Not when your friends or family want you to. It's really that simple. Daniel.
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Look at it this way "Hind sight is always 20/20" meaning the experience is too new for your friends to have any regrets. Older people regret having unmarried sex at a young age because of what they know now. They now realize that it was an immature and often impulsive thing to do. It's not as good as it is when combined with a long term committment. Don't worry about what others say, go with how you feel in your heart. If you don't really want to have sex, and have your doubts, you will be one of those who regret the decision later on. If they ask about your virginity....that's really crossing the line. Just respond back with something that will get them to drop the subject. Such as "Why do you ask"? Honestly they are probably jealous that you have such good self control, but of course they are not going to tell you that.
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Dearie....Just because your friends have done "it" doesn't mean that you have to do 'it', too.
I have really close friends that have done it, too, but they Never pressured me to do that kind of stuff. They Never told me things like "How come you're still a virgin at fifteen?"......
Don't do it if you know you're NOT ready.
Besides, would you want to do 'it' soon with just some pervert out there instead of doing it with the right person?
Think.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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I know alot of people have anwered this question but im kinda in the same situation
heyy...im 15 years old and me n my boyfriend have been dating for two years..weve never had sex..he is sooo supportive of that too. Only you can know when you are ready, you might be scared and all but if you DONT WANNA dont! YOu dont wanna waste your precious virginity on just anyone. People are soo jelous of you sweetie its okay and if they make you do other crap you dont wanna THEN LEAVE THEM...wouldnt you rather be hated for who you really are of be loved beacuse your sum1 your not...?
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well i'm 15 and i lost it when i was 12 through pressure and i am not saying you will loose it through pressure but part of why i lost it is cause i wanted to when i was 12 i had the mind and body of a 15 year old it scary to feel all those feeling so young. but what am saying is that i wish i waited longer like when it was romantic or something all i can say is if you want to loose find a guy that wants to help you loose it i mean a boyfriend or a close someone you know and trust well GOODLUCK !!!
i hope this helps
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well i think the best thing is to wait, there are a lot of people that are virgins & not too expericed.. i acutally think its better, i mean would you rather have sex with someone you dont like to much.. or have sex with someone you love & care about & then the first time can be something very special, dont let you friends pressure you to do anything.. & if guys wont go out with you because you are a virgin then most likely they will only use you anyway for ass, there are sweet guys out there though that arnt like that & im sure you will find someone.
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You are not the only one.
So many people think that sex = love and they mess their lives up looking for love by using sex. Anybody can lay down and spread their legs, that doesn't mean they found their soulmate. That's also not the way to find one's soulmate, though it seems like most young people think it is. That's why they hop from one guy to the next because they are trying to fill a void that can't be filled through sex, but they don't know any better and just keep trying. Having sex with a guy will NOT make him love you.
If you have sex with some guy who isn't your one and only, I guarantee you that you will be disappointed and wonder what all the fuss was about. Without commitment, sex is empty.
Any guy that won't go out with you because you won't have sex with him, isn't someone you want to go out with!
Just tell guys that you are waiting for marriage. The ones who aren't interested in you anymore are the ones who just wanted to use a few of your body parts occasionally.
A guy who loves you for YOU will be willing to wait. Mine did! We were both 26 year old virgins on our wedding night.
There are plenty of people out there like us. It may seem that everybody is doing it, but it's not everybody. Even some of the people who say they are, aren't. They only say it because they think they should be embarrassed that they aren't doing it.
By waiting for marriage, you will avoid 99% of the heartache and problems that your sexually active friends are going through, and you will have the satisfaction of knowing that your man REALLY loves you.
Don't rush it. When you find the right guy, it will be worth the wait.
Good Luck.
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peer pressure, peer pressure, peer pressure... it's heavier than a whole elephant circus.
be smarter than your friends. it might seem like you're missing out on something... but you're not. just imagine - your friends most likely lost their virginities to the first guy that wanted to do it with them. they probably didn't enjoy it too much the first time because it hurt. but they were just happy that they were finally THERE, one of THEM. it was not special to them.
and imagine yourself. a while from now. maybe in a few months, or maybe in a few years. you're with a guy you love very much. you don't want to have sex with him because you want to finally lose your virginity, you want to do it because you want to make love to him. and it will be very special to you, even if it hurts. even if the relationship does not last, the memory will.
i have a housemate who is 24 and she lost her virginity at 23. she didn't regret it one bit, even though she broke up with the guy she did it with. she just didn't have any regrets. and then i had another housemate. she did it with five different guys a month. she got an std from one of them. finally, when she decided to get into a serious relationship, she dated two guys at the same time, and it ended up tearing her life apart. does that sound like a good life to have?
anyway, just try to remember that even though your friends feel like they're the wiser and might be looking down on you, in reality you're the one who is being wise. maybe ten years from now they'll wish they had made the same choices you did.
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Oh, see, your main problem is not that you haven't had sex, but that you allow other people to get to you. Who cares if you're a virgin? Whose business is it what you do in your own bedroom? The fact is that it's your decision when you feel ready to go beyond your current experience. Yours and yours alone. No one should pressure you into doing things you're uncomfortable with, otherwise, those are the kinds of people you shouldn't be around. Especially with guys. You should want a guy that will love to be around you for who you are, not because you're good in bed.
And trust me, you certainly aren't the only one. There are plenty of happy and well-liked people who haven't had sex yet. And if anything, you should be happy that you've stuck it out for this long. In our world, we are bombarded daily with images of the media shoving blatant promiscuity right in our faces. Well, snub the media machine and be yourself.
Just chill out and enjoy your youth, without the fears of sickness or pregnancy. Trust me, you'll hve more fun without those worries in your life.
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Don't let anyone rush you. You seem to not be ready to lose anything right now. If a guy doesn't want to go out with you because your not sexually active enough for him, then he wasn't worth your time in the first place. Do what you are comfortable with doing. It is your body after all. Only do what feels right.
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