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My name is Christina. I'm 19 and attend Columbia College Chicago. I'm a journalism major and a theatre minor with a passion for all things music and fun.

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What age should you start going to a gynocologist? I just turned 13 and i have had my period for about 1 3/4 years. And how would i aproach the subject with my dad since i live with him and not my mother. (link)
Most doctors suggest going either after the first time you have sex or when you turn 18.

It won't hurt to go, but it's not necessary at this point.


Thursday i'm getting my wisdom teeth removed and i'm not sure how many days I need off work to recouperate. I've got Thursday, Friday, and Saturday scheduled off already, but i wasn't sure if I needed Sunday off too since I always work Sunday mornings. I have to have days scheduled off in advance because its really hard to find someone to fill in for me.

If anyone has had this done before, please help me.

Thanks (link)
When I got my wisdon teeth out I was out for 3 days and then fine. I was still swollen and couldn't open my mouth all the way, but I was fine. You should be too, but everyone is different.



I'm really really shy unless my friends are around or if i'm super hyper. So at a mixer awhile back I was quite hyper and feeling pretty outgoing so I asked the guy that I'm madly inlove with to dance with me to one of the slow songs. Well we did and talked. But now he never looks at me and I feel like he's avoiding me. I really want to talk to him but I don't want to be annoying plus I don't have any idea what to say. He's really dorky so I'm not sure if he's just really shy or if he's totally disgusted by me. What do you think? (link)
Now, this is only what I think you should do. It doesn't mean you have to.

I think that the next time you see him, just walk by and say hi and wave. If he kind of stops you to talk, then talk, but only for a short amount of time and then say you have to go.

The next time you see him, say hi again and try and make your little visit a little longer.

Pretty much, just try and ease your way into conversations and short talks with him. If all works well, you'll be talking and you'll both be able to figure out if anything is there.

If that doesn't work, then message me again and I'll try and help you. :)

Good luck.


i have hair on my arms. about a year ago i started to shave them, but i only did about twice cause my friend told me that it makes the hair darker and stronger.
i haven't shaved them since.
but i have noticed that they are black now, and i don't want to shave them cause of what my friend said.
what else could i do? wax? or something else?
thanks =D (link)
Getting them waxed at a salon would keep them smooth and hairless for longer, but Nair works just as well. It just doesn't last as long.


ok... well i left my video game (kingdom hearts) at a friend's house for a few months. My friend didn't play it but his little brother did. Well, his little brother left it out all of the time, and it got the heck scratched out of it. I haven't played it for a really long time, and now i want to. BUT, i cant because i cannot start a new game, because the in the very beginning scene... * that u cannot skip through *.... int he very beginning it like freezes... and its really making me mad... is there anyway to fix this??? please answer soon thanks...




chase (link)
Find a Game Crazy. They normally have buffing machines and can do it for a few bucks.

Other than that, try any strictly video game store. The workers in there will be able to suggest a good scratch remover or buffer.


I need help choosing which magazine I want to order.
I'm 14/f and I want some kind of magazine that has these features:

Quizzes

Tips on Make-up and fashion

has those mini posters of celebritys

letters from fans about embarresing moments and those kind of things

inside stories of celebritys

pictures of celebritys


I was kinda thinking about J-14... but maybe another magazine... I dont know, can somebody help me and name a few good magazines that are approriate for 14 year olds? thanks!
Oh and I want them to be fun too! not just boring, like only having pictures of celebritys. something that tells me "WOW!" thanks :] (link)
I hate little magazines like J-14 and whatnot. It's okay to like them, but I like magazines with content. Teen People is one of my favorite though they don't really have posters in them. But it has tons of great info and all that jazz. Plus, it's pretty think. It's more than just 20 pages or so long.


i just downloaded limewire. i downloaded a song, but i got a little alert that said something like: there is no license for this file. dowload anyways? limewire is not responsible for... what does that mean? is it legal ? (link)
No, it's not legal. That's what that message is saying. It pretty much means that there is no license saying that it can be distributed over the internet without a charge.


I have an extremely bad toothache. Like i want to cry thats how bad it hurts. I told my mom and she said it will feel better in a couple days and that was 2 days ago and i feel 50% worse now. I hate dentist but it hurts so bad im willing to let them do whatever they have to to make this feel better. But i cant get to one because of my parents. Is there anything out there i can buy that will help me feel better? Ive tried oragel and tylenol but nothing has worked.

thank you. By the way is my wisdom tooth or whatever tooth is in the back.

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Yep, wisdom teeth are all the way in back. They come in on the top and bottom, though not everyone gets all 4. You may only get one.

