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hey thanx so much for the adivice i really am gonna try and find a new boyfriend. and i think ur rite i need to tell him how i feel and that i dont wanna lose him. ok well i dont really have a question i just wanted to thank u.

Ohh good im glad to see that you are looking on the bright side and i really hope everything goes well with you and him and that you find someone special soon =] Let me know how you get on and if you have any questions about ANYTHING any other time dont be afraid to ask me because i'll always give you an answer =]

Good Luck

Sarah

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i've always loved the sims. i heard about it first a few years ago, from my friend. I thought it sounded really cool. My sister played it at her friend's house and loved the game too, so my dad bought us Sims Deluxe, about a month before EA Games released The sims 2. we were both addicted, mostly me, to the game. then not too long later, our interests drifted apart, and we stopped playing the game, and eventually it got missing. since it got missing, I've wanted Sims 2. Finally, three days ago, my mom gave in and bought us The Sims 2. Since then I swear I've been really addicted to the game. I play it mostly all day and stay up late playing it. I eat and etc, but not as much. like it doesn't dawn on me that I'm hungry for a while.. I've only eaten 2 meals an apple, yogurt, and three cups of water today. my school starts soon and i really want to exercise to be in shape since I'm taking dance lessons and playing soccer and I haven't really been exercising much in the summer. i tell myself to stop.. but i cant help it. its hard for me to even do my summer reading (required) because my mind drifts to Sims 2.. I dont even leave the game till my sister makes me get off so she can play, and a lot of times i just watch her game and wait for her to get off so I can play again.. gosh i'm hopeless. i want to not be addicted to this game for the sake of school starting in about 2 weeks, and for my health. because I've also been feeling.. out of shape lately, tired.. my hands kinda hurt, and sometimes i even get nauseous. and sometimes I get kind of "OCD actions" and since I've gotten addicted to the sims 2, its increased. i feel like.. i have to take deep breaths, i have to check all the doors (that they are locked) before I sleep, and little mind things I have to do.. I used to get it mildly but since my addiction, its increased. and not only all that, i've gotten out of touch from my friends for the past few days. i feel really bad about it and i will try my hardest to get over this addiction if you can help me. i dont want to stop playing forever.. I just want to like control the amount I play.. don't just tell me to play for like 2 hours a day, because its easier said than done. give me an easier way for me to get out of this habit. thanks alot! :)

13/f

I had the EXACT same problem about two years ago...the sims 2 use to be my life and i didnt ge tout much because of it, i didnt really ahve a social life either, its all i ever did! All summer and let me tell you sittin around doing nothing 24-7 is not healthy! The only reason i stopped playing it is because it broke and there was something wrong with it..it kept freezing and my computer had too many downloads for it that it crashed too and i am sooo thankful that it broke! If it didnt i'd still be addicted today and wouldn't have a social life, I am 15 now and my years at school are very important now so its good and im older and got over the silly game. It is a really good game but all i can say is if u play on it then you will say ill only play for 2 hours but you get carried away and say maybe another two.. i dont know what to tell you because its you who plays the game and only you can control yourself by not playing it. You may be addicted but you can control yourself..honestly, i would advise not to play it everyday and have like a day or two for it when you have no plans with anyone or just not play it at all. Thats what helped me and now i dont really care about it anymore. Life is much more better than a game. x

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Hi, This is kinda long but I really need help.
I been going with this boy for a month now and I was really feeling him. Like he made me so happy. But now I dont even know if he even cares anymore. Like I planned on having SEX with him. I was doing to show how much I cared about him. Like i was thinking I loved him. But He had said he didn't love me I understood, but he had said he was lost without me, i asked him did he mean it he said no! So now i dont even know if I still like him or if he likes me anymore. What do ya'll think i should do about this situation? Please help me!!!!

Well it sounds like this boy is messing you around abit. I would advise you not to have sex with him because he doesn't seem mature enough in the relationship. If he cant tell you how he feels straight he's not worth it. Relationships take time and seeing as its only been a month you need to wait a bit longer and see how things go, because your feelings could change. Dont sell yourself short, and as you said you dont even know if you like him anymore so if this is how you feel maybe its best that the relationship doesnt go any further. Hope This Helped Good Luck =] x

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i have guy friends that i talk to sometimes and my boyfriend gets mad easily for that and i DONt like them i LOVE my boyfriend and i dont know how to tell him that he just doesnt get it. Its really hard for my boyfriend to understand that i dont like them. help?

