Well my name is Cheviann.I know, I know it's kinda wierd, but my sister named me that at the age of five. I'm 13, I like to dance to hip hop, dancehall and rap, I like to draw and I also like to write stories. I am from Kingston Jamaica {HEY-Y-Y REPPING MY HOMETOWN}. If there's anything you need an advice on, you can call on me. I will ansewr them with alot of thought and encouragement!
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My 12 year old son has been bullied by a boy in our neighborhood for several years now. My son has a lot of friends, but of course all his friends are around his age and scared of the bully.
The bully (Gary) is 15. A few years ago my husband and I talked to Gary's parents, because he stole a toy from my son on the school bus. Gary claimed not to have the toy, and his parents protected him--and said we were in the wrong. This only child is perfect according to them. I have given up on going to the parents. The attitude of the police is "boys will be boys" (we live in a small town).
I caught Gary in the act a couple of weeks ago. He jumped on, and broke a ramp that my son and his friends built for their bikes. I told him he was acting like a 6 year old, and that someday someone bigger and meaner will come along and "take him out". He rode off on his bike in a hurry! However now he harasses my son about telling "Mommy". Last night he threw big rocks at my son's bike, causing some damage to paint. Apparently it even makes things worse if I interfear. Usually I do leave it to my son to settle disagreements, but this boy has crossed the line.
My 21 year old son, is 6'4, 240 lbs but If I use him to intimidate the 15 year old, this would be no different than a 15 year old picking on a 12 year old. Although...I doubt Gary has paid much attention to big brother. He'd probably be scared of him, we all know Gary is a coward in disguise.
My son does not want to walk away, because this means he would have to leave his other friends behind, plus he wants to "look tough" Any tips on dealing with a neighborhood bully? (link)
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WELL WHAT I THINK IS THAT ALL OF YOUR SON'S FRIEND AND HIM GANG HIM UP AND BEAT HIM UP, AND SHOW HIM A LESSON. AND I KNOW DOING A WRONG DOS'NT MAKE A RIGHT, BUT START TO STABATRAGE HIS STUFF BUT DO IT ON THE SLICK.
hope i help, and if there's anything you need an advice on yoou can call on me and also bacause i dont got nobody asking me notfin
EbOnY =]
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Ok i'm a 13 year old girl. My boyfriend is 16!
I don't know what i should do about that cuz he's 3 years older then me. And he's never kissed a girl... so should i stay with him or should i dump him cuz he might do something with me?? (link)
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DAM GIRL HOW YOU FIND HIM? ANYWAY I THINK YOU SHOULD STAY BUT THEN AGAIN YOU SHOUILD'NT. YOU SHOULD BECAUSE NO MATTER WHAT HE ASK YOU TO DO IS YOUR CHOSE NOBODY ELSE. YOU SHOULD BECAUSE THOSE LITTLE BOYS SOMETIMES ONLY THING ABOUT GETTING IN YA PANTS. HOW LONG YALL BEING TOGETHER? IF ITS A GOOD WHILE AND HE DIDNT TRY NOTFIN YET MAYBE HE LIKES YOU. BUT IF HE WANT SOMETHING FROM YOU AND HE SAYS HE LOVES YOU DONT BUT IT.
hope i help, and if there's anything you need an advice on yoou can call on me and also bacause i dont got nobody asking me notfin
EbOnY =]
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I still love my ex boyfriend Dean. he wants to go back out with me maybe but i hardly ever talk to him so its kinda hard. my friend Cody i think likes me. i like him too and i would go out with him but i still love dean. and another guy named Cody (we'll call him Cody2) that i work with, i like him ALOT! and i would really REALLY like to go out with him. and I would go out with him in a heartbeat but I dont know if he likes me. we talk alot at work but were not exactlly real good friends. I like all three of these guys and I know Dean wants me back, Cody i think likes me, and the Cody2 might like me. out of all these guys i like Dean the most. i like Cody2 the second most, and Cody i do really like him but not as much as the other two. I talk to Cody more than either of them. i see Cody2 more than eitehr of them too. (Dean lives in Polo and Cody lives in Oak Grove (I live in Kansas City (all the citys are in missouri))) Cody2 calls me alot Cody talks to me all the time at work but I hardly ever see or talk to Dean. I dont know which guy to go out with. but keep in mind that I really like all these guys but i still love Dean. (link)
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i aint trying to be smart, but dam girl. i really dont know who you should pick. but its waht you want, what you choose. and find out if cody2 likes you. im not trying to change the subject and i know im suppose to be answering you question but do you have to drive to missouri to your jod our something, because how come you live in kansas and you work in misouri? however back to the point just go with your heart and mind.