Tell your mom that you think it may be your wisdom crowning. all you have to do is take a trip to the dentist and they'll set everything up. If it is your wisdom teeth and you're going to get them removed and you have any questions, send me a note to my inbox. I had all 4 of my wisdoms removed in July and could answer some questions.


i am going to start going to a tanning beds, dont tell me they can make you have cancer i know, im not going to be addicted but i have a ceromony to go to in a couple weeks and i would like to be tanner, what are things to know a bout tanning salons do you go in and pay for your visit, do you wear tanning lotion? do you tan with a bathing suit or naked? and do you have to wear goggles? and what is the usual cost? (link)
I know you've heard this before, but don't go tanning. 15 minutes in a tanning bed is equal to 3 hours in the sun. Imagine what that does to your face.

There are really great tanning lotions now. You can get Dove's tinting lotion. It colors you in 1 use depending on the color you get, and by that I mean light skin or darker skin.

Here is the information I know about tanning beds:
you can buy individual sized tanning lotions at most places.So you don't have to spend $45 on lotion.
most places also give you little stickers to put over your eyes so you don't have to buy the googles.
you can go naked or slightly clothed.
I suggest covering your face with a washcloth or turning the part that hits your face off.
the people who work there will help you.

But you'll have to go a few times to get some good color. The lotions with self tanner in them work faster. And they don't cause and sunspots, cancer, or wrinkles.

Hope that helped.


Hey! On friday teh 13th, some of my freinds are coming over for a scary movie night. The thing is, I don't know some good halloween movies. Does anyone know any good HALLOWEEN movies? I want movies that take place during halloween... but scary ones that don't take place then are good too! PG-13 would help! (link)
I wasn't going to answer since so many others did, but some movies, like the Grudge, are not worth watching and aren't scary.

Here are a few of my choices:

-The Others- if you haven't seen it, it keeps you guessing and there are a few jumpy parts.
-The Hills Have Eyes isn't scary, it's suspense. But good nonetheless.
-28 Days later. Not zombies, infected people. So they run fast.
-The Ring was one I loved, but not everyone agrees with.
-The Exorcist is a classic.
-The Haunting: big house creepy angels in the fire place. Blood bathes.
-House on Haunted Hill- you've got to love the remake. It even has Chris Kattan.
-Land of the Dead if you're a Romero fan or you just like the 21st century style blood and guts. (The 2 guys from Shaun of the Dead are in there too, but it takes a trained eye, or the special features, to find them)
-Rosemary's Baby- I haven't seen it, but others say it's a keeper. (Plot-woman raped by the devil=evil baby.)

Hope this helps. :)


13/f

i want a belly button ring so bad. not this year though. next year, in 9th grade. the thing is though, my mom won't let me. she said i have to wait til i move out when i'm 18. SIX YEARS?! um no i'm not waiting that long lol. i know a ton of people who have them and they haven't had a problem. i know they can get infected, but that's only if you don't take care of it and stuff. how can i convince her to let me? it's not fair 6 years is too long lol.
thankss (link)
Not to knock your idea, but I don't find anything cute or classy about belly button rings. I think that a plain belly is sexy on it's own. So make sure you seriously think about it. Luckily, it's not like a tattoo and can eventually close up.

If you've already thought about it, then doing what someone already advised (the whole researching it first and showing your parents that you've put forth effort into the idea) would be your best bet in my opinion.


i have to pick my confirmation name, and i was thinking of doing like a tribute to my uncle who just passed away 3 months ago. his name's eric. is there like a saint erica? (link)
http://www.catholic.org/saints/

hope this helps.


my mom is having her 29th birthday and ma bff invited me to the ross game and then go to the haunted hydro so wut should i do i think that i should go to ma moms b-day and then go to the hydro so wut should i do ?????????????
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For sure, your mom first.

Then see how things go. If things are slowing down, then ask your mom. Talk to her about your options.

Just don't leave your mom alone.


alright, i'll straighten my hair in the morning, and it's fine and straight and everything, but then whenever i get to school, after a few periods it starts to flip out and stuff and it gets really annoying. how can i get it to stay? [ and if you know any ways without hair spray, i'd really prefer it ] (link)
Aside from using certain products, a new hair cut may help. My hair would start to conform to the shape of my shoulders and such. After I cut off about an inch, it stopped doing it. My hair was actually too thin from a previous hair style, so by evening it out, it helped keep the straightened style.

Hope that helped a bit.


