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I'm Sarah
I cheer (it's my life)
I model
I will be attending Yale, Wharton, or Brown in 2010.
I'm not a bad kid.
But i'm definatly not perfect.
I've been through my fair share of delinquency.
so i know how to deal with it.
with that being said...
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I want to make my own disney show. I watched hannah montana once with my sister, and the acting was so bad that i could do it with my eyes closed, upside down, and in the arctic. it looks like the simplest thing possible. i could make millions of dollars because everybody would watch it no matter how bad it was. i would have my own concerts that would sell out in 2 minutes even if i had no talent. and i bet i could do it even though my dad is an engineer, not a famous country star. how do i get to disney studios and have them make a show for me without a famous father bribing them?

Okay... first of all it's A LOT harder than you think it is. Trust me, I started taking acting thinking the same thing and it isn't as easy as you are making it out to be. Second, it isn't as simple as asking someone to give you a show on Disney (hints the fact that every twelve-year-old girl doesn't have one). People spend their entire lives trying to make it big, and you know what most of them end up doing... waiting table. People devote thousands of dollars and most of their lives to show business and hardley anybody gets anywhere. If you want to act then you should take a class and get an agent. But it's still hard to get credible agents to represent you. You may be able to do community theatre or something like that. If you do decide to go straight to Disney and ask for your own show, please let me know how that goes...

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Where can i watch full episodes of NEXT (MTV)? specifically season 4, my friend was on it and i never saw it, but mtv.com doesnt have that episode on the website.

try youtube. if all else fails, google it. but pretty much everything is on youtube.

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How many girls realy are on a cheerleading squad?
Like I'm starting one at school and I don't know how many girls to use!!!!

It really all depends on what you want to do with the team. I've been on competition teams with 60 people and I've been on small co-ed teams with 12 people. For competing, if you want to compete large I would have at least 25 so you can have more than a few stunt groups. If you are just cheering at games, keep it small. it's much easier like that. Try either 12 or 15 depending on whether you want to use front spots or not. Get a well-rounded group. You need three small girls to be flyers, three tall girls to back, and the rest in the middle. You can make a cheerleading squad with any number of people.

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If been with my boyfriend on and of for the last 2 1/2 years. There was a really good friend i had that i meet before my boyfriend. We hooked up before i even meet my boyfriend so anyway i really miss this friend he never wanted a girlfriend like everrr and i really liked him alot. So anyway he has a girlfriend now and he still talks to me all the time. In school he comes up behind me and gives me big hugs and if i see him and dont say anything or give him a hug and he texts me and says oh whats up with the that look or, why didnt u give me a hug i really wanted a hug. And a few times he asked if i missed him. Of course i said yeah and then he kind of started being a jerk and was like ash your jealous of me and my girlfriend arent u trying to be funny but it wasnt all that amusing to me of course. I dont get it whats up with him?

He probably still likes you. HE'S the one thats jealous. If he's asking you if you miss him, he's obviously thinking about you. He's trying to cover it up by making it seem like you're the one that likes him.

The reality of it is, you guys don't act like friends, you act like you like each other. If you want to stay with your boyfriend, then you should probably stop talking to him so much. Or at least don't hug him and stuff like that.

Good Luck.
Sarah

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over the summer i think i've gained some weight.
its stinks! school starts really soon and i want to lose a few pounds FAST!!!
i run every day.and eat pretty heathy.
idk why but i've gained weight!! please help me.
what can i doo?

diet pills will work to get the weight off, sometimes but you gain it back really easily and you wont be able to sleep, which will make you feel terrible.

The only way to lose the weight and keep it off is what your doing, diet and excersice. You will lose fat like this, but may gain muscle weight. It's okay to gain muscle weight though. Just focus on losing fat.

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I go to a boarding school, and I met this guy who's a senior (i'm a freshman- almost 15) and I'm so obsessed with him i dream about him at night and I get chills and my heart skips a beat when I see him... I sat with him at lunch one day (he called out to me and asked me to sit with him) and later that night we had a little conversation. I just said hi to him.

So i guess we're acquaintences? he always looks at me whenever we're in the same room.

When a dance comes up should I ask him to go with me?

I'm a very mature freshman and I look a lot older than my age. He's just so nice and caring and I would die to have him as a bf.

I'm really shy though and it's intimidating to talk to him b/c he's a senior.

So even if I can't get the courage to talk to him anymore before a dance comes up should I still ask him?

