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I met this guy last weekend at a place where everyone in my town hang out. we hit it off really well and started dating a couple days later. everything was going really great but then i found out from a few friends i have in the grade above that he did ectasy oxy cotton ect. i definetley am not into drugs, i called him and told him i never wanted to see him ever again. he started crying and said i havent cried this much since my mom died of coursr i felt awful so i agreed to have him drive over to my house and we could talk i told him that i thought we rushed into going out and that i couldnt be with somebody who does drugs i want to be a dancer in high school and i cant be associated with drugs. he also told people that we were going to have sex on our one month anniversary. which made me furious because im not like that to know a guy for like 5 days and agree to that. i broke up with him and now hes threatning to kill two of my friends that told me that he did drugs. hes physco..he drives past my house twice a day and it freaks me out he says we will be together no matter what and he'll stop at nothing to get me even if he has to hurt people that we are meant to be together im really scared and i dont know what to do.
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I am so sorry, and I understand. That has to be so scary for you. What I would do is tell someone. People say crazy stuff all the time, and there are special kinds of people that specialize in the kind of help you need. You should report him definitely. And you shouldn't go out with someone if you only know them for a couple of days. You should get to know them first. IF you don't then thats when you end up in situations like this. Good luck, and sorry if I couldn't help.
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That is insane. You really need to talk to your parents & the principal, call the cops & have you & your friends put restraining orders on this guy. Even if you don't think he'll follow through with his threats, you need to atleast take the extra precautions just incase. & collect any kind of evidence you can to help prove to the cops that this guy is really making these threats.
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Okay, well I don't know if he's serious or not, he may just be trying to scare you into being with him. You still need to take this seriously though. Tell your parents first about everything that's happened, and then you should call the police. They'll probably ask you a lot of questions, don't keep anything fom them, tell them everything he said.
Even if it turns out he wasn't serious they won't get angry or file it as a false alarm because he did threaten you still. You should probably contact your friends and tell them what's going on since it was them that were threatened. I know you may not want to turn him in, but honestly it's for your safety, so please do...and as soon as possible.
Let me know how things turn out,
::Jasmine::
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This guy obviously has issues. He could be suffering from a number of things, like depression, he could be bipolar, he could be off because of the drugs, or he may be reacting in the trauma caused from his mothers death. Whatever his problem is, he needs help, and it doesnt have to be your job to give it to him. You need to distance yourself from him as much as possible. Don't talk to him, don't email him, take him off your myspace, etc. It may be rough for a bit, but he will begin to grow away from you as well. Throwing more fuel in the fire will only cause more trouble. If after time he's still harrassing you, or he does something that has the potential to harm you or the people in your life, it's time to take action. Tell a parent, conselor, or even the police if it's a serious enough matter. It sounds like Im over thinking it, but things like these can get out of hand very fast, and you can find yourself in a bad position very quickly. So do what you have to and control your life, don't let him.
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I think you should just really call the cops.
Tell them that hes threatening to kill yurr friends, and that he does drugs and its emotionally abusing you. i know, you probably dont want to do that, but tell them! it will help you ALOT! he can get arrested, and thrown into jail, that dirty little scum.
hes probably a rapist, and a pedophile. and thats a serious thing, that scum deserves to be in court.
CALL THE COPS AS SOON AS YOU SEE THIS.
xoxo all the best luck to you!
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Wow, this guy does seem scary.
Don't get back together with him because you are scared of him. You will end up getting hurt; this guy obviously has problems. The best thing that you can do for him is to be his friend. You need to be honest with him. Tell him that threatening to hurt your friends only scares you and pushes you away more. Tell him that you could never date somebody that acts like that. Since he is that set on being with you, he should stop. In the meantime, all you can do is offer him your friendship. I'm not saying that you should hang out with him everyday, but an occasional phone conversation to see how is is okay. He needs help, and I think if you are there for him, and guide him down the right path, you could really do some good for him.
Don't yell at him for doing drugs. I know it's wrong but yelling at him will not help. If you want to help him, talk to him about why he has gotten into drugs and convince him that he needs to quit. But don't play games with him, if you have no intention of going back out with him, let him know that. Don't flirt with him or give him a reason to believe that you like him.
Good Luck.
Sarah
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Tell your parents or call the police, preferably both, immediately.
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You need to stay away from this boy at all costs. Do you have parents? Or a guardian? If you do, you need to tell them, and your friend's parents. Those are serious accusations and threats and the police need to know about them. You can, at the very least, get a restraining order from him. Drugs can make you do very dangerous, desperate things. Especially something as serious as ecstasy or oxycontin.
I can not stress enough that you need to tell your parents and the police! No matter what. If not them, then a teacher. Do not talk to him anymore ever again. Under any and all circumstances. Go talk to someone you trust, NOW! Please.
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