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My friend and I
Hey, Im a 16/f and recently i stayed over and one of my guy friends house, and we were fooling around and ended up having sex, and he told me he wanted our relationship to stay as friends but still be able to do things like that. Do you think thats wrong?
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yes that its so mean
he wants to be friends but have sex
what a cheeseball
that will classify you as sex buddy
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Hell yeah. he tryna to use you as a sex buddy.
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akh he sooo used you and played with you like a toy and he got bored of you.my god. he said oh this girls a slut lemme have sex with him but theres no way in HELL imma be with this girl...u never know who she sleapt with i think you shouldnt talk to him anymore at all
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No its not wrong, as long as you want the same thing. If he is forcing you into anything, then walk away. However, i think its perfectly fine if you both want to do that!
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-michelle
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the question isnt if I think its wrong..its do YOU think its wrong? if you want my personal opinon..i wouldnt want to be the "girl on the side." Sex is more to me than that. it should be with a partner in my opinion..but listen..people do it..people are fine with it..everyone is different. if its something you want to try..go for it..but understand the emotional things that go along with it..the emotions of being the girl on the side while doing those things with him. if your fine with it..go for it!
<3 melissa
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ugh i've been in a situation like that before. don't do it. it's not wrong....but it's really gonna end up messing with you. you're gonna think he's got real feelings for you when he doesn't. but if you don't think that you're gonna think that, then go for it. it could be fun.
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friends with benifets to me means you being a fuck body. someone who he can relie on whenever he wants to do whatever he wants to even if he has a girlfriend. i wouldnt get involved with that. tell him he can only be one or the other but not both.. hope this helps.
♥ Steph
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Hi, so you have a friend who wants to be a friend but wants to have sex with you? That doesn't really make any sense. Friends don't have sex with eachother but boyfriends and girlfriends can. A friend is someone to talk to, someone who cares for you and has a laugh, someone you can go for a drink with. Friends don't have sex, yes they do give each other a kiss and hug and give each other love, but not in the way that a relationship goes. It sounds as though your having a relationship than being friends. I guess it is wrong to do it as a friend but it is your body and you decide who does things to it. I don't know, it sounds more of a relationship than friendship to me. Have him consider revising on what a friend is. Here are the differences:
Friend: Talk to about anything, trust, go out for a drink, like eachother as a friend, there when you need them. Someone who can give you advice, can have a laugh with.
Boyfriend: Someone you can have sex with and make lots of love, date and make out, spend more time with, can live with, love and like eachother alot, the same things as a friend does only alot more love and things like that.
See the differences? I would have a talk with him about wether or not it is friendship or it's turning out to be a relationship (boyfriend girlfriend thing)
Daniel.
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Its called friends with beifits. Yes it is kind of wrong because one of you might get attacht and then things would just become complicated so the best thing to probly do is to tell him you do want to stay friends but you cant be friends with benifits. If you want to you can also tell him it would become complicated!
♥ jAcKiiE
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Nope. Friends + Benefits. =) I mean.. yeah, he was wrong to do that with you, & then after just say "I still wanna just be friends" If he told you in the beginning, he just wanted to be friends, then thats okay. But, if he didn't then I'd be a tad mad. Espically if you got feelings from him from all of this.
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umm, yea i think thats wrong. i think any situation you wouldnt enjoy telling your mom and dad is wrong, and i dont like the idea of friends with benefits anyways. Do you really think you would enjoy having sex with a guy who could have a girlfriend? do you think your friends girlfriend would like that? i just dont think its cool and I wouldnt suggest it-i certainly wouldnt do it.
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it's called friends w/ benifits. i think that for one you are way too young, and for two you shouldn't be having sex. but putting all that aside, i wouldn't have sex with some just so they can use me. that is all he is doing is using you to have fun, but no commitment. i would tell him to either get committed or leave.
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It usually isn't the greatest of ideas, because being friends with benefits, you still have the freedom to see other people. Inevitably, one of you will fall for the other (as more than friends) while the other still thinks you're cool with just being friends who also sleep together.
So, overall, I'm going to have to say no, it's not the greatest idea. But, it's your life, and you can do whatever the heck you want. Don't let anyone tell you what to do.
♥ Laura Michelle
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As long as you are ok with it. There's nothing wrong with it just as long as you don't feel like you are being used by him.
It's totally up to you whether you want to or not.
If you are able to do this and maintain friends and not become jealous if he finds someone else (viseversa)then thats great.
Just don't feel like your being pressured into it and if you don't want to then he should respect that.
Hope I helped. :)
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I wouldn't say it's "wrong" but it's pathetic. I know you guys are friends with benifits and all, but he doesn't really respect you. He wants to have sex but not a relationship. If you're willing to put up with it and do that, then it's not wrong or anything. It's really up to you.. no one else.
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I'm sorry, but I'm going to have to say yes. If he doesn't respect you enough to go out with you, but just wants to fool around with you, he isnt worth it. He has to make a commitment and respect you to get anything like that in my opinion. Your intitled to your own opinion though. Good Luck!
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