I would let him ask you. Traditionally, thats how it's done. And he's older so he should be able to. Just try talking to him a little bit before then. Most guys don't really care about age; i'm sure it doesn't bother him, so don't let it bother you. Don't be afraid to flirt with him, because he's obviously interested. What do you have to lose?

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I'm a girl. I've known this guy my whole entire life. We're both 15. I've heard from more than one person that he likes me. A few days ago I was in his pool with him and his younger sister(she's 13). He bumped into me a few times and said he was sorry. Then I felt someone grab my hand and no one said sorry so I pulled away immediately. I know it was him, but didn't say anything. My feelings for him are nothing but friends. He's not my type; he smokes, drinks and does whatever else is bad. Any recommendations on what to tell him or do??

I've been in this situation, and trust me... it's going to continue to get worse unless you say something to him. I know that it's hard, but it's way harder when they totally "fall in love with you" and you have to tell him that you don't like him. First try giving him small signals. Like when he tries to hold your hand, pull away and look him in the eyes so he knows that you aren't being playful, you just don't like it. If he doesn't get it, when he does it, nicely say "can you please stop" Don't say it in a flirtatious way or laugh about it, just be really blunt and straightforward about it. If all else fails, then you are just going to have to talk to him. Tell him that you just want to be friends with him. Be nice about it, he didn't do anything wrong, but he does need to know where you guys stand.

Good Luck.
Sarah

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What are some good movies like Grease and My Fair Lady, they have to be musicals. I'm doing a solo ensemble for my shiw choir and I need to find a really good song.

High School Musical =)

Disney movies always have good songs. I've used them a few times for auditions.

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I'm thinking about colleges and Im trying to narrow it down from like a million. Im a junior in highschool and I want a college that balances fun with studies and I want to become a doctor but i dont want to do pre-med, probably something with social sciences. I want a challenge but also good parties on the weekends and stuff. My current GPA (before entering junior year) is 3.9. So if you or anyone you know goes to one of these schools could you give me some personal info and feedback about it? Also, feel free to suggest any more based on my likes. thanks!

Brandeis Univeristy
Bucknell University
Carnegie Mellon University
Clark University
Colgate University
Columbia University
Dartmouth University
Lehigh University
Miami University (of Ohio)
Northeastern University
University of California (at Santa Barbara)
University of the Pacific
University of Pennsylvania
University of Wisconsin (at Madison)
Vanderbilt University
Virginia Tech
Washington University (in St. Louis)
Thanks Again!

Well University of Pennsylvania and Dartmouth are Ivy League schools, and I doubt you can get into either of them with a 3.9 unless you transfer. My dad went to University of Pennsylvania. It's not a very nice campus. Its pretty and everything but it's in a bad section of town. I wouldn't reccomend it. Virginia Tech... also reqiures a high GPA, and Vanderbilt. A lot of these sound like private schools. They are going to be a lot smaller, and more like high school. If you want more of the college life (sororities, parties, ect) but still want the prestiege, then Wake Forest University is a good one. It's hard to get into too, but if you get your GPA up this year and score well on the SAT, then you could have a shot. Good Luck.

Sarah

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in facebook how come sometimes when you type "

To get a heart, you have to type &.hearts.; without the periods.

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i'm so confused. in all of the credits of high school musical 2 and when they list the actors they always list Matthew Miles Carter as Trevor Bolton.

who is he? i don't remember troy having a brother in the movie?

Yeah, it was his dad, coach Bolton.


Wow. I didn't know that giving you the right answer would get me a one... I'm going to have to file an abuse report unless you change it yourself.

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I met this guy last weekend at a place where everyone in my town hang out. we hit it off really well and started dating a couple days later. everything was going really great but then i found out from a few friends i have in the grade above that he did ectasy oxy cotton ect. i definetley am not into drugs, i called him and told him i never wanted to see him ever again. he started crying and said i havent cried this much since my mom died of coursr i felt awful so i agreed to have him drive over to my house and we could talk i told him that i thought we rushed into going out and that i couldnt be with somebody who does drugs i want to be a dancer in high school and i cant be associated with drugs. he also told people that we were going to have sex on our one month anniversary. which made me furious because im not like that to know a guy for like 5 days and agree to that. i broke up with him and now hes threatning to kill two of my friends that told me that he did drugs. hes physco..he drives past my house twice a day and it freaks me out he says we will be together no matter what and he'll stop at nothing to get me even if he has to hurt people that we are meant to be together im really scared and i dont know what to do.

