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"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love" - Albus Dumbledore

Hi, I'm Laura. I'm a senior in college & I'm slowly deciding what I want to do with my life. I love Harry Potter, coffee, writing, and sleeping (amongst other things). I'll never claim to know everything, but I'm confident in my ability to help people with their problems. Feel free to send me an inbox question; I'll get back to you!




A few thoughts I've gathered from my teenage years (and being on this site for most of them!):
1. If you Google song lyrics, the song will come up 99% of the time.
2. Dress to fit your body type, and buy the size that fits. If you're a size 6, squeezing into a 4 won't make you look skinnier. It makes you look fat when you aren't.
3. You will never regret waiting to lose your virginity.
4. There is such a thing as a stupid question, but we're all allowed to ask them.




BU 2014 :)


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^my forum, liven it up a little?

advice

Is 5'7 tall for a girl?

Not really, you're obviously not short, I'd say you're slightly above average height. However, a lot of my friends are five feet tall in heels haha. You're normal. Don't get so hung up over your height & just embrace it! Not like you can change it, right?


You're fine, and don't be self-conscious about wearing heels, either. Confidence is the best accessory.


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I'm 13 can I tan at a tanning salon?!

Many states have bans on people under 18 or 16 from tanning. Depending on the state, it's either an outright ban, or you might be able to tan with parental consent. Call the salon and ask what their policy is.


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A little over a month ago I blocked this guy from texting/calling me from the Verizon website.
The block will expire in a couple months. I was just wondering if when the block expires, will I get all the text he's tried to send to me after I blocked him?


You know like when you turn your cell phone off for some time and when you turn it on you suddenly get all the texts that were sent to you while your phone was off?

Just curious. Thanks in advance!

You shouldn't ever get the messages. That's the point of blocking.


If it's that much of an issue, you can always change your number. Sometimes there's a fee involved but if you explain your situation you might be able to get a new one for free. Call customer service, don't go into the store. Going to the store, at least in my area, does NOTHING. They can't do much in store, but customer service has the power to do almost anything. If this guy was harassing you, they may waive the service charge of getting a new number (it's $25).


Also, text messages "expire" (at least, they used to...) and after a certain time period they're NEVER sent. So even if you did get messages after a block, most would be expired by then :)


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I turned 17 a month ago and it just hit me that I could get into rated R movies now.
If I go to a movie theatre, how do I prove I'm 17?

I don't have my permit yet, is getting it the only way?

Most states allow you to get a state ID (not a license) at any age. The RMV/DMV should be able to help with that. Check their website first, though, because calling them is a time-consuming process.


Call your local movie theater; they may accept a copy of your birth certificate. I really don't know how else you'd prove your age.


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I know hair's a natural thing but I didn't like it and so I shaved it. It wasn't that long before but now it is literally half an inch long?! Is this normal? I'm a woman of age 19.

Yeah, it's normal. If you shave hair that's never been shaved before, it'll be nice and soft/wispy before you shave it because it's been worn down. Once you shave it, it grows back dark and stubbly. Like leg hair! Just shave it every time you do your legs.


Other options include bleach, Nair, tweezing, and waxing. The last two will probably hurt a lot and cause irritation. And that would probably be worse than a little hair!


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I walked into famous footwear today, it being tax free weekend it was packed. I couldnt tell where the line began it actually looked like everyone was still shopping so I just got behind the person that was paying, I was there for about a minute and then this lady taps me on the shoulder and says "um, excuse me theres a line." I turn around and theres probably a line of about 50 to 100 people. I automatically felt embaressed its one thing to cut one person but to cut 100 is a different story, I apologized and then walked out of the store embaressed. What would you be thinking if you were one of the people in the line, I want honest answers!

I probably wouldn't have cared too much; stores should mark off where lines start for busy events like tax-free weekends (unless it's clear where lines are, like a supermarket). I probably would have told you there was a line and left it at that.


It's not really a big deal, I wouldn't have left the store over it, but I would have been slightly embarrassed and walked to the end of the line. Seeing as there was fifty people between the person I just accidentally cut and the end of the line, there would have been no further confrontation.


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What are 3 things you wanted as a kid but never got?

Puppy.
Little sister.
BMW.

Can't really complain too much.

