I'm 20 and I attend Stony Brook University. I've always loved helping my friends and family so I've decided to give it a try with helping people I don't know. Any one out there who wants advice, feel free to ask...
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Location: New York City
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Age: 20
Member Since: January 20, 2006
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I HATE MY EX BOYFRIEND! he acts like he still loves me and then he ditches me to smoke. im fourteen. i want to show him that im done with him but idk how... help? (link)
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What you can do is take all focus off of him. All forms of communication should be cut off with him. After a while of ignoring him he might get the hint. Also just focus on you, do the things you love, enjoy your life and let it show on your face that you are good and happy. The combination of all of that may get through to him and let him you are done with him. Don't give in when he tries (which he probably will) to get you to pay attention to him.. Good luck with everything :)
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Why do some people, while making out,
lick the other persons face? Does it mean anything?
Give Meh your opinion: Hot or Not.. why? plz
Srry just a random question. :)
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Wow lol. There is no real meaning behind it except maybe the person thinks it is hot or maybe they get "excited" by it.
In my opinion if a guy liked my face while we made out, I would send him on his way haha :)
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ok so i'm planning to have sex on wednesday (3 days from now) but im way late on getting my birth control shot (depo-provera) and i plan to get my shot either tomorrow or on tuesday. I've heard that it's effective within 24 hours but does anyone know the details on that?... like does it matter when your period is or if its 23 hours instead of 24
Basically what im asking is if its ok for me to get the shot on tuesday after school and then have sex wednesday after school (but wednesday is a half day so it wouldnt be quite 24 hours) also im spotting right now if that makes a difference.
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I am actually on the shot now. If it is your first time getting it, it is suppose to be given within the first 5 days of your period. And when you get the shot, yes it does take effect within 24 hrs. Having unprotected sex a little before that could put you at risk for pregnancy. So either use a condom to be on the safe side or just wait a little after 24 hrs from getting the shot. Good luck :)
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for the summer i want to have a book i can read like while im tanning or somethings.
im 15 soo nothing like too kidish or like whatever. :)
umm so have any ideas on some good books :) ? (link)
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Go Tell Alice by Anonymous is pretty good. Also Sarah Dessan books are also some great reads. OH and When it happens by Susan Colasanti(she is actually my old favorite teacher from when I was in High School, she is the greatest!), such a great book about relationships.
Have fun :)
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this one is for girls...
im graduating this year....
what are you supposed to wear under your gown on the day of your graduation? at my school we have white gowns..
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First off I would like to say Congrads on making your graduation!! Its a beautiful thing and you should be proud :)
Now on to the question. You can wear whatever your heart desires, whatever makes you feel comfortable, put it own, its your day. Most people wear just a nice simple dress under their gown or even a nice skirt and blouse. If your not into wearing a dress or skirt outfit, you can wear some nice black slacks and a pretty blouse.Congrads once again :)
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okk i know that this is gonna sound really retarded lol but i have a question about a song i heard last night. it was like 11 at night and i was watching big fat liar, and it was at the part where the kids bugged his car, and whenever he pressed the brake the horn would go off, and whenever he would drive the whole car would just go crazy. so what is the name and artist of that song that goes, "im blue, da-ba-dee-da-ba-di, da-ba-dee-da-ba-di...." and it just keeps repeating that. plz get me the name and artist it is driving my CRAZYY!! (link)
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I so remember when this song came out, I was in 8th grade. Seems like so long ago lol. The artists name is Eiffel 65 and the title of the song is Blue. Have a good day :)
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no matter how hard i try i just can't seem to get over my ex boyfriend. its been about a month n a half since we broke up. and i love/loved him with everything. i tried dating other ppl, but nothing works :( any suggestions on how to move on?
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About a year ago, I was in the same situation. It actually took a months to finally be over it. The thing is, since you two just recently broke up, a part of you is holding on and wont let go, even though you may know this is not the best thing. Getting over him wont happen over night, what you should do is try to focus on you. Like do things that entertain you, that make you happy (outside of the way your ex use to make you feel). Sometimes dating other people helps but most times all it does is make you compare them to your ex and I know it totally sucks. Wait a bit on the dating other people thing. Like I said, take some time for yourself, pamper yourself a bit and let yourself know that you are fine without him. Get involved in the things you love. It will take some time, but you will eventually get over him. Take care and good luck :)
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ok well..me and my bf have been datting for 8 months almost 9. Well the last spring break we had when we were out of school.. i meet some new friends..6 of them. 3 girls.. and 3 boys. well one night all the girls were watching the guys play basketball. Well out of the blue one of them says ok..jack( not real name) I dare you to kiss Summer ( me) if I make this shot. and of course he made it. well I kinda see jack glance over at me... and im thinkinh?? is he really going to do it? then he walks over and kiss's me on the lips twice. well one night I was talking to the guy that kissed me on AIM! and he goes "Just got my braces off' and I was like " kool" he said " that way when I come back down there will be more room for your tounge" and I was thinking " o god" well I have a bestfriend who I tell EVEYTHING to well I was talking to her and Imed her the convo. showing here what I he said! well I accidentally.. semt it to my bf instead of her! and I was so.. MAD! well now.. he broke up with me.. and were back together.. but..he still cant get over it. like he will call me and when im not there he will IM me saying "YOUR PROBLEY AT THE POOL WITH JACK" and I dont even like Jack and I dont know what I can do to get his trust back any suggestions?