Wow, this guy does seem scary.

Don't get back together with him because you are scared of him. You will end up getting hurt; this guy obviously has problems. The best thing that you can do for him is to be his friend. You need to be honest with him. Tell him that threatening to hurt your friends only scares you and pushes you away more. Tell him that you could never date somebody that acts like that. Since he is that set on being with you, he should stop. In the meantime, all you can do is offer him your friendship. I'm not saying that you should hang out with him everyday, but an occasional phone conversation to see how is is okay. He needs help, and I think if you are there for him, and guide him down the right path, you could really do some good for him.

Don't yell at him for doing drugs. I know it's wrong but yelling at him will not help. If you want to help him, talk to him about why he has gotten into drugs and convince him that he needs to quit. But don't play games with him, if you have no intention of going back out with him, let him know that. Don't flirt with him or give him a reason to believe that you like him.

Good Luck.
Sarah

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14/f
i've had boyfriends before, but this boy, is my world. he loved me when i didn't even love myself.
we have been going out for a year && a few months, but suddenly his grandma has cancer and there are other reasons, but hes moving to Ecuador. He told me he'll come back for me in two years. [He's moving in two weeks] I spent last night crying till i threw up and only got an hour a sleep. 2 years though!? what am i suppose to do? im only 14. his parents asked for me to come with him, but i said no. i can't, im too young and even i know that. advice or opinons are appreciated =/

This is a terrible situation, and unfortunately you are going to have to make the best of it. You can't stop him from moving away, but you can keep in touch and maintain a relationship. You can still talk to him on the phone every night and instant message each other constantly. If you really want to see him, then get a part time job to hellp save up money for a plane ticket. Maybe you could get your mom to let you spend a summer there.

You just have to trust that everything happens for a reason, and that your relationship is strong enough to last. Think about it this way, if you guys can get through two years apart, then you will be able to get through anything.

Good Luck.
Sarah

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hey, i hope someone can help me ..
well the night before last night i was at a friends party and this guy kissed me .. and one of my best friends likes this guy. she told me before but then she said its ok if he kisses me. and now shes really angry at me. i talked to her and apologised and i guess we worked things out but she doesnt really talk to me now and she posted these bulletins on myspace, they were harsh and i asked her if its about me but she said its not .. but i get this feeling they are about me. she said that she talked to the guy and theyre just gonna be good friends for now. i think im starting to like the guys but i only met him for the first time that night, so i guess i can stop liking him. every time i think about my friend i get this sick feeling in my stomach .. can someone please help me ?
x

Well, it kinda depends on the situation. If he kissed you and you didn't kiss back, then it isn't your fault. What you should have done after that is just walk away from him and say "I'm sorry, I have to go to the bathroom" or something to that extent. If you did kiss him back, and then kept talking to him, then your friend has a right to be mad. You just met him that night. She has liked him for a while. The good news is, if she is a good friend she should forgive you. Keep saying that you are sorry. Don't get discouraged when she ignores you. As for the guy, you shouldn't talk to him. I know that you like him, but you've only known him for one night. You would be giving up a lot less than she would. That's what friends do for each other. She is never going to forgive you if you do start talking to him. That would be pretty bitchy. Let her know that you do kind of like him, but that you told him that you didn't or that you aren't going to talk to him. That way she will know that you are giving something up for her. No guy is worth losing a friend. The reality of it is, if you did go for the guy, you would maybe date for a few months, and then go your seperate ways. You will eventually lose the guy, so don't lose your friend to. Make up with her. It will benefit you in the long run.

Good Luck.
Sarah

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I am 15 and a female. my cousin and I are only a year apart.(he's younger) and I have always been sort of close with him and I liked that. I like being close with my family. but when I am with him it is different. I guess you can even say I have a crush on him & it has been harder to refuse with each passing year and whenever I see him. what should I do. im so confussed & I know this isn't right. Thank you!

Theres not necessarily anything wrong with that. It could be that you just admire him so much that you think that you have a crush on. You enjoy his company, and that is okay. You shouldn't fight it. Your young, and your hormones are running wild right now. It is probably just a sign of admiration. Don't worry about it. Your crush will probably pass as you get older, but you will still enjoy his company. Until then, just have fun hanging out with him. However keep in mind, he is family, and if you tell him that you have a crush on him, it could ruin what would be a life-long relationship.