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Will a returned item show up on my credit card statement?

It depends on the credit card company. My credit and debit cards use this method:
1. The original purchase amount shows up as a debit (as if you had made the purchase and left it at that)
2. The return shows up on your statement as a negative charge (or a positive deposit, depends on the company)
3. The two should cancel out


I've never heard of a charge not showing up AT ALL, even if it was returned. All transactions are recorded. (Depending on when your billing cycle ends and when the return was processed, the refund may show up on the next statement)
If you have questions when you get your statement, customer service should be happy to assist you further.


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Hello!..

So there is this chimney looking structure..in an empty field..that I go past to visit my boyfriend. I live in Cambridge, Ohio..and this is out..past where I live..

Well, I was watching this thing about adolf hitler and the concentration camps..and when they gased the jew's..in the chambers.. the fumes would come up out of the top of the chimney looking structures.. the same chimney looking structure..looks EXACTLY..like the one I seen.

I've always wondered what it is.. and now it makes me feel sick o.o..but I'm not sure if it really is.. or not..but why would it be there..alone..with nothing there with it?

It's mysterious.

If you can't help it's okay..but still..XD Thanks!

A lot of times, when old mills burn down or cave in or whatever, the chimneys remain standing. It's wicked expensive to take them down, especially if they're still solid. There's a few like that in my town from the Industrial Revolution and even older, and they're solid as anything.


More than likely, that's exactly what you're looking at. Chimneys can only be designed so many ways, and the similar appearance is likely coincidental :)

Searching "concentration camps in Ohio" on Google doesn't yield results that strike me as the type of camp we're talking about. I don't recall ever learning about anything of the sort in AP History, not in that part of the country anyway (In I believe California, many Japanese Americans were separated and forced to live in different communities) and I don't think they were treated quite as horrendously.


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Well I want to wear my corset with just a tee shirt over it. Is there any way to hide the bows that you have to tie in the back?

Wear a (preferably thick) cami or tank top underneath. And a loose t shirt, which will minimize lines


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June 14th, when the second season of PLL started, I was away that night and couldn't watch the show. Since then, I've been forgetting to sit down and watch the second season every Tuesday. I tried searching online for all thee full episodes for free so I could catch up and watch it tonight on tv, but I'm having absolutely no luck.

Can anyone give me a website that you KNOW for certain the episodes are on? Season 2! Not 1!

Thank you!

Hulu.com

I always watch ABC Family on there and last week my friend watched a ton of new ones, so unless they got taken down they're on there. They even list original air dates!


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Ok.. so, I've been trying to not wash my hair everyday because it dries out if I do.. However, I feel like I sweat a lot through my head and feel like i need to wash it. Is there anything i can do? thanksss

Use a gentle, moisturizing shampoo, and always condition. It's possible that you're just stripping your hair of natural moisture. Keep in mind that shampoos at every price point are moisturizing if you get the right one. One of my favorite shampoos is 88 cents!


I try not to wash my hair every day because:
- I dye my hair very rarely and like the color to stay in longer.
- I hate washing my hair and restyling it.
Whenever possible I go a day and a half between washes. Or two days, if I'm not going anywhere - I'll tie my hair up when I shower.


Most likely, you could get away with every other day washes; most people can, once their hair adjusts. Or just rinse your hair out, without using shampoo. Do a little experimentation and decide what works for you.


Another possible solution is dry shampoo. I'm not 100% crazy about it but it works wonders for some people. They're pretty cheap for some brands (Tresemee and Suave both make them now) and do their job.


Also, I've noticed that my hair feels sweaty/icky/generally gross only around my face after I work out. Try tying the front part of your hair up (or at least pinning bangs back) when you're sweating/working out. I use bands like this when I work out at the gym:
- http://www.amazon.com/Goody-Jersey-Headwraps-Pack-6/dp/B000LM7NE8/ref=sr_1_6?ie=UTF8&s=beauty&qid=1308971321&sr=8-6
(DON'T pay that much for them, you can get them for less than $5 or so, or even at a dollar store!)


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17/f
My brother just said I was a slut because he saw the hickey on my neck.
I made out with this guy, he's one of my friends and I've liked him for over a year. We like each other and stuff but aren't dating, he's 19 though, which is why we aren't dating and are planning to wait.
Does it make me a slut for making out with him? It's not like I'm doing this with every random guy right?

