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so ya me and my bf like having oral and i was wondering, he likes to stick his tounge all the way up my vagina, and i mean ALL the way! is that normal?

also, my boobs are huge, theyre D's, and i have a friend who isnt my bf, but he really likes to squeeze my boobs and touch my when im naked. is that cheating?

1) That's perfectly normal.
2) That IS considered cheating; any sexual act with another person is considered cheating even if it's not sex.


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WELL. I heard this song a while back.
I liked it.
Forgot the name, Lyrcis, Who it was by.
I know it was by -one- femal artist.
And the song was a name of a girl.
Kathleen, Catleen?
Something like that.
Anybody have any idea what it might be?

My guess:

Cassie, by Flyleaf

http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/flyleaf/cassie.html


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I sent my application to 3 campuses in the middle of November and still haven't gotten a response. I checked my status and it says that everything is in. I am pretty sure I can get at least into one of the campuses but what's the long wait? Other people applied later than me and got in already. I am not sure if it's because they only applied to one campus or what. I don't see what good calling would do because they would probably say to keep waiting. AM I getting rejected? If I were, would they just tell me sooner? What should I do?

I don't know what's going on with the late response, no one on this site will be able to tell you that. If you do get rejected they will send you a rejection letter, they won't just not tell you. Are you sure you sent in your application to the right address/place?


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"This is a serious question and i would like serious answers"

For almost a week my boyfriend has been asking me if he could put it in my butt. I kept telling him no, it will hurt ect. but he keeps asking. Finally i told him i would let him "try" on Valentines day, and i let him down and he got mad. Last night me and him had sex and i told him i was going to let him do it this time, so he waiting till after i came, and tried to put it in there but i stopped him because the lub felt nasty. Now this morning he's calling me a bitch and saying i should die. I just don't get it. I don't know what to do about him. any advice?

Break up with him! Seriously...
It's obvious he's in it for the sex, and he doesn't respect you or your choices. He's not someone you want to be with, nor deserve to be with. You deserve someone who will respect you. You didn't do anything wrong, and I hope you don't feel like you have.


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SO This guy told me he loved me last night but were rely good friends and i dont know if he was just saying that to be cute or if he rely ment it this is so hard btw i love him so much but i'm not sure if he feels the same

Communication...it's the solution to everything, from world peace and global warming.

Anyways...

Was he serious when he told you he loved you or was he just joking around and laughing? If he was serious then I'm guessing he actually meant it, and if he wasn't being serious he probably just meant it in a "You're my friend and I love you sort of way."

Talk to him; if you're really good friends then he won't laugh at you about it. Find somewhere quiet to talk and ask him what he meant when he told you he loved you? Be serious about it too, don't make asking him into a joke because you're nervous. If he really does love you then he'll deny it.


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I have been talking to this kid Alex, and to me he is a sweetheart and really fun to be around. He is friends with my sister, and ever since him and I started talking she's been getting mad. She never lets me talk to any of her friends at all, even though it would be them who started it.

Anyways, Alex hangs out with my sister's friends, whom I guess you can say are "bad." They do drink and smoke and what not, but really they are the nicest kids to talk to and hang out with.

Since my mom knows about all of the things my sister's friends do, she assumes that Alex does the same (which he does, but he's not as bad.)

Last night I hang out with him, and I had such a good time. There was no awkward silences or anything. Except my mom is very paranoid about him, and does not want me to hang out with him, although she said she is not going to stop me.

I don't know what to do. I really like Alex and I want to continue seeing him, but I don't want my mom to get mad at me whenever I want to hang out with him.

I need any type of advice you can offer, I would really apperitiate it.

You're mom doesn't know Alex, she may have judged him based on the people he hangs out with, but she doesn't know him. Maybe he can come over to your house; it'll give your mom a chance to meet him, and maybe be more comfortable with you seeing him.

If your sister doesn't have a good reason for being mad when you're with him then just ignore her, sisters will be sisters. We get mad for the sake of getting mad. If you're really concerned about why she's mad then talk to her about it.

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Hey its me celina...
omg valentines day pasted and my stupid crush wasnt even in town for it =(. Everyone was saying how they thought he was going to ask me out, but he wasnt even here! Well, now what do i do? It started out him being really flirty and mushy gushy at my best friends party. And then him not even looking at me the next few days at school. And then everyone saying he liked me and was betting how he was going to ask me out on vday. But he wasnt here so nothing happened. So what do i do now? I cant just go up and talk to him..itd be wierd! -He should come up to me! And now he probably wont ask me out anymore because its never guna be the right time...im to scared to call him. What should i do?
-Celina

I see it this way...
You can either go up and talk to him, or forever wonder what would've happened if you had. You need to show him that you're actually interested in him, if you wait for him to make a move he may think that you don't like him and move on. Girls can go up and talk to guys...girls can call guys. It's not agianst the law, just take the initiative.

