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my ex
no matter how hard i try i just can't seem to get over my ex boyfriend. its been about a month n a half since we broke up. and i love/loved him with everything. i tried dating other ppl, but nothing works :( any suggestions on how to move on?
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moving on can be hard, but its something that we all have to deal with at sometimes maybe just lay low your just not ready to start dating again. try getting into somthing fun like a new sport or just try hanging out with your friends there always there and they make you feel better plus you never know you might just find someone that may take him right out of your head.
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About a year ago, I was in the same situation. It actually took a months to finally be over it. The thing is, since you two just recently broke up, a part of you is holding on and wont let go, even though you may know this is not the best thing. Getting over him wont happen over night, what you should do is try to focus on you. Like do things that entertain you, that make you happy (outside of the way your ex use to make you feel). Sometimes dating other people helps but most times all it does is make you compare them to your ex and I know it totally sucks. Wait a bit on the dating other people thing. Like I said, take some time for yourself, pamper yourself a bit and let yourself know that you are fine without him. Get involved in the things you love. It will take some time, but you will eventually get over him. Take care and good luck :)
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It took me a year to get over my last boyfriend. Thorughout that time, i kept telling myself 'yup im over it' but realised i wasn;t. it just takes time... you can't force it or make yourself believe it... don't rush into another relationship to try get over your last, it's not fair for the other person.
Just remember the reason you broke up. if you got back together, would there be a happy ending? or just more pain?
if it's all pain - you don't want to go through it again... It's cliche to say, but there are plenty more fish in the sea... maybe you just need to swim out a bit further ;)
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maybe you should sit down and think of all the bad pionts your ex boyfriend has, this will therefore, make the process of getting over him quicker, you maybe thinking that you are never going to get over him but i assure you, you will, through dating more boys, you may find one that you click with, then you will forget you even liked this ex boyfriend, also maybe telling your ex boyfriend how you feel and see how he reacts and you may be able to make it as friends. Also being with friends and doing something you enjoy will hopefully have your mind occupied by other things. But this sort of thing always happens and over time these feelings should fade just dont try to hold on to something when it doesnt exist because you will wish you didnt waste your time on that something. Good Luck =] x
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Think of it this way.
Relationships always end for a reason.
Now, a month can work for some people, but unfortunately, it can take alot more than that for others. There's no given time.
It depends what type of relationship you were in with your boyfriend, how you felt for him, etc etc. It's alot to just forget, isn't it?
It's hard to move on, but I promise you, sooner or later (a few more months perhaps) you will feel so much better.
You will be able to think back and realize WHY the relationship didn't work out and be happy for the times you did share together.
Maybe you should hold off the dating for a while?
After all, these boys could just be rebounds without you realizing it.
You can't expect someone to just be your new boyfriend after coming out of a relationship. Things aren't always that simple.
If you do want to carry on dating, then the process may take time to find someone who lives up to your ex boyfriends standards - only better.
Here's a few other tips which you shouldn't forget:
**Make sure to remove anything around your room etc which belongs to him - this makes getting over someone alot harder when their stuff is surrounding you!
**Give yourself time. It really does heal everything.
**Talk to your friends about him. It actually does help to get things off your chest.
Alywas remember;
It's better to have loved and lost, than never loved at all.
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Time heals everything.
You WILL find someone else who will sweep you off your feet. :)
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Getting over an ex boyfriend can be hard, heck no one said it would be easy. Try keeping your mind on other things (that don't remind you of him). Try reading or watching movies, things to take your thought away from him. You could hang out with your friends, just go get out & just try to have fun. You might even try talking to him less. Over time, you'll start to get over him. A month isn't a long time for someone you had strong feelings for, so don't feel bad if you have trouble getting over him.. you will soon enough. Good luck :)
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