Best of Luck.
Sarah

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tonite my stepdad was really drunk [[nothing new]] but im on vacation in south america with family and everyone was drunk too [[again nothing new]] and they were saying stuff about how i wasnt talking to the adults only the people my age and its soo stupid..but my sdadand me are alone
and my moms back in the u.s. working...
tonite he got mad and said i was acting bad the whole time which he didnt get mad at me once.
then he started to ask my cousin to dance with him and she said no and he started yelling at her and shes younger than me so i told him ''hey be cool theres other people to dance with and she said no, no means no '' yah know and he started telling me i didnt know anything and calling me stupid and stuff which IS new
and then i walked away to avoid anything and he pulled me by the hair and shoved me against a wall and hit me .. i fell to the floor and then ran upstairs before he could come back
.. the question is should i tell my mom ??
or let it go cuz he was drunk??
cuz i mean when hes sane hes fine and hes soo great
but i dont want to cause more problems between them .. sorry for it being too long
♥christina

Yes, you need to tell your mom. I don't care how drunk he was, there is no excuse for the way he was acting. Your on vacation, so the reality of it is, he is going to be drunk again... probably a lot. You could be in danger. First, try talking to him when he is sober and see what he says. If it happens again, call your mom.

Good Luck.
Sarah

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What are some stretches to be able to do a good double pirouette and a toe touch? Thanks :]

For a toe-touch:

Besides doing middle splits, you can do this one which works really well. Sit in a stradle. Stretch your hands out in front of you, but do not touch the floor. Lift both of your legs up and bring them down to about two inches off the ground. Repeat.

You can also do an excercise where you put a double rubberband (thich ones) on your ankles and do toe-touches with it on. When you take it off, your jump will be better.

For a double:

The only thing that you can really do to help make you spin faster is to practice spinning. On the trampoline, in the air, into a pit, ect... You can do one excercise though. Lay flat on your back. Put your arms in a tee, lifted slightly off the floor. Practice yanking your arms to your chest or to your side really quickly and bring your whole body to the side. This will teach you that you have to keep your abs tight and really use your hips to get around.

Good Luck!
Sarah

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how can i get my dad to quit smokeing!?
hes been smoking for about 13 years
and im realy scared to loose him, since i just lost my aunt because of lung cancer.

Unfortunately, all you can do is talk to him about it. Tell him that you are scared of losing him to lung cancer, and that you would really support him quitting. Ask him to stop for his family. If he realizes that it effecting more people than himself, he will be more inclined to stop. Also, explain to him that the secondhand smoke is harming the rest of your family. That is really all you can do, because ultimately, the decision is his and hid alone.

Good Luck.
Sarah

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I really like this guy and I want to date him but the only problem is that he is 1/2 black and my dad is completely against me dating a black or mexican guy. What should I do and no talk with him will change his mind so don't tell me to have talk with him. What should I do?

If he is really a good guy, your dad will see that. Tell him that you want to bring one of your friends over to your house, but that he is half black. Let your parents talk to him, and I think that if he has a chance to prove himself as a good guy, then your dad will get over the race issue. He may not be completely okay with it, but in all likelihood, he never will be. It will probably hard, but if you really like him, then date him, and your parents will eventually adjust.

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15/F

Late last night, like 2:30, I woke up, and it was weird because I never wake up in the middle of the night or anything. And its not like I had to go to the bathroom. Well, i woke up and I wwalked over and turned the tv off. Well, my mom came over becauase I fell asleep in my family room. So she told me to go sleep in my room. But, we both wanted to go see how the air conditioning was working [we just had gotten it fixed] We look out the window, and there is a guy staring at us. And we know it was true, because we both saw it. So, we ran upstairs into my moms room. And then we called the police. Well, they came and they did see like possible evidence or something I don't know I wasn't really listening. Well now im scared to sleep at night.

What should I do?

Wow that is scary. I am so sorry. Maybe you should sleep in your moms room tonight or for a while. It will make you feel better about it. Keep a phone right next to your bed when you sleep. Also, it wouldn't hurt to go to the police station and let them know that you are scared being in your house. They will most likely put a patrolman in the area so he will be there in case anything happens. Now that this guy knows that the police are aware of him, he will probably be too scared to come back around your house. If you have a relative or a friend in the area, it might benefit you to stay over there a few nights. Also, keep a bat or something close by in case there is an emergency and you need to use it.

Good Luck.
Sarah

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