hope i help, and if there's anything you need an advice on yoou can call on me and also bacause i dont got nobody asking me notfin
EbOnY =]
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Hi, everyone. I'm a 15 year old male, and so is this girl I like. I honestly don't know why I am attracted to her. She is overweight, and that's just a turn off for me, like most other guys. But beside the few extra pounds (actually about 30), she's gorgeous. (or so I think) She had chestnut colored brown hair, and paleish skin in contrast. Her blue eyes are amazing. We sat next to eachother in biology all of last year, as the teacher never changed the seating arrangement. We talked a lot, and I'm very shy, so it was a change for me. She talked to me first, and from then on we became very good friends. She bought me a cake on my birthday & gave it to me in class. She laughs at everything, so I don't know if she thinks I'm funny, or not. But I love it. I love talking to her, I love her laugh, I love how random she is, how different, how uncaring of what people think. (dont get me wrong, shes not a geek or anything, shes in with all the right kids, shes just overweight). I couldn't tell if she liked me, but there's something about her that makes me want to be with her all the time. As I said, this would be awkward for me, because she is overweight, and my friends would definitely have fun teasing me/her over that. I don't know what to do, I asked her for her number & aim screename, so I have those now. Whenever I see her get online, I IM her. I told her when I was doing driving school so she could maybe sign up. I think I'm just confused on what to do. Why is it I'm so attracted to her? Should I tell her how I feel? What about my friends? (link)
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why do you care wat ya friends think? is it because you like a fat girl and you scard people will make fun of you. you should givea a shit what people say bout you . people gonna be like that. everywhere you go you gonna have people that cant say out there beez or they always got to say something. but you got to be a better person than that. no matter waht people says you should go for waht you belive in. hold up do you dislike fat girls because ya friends tease them? if so thats not a good thing and you need to change and be yourself. maybe you think you gonna lose your friends, but if they are RUE friends they leave you alone with this fat thing. im niot fat bour not thing is that i hate the fact that niggahs got to juge girls for what they friends say. if you really like this girl you should go for it.Oh yea you may be attracted to her beacose you interest you and you not really lokking at her for how she looks, maybe its her personally you like.
if there's anything you need, dont be afriad to ask.
hope i help =]
EbOnY
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16/f
i dont know how to cope with the loss of this guy who i almost could have said i loved. hes not dead but he might as well be. he doesnt treat me how he used to, infact we dont talk at all really anymore. i know he doesnt have any feelings for me anymore but that doesnt mean i still dont have them for him. no one has ever made me feel the way he did. i dont want him back though because it wouldnt be the same. i just want to get over him. i try but it always fails. i dont want to hang out with my friends and when i do i always think about him and when im on the raod to a softball tourny, all i can think about is him and im always depressed.im never happy or excited for anything anymore.
anyone have any ideas on how to get him out of my mind for good?
thank you much
xo (link)
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LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING THERE'S GONNA BE BOYS EVERY WHERE NICE, MEAN . YOU NEAVER KNOW. BUT THERE IS ONE THING YOU GOT TO KNOW THEY COME AND GO. ITS NOT GONNA BE EASY FOR THE COUPLE OF WEEKS AND STUFF. BUT IF HE REALLY LIKE YOU YALL WELL BE TOGETHER RIGHT KNOW. RIGHT? BUT DAM GIRL IF YOU SOBBING FOR HIM FOR ABOUT A MOUTH OR TWO YOU NEED TO GET SMACK IN THE FACE. HE MAY GET OVER YOU HE MAYBE DID. BUT YOU HVAE TO MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE. YOU WILL HAVE SOME GOOD MEMERIS WITH YOU BOTH. BUT YOU WILL HAVE SOME BETTER NEW ONE.