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He is probably still hurt and bothered by what happend and it will most likely take him a little while longer to get over it. But he needs to understand that its not fare to keep holding that mistake over your head, especially since you two are back together... The best way to get his trust back is to show him that you can be trusted, dont lie to him and just speak to him some more about how you realize what you did in the past was wrong. People make mistakes and he should be able to forgive you if he truely cares(and by taking you back, its like saying he does forgive you but that is not always the equavilent to forgeting). GOOD LUCK! :)
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I have self esteem issues. I've truly hated myself for a long time, and I'm just starting to like myself a little again.
I have these two friends, we'll call them B and A.
B. is really mad at me right now because I'm too "emo". Well, I've been trying to be happier, and the ONE slightly self degrading comment I made, she attacked me.
And my other friend A. who I thought would be on my side, seeing as how we've kind of got some stuff, due to make out sessions, and other weirdish stuff. I won't get into it, but she took B's side!!
I love both of them, but I don't know if I can love myself if I love them.
What do I do? (link)
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Well to start off, its a great thing that your starting to like yourself little by little. In order to be truely happy you have to learn how to love yourself and sometimes it takes time(I also went through a long period of time where I looked down on myself). But back to the question at hand. It looks like your friends meant well but went about making the point in the wrong way. I have had that happen to me before and it makes you think that your friends dont understand you or hate you. I doubt that they hate you, they may have just been trying to make you see how putting yourself down may not have been the best thing. What you should do is speak to them and let them know how the way they reacted to your comment hurt you. If they are truely your friends they will understand that it hurt your feelings... Good luck with everything, hope it all works out :)
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so i thought i loved this one kid. but i know now i dont. and then i started liking this other guy but no i never did. he's sort of a jerk but then i met this guy and he's amazing but
he's gay =[
what should i do. i know i obviously wont have a chance with him but ugh. thanks for any advice (link)
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Wow dont you hate when a guy is amazing but you find out he's gay?It will happen to every female atleast once in their life... Anyway, the best thing to do is just let it go and get over him. It sounds easier said than done but if you just continue to let yourself know that it cant happen, eventually you will get over it. Good luck :)
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Ok heres the thing. I have been with my recent boyfriend for more than a year now. I love this boy to death and want to be with him for the rest of my life. NOw there is this other guy who I dated back b4 my recent. He calls and says he wants to get back with me and asks me what if questions like, what if I kissed you and stuff like that. I have tried to explain to him that I'm with sumone already, he even knows the most intimate stuff I have done with my recent bf. What can I tell him so he will backoff and not ruin my recent relationship with the guy I have???? By the way, I am 15, He is 16 and my bf is 15. Also that guy lives out of state from me. (link)
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Well your going to have to tell him once again that nothing is going to happen between you and him because your with someone. Be as direct as possible, you might even have to use a harsh tone with him (especially since you've said you have told him before but he wouldn't listen). Let him know how much your boyfriend means to you. After doing all of that, I suggest you lose all communication with him because he might feel there is still hope for the two of you if you still speak to him. Good luck and take care :)
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i am getting a perm and i was wondering if i should go swimming with a swimming cap on?! and if so, do u have any suggestions about which caps i should get..like brand names and stuff! email me back at sweetjamie94@hotmail.com! thanks!
jamie (link)
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If you are just getting the perm I dont suggest you go swimming. The water can ruin the perm, and can react negative with the chemicals in your hair from the perm. You could use a swim cap but they never work that well, water still tends to seep in through the sides (well in my case). Try waiting a few weeks after you've had the perm to go in the water. Take Care :)
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My friend Taylor, *of 7 years* always tries to make her look better then me. She always tells people I'm having a bad hair day, I'm breaking out, my parents are strict *even though HER parents are the super strict ones, deff. Not mine!* she'll tell them my families having money problems, I complain to much, or that my legs are a little hairy or something, especially around popular people and hotties.
