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"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love" - Albus Dumbledore

Hi, I'm Laura. I'm a senior in college & I'm slowly deciding what I want to do with my life. I love Harry Potter, coffee, writing, and sleeping (amongst other things). I'll never claim to know everything, but I'm confident in my ability to help people with their problems. Feel free to send me an inbox question; I'll get back to you!




A few thoughts I've gathered from my teenage years (and being on this site for most of them!):
1. If you Google song lyrics, the song will come up 99% of the time.
2. Dress to fit your body type, and buy the size that fits. If you're a size 6, squeezing into a 4 won't make you look skinnier. It makes you look fat when you aren't.
3. You will never regret waiting to lose your virginity.
4. There is such a thing as a stupid question, but we're all allowed to ask them.




BU 2014 :)


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^my forum, liven it up a little?

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i had unproteced sex for the first time in ages 5 days after my preiod had ended is there any way i can be pregnant?

It's possible. Are you using birth control of any kind? If you are, and have been using it properly, you are most likely not pregnant. No birth control is 100% effective, but proper usage will get you about 99% effectiveness.

If you had unprotected sex, it's possible that you've ovulated by now, eespecially if your cycle is inconsistent. Sperm can also hang around for days afterward and fertilize an egg. If it's been less than five days (but, ideally, three) you can get the morning after pill. If you're in the US, it's available over the counter. A prescription option, Ella, is effective for five.

In the future, use protection. If you're in a monogamous relationship and STDs (sexually tansmitted diseases) aren't an issue, a hormonal method or copper IUD (intrauterine device) are your best bets. They're highly effective - IUDs actually have been on par or better than permanent sterilization - and require minimal to no prep work. If you meed STD protection, condoms (especially with another method for backup) will provide protection against STDs.

Lastly, if your period is late, take a pregnancy test or visit a doctor/clinic for a test.

Inbox me if you have any other questions.

-LM
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I'm an 18 years old girl and I just wanted to know what you guys think about implant birth control.

I think it's a wonderful idea for anyone who can use hormonal birth control. It's actually even better than combination pills in this regard, because it only contains one hormone, a progestin, and it is the synthetic estrogen that gives many women ssues. Also, it's implanted under your skin and continuously releases hormones - eliminating user error that can happen with oral contraceptives.

Check out Nexplanon.com for more prescribing information.

An advantage that implants have over pills is that they bypass the digestive system - if you puke or have diarrhea after taking a pill, it can pass without being absorbed (and it's like you never took it.)

Your arm will bruise at the injection site for a bit, and you can feel the rod in your arm if you're touching it - but it shouldn't hurt.

Some women actually stop having their period entirely from the implant. Others experience irregular bleeding or spotting, while others remain regular. Just another thing to consider.

If your body doesn't like it, it can be removed anytime during the three-year time period it's effective, and you should immediately start using an alternative contraceptive if you're using it for those properties.

Your doctor's office or clinic will have to implant it, so you'll have to discuss this at some length with them. They can also discuss other methods with you. A lot of doctors will actually use IUDs (intrauterine devices) in women who haven't yet had children, so if you're interested in an IUD just ask around! Mirena is good for five years and is the same type of hormone as Nexplanon (progestin only) and Paragard is copper, non-hormonal, and effective for ten years.

Check out mirena.com and Paragard.com for more information. Oh - Skyla is another IUD that is basically a smaller Mirena, but it's only good for three years.

Also, if you're outside the US, these products might go by a different name but Google should redirect you!

Inbox me if you have more questions. I personally have only used combination birth control (with "perfect" use - I set an alarm and take it at 9pm on the dot) since I was sixteen and have successfully relied on it as contraception for about two and a half years. I also know family members and friends who have used the other devices I discussed.

- LM
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Hello.
I noticed tonight that my nipples are sore and hard?? I not pregnant or on my period. I have already my period?? Could it be my hormones?? HELP!! Please and thank you!!

http://www.m.webmd.com/women/tc/normal-menstrual-cycle-normal-menstrual-cycle

http://www.m.webmd.com/women/tc/breast-pain-mastalgia-topic-overview


This is extremely common. I don't know how old you are or how long you've had your period, but it's normal to experience breast and nipple soreness/tenderness throughout your cycle. As you become more regular (most women do, eventually, have a somewhat predictable cycle - although irregularity is also common) you'll become more in tune with your body and how you feel each week of your monthly cycle.

We aren't doctors, but I wanted to reassure you that it's normal for your breasts to feel different. Check out the links above (sorry for the weird formatting, my text boxes on my phone aren't working well) for more information, and to find out what ISN'T normal.

- LM
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I have shellac nails. What is the safest product to use to keep under my fingernails clean without ruining the shellac on my nails?