HOPE I HELP
EbOnY nad if there's anything you need, dont be scard to ask. =]
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16/f
i've never had a real relationship. im not fat, or ugly. i have a lot of friends but i can't seem to find a guy for me. every time i meet one, they sweet talk, and i fall for them and they get what they want out of me and then leave me. i fall for it everytime and i hate it because i am a mess because of it. i started doing really stupid things because im getting depressed. i hate that fact that i did that and im changing. but im still depressed. will i ever find someone for me? it seems all of my friends have found their special someone. whats wrong with me?? i dont want to be an easy peice of ass. but i am. i dont mean to be it just happens because all they need to do is tell me im beautiful and i cant say no. im longing for someone to care for me. and anyone i trust, they betray me.
help, or anything would be greatly appreiciated.
xo (link)
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well i dont know how ya feel, because i never been in that kind of relationship.well girl dont let NOBODY take advantige of you. you can be a better person than that. the first thing a boy gonna tell you " oh baby i love you". some girls being stupid { not all girls and im not calling you stupid} fall for it. then boys go back to his homeboy and tell them everything and calling them names. i know some girls just what to be love and shit. but you gonna know that they are some little niggah out there just trying to get some quick pum pum , and you got ta be the one that they no better not to play that shit with you. you also got to figure out they little playa shit. and i ganretide you gonna find some one that love you or like you for who your are and not what you got. and for my advice dont start to givre it up and soon as you meet them and shit, at least wait a couple a months and see if they want to be with you. BUT BE CAREFUL you do have some niggahs that is really smart and THEY well wait, but they well find some other girln to mess around well he waiting fa you. some of them can be real slick but you suppose to be slicker. also if they trying to be all up pon you, controll yourself and back them off. like i said be fore be slick wit it { it dont mean go and cheat while you wit him}. you can TRUST htem but dont trust them too much.oh yea let they KNOW that you aint a girl that you and do wat you want with and leave.
and if there's anything you need you can just ask me.
sorry i wrote so much, but hope i help
EbOnY =]
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First, thanks for reading this. I've been dating a 40 yr old man, Chris, for a couple of weeks, and we get along really well, I like him a lot, and he feels the same way. Last week, I met a guy online, Jon, who is 26, much closer to my age of 22. Jon and I have an amazing connection, he's everything I ever wanted in a man, except that he smokes...and he lives two hours away. I'm having trouble deciding which relationship to pursue. Should I drop Chris and see where things go with Jon, even if I'd only see him once or twice a week, or forget about Jon and keep seeing Chris, who lives in my town? I'm so confused, and I really need help! Do you have any suggestions on what I should do to decide? Thanks! (link)
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Well i dont know if you want advice from a 13 year old. however if you like older guys you should stick with cris and seen you more about him. seen jon is more what your looking for in a guy and its just 4 years differant maybe its him. nevertheless you should go and what you heart and mind says. if your not sure try find out more about them two then make your finally dision. hope ya pick tha right one
hope i help =]
EbOnY
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my boyfriend and i have known eachother for a year but we have only been dating for 4 months...we liked eachother longer than that but its a long story but anyways, almsot every girl i know likes him and i get really jealous which starts fights because i am so scared he is going to leave me, but i dont know how to stop being so jealous..i love him and he says he loves me but i feel like one day he is going to realize he can do better and i will be left by myself. i also have really bad trust issues because while i was at the beach about a month ago he went over to his ex's house and he said they didnt do anything but after i asked him if he went he lied and said he didnt which makes me wonder if he lies about other stuff so i just dont know when i can trust him, i have started trusting him morebut its just really hard whenso many girls like him...so how can i start trusting him and get over my jealousy? (link)
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Im not sayin you should just give all your trust all out to him,but trust him. i know the one lie make you cant even know if he telling the truth next time.but if he really likes he won`t leave you. well what i think that was outa odda was that he went to his ex's house without telling you.Everyone has a little jealousy in every relationship, all if you get out of the relationship and you see him/her with someone else. What i would do is tell him how i feel.
hope I help
EbOnY =]
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this boy is mad at me because i go with one of his friends but before that he push me away more and more know my self esteem is low do you think i should give him a nother chance and im for real ill rate you if you answer (link)
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well i dont think you should go with him girl your self esteem is low only if you let it. and having low self esteem is when dont have faith in yourself so have a little faith in yourself girl cause if you dont who will n you can do better than that boy cause i think he is tring to use you i think if you take him back he is going to do the same thing he used to do to you.
hope i helped
EbOnY :)
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My dad pasted away from leukemia 4 months and 10 days ago (March 1st). Well right now, we're (my mom, brother, and I) in Ireland visiting family. We've been here for about 3 weeks. Well for then past 2 weeks my mom has been acting very different and forgetful. When she goes to do the dishes or something, when she's done, she'll come and sit down then get up and say that she needs to do the dishes. When she gets into the kitchen and sees that there are no dishes (because she already did them) she'll ask "Who did the dishes? I was about to do them!" It's so weird. She'll also repeats herself all the time and never wants to go out or do anything.