Then my friend told me I wasn't a slut, I would have been if I had sex with him.
Does that mean if I had sex with him it would have made me a slut?

I know this isn't really a big deal but it kinda bothers me so I might as well get people's opinions on it.

You're not a slut. For starters, you didn't have sex with him. And you aren't having sex with other guys either. If you HAD had sex with him (as your friend said) as opposed to kissing and whatnot, the situation would be different. Your behavior could make you seem slutty, just because of how most people would judge that - not dating + having sex = easy/slutty.



I wouldn't worry about what your brother said. He was either being a jerk or just giving his opinion. Unless he knew the situation well, it could seem to him as though you make out with and get hickeys from ALL your friends.


Also, it's possible that people already think you're dating, in which case a hickey is nothing out of the ordinary. Just don't show them off. I always thought that was weird behavior.


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My prom theme this year is bucket list, or things you want to do before you die. I don't exactly love the theme, but I really want to make a great float because my school has a huge prom parade. Can anyone think of any good ideas that can be made for a float? I don't want anything too common, like climb mount everest, sky dive, etc.

Thank you!

A lot of people put "get married/have a family" on their lists.

Make a huge wedding cake float, and have a "bride" and "groom" stand on top (like the figures on a cake). Or, make fake figures, and have a bride and groom with their "kids" (borrow some small children for that part) standing around?

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If I'm taking birth control for my acne and anti-depressants, can I still donate blood?

Yes. It doesn't matter, at least not to the American Red Cross. Only a few medications are on the restricted list and birth control isn't one of them.


I don't recall seeing antidepressants on the list... I remember Accutane, blood thinners, and some other drug that wasn't an antidepressant.


However, as russianspy said, some states might have their own rules for donation centers that aren't the Red Cross.


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The Dry Shampoo is for straight to normal hair. It cleans your hair and removes oil.

The Waterless Foam Shampoo is for dry curly to normal hair and cleans while giving moisture.

The Refreshing Mist is for all hair types and eliminated odours and provides a refreshing look and feel, leaving hair smooth and shiny.

Okay reading this now, I kinda of answered my question with the last product. But just saying if I had to choose between the first two, which one? My hair isn't super Beyonce curly but they're nice normal waves and it isn't super straight either. I would go for the second but it's to prevent dry curly hair and I have oily curly/wavey hair!

Hey, I've tried both products. The dry shampoo is best if you can brush your hair out, because it's designed like a typical dry shampoo- you spray it in, then brush out the powder (it dries into a powder that absorbs the oil).


The second one "washes" curls without actually having to brush it out, because you absorb the product with a towel afterward. It's good if you've styled your hair to be really curly & can't or don't want to brush it out.


The refreshing mist can be used anytime, and you don't need the first two products to use it. The mist works if your hair smells but doesn't actually need to be cleaned.


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it's so noticeable that i cover my left side of my face with my side bangs all the time because my left eye droops down along with my eyebrow and i'm so self-conscious about it. i know no one's face is perfectly symmetrical, and maybe i am worrying too much, but it's seriously so noticeable. people have even told me things about it. what is wrong with me?
some say that it's a case of bad genes? or i'm unhealthy? i'm a teenager, does that mean it could still even out or something?

If you try to cover it up, it often brings more attention to it. Also, if it makes you feel any better, my ears aren't at the same height, and my glasses perpetually look lopsided because of it. And also I'm developing a lazy eye of some sort, haha. No one is perfect =)


Anyway, I recently discovered that if I did my eyeliner a certain way, it sort of disguised the fact that one of my eyes is like, sagging. I drew the line on my lower lid in a differently shaped curve. I's hard to describe but you'll see what I mean when you try.


Next time you're at a doctor, make sure he rules out a possible underlying medical condition (Bell's Palsy comes to mind, but I REALLY doubt that, because it's usually quite pronounced). Most likely, you'll ask "Why is my face asymmetrical?" and his reply will be, "Your face is asymmetrical?"


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At dance we wear leotards and our bras always show really bad. We have our Christmas recital coming up soon and we cant have our bras showing on stage. So how can we stop our bras from showing under our leos? Should we wear something eles under our leos?