I have been straightening my hair since December or January last year. I also highlighted it once and it was still soft and there was not any frizz. I went to get it highlighted again around April and they bleached my whole hair by accident. It finally began to look a little dried out, but only a little bit of frizz. In July I realized how ugly the color of my hair actually looked with my skin tone and eyebrows, so I tried to dye it back to my natural color at a hair place. They made it extremely dark and there was even green! So, two days later, I went to another place and they fixed it. I love the color and all, but now it is incredibly dry and it is beginning to get frizzy. I've dried the garnier fructise deep conditioning treatment, VO5 hot oil treatment, and today I tried the mayonnaise thing. Before the mayonnaise conditioning, I saw no improvement. My hair no longer looks as dried out as it did, but it is continues to look dry, frizzy, and plus I have split ends. I have stopped straightening it and I don't blow dry it. Is there any way that I can get it back to being soft and non-frizzy? Also, when my hair all grows out, will it be soft with no frizz again or will it be damaged? (link)
Cutting your hair will help a lot. I've been down that road, though not as serious. You need to move into a professional line of hair care products. Try Paul Mitchells Moisture Line. You can only get it at a salon and it's not cheap. (It's only untampered with if you get it at the salon.) Paul Mitchell's Moisture shampoo and conditioner (at least get the conditioner) will help add moisture to your damaged hair. Along with that, only wash your hair every other day. If you go more than two days you can make your hair too oily, and anything less that 2 days will only dry it out more. Also, try to straighten your hair as little as possible. And if you do, make sure to put some sort of product in your hair when it's wet as well as use hair spray. By putting something like moose, or styling cream in your hair you add a protecting layer to your strands that help it against the heat. The hair spray adds to that and also helps with styling. It's going to take a while and many trims to get your hair back, but it will get there.

Hope that helps. If you can't tell, I'm all about Paul Mitchell supplies. They aren't cheap, but they work. And most salons will offer deals, so it's not that bad.


are there any websites like tinypic that let you just upload pictures without registering for an account or something? (link)
photobucket.com


What is the difference between a college and a university?
Oh, and what's the differece between a college and a community college? (link)
A community college is a junior college. You can only get your associates degree there (that's about 2 years of college).

As for the college vs university thing, I have no idea. I don't think there is a difference. I go to Columbia College and not a university, but I go to an art school so everything si different from normal schools. I think it's all just in the name.


I have two former friends who (in my opinion) seriously abuse their cat. "Tammy" will grab the cat by the back legs and spin it around, set it on the floor and flip it in circles, chase it around the house, pull it by its tail when it tries to get away, etc. She's 21, so she's not a kid at all. With her boyfriend, they will put the cat in a pillowcase a breathe lungfulls of marijuana smoke in on it. When they have parties, they will "pass the cat." Everyone in at the party will take the joint and the bagged cat, and on every exhale breathe their smoke into the cat's bag. This will go on for an hour or two before they free the cat. This is just what they do in front of other people.

I can only see where I have there options here, each with problems.
1) Call the police.
2) Break into their house and steal the cat.
3) Do nothing.

I don't want to call the police, because I smoke weed and so do a lot of my friends. Used to, if you got caught in my town you just went to jail. Now you reduce your sentence with every fellow pot head you turn in, all the way up to having no arrest record if you turn in enough people.

I don't want to break in just because...well...it's wrong, I guess. And I really want to do something to help the cat. I've already tried talking to them about it, and it doesn't help.

I would really appreciate any other suggestions, or help picking which option is right. Thanks! (link)
Call animal control and ask if you can report animal abuse, if not, ask for a number for where you can.

You should not break into the house, ever. Let the professionals handle this situation.


ok so i have 26days to tone my legs or lose weight in my legs

i was wondering if like an hour of riding my exercise bike on the hardest setting would have any improvment???

thankss (link)
It doesn't have to be on the hardest setting, but you're heartrate needs to be elevated and you need to feel some burn (not crazy burn though).

Remember:
Hydrate yourself before, during, and after.
Ride, or even run, for at least 20 minutes 4-5 times a week.
Fat turns to muscle. You will gain a lot of muscle. So, chances are, you will tone those legs and lose a bit of weight (appearance wise) but not much scale wise since muscle weighs more than fat.


im a girl by the way...

i know this is like totally gross but ive tried all types of deoderants and i don'tknow if it's just me or the deoderant i use, but im always like feeling sweat(ew) under my arms...like it doesnt smell bad but it's just wet and sometimes it shows a lot when i lift my arms. does anyone know if it's me, or a good brand to try and stop wetness?

thx a bunch. =) (link)
My sister is like that and most of what has been told to you is true. Aside from that though, regular exercise (with lots of water) and eating healthy is VERY important. My sisters doctor told her she needed to exercise and eat healthy and it would lessen dramatically.




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