Use soap and water with a nail brush!

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I have a small plasic popcorn maker. I was cleaning it but I forgot you can not use Windex or any other cleaners like that because it will ruin the oil finish on the plastic. Is there any way to tell if I ruined it, and if I did, can I fix it?

My mom said if it's ruined I have to buy a new one and I don't exactly have money, so any input is helpful...

If it dries and it isn't damaged the next day, it should be okay. Wash it with a food-safe cleaner to remove the Windex residue, and it should work as normal.

Ask your mom what cleanser to use :)

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Hi. I would like to make oreo truffles for mother's day and my option is no cream cheese because it is high of fat and not good for my mom. So any ideas on what to replace the cream cheese? Could I use whip cream, condensed milk or butter? Pls any ideas? Thank you

Cream cheese is what makes cake balls/\"truffles\" so good. Substituting butter would be even less healthy than using cream cheese! Furthermore, anything like milk or cream won\'t work, because it would be the wrong texture. Cake balls use cream cheese, frosting, or some combination of the two to keep everything together and make the ball shape.

You could try using low-fat cream cheese. Make sure the brand you choose just uses lower-fat dairy and doesn\'t use any gross ingredients - I\'ve had good luck substituting Philadelphia 1/3 Less Fat in cheesecake recipes.

Since this is a treat for your mom, I don\'t see a problem using real, full-fat ingredients. It\'s an Oreo truffle. Not even remotely healthy - might as well use real ingredients and make \'em taste good!

If you\'re worried you\'ll all eat the whole batch, make a half batch, and maybe look into cooking a delicious yet healthy dinner to eat your truffles with. I\'m sure your mom would appreciate a meal cooked by you!

-LM
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I have had a fox terrier for two years she's been with our family since she was four and at that time we had an older male dog he was a standard poodle and she escaped any time she could but not too long ago our poodle died and she stopped escaping my dad decided to get a puppy and we've had for several weeks and our six year old dog Hurley has started escaping yet again I don't want her to get hurt and we've covered every possible escape up we don't want to lose her or get rid of our puppy but were running out of options any advice?

How is she getting out? Block those exits. If she\'s squeezing through a fence, cover it up with a chain link on the inside. If she\'s digging underneath, bury big rocks or chunks of concrete to stop her.

Try leashing her while she\'s outside - make it long enough that she has full run of the yard, but short enough to keep her in! :)

You could also fatten her up until she can\'t fit through any of her escape routes anymore ;) - just kidding, that would be mean.

Lastly, ask the vet what they recommend. They probably know of local contractors who can reverse \"puppy-proof\" your yard.

-LM
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I want to know how to give urself a bruise im making a low budget film with my collage class i want authentic bruises so it looks real since i had to settle on snags for organs i should get this one!

Don\'t bruise yourself. It\'s unnecessary, and won\'t show up on film as much as you\'re hoping. Besides, you could REALLY damage your body by doing this. Don\'t hit yourself with anything - another user suggested a hairspray bottle. Just don\'t.


Makeup can very easily create realistic bruises. Get dark colors: browns, blacks, greens, greys, plums. Sponge it on, swirl it, experiment. It\'ll look like a bruise in no time. For extra staying power, use foundation or primer underneath.
- http://www.wikihow.com/Make-a-Fake-Bruise-with-Makeup


-LM
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17/f
New York state

I am nearing the end of my senior year in high school, but lately, I haven't been attending daily because I've been pretty ill, physically. I have an overactive thyroid which is causing me to have diarrhea, as well as many other health issues.

The past two times I've tried staying home from school, though (and after my mom has already called me in sick), the Principal and Guidance Counselor have showed up AT MY DOOR, and told me to get my things and get ready for school. Then, they TAKE ME TO SCHOOL THEMSELVES.

My mom doesn't do much to stop it because... I don't know why. Because I guess she thinks they're doing the right thing.

What I'm wondering is if there are any actual laws for the state of New York that state whether or not this is allowed.

I'm not deathly ill, but I've almost passed out many times in school from being extremely light-headed.

And as far as my health goes, I stay completely hydrated (I drink sooo much water) and try my best to eat normally and healthily. It's not so bad that I have to go to the emergency room or anything (at least not yet), but yesterday, I almost had to. And they still forced me to go to school. And the nurse refused to send me home because I've apparently missed too many days of school already.

The thing with my attendance, though, is that I'm already not graduating on time. I need to go to summer school for one class, and I'll either receive my diploma in August, or in January. So I don't see why they're forcing me to go if (a) I feel terribly ill ALWAYS, and (b)I'm ALREADY not graduating on time anyways.

I...ugh. Yeah.