We're all so worried about her but we don't know what to do. My family members want us to get her to see a specialist here in Ireland but my brother and I want to cut our trip short and deal with it once we get back to the states. We don't know which is better.
At first we thought she's like this because of the loss of my dad but she's gone over 4 months without anything weird like this so why now? Any help?
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Okay well i think its just starting to sink in to your mom that your dad is gone. because iremember when my sisters dad died she didnt cry but like a couple of months later she would cry herself to sleep, my point is that different people deal with the lost in different ways so your mom thoughts are just handling it differently so all i can say is help her talk to her do some house work and show her that even thou dads gone its the good memories you guys have now and that your family n you loves her
hope i helped:)
EbOnY
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Hey,my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my granny is ruining my life I know that she is 88 years old,but I don't think this is an excuse for what she is doing to me and the rest of my family.my granny tells me that iam to fat for my own good and talks really bad about my mom and my sisters.on my 17th b-day she made me cry becouse she told me that my mom didn't love me or care about me.I know it's not true,but it still bothered me that my granny would say something like that to me her youngest granddaughter.my 36 year old cousin helped me feel better when my granny made me cry.my granny also tells my aunt how to do things in her own house even though she is 68 years old and she stands over my couse like a hawlk while she folds dirty clothes.If I don't make my bed or fold my dirty clothes she yells at me what should I do.I have to deal with this every weekend all weekend and Iam fed up with her nonesince what should I do? (link)
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Just trying talkin to her bout the sitution. You have to understand that they are old, they reach mannapose and they gonna be fussing and stuff. fa EX my grandma 60 and they reach mannapose at the age of 60 and she just fuss about stupid stuff. my grandma call me names, but i just dont pay her no mind.
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Okay this boy just asked me out and I said yes. I'm 13 and I'm in 7th grade and he's 17 and he's in 9th grade. That's a 4 years age difference so I'm not sure if I should keep going out with him what do you think? I know he loves me he said he said he will respect me and he doesn't care how old I am. He doesnt want you know what, and he's really sweet. I'm sure he really likes me. What do you think of this? (link)
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girl, he 17 in the 9th grade. first you suppose to be around 15/14 to be in the 9th. if you 17 you suppose to be in the 11/12. im not tryin to be smart but what the hell happen to me to let him FAIL so much. my judement to this question is just be carfull.
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Okay this boy just asked me out and I said yes. I'm 13 and I'm in 7th grade and he's 17 and he's in 9th grade. That's a 4 years age difference so I'm not sure if I should keep going out with him what do you think? I know he loves me he said he said he will respect me and he doesn't care how old I am. He doesnt want you know what, and he's really sweet. I'm sure he really likes me. What do you think of this? (link)
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girl, he 17 in the 9th grade. first you suppose to be around 15/14 to be in the 9th. if you 17 you suppose to be in the 11/12. im not tryin to be smart but what the hell happen to me to let him FAIL so much. my judement to this question is just be carfull.
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Ok so I'm 16/f, and I feel really weird because most of my friends have done something, and I've barely even kissed.
Everyone I meet is always like 'how can you still be a virgin?' and it feels a bit uncomfortable.
The things is that I always hear older people say to keep it, that they regret doing it in the first place, but why? My friends dont seem to regret it. And almost no guy would go out with someone who's not sexually active. At least no guy I've come across thinks differently.
What should I do? (link)
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have you ever heard the say why by the milk when you can get the cow for free, well all your girl friends wont be getting any sale cause they already gave there milk away so u keep ur virginity and when the right guy comes he will know you a keepa
keep it up sista dont give in
hoped i help EbOnY =)
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im going to be 17 years old in a week. and ive never really had a "real boyfriend" before. i mean i went out with like 3 guys, but that was all in middle school, and it wasnt anything like people have now in high school.. tomorrow im going to this party with my friend, and ive been praying all day to let me find a guy that wont just try to get in my pants and then leave. thats what always happens. it would make my birthday soo much better if i could just find a guy that i connect with, and that is actually interested in me and not only sex. especially the first night we meet. there are guys that want to meet me in person and hang out that are from myspace, they are my age and live by me but for some reason i always turn them down. every single one of them. does that mean that non of them are "right" for me? or am i just shy? i dont know.
