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ugh. stupid boys.
16/f
i've never had a real relationship. im not fat, or ugly. i have a lot of friends but i can't seem to find a guy for me. every time i meet one, they sweet talk, and i fall for them and they get what they want out of me and then leave me. i fall for it everytime and i hate it because i am a mess because of it. i started doing really stupid things because im getting depressed. i hate that fact that i did that and im changing. but im still depressed. will i ever find someone for me? it seems all of my friends have found their special someone. whats wrong with me?? i dont want to be an easy peice of ass. but i am. i dont mean to be it just happens because all they need to do is tell me im beautiful and i cant say no. im longing for someone to care for me. and anyone i trust, they betray me.
help, or anything would be greatly appreiciated.
xo
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i think you need to stop looking for mr. right. you need to take a break from it, and just have time for you. i hate to say it, but if word is getting around that you're easy, then that is why guys are using you. of course they're going to tell you you're beautiful if they know they'll get what they want from you. an easier way to tell if a guy means what he says is to make him wait. if he stays with you, and waits, then you'll know he wants to be with you in more than just a sexual way. if you never hear from him again, you'll know he only wanted sex, and you'll also know you're better off without him. you are not a slut, you're not a whore. you are looking for love, and although you're doing it in the wrong way, you deserve to be loved. the right guy will come along. you're only 16, you have plenty of time to find mr. right. it's a good sign that you say you're changing,because that means you still value yourself. you need to realize that if you keep on the way you are, you could end up pregnant or diseased. for your own sake, take a break from romance, join a school club, or volunteer somewhere during the summer, or get a part time job. it will help keep you busy, and introduce you to even more people and friends who will value you, and help you realize that you're worth being valued for who you are, and not what you do. take care, and please be careful.
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well i dont know how ya feel, because i never been in that kind of relationship.well girl dont let NOBODY take advantige of you. you can be a better person than that. the first thing a boy gonna tell you " oh baby i love you". some girls being stupid { not all girls and im not calling you stupid} fall for it. then boys go back to his homeboy and tell them everything and calling them names. i know some girls just what to be love and shit. but you gonna know that they are some little niggah out there just trying to get some quick pum pum , and you got ta be the one that they no better not to play that shit with you. you also got to figure out they little playa shit. and i ganretide you gonna find some one that love you or like you for who your are and not what you got. and for my advice dont start to givre it up and soon as you meet them and shit, at least wait a couple a months and see if they want to be with you. BUT BE CAREFUL you do have some niggahs that is really smart and THEY well wait, but they well find some other girln to mess around well he waiting fa you. some of them can be real slick but you suppose to be slicker. also if they trying to be all up pon you, controll yourself and back them off. like i said be fore be slick wit it { it dont mean go and cheat while you wit him}. you can TRUST htem but dont trust them too much.oh yea let they KNOW that you aint a girl that you and do wat you want with and leave.
and if there's anything you need you can just ask me.
sorry i wrote so much, but hope i help
EbOnY =]
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Ok im so cheesed off by reading this.
I understand what you're going through as ive been there but with woman and not guys. But it does get you down and makes u feel so low!
But trust me all you have to do is(easier said than done i know!) detatch yourself the next time a guy says he likes you. Step out of the picture and look in.
See if he realy means that jus by lookin at the way he acts str8 after.. If he moves ina sexual way towards you then you know hes in it for youre body. But if he says it and you try and move in for a romantic hug and kiss and he seems totaly against it( which is obvious if you step out and looki in) then you know hes just a player!
If however- he goes with it and appreciates it then take it slow and YOU set the pace of the relationship and let him know that you want to take it slow.
You say youre friends hav found their someone already. Ok-thats fine. But you havent and theres nothing to be ashamed of i mean...
I cant promise you'll ever meet the man of youre dreams but someone will come along one day that you will love and cherish. Just as he will you. I was inb the same position as you only 1 year ago and now im getting engaged to marry my girlfriend
As for the people you mention who betray you. The best thing to do is just move on liek theve done nothing to hurt you. Its hard but it works and just dont bother with them at all. Believe me ive managed and i know thsat we are 2 different people but its easy if you make new friends and enjoy yourself and put the past behind you.