My question: Are there any laws for New York State that state whether or not it is allowed for a Principal and Guidance Counselor to show up at a student's door, even when they're sick, and force them to go to school and do all their work, even when there's no point in doing so, because the student is already not graduating on time?

All help is appreciated in advance, thank you.

Sit down with your mom and tell her not to open the door when they show up. If you\'re sick, you\'re sick.


You need to have a meeting with your principal, guidance counselor, and mother. There is already a plan for you in place to get your diploma, so they should not be harassing you at your home. While I can understand if they did this for a student merely skipping out on school, you have a medical need to not be in school. While I think their intentions are good, they\'re going to far and borderline harassing you by showing up repeatedly.


Is there any way you could possibly take online classes to finish your degree? Is there another guidance counselor you can talk to about this? Since you\'re so close to graduation, I\'d discourage you from dropping out and getting your GED, because that would be more stressful and take more time than finishing a summer class.


Good luck!
-LM
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So, I am about to have a baby and someone mentioned that there are a bunch of places that will send you baby stuff in your mailbox if you just ask for it? How do you do this? Is there a list of companies that do this, or do you just have to write everyone and hope they send you something? LOL!

Follow freebie sites such as dealseekingmom.com and hunt4freebies.net. I\'ve gotten tons of stuff that way!

If you\'re formula feeding or know someone who is/will be, sign up for Similac Strong Moms. They mail you checks you can use with coupons at the grocery store for formula, as well as samples. I can confirm personally that this one works, because I signed up to give things to my cousins for their kids.

Never give out your social security number for a freebie. Those are scams! Full warning - you\'ll be getting a lot of emails, so I really recommend that you make a separate email for your free stuff.

Sign up for free magazines, especially parenting ones. Those often contain valuable coupons and freebie offers!

Also, several companies will sell your info to similar companies - for example, you might get mail from Pampers after doing the Similac offer. Most of this will work to your advantage. Keep a small recycling box for your unwanted mail, and save the environment :)

Congratulations, and good luck!
-LM
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I have registered for my 5th year for college and it seems as though I am not getting any financial aid money this year. What is going on? I filed my fafsa a month ahead of time. There was a verfication worksheet I had to do (which is suppose to be random, but I have done this for the 3rd time in a row) and I did it late, but that was after I found out that I can print my IRS transcript online, so I had to wait four weeks. 2 weeks because I accidently ordered the wrong one and another 2 weeks because I had them mail it to me. Still, that is not a good reason for me to NOT get financial aid because most of them are student loans.

This is a question for your financial aid office, not me! Also, lots of loans and scholarship money are often only available for the first four years of your education. It\'s unfortunate, but that\'s the way it is.

You should talk to someone at your school and see what they can do for you. You might need to apply for different types of loans than you had before, and maybe take a semester off if you cannot afford to pay for this one. It\'s not a big deal - you could get a part-time job and save some cash for the future.

-LM
[22/f]

Response to feedback: You asked me this question directly to my inbox, and I answered it as well as I could without knowing your school or the reason for a fifth year of college. I fail to see how this answer is abusive. Please let me know where I offended you and I will edit my answer.

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Where can I find maternity clothing that doesn't cost a fortune? Has anyone else noticed that the same shirt plus just a touch of extra fabric is about double the price when you are pregnant?

My husband says we should just body paint my pregnant belly when I get big enough. ;)

Buy shirts in a larger size than usual at your local thrift store. A lot of shirts will stretch, especially tank tops. You can also get cheap sweats and yoga pants there.

For pants, check out Old Navy. They sell maternity clothes and yoga pants, so that you don\'t stretch your regular clothes too much.

-LM
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I was giving my bf a blow job.his penis was dry.then we kissed.we didnthave our pants off at the same time..after he put on his pants.he took mine off.then he licked my p***y..he was not cumming at all..am i pregnany?? Please give 100 percent sure answer...

There\'s an extremely small chance that sperm could have been present in your mouth and transferred to you. Very, very small, but sperm can live for days.

Get on a reliable form of birth control - pills, IUD, Nexplanon, Depo-Provera - or use condoms every time before any sexual contact begins. People in non-monogamous relationships often use both birth control pills AND condoms, for extra peace of mind as well as STD/STI protection.

No form of contraception is 100% effective, but with perfect use of birth control pills (or an IUD) you can get highly effective protection which is far superior to the 0% you currently have :)

For more information about birth control methods, check out plannedparenthood.org. There you can take a quiz to find a good birth control methods for your lifestyle. They also have lots of information on STD/STI testing.

Try not to worry - stress only delays your period. As for whether or not you\'re pregnant, I\'m not psychic. Chances of pregnancy from what you described are very low, but if you do miss your period you\'ll need to take a pregnancy test. You can get them at dollar stores or at a clinic/planned parenthood/doctors\' offices.