Firstly best thing to do is talk to him, if you have a good relationship then you should be able to be open with each other and get it straight that you love him and they are just your FRIENDS, because otherwise if you had any interest in your guy friends you would be with them not him wouldn't you? And try telling him that if he has girl mates then say the way you are with them is how i am with my guy friends. Compare the relationships to make him see and understand properly on what your trying to say. Jelousy wont get him anywhere. Good Luck Hope This Helped =] x

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First and foremost, may I say that I am not trying to be conceited. However, it is apparent that almost EVERY guy I know looks at me, sees I'm sexy, assumes I'm easy, and thinks he can get in my pants. This has become a real problem for me. I feel as though no one sees me for me. Nobody sees past what I look like. I don't want to stop being sexy, not that I even try. I think I have a great personality- I'm fun, I'm chill. I will NOT downplay my looks in any way. To me, that doesn't solve the problem. How can I get guys to see me for me?

Firstly not all lads are like that maybe you just havent bumped into the right bunch..When you meet new people give off the impression that you want to get to know them and if they respond in the same way you know your getting somewhere. If not then they are not worth it. You do not need to change your looks your right you shouldnt have to change for anybody but if you think it is making people act differently towards you let them know how you feel, give hints that you are NOT easy and make it CLEAR. Good Luck Hope This Helped =] x

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no matter how hard i try i just can't seem to get over my ex boyfriend. its been about a month n a half since we broke up. and i love/loved him with everything. i tried dating other ppl, but nothing works :( any suggestions on how to move on?

15/f

maybe you should sit down and think of all the bad pionts your ex boyfriend has, this will therefore, make the process of getting over him quicker, you maybe thinking that you are never going to get over him but i assure you, you will, through dating more boys, you may find one that you click with, then you will forget you even liked this ex boyfriend, also maybe telling your ex boyfriend how you feel and see how he reacts and you may be able to make it as friends. Also being with friends and doing something you enjoy will hopefully have your mind occupied by other things. But this sort of thing always happens and over time these feelings should fade just dont try to hold on to something when it doesnt exist because you will wish you didnt waste your time on that something. Good Luck =] x

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Okay, so I'm turning 15 in November, and I've had 2 boyfriends, both were my best friends at the time, and in 5/6th grade. Guys just don't seem to like me.

I've been told I'm nice, but I'm definately not pretty. Although I wouldn't say I'm butt ugly:
[this is my myspace, to see the picture:
www.myspace.com/stephanie_elizabeth121a

I would just like to know some tips on getting boys to like me more.

It seem that your worried that your looks are making it harder for you to get a boyfriend. At your age i wont be suprised if our boy crazy and really want someone to care for you and care about. There is nothing you can really do to make boys like you more than be yourself. Dont try to be someone else, be confident and presentable. Be strong and passionate about yourself. Most boys notice girls by the way they carry their self, dont change for anyone, boys will come when you least expect it, you just have to wait, but dont expect things to just come to ou by sitting on your bum. You have to try aswell and show people what sort of person your like and that you are fun to be with. There are so many boys out their you just have to wait untill you find your match. Good things come to those who wait. =] Good Luck x

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hi my name is tani, you answered my question called "i dont why this keeps happening" which was about my boyfriend trouble and i wanted to thank you for the great advice and if u dont mind could u give me some more advise about it. maybe the reason i go out with him is cause im scared he will be the only guy i will have a chance with and i dont want to let him go. no matter what we try to stay good friends and we talk about loads of stuff together, but its just so weird staying friends cause we frenched and have been so sexually close. (we havent had sex we just touch each other with our clothes on, nothin bad) and its hurts so much to see him with another girl. its like i want him when hes taken but i dont want him all that much when i CAN have him. i just dont know what to do. i mean i am keeping my options open im looking for other guys, im just so painfully shy thats its hard to meet new people. please help me.

Hey Tani, firstly your welcome =] Secondly well you should'nt feel like he is the only one you have a chance with. There are soo many fish in the sea and you never know when you will catch one you just have to wait untill you get a bite. I think maybe you like having him as your boyfriend because you like the fact that someone cares about you especially if he is also like your best friend. But i know what you mean by wanting him when your not together and not wanting him that much when you are. This happens to quite alot of people. I think its probably because your so close to him you feel you will loose him as a friend if your not with him as bf, i suggest if you do love him as a FRIEND rather than a BOYFRIEND then stay good friends and tell him how you feel. You need to be open with him and tell him you are reali afraid of loosing him. Also many friends kiss and end up in a relationship but then end it because they are too good friends. Then again you could like him really but i cant tell you how you feel or what exactly to do because i am not you and only you know how you truly feel, but if it hurts you that much seeing him with another girl then maybe you like him really unless you just dont want him to go off with her and forget about you. If this is the case then you have to distract yourself hang out with your girlfirends, make new friends and meeting a new guy will DEFFINATELY help you get over another lad.