Just remember 3 things the next time;
Step out,look in
Explain you want to take it slow( to avoid being hurt)
You're time will come!
And as for those who betray you;
Youre better than they are
It's their loss im an amazing person :)
SMILE no matter what!!!
& last but not least
Talk to someone about this depression etc coz itll send u spiriling to a crash sweety i knw.
Annnnnnnd finaly
BE YOURSELF!!!
If people cant accept you as you then their jus scum
Hope ive helped :)
Anthony
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Hi, Im positive you will meet your match if not soon but you will. Try and talk to many guys, and start a conversation. It is good that you've got alot of friends because guys usually go for girls who have friends, but guys also like a girl with high self-esteem and confidence. To increase your chances of finding someone, then I say mix with the crowd. What I mean is go to disco's, join a club or group, go out with your friends and just get noticed a bit more. Give it a try. If you do find someone just be aware that they may be using you. But it's just a matter of having confidence and approaching and talking to guys with style and confidence. Daniel.
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As females, sometime we unintentionally give guys all the power in situations. You have to realize that you have the power to control how you want your life to be. As in, if you dont want to be an easy peice of ass,you dont have to be. I know its hard to not fall for someone who sweet talks you but your going to have to hold back a bit because you dont want to be the one hurt in the end.. As for will you ever find someone? Your 16 so you still have time, I didn't have my first boyfriend until I was 18. Its going to happen when you least expect it (it tends to happen when you least expect it or when you dont even want anyone at all). Your heart is a precious thing and you have to guard it until the right person comes along.. Hope I helped a bit :)
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Ok hunny. dont worry about it to much. they are stupid asses for doing that. im so sorry. i feel for you. ok?? dont be depressed. from what you sound like you are a beautiful girl and you don't need a man to complete you. ok don't worry about a relationship right now. but however i'm only 13 so idk. follow your heart and don't fall for it again. try to learn to trust again. trust me i'm somewhat like you only i have a b*******d. any way it dont matter. like i said just follow your heart and don't cry over any guy he is not your tears but the one who is will never make you cry.
GOOD LUCK!
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Well, I don't have much to say in help, but if it makes any difference, I'm in the same boat you are. Let's see:
First there was Ryan: Cheated on me with three other girls, but that dang sweet talk held me in.
Then there was Ian: Dated me for about two weeks until he desided to try and basically take advantage of me.
And finally there was those dang guys who just asked me out for the simple fact that they wanted some action and luckly I was smart enough to hold back.
I'd say the best advice I can give you is to follow your gut reaction about the guy. If you have any sense of dread or disapproval at all, get yourself out of there! And don't worry about meeting the right one, and I know you are probably sick of hearing this, but you have your whole life ahead of you. Men at this time of your life are nothing but hormone driven, un-romantic, jerks. (most of them atleast).
I just recently when through a stage in my life were I was super depressed too. You will get through it. Just surround yourself with friends and do whatever hobbies make you the happiest! (Mine were being outside and reading)Or an even better way is to find an outlet. Mine personally was writting in my diary or writting poetry. Maybe you could talk to a friend about it or even me! Heck, my e-mail address is amazingbewilderment13@hotmail.com. Or I've heard even exercize works! Just do whatever you can to keep your mind off of it!
Just lay back and enjoy this time of your life, you're young. If you have any other questions you know where to ask.
-Megan
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Hey there,
Maybe next time you meet a guy, you shouldn't give in straight away. I know if they sweet talk you and tell you your beautiful and things like that, that you really want to just go for it.
If you take your time, get to know them a bit first, give the guy a chance to get to know you then you might find your 'special someone'
It may not happen straight away but hey it might be worth the wait! I was in the same situation as you before I got to know guys before I went for them, then I found my boyfriend and i've been with him for just over a year.
Just take your time, play hard to get! But in the mean time have fun!
Good luck!
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