She ALWAYS does this, I hate going places with her. She thinks she totally cool, but shes not. After two hott guys chose me over her, she's been like this. I'm not trying to compete against her, she just auotmaticly does this. I've tried talking to her, didn't work. What should I do? (link)
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Ironically, I've been in this situation before. You really need to stand up to her. She shouldnt be treating you like that, for whatever reason it may be. She's making you feel bad,you shouldnt have to sit back and take it. Confront her about it again and explain to her how much it upsets you. Now if she doesn't listen to you again, then maybe she shouldnt be your friend anymore because friends are suppose to be there to bring you up. Good luck with this situation.
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Hey everybody. Well, I'm 14/f and African American (if that's of any help). I have like these scabs on my legs, and I really want to get rid of them, but everything that I've tried had failed. I really don't feel comfortable showing off my legs, but they're in really good shape and they look nice, and I really do want to show them. If anybody knows of any creams, etc. that help with scabs, discoloration of skin, or scars, and that can get my skin clear in the quickest time, I would really appreciate that! Thank you soooo much! (link)
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Depending on how bad the scars are, Cocco butter (the palmers brand) can help clear up your skin(I use it all the time).It wont clear up right away but you will notice a difference later on. If that doesn't work, try asking your parent to take you to a dermatologists and they will prescibe something to help.
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Im getting my belly naval pierced tomorrow and i was wondering on a scale 1 - 10. 10 being the worst.. how bad did it hurt? Im kind of nervous but I just want a heads up thing. Thanks in advanced (link)
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About a 3. Its kind of like someone is pinching you. It also depends on what your tolerance for pain is, but for me, getting my naval pierced wasn't so bad (just make sure no one kinda bumps into your stomach after you do it, for some reason that kept happening to me lol). Good luck :)
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yesterday my boyfriend told me he was cheating on me which i was very upset about. i'm still with him and he is still cheating on me.he said he has been cheating on me for a year. i love him very much and he said he loved me too. but he said he wasn't going to leave the other girl and he said we could share him. i'm really thinking about breaking up with him. but i love him and i'm not sure what to do. should i break up with him or just keep our relationship still going? please help and thank you so much
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You shouldn't have to share your boyfriend. Honestly, you dont deserve to have your boyfriend cheat on you for over a year and tell you that you and the other girl can share him. Come on, thats not fair to you at all. It's one thing if he cheated and asked for forgiveness(meaning he wouldn't see that girl anymore)but he cheated and feels no remorse for it AND is going to continue to do so. You can get better than that and I know it hurts because you love him but having you as a girlfriend should have been enough for him. You need to put yourself first, take a stand. Do you really want to share your boyfriend with another girl? You need someone who wants you and only you... I think you should break up with him but in the end the decision is all up to you. Take care and remember, put yourself first.
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Well i really like this guy and we went out about a year ago for like a month and well we broke up but i never quiet got over him now we're talkin but its kinda confusing.. is there a way you can tell by a guys signs or actions if he likes you or if hes just using you? (link)
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Guys are truely confusing. They can say one thing to you and then act the complete opposite of it. Each guy is different so there is no sure way to know if a guy likes you unless you ask(even with that, a guy can lie to you just to see what they can get out of it). When you two talk does he ever bring up other females?(If he does then he might not see you in the same way you see him). If he is always wanting or willing to be around you, that could be a sign that he likes you. Now to tell if he is using you.. Is he always asking you to do things for him(like he doesnt sweet talk you until he is about to ask you for a favor)? All of this could also depends on the way you two broke up (if he broke up with you, he could be trying to take advantage of you because he knows that you like him. If you broke up with him and he's still around you, he probably still likes you).All in all, just be careful to not fall in to deep until you know for sure wheither or not he likes you(you dont wanna end up hurt). Good luck :)
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Ok there is this guy i like and we went out before.. I really like him and it seems like hes sending me signals but im not too sure.. how is a good way to find out if he likes me??I've already asked but it was a mixed answer! (link)
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Well if you two have went out before(assuming it was a date) then its safe to say that he might like you, but then again guys are confusing. A good way to find out if he really likes you is to maybe ask a friend of his. The best way(which you have already done)is to just ask him. Try asking him again and this time let him know that you like him and wanna know whats up. Don't seem needy when your asking, just tell him your not here to play games and you wanna know how he feels. Be as straight forward as possible. Good luck :)
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I havent been fingered yet and when i do should i shave or not? Should you be nervous? (link)
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You dont have to necessarily shave but it wouldnt hurt (trimming would be fine too). And its normal for you to be nervous the first time but just relax (if your tense it might be uncomfortable) and enjoy it :)
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ok. well i was wondering if it's true that you miss chances to grow if you wear a bra at night. like a bra with an underwire and such as you would wear during the daytime. answers are very much appreciated, and thanks ahead of time!
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Not true at all. Its a myth. Wearing a bra at night is just really uncomfortable. Wearing a bra at night doesn't stop your breasts from growing (nor does it help them grow).
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