I see you say your painfull shy, we all go through this i use to be so so so shy but i met new girl mates who where confident and introduced me into lads and that completly changed me i became so confident and now i am happy with how i am and its easier to meet new people. Girls are more easier to talk to so try making new friends who make you feel good about yourself and who you get along with well and they will introduce you to new friends girls AND boys, you just have to push yourself to be social. Hoped this helped let me know how you get on and if you have anyother questions just ask me! =] Good Luck! x

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ok basically, i dont know how to makeout. i was at this one party the other night, and i hooked-up with this one kid, and not to mention this was likemy first time ever. haha i felt so stupid cause i was like doing the same thing over and over, but he was out of it so he really doesnt remember and cant give me pointers. but like, we started out slow, and then went into it. haha i kissed him like a cat drinks milk or something back and forth with tounge, i didnt know what else to do? and also, it was like really sloppery? is it normal to get like saliva around the outside of your mouth when you kiss? and please give me pointers on what i can do next time?! thanks soo much, i REALLY appreciate it! :]

Well occasionally you do get the very wet kisses, but i dont think having saliva everywhere is best way to kiss...lol. As long as you lick your lips before you kiss thats all you need to do, you can do soft kisses, or passionate, tongue or no tongue, if you do use tongue you can use tips or once again more which would be more passionate, you can kiss someones top or bottom lip aswell or GENTLY bite someones bottom lip. You will get better and learn what to do and what not to do whenever you kiss just let it flow =] x

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I have bad trouble sleeping!
i really need help and i dont know what to do!
PS i put this is Realationships -> Friendhsip because i didnt know what else to put it in :)
PLEASE HELP!

Hmm well something could be bothering you? If something is try to resolve it so that you get it off your chest. But then again i went through a faze where i had trouble sleeping and i think it was because i had too much on my mind about life and growing up that i spent all night trying to figure out things, but im ok now but it could possibly be that. But try some sleeping pills if you actually dont have any troubles or anything bothering you. =] x

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I'm gonna be 16 soon, and I'm having a real big party and all. I just don't know what I should set the theme as. For my 15th, i had a punk rock/gothic/emo theme where everyone wore mohawks and chains and stuff. But this year, i'm stumped. Any ideas?

Oh theres lots like:

*Black and White Theme
*Masquerade- this is a good one because their is more excitment and mystery to your party because you all wear masks!!
*Hollywood
*Western(cowboys/cowgirls)
*Rock n Roll
*Celebrity
*Casino
*Hawaii
*70's
*Superhero's
Try looking on the internet (google) for party theme's too! Hope this helped and happy 15th birthday hope your party goes well! x =]

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im trying very hard to put a video on youtube but i can like not succeed here.

i have the video on a camera and i have the cord and everything, i just dont know what to do from there
help? :]

Well once u have the video on your pc from where ever it is e.g mobile or something move it to my videos which should be in your 'my documents' Then on youtube you need to register, once you have done that click upload video and follow what it tells you, to upload you video you need to find it in your files which should be where you put it, in 'my videos' It should take some time to actually be watchable so dont worry if you cant watch it straight away.x =]

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i put it in and it works for a game and a sound recorder but not for, american online when i wanna talk to my friends.

Maybe you need to install something to use the microhpone on american online, also check the settings on there or ask your friends what they did for their microphone. =] x

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I have bad dandruff. i have even tried professional anti-dandruff shampoo. (Matrix Actrol) and it works...but i have to sue it every day and if i do that it dries myhair out. what can i use or do to prevent the dandruff while keeping my hair from drying out?

There are several possible causes for dandruff: stress, bad nutrition, lack of rest, frequent use of gels and hair sprays, excessive use of hot curling irons ect..

I would try experimenting with different anti dandruff shampoo's and see which one is the best and remember it may not work first time, but if its really bad try seeing a dermatologist or doctor incase of a scalp disease.

Hope this helped =] x

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I'm 14, a little over five feet, maybe 5'1, and 104 pounds. I was 90 last year but I went on the birth control pill and gained 10 pounds. I'm off of the pill now.