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okay me and my bf have more in common than different
but one of the big differences is he actually likes to talk about problems and i don't i hate talking things out. when ever we have a fight i get scared not that hes going to dump me but the fact thats hes going to want to talk about it so should change myself for that because i dont want to lose him

Don't change yourself, but maybe it's possible to compromise?

In a relationship you've got to give and take? You may not like talking about things but sometimes it may be necessary and you're going to need to.

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If it's not too...big of a commotion or problem for you, could you tell me about a funeral you went to?

I'm going to my friend's grandma's funeral and it's the first one I ever went and I have no idea what's going to happen, what it's about, and not really sure what it is except that it's something that happens after someone dies.

P.S, do you HAVE to wear black? Not to be disrespectful or anything but this is just how i see it: "If I died, I'd like everyone to wear colourful clothes, to kinda celebrate that i moved to heavon in the afterlife"

thanks

A lot of people see wearing black as very respectful and you might upset someone, or it may even be offensive if you don't wear black. Wearing black is the safest choice.

Although some people consider white to be the proper color because some people think that death should be celebrated, not mourned.

I don't know what kind of funeral you'll be going to; it's different for different religions...if you knoe their religion or what kind of funeral they'll be having yo can look up the exact procedure online.


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My chin is SO ugly.Its huge and it sticks out.How can i make it look smaller.Also would losing weight help?It might just make it stick out more.Help please.Im just a little bit over weight.NOT MUCH.

I's amazing what google can do:

Maybe when you're older-I'm asuming you're not over 21-you can consider chin surgery...but until then or if you're against surgery:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20071021120457AAs3lCI

http://www.aliraqi.org/forums/showthread.php?t=56786

http://www.upstagereview.org/MakeupArticles/tricks.pdf

You can also search for corrective make-up tricks.


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Call me crazy, but I think it's absurd that some people do not believe in love. After seeing all the good things people can do for each other and just seeing the love people have for each other everyday, I just can't believe it. Maybe it's because I'm a Christain and I've simply been raised to and have witnessed all kinds of love myself. But can someone please give me some insight?

People base their beliefs on their personal interchanges and experiences...if someone's had their heart broken over and over again then maybe they'll be a bit cynical about love, or believe it's not possible for them.

Sometimes people just give up on love altogether to save themselves the pain of relationships. Or maybe said person had parents who divorced or fought constantly.

Everyone doesn't feel the same way about everything and they never will. If they did world peace would be possible...and maybe we'd be able to do something about global warming and save the polar bears.

Not everyone has grown up in the environment you obviously were very lucky to grow up in. Not everyone has happy loving parents or a good life or home environment.

It's sad that some people have given up on love, but that's just the way it is. Sometimes it's easy to lose faith.


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i'm going on sort of a double date thing on friday. Its going to be me and my boyfriend and my friend and her boyfriend going to the movies.My boyfriend and i haven't kissed yet and he said he was gunna kiss me in the movie. This will be my first kiss. Wat should i do?????
Thanx in advance

Usually I like to avoid cliches but...just go with the flow.

Don't worry about it to much or you'll be nervous and tense, so just stay calm and everything will be alright.

Let him initiate the kiss and don't try to hard, just follow his lead.


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Hi there. =)

Okay, my ex had told his friends that I was a bad kisser, and one of is friends relayed that back to me. He was my first boyfriend, so I'm convinced I could have been bad at it...so any help, advice, or experiences would be very much appreciated!

Thanks a bunch!

My advice is to not worry so much about it, your ex-boyfriend is probably just a bit hostile and just wants to feak you out. It's not like he said anything when you were together right?

If they're spreading rumors it'll blow over eventually. And when you find the right guy it'll be fine, just don't worry about your kissing skills next time you kiss a guy because it'll probably just make you nervous and tense and well...a bad kisser.


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theres this boy that i like and he likes me too. the problem is we never see each other. i dont want to be pushy and i know i cant invite him. hes really flirtatious so he'll make pretend plans for us. how do i get him to be serious because i want to see him

Sometimes guys joke around or pretend to joke around when they're actually serious; so if they get rejected it's not as embarrasing. If you want him to be serious, then you have to be serious. It's as simple as that. If he sees that you're really serious about wanting to hang out with him and be with him, he'll probably follow suit...but you have to initiate the seriousness ;)


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16-f
ok well
me and my bf have been together for 4months
and idk if what i got him will be ok :-/
i bought him some $40 cologne that he wanted but not the whole set :( & a cute little bear & i was gonna make him a cute little card.

I think that's a great Christmas gift for your boyfriend! Especially for the period of time you've been together.