Wear an "invisible" bra. Victoria's Secret sells a few versions, and stores like Target will probably have their own version. They're basically cups that mold to your shape and stay stuck til you take them off.

You could also wear a t-shirt bra that's designed to be seamless, or wear a tank top underneath.


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I always lived in the south until now. I am in a northern state now that gets A LOT of snow during the winter months. I think the most snow I have EVER seen was like 2 inches? I think last year this state got something like 100 inches at one time? Wow, huge difference, right?

Well, I know it's going to be a lot colder here but I KNOW that I won't really understand that until it's in the middle of winter probably. I want to be prepared though because I don't want to end up freezing all of the time and unhappy.

What are some ways to prepare for winter? Get a heavy jacket? What would I look for then? Should I get snow boots? Should I get gloves and stuff or would I be okay without? How do I keep my house warm on the cheap? I really am lost...what do I need for winter? :\

Seeing as I'm from Massachusetts, I know a thing or two about snow.


Yes, you're going to want a winter jacket. Assuming you're not allergic, I recommend either down-lined, wool, Thinsulate-lined, or a combination of all three. You can get coats anywhere in states that HAVE winter, haha. I love Delia's coats, but if that's not your age range/style, look to places like L.L. Bean, Land's End, Dick's, or any department store.


You'll also want layers to wear under your jacket and when your jacket is removed (so don't get a coat that barely fits you, you'll want some room for clothes underneath). Fake fur lined, or those thick fuzzy ones, are lifesavers. You can get them relatively cheap at Aeropostale and Pacsun- 35-50 dollars. And you'll get your money's worth. Trust me.


You'll absolutely want gloves. If you think you won't need them, go outside for thirty seconds when it drops to five below and you'll regret it. Hats aren't as important as gloves if you're wearing something with a hood, but if you realize you have a tendency to be colder, pick up a cheap one at Walmart or Target. I just started wearing scarves last winter, so I can tell you they aren't necessary, but they're cuter than zipping your coat up to your nose.


You'll want some kind of boot. If you'll be shoveling snow, get a waterproof boot that's lined. They aren't usually fashionable, but you'll need them for snow removal. I recommend getting at least one pair of cute boots that you love, because when there's a foot of snow on the ground you do NOT want to be wearing sneakers.


You can find tons of advice on lowering heating bills by doing a simple Google search, and there's lots of offers out there for tax rebates, energy discounts, and the like. Check with your utility NOW- they often have discounted rates if you prepay, use a certain method (natural gas, electric, etc). Do some research relevant to your area.


A lot of things people don't do are just common sense. Close doors of rooms you don't want to heat. Seal up windows to avoid leaks. Hang a blanket from the top of a doorway to an attic or second floor if it's practical to do so. Stuff a towel under the basement door to fill that gap. Lower the thermostat by a degree, wear an extra layer, and invest in a space heater or two. BUT BE SAFE WITH THEM. Use them only when you're awake (use a timer, too, if there's a chance you'll fall asleep) and get one that shuts off if it falls over or overheats.


Oh, and be careful driving too. Black ice is a bitch. And it takes awhile to get used to driving in the snow, so drive on less busy roads and in parking lots after the first snowfall to get the hang of it.


Inbox me if you want to know anything else =)
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i was very curious for the past month. my teacher brought this up that had me going crazy about it. i am so curious.

but do you think there is science behind depression? besides the normal problems people
have,

my teacher said that about 75% of humans never get over depression. She said that scientists wondered that if there is something imprinted in the brain that makes humans depressed and can never become perfectly happy.

any comments? any answers?

Depression is a confusing condition.
Even the approved medications we have for it, we don't know WHY they work, we just know that for many people, they improve the situation or lessen symptoms.


I can tell you that a family member of mine has depression. Their brain STOPPED making serotonin almost completely for a time, and they're on oodles of medication (for lack of a better word) to correct this.


To an extent I believe that depression can be cured, depending on how bad it is, what triggered it, and the person. Some people have trouble shaking off the feeling of listlessness and are helped by treatments, while others have serious, permanent issues within their body that may not respond to anything. I'm by no means a doctor, but that's my opinion on it.


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