I've never worried about my weight, and I enjoy staying in shape although I'm not. I am a member of a local gym but I don't go as often as I'd like cause my parents are always too busy to take me.

So far I've only cut soda out of my diet. I drink water now instead of soda. It's hard for me to diet because I'm in love with junk food and I don't like that many healthy foods but if I really had to diet, I would.

I'm not going to ask "do you think im fat
because I hate that question. I'm not giving a link to a picture, so you won't be able to tell if I'm fat anyways but do you guys think I need to start dieting? And what are some easy exercises I can do at home for the days that I don't go to the gym? I'm not willing to go for a walk or a run and the only machine I have is a old treadmill.

Sorry this is so long but thanks a ton!

Well if you want to loose wait because you feel as if you should and you are not happy with the way you look and want to do something about it then you can as long as you PUSH YOURSELF to do so. Drinking water is a good idea, its much healthier. So if you want to loose weight go to your local gym when you can and try doing a few sit-ups and crunches in the morning when you wake up and at night too. At least have half an hour exercise push yourself but if you do this and keep eating unhealthy food then you will most likely get nowhere, you have to watch where you eat and everytime you are tempted to eat junkfood just tell yourself if you eat it then it will go to a certain place on your body which you dont want it to go and swap it for fruit or something, but remeber everyone is different and you are beautiful just the way you are. =] x

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when you shave down there is it supposed to look a certain way? like is there certain places where you arent supposed to shave? and how do i do it without hurrting my self?

When you shave down there it doesnt really matter how it looks as long as the hair is gone really, you are only really meant to shave because of your bikini line, just shave where it's needed and your'll be fine. Also if you use a good razor and slowly and gently shave then you should be able to shave without hurting yourself. =] Hope this helped x

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Any guys out there???

What makes a good girl kisser?

Having a lot of experience?
Kinda rough and lip biting?
Or softly touching lips and tongues?

Any advice you could give to make girls better kissers???

Well i am not a guy but still here is some of my advice..Soft/gentle kissing is usually good but then sometime passionate is too, experimenting is the best way, some people are good at kissing and some are not. Experience could help. Tongues is also a good way to kiss its more passionate as long as you dont stuff it down someone throat if you start off gentle and get into a more intimate kiss after a while then that is good. There are many techniques, biting lips, kissing the upper lip or bottom lip only, french, ect just experiment. x

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ok on myspace how do you get three pictures side by side without them moving? if anyone knows it would be a huge help.

Hmm cant you just get your three chosen pictures and join them together using paint then upload them onto your myspace? I dont know if im telling you the right thing for the kind of picture you want but i hope this helped =] x

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First off,
you should know that when we were younger my friends and I always made eachothers mixed cds, looking back we all noticed that we could tell eachothers specific moods and what was going on through the music/lyrics.

So now, I feel like Im losing them, one told me flat out that she doesnt want to hang out with me anymore and hates my boyfriend.. who she used to love?(as a friend) and I was wondering if anyone had any good songs pertaining to this to put on cds for them to let them know that i feel like im losing them, and I miss them, and im sorry that none of us made an effort.

Aww, well as you grow older everyone seems to change, even your best friends. It happens to everyone even me i have experienced it especially now but dont worry everything should turn out all right. Maybe you could speak to them and ask them and tell them how you feel. But here are some songs that are about friendship which i think are quite good. =]

-Anytime you need a friend - Mariah Carey
-Best friend - Brandy
-I turn to you - Christina Aguilera
-Please remember - Leanne Rimes

Hope this helped =] x Good Luck With Your Friends!

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okay, well since i was little, if I ever go out in the sun, i get dark very easily. So now im like VERY tanned. Like if I wear like bright colours (not including pink or white), it looks horrible. I really want to get lighter skin.. But the problem is that there is NO WAY I can go to like those salons where like you get tanned, or like lighter or like spas.. If I ever compair me and my friends skin tones, I'm the only one tht is really dark. My parents say stuff like if your tanned that means your healthy.. sometimes I think its true, sometimes I dont. Oh and by the wayy, im from canada so yeah. And basically, my wardrobe mostly is pink. Wondering what other styles I can get besides pink.

Thanks!

I think tanned skin looks lovely and epecially because its summer you shouldn't stand out that much, and it does mean you are healthy! Maybe you could buy a new wardrobe with a mix of colours that suit you, its always fun to have a shopping day anyways =] Hope this helped x

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