tomorrow i want to get to know a guy and maybe even go on a date or two after the party. and then hopefully it can lead into my first real relationship
but i dont even know how to get started with that. i dont know how to act or what to say or anything..and how do i know that they actually want to get to know me and they arent just using me to get some? how can u tell the difference?
if anyone and everyone could help me in any way possible to make me think i might actually meet someone tomorrow night i would appreciate it soooooo much.
i always wish on stars that i see and i pray that i find a guy, but it never happens.
i really really think i deserve this. i know i can get a guy, because i do think im pretty. so thats not the reason.. but i dont know why i cant ever find someone that i like enough.
thanks sooo much xoxoxo (link)
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okay, i know in high school its probly really hard relationship wise, but to be honest, girl to girl you sound desperate. you dont need to look for a guy, thats how a lot of people make mistakes they go out searching for love. dont search for love let it find you, so what if you dont have mr right. right now, then you have more time for you hang out with ur girls chill go to the mall movies arcade just have fun and do you dont worry about guys now when the time is right he will find you.
hope i helped EbOnY =)
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im 13/f and whenever i go swimmin i get a little darker and i like my skin tone the way it is how do i go swimmin and still not get a tan? (link)
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girl, have you ever heard of water proof sun block.. not being smart but try it, it works
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okkay well i have this smell...you know down there..and i need help on how to make it not stink or anything..i dont have an std or anything it just smells..lol
yeahh sooo help me pwease
thanks! (link)
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okay , well we need more info. but the best thing you can do is wash up frequently wear clean undies , if you continue to still have that odor, then u can use summers eve or the vagasil powder and that will eliminate the odor,
hoped i helped = )
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Hey, Im a 16/f and recently i stayed over and one of my guy friends house, and we were fooling around and ended up having sex, and he told me he wanted our relationship to stay as friends but still be able to do things like that. Do you think thats wrong? (link)
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Hell yeah. he tryna to use you as a sex buddy.
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My boyfriend has had sex with many other girls before, and he wants me to lose it to him. I love him but, i want to know the symptoms that might occur after we have sex. I also would like to know how, it would feel and how long will I bleed. I get horny easily but, i will never try to masterbait and, i just want to know if i should endure in sexual intercourse with my boyfriend or not!!By the way i am a female! I also would like to know if i should suck him off!! (link)
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it wouldnt be lady like to give him oral sex
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Okay i'm 12/f about to turn 13 in 2 weeks =] ! I really like this boy and yesterday i went to his house to hang out and i d k if this is slutty or what ? Well we was over there watching the Grudge and i was just laying by him, then we like moved to the floor and all the sudden he leaned over and we started making out. I like got on top of him and we like started having dry sex with are clothes on. Well he knew my turn on spot is my neck so he was kissing my neck and i just got really in the mood so he rolled over on top of me and we kept on doin it. Well then we stopped cause we heared someone upstairs so we were just laying there. And i let him finger me. And i was giving him a hand job all night !! Like every minute. Then hes like how bout you suck it for meee ? and i was like omg i never sucked one before soo yeah.. but we went downstairs but then we came back up after we did some more stuff.. okay now heres where it gets bad. We were laying on the couch and i like sucked his dick about 3 times and he wanted moreee. but we didn't have a condom . Well he fingered me again and left a huuuge hickey on my neck. Wow thats alot of stuf. Do you think thats slutty and just give me some advice on what i just told you . I feel slutty and guilty and i feel like hes useing me. (link)
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first you to young to be on here and second to be a slut you have to sleep with more than one boy. i aint trying to make you feel bad, but damn girl you are 12 you should'nt even be thinking bout doing that.you already maked your decsion and all but next you need to be more careful, because you may not be his first and no matter what age you still can have STD's. Don't let guys take advantage of you like that. he probably was using you. you said that you like this guy and he kind of does too, but how you know he like you? dont let him think he can use you for sex girl. if hwe starting to inorge you, he used you. but if he do its ok nobody is perfect, everybody makes mistake. all im telling you is not to make that same mistake.
FIRST TIME: a mistake
SECOND TIME: wasnt thinkin
THRID TIME: you a damn FOOL
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