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bad friends?
I have self esteem issues. I've truly hated myself for a long time, and I'm just starting to like myself a little again.
I have these two friends, we'll call them B and A.
B. is really mad at me right now because I'm too "emo". Well, I've been trying to be happier, and the ONE slightly self degrading comment I made, she attacked me.
And my other friend A. who I thought would be on my side, seeing as how we've kind of got some stuff, due to make out sessions, and other weirdish stuff. I won't get into it, but she took B's side!!
I love both of them, but I don't know if I can love myself if I love them.
What do I do?
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Well to start off, its a great thing that your starting to like yourself little by little. In order to be truely happy you have to learn how to love yourself and sometimes it takes time(I also went through a long period of time where I looked down on myself). But back to the question at hand. It looks like your friends meant well but went about making the point in the wrong way. I have had that happen to me before and it makes you think that your friends dont understand you or hate you. I doubt that they hate you, they may have just been trying to make you see how putting yourself down may not have been the best thing. What you should do is speak to them and let them know how the way they reacted to your comment hurt you. If they are truely your friends they will understand that it hurt your feelings... Good luck with everything, hope it all works out :)
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well, you can look at this situation in one of two ways. your friend may have attacked you when you made a degrading comment about yourself because she loves you and doesnt like hearing you talk about yourself that way. she may have just been trying to emphasize that she wont let you tak about yourself that way. or you can look at it as your friend attacking you, and not realizing that you have been trying to appreciate yourself. if she knows that you have been trying to do better and still attacks you, then she isnt a good friend. if she hasnt realized, then she may not have done it intentionally. talk to her and explain that youve been trying to change, andd how hard it has been for you. if she still isnt treating you in a way that you think is helping you, then you shouldnt be friends with her, because she is doing nothing but making your situation worse.
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well it sounds like they are attacking you because they dont want to see you putting yourself down. their intentions are pure, but they are going about it the wrong way. they should be supporting you and complimenting you when you feel sad instead of just getting mad at you. talk to them about it. tell them that you really appreciate that they want you to be happy, but it makes you feel bad when they get mad at you. tell them that you are struggling and that you really need their support right now. if they are true friends, they will understand
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