-LM
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Hello Advicenators,

I teach elementary students in a poor community school system and end up buying a lot of school supplies for my kids. Now, I am not complaining, but it has reached the point that I will have to say no to a tear stricken child who can't afford basic supplies, or I am going to starve to death.

Is there a place that I can buy school supplies in bulk, or just more cheaply than I have been?

Any advice is appreciated.

Reach out to a store like Staples or OfficeMax when they do their penny sales (usually during back to school season) and ask if they\'ll waive the item per customer limit for a teacher. Alternatively, round up as many people as you can and buy cheap notebooks during the sales! You could also ask them if they have any \"damaged\" boxes that would otherwise be destroyed. For example, a company might tell them to just destroy a box and write it off, but a kid in need doesn\'t care if the cover is torn - it rips as soon as you throw it in your backpack anyway.

Obviously the second one you wouldn\'t want to break any laws but they could probably do something with charity/donation tax write offs.

Also, let your local food bank know that you need stuff. People could drop off school supplies with foodstuffs; some pantries already collect paper products. Extreme couponers could often get markers and whatnot for pennies on the dollar, but won\'t know to get them if you don\'t ask.

Finally, could you possibly do a bake sale for supplies near a local grocery store?

P.S. - Are you in the southern Mass area? I'd be more than willing to bring some stuff over for you! If you have an a dress you're allowed to share, I would also be willing to send a box of notebooks via Amazon or something. I'm a broke college senior but I can't let a kid go without a freaking notebook when I'm buying new clothes, you know?

-LM
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She dresses like a freak, does stupid things, sticks her tongue out like an idiot, appears naked in her music videos, and literally only sings one song these days. WTF? She used to be my role model, but now I hate that stupid bitch. I know Ariana Grande defended her, but she defends everybody. What my friends say about Mileys “wrecking ball" is,“good song, bad singer" what is wrong with her?

You're entitled to your opinion of her, just as anyone else is. She sings many different songs at her concerts so I will correct you on that particular point.

She's getting attention and fame, which means more money. She's in the entertainment business and it all boils down to money and fame.

Besides, she is a legal adult and can do what she wants. People lose their mind over nudity, even when it's artistic and not sexual.

My advice? Stop wasting your energy and time worrying about a performer and idolize someone who lines up with your ideals.

- LM
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I have a FAFSA loan thing that I have to do for school. Do you know how long I have until the deadline for it to be turned in?

According to their website you have until the end of June. However, I would really recommend that you submit your financial aid application(s) to your school as soon as possible. If you need to file an appeal or there are any issues, you'll have time to fix anything without missing deadlines.

Your school may also have their own deadlines so check with the financial aid office.

- LM
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Do they last longer than other laptop brands?

Any laptop will last if you take care of it. A MacBook might last longer than a cheap, flimsy PC but you're paying for the Apple name to an extent.

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I am 6'3" tall, and tired of my feet hanging off the bed. I know there are longer beds, but when I go to the store there are NO sheets for a longer twin bed! :( Is there a special place to buy them, I mean the best place? I don't want poor quality eBay sheets like I bought for my old bed, and it would be nice if they were pretty since I am a girl.

Thank you!

Look at a store that sells in a college area. Most dorms use XL-twin beds and you'll be able to find sheets there without much difficulty.

- LM
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So I was on my iPad and realized I don't want iCloud on my iPad. My sister is getting an iPhone soon and she'll need the same Apple ID, so I don't want all my stuff to be sent to her iPhone.

So I was doing my research...
Will the "Delete Account" button delete everything on my iPad? I reasearched and it said that It'll delete everything that was used with iCloud. But here's the thing: I've never used iCloud before. I wasjust stupid one day and made an iCloud account but never used it.

But yeah, that's my question: If I click the "Delete Account" button on my iPad (In the iCloud Settings), will it delete anything on my iPad?

Why does your sister need to use your Apple ID? You should make her a new one. You'll need your account to use anything you've purchased with it. So yes, you'll lose things. Or at least the ability to play/use them.


-LM
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I am a freshman in college. The school that I wish to transfer to has a very high acceptance rate and my GPA is higher than the average. I feel really good about my transfer application and I sent that in on time. However, my transcript is a bit late. The application deadline was February 1st and mine will not be sent until February 4th. I am really nervous that this will affect me and that I will not get in because of this. Should I be worried? My high school transcript and my application are in, the only thing missing is my college transcript.

Since it was over a weekend you will probably be fine, especially because your application is already in.

I got into BU, and my guidance counselor didn't send a proper transcript for months... call in the morning if you are worried, and confirm that your college sent your transcript. Odds are, they're backlogged anyway!

-LM
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