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ok so me and my boyfriend want to have sex. im 15/f. don't tell me i'm too young or not ready, because i know i am ready. but im just really really worried about getting pregnant. he said that we could do anal sex so i would have a lesser chance of getting pregnant.. so if anybody has had an experiance with that..?? and also, he said he would wear 2 condems, would that make it safer? thanks so much

Okay wearing two condoms is a big no no, it would be safer, and you would have less of a chance of getting pregnant if your boyfriend just wore one.

If you are that worried about getting pregnant then I suggest you use birth control, you can get it at some places and they won't even tell your parents or ask for a parent signature.

I strongly discourage you from having anal sex your first time. I don't think it would be a pleasant experience, especially if you're a virgin. If you feel your ready for sex then I'll save myself a lecture.


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Does anyone ever know what happened to that show? they ended with a cliff hanger and its killing me! please and thank you

I'm pretty sure the show got cancelled.

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There's a lady I love, and I've know her for more than a year. Recently she broke up with her boyfriend who not one person liked, but she told nobody but me. Since then she spent a lot of time with me. A ridiculous amount of time, and we've gotten together now, but we decided that it be best that nobody knows, because of the atmosphere of people where we work is pretty horrible.

Now somewhere in between spending time together one day she decided to tell my best friend that she broke up with her boyfriend. Now he knows that she's single, but not that I'm her boyfriend. This is where the problem is the greatest: he wants to have a relationship with her now. He told her this, and even though it's was made clear to him that she doesn't want to he thinks that she just hasn't got over the loss of her boyfriend mean while the truth be that she don't like him for he puts on acts, and I'm her boyfriend.

So far our secret is still kept safe, but other people are seeming to get suspectful: the people who see us together.

Well I'd just like some people's opinions about this situation in general: does it sound OK? Also I'd like to hear some advice about how to handle the problem with my best friend who is trying to flirt with her all the time, because he thinks that she's single: she I just not tell him or tell him in a proper manner. Thank U

You shouldn't hide your relationship. You hide things you're ashamed of. Let your friend know you are together; that's the best way to solve the problem. Besides he's your best friend, you shouldn't keep things like this from him.


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okay so heres the storyy. I am 15 and am female. I have the most amazying boyfriend and we are soo perfect for eachother. We have been dating since 7-14-07. I know a lot of people say young love never last, that it's just puppy love, but i do love him for real! Believe it or not, the first time i met him, in january 07, i fell in love. at first it was obsession but then when we became friends i fell even more in love with him! it was love at first sight im telling you! =) we became best friend after a while he had realized some things and now we are together. We spent a lot of time together in the summer. We became so comfortable with eachother. We are crazy about eachother. we did a lot of stuff, we kissed did other things, we even had sex! (but thats not all that was on our minds, being with eachother was good too) One day he left hicky's all over my breast! my breast were seriously PURPLE! and i had to hide it from my mom! but my mom saw it. =/ So heres the thing. now i am forbidden to see him or have any contact with him! i can even talk to him in school! (but it do) My mom told me to break up with him. of course i didnt, and we talk all the time, just behind her back. it's so hard sneaking out to see him! anyway, she went nuts and its been about, 5 or less months since this happened and she still refuses to let me see or talk to him! she just doesnt understand us. we do things for a reason, not because were horney or whatever. i dont know if you understand that but we do. And my mom and i used to be real close and now we argue all the time. she wont even let me date n e more! (she said i cant date him till im 18) She keeps telling me im going to forget about him within a few months and he was only using me! well its been over a few months and we havnt done n e thing like that and he still loves me! he respects me. and plus it wasnt like he was pushing me to do n e thing it was my choice to let him! I wanted him to do that stuff to me! i used to get along with my mom and my step dad fine but ever since i was refused to see him i just get angry at everything! i cant stand not being with him! ilove him soo much! but my mom just doesnt care! i tried telling her but shes soo cold hearted and just wont listen and doesnt care how i feel! i just wish she would understand. not being able to hang with him and go on dates just depresses me and gives me anger! i hate having to hide him. i dont want to hide him i want to show him to the world! i want the world to knnow were together! i cant even see him on holidays or his birthday. i cant even have dinner with his family! because of my mom, everything between us is soo difficult. or is it my fault?

do you think this is all my fault, or my moms?
do you think she will ever forgive me and let me and my boyfriend date again before im 18?
Do you think i made a mistake? im just so confused! i've never been so depresed in my entire life! i used to love life, and i still do it's just it would be soo much more complete if i were able to be with my love without sneaking around! i cry soo much now because of this. i get angry at my parents for no reason just because i want to be with him!
I just need advice!! and my boyfriend helps me a lot! he's the only person that does help me get through this. hes not only my boyfriend, he's also my best friend.

i dont know mayb it is my fault. i just dont understand why my mom just wont listen to how i really feel about him. it really is love. it really is. gosh i hope you can help me! =/ im sorry if i made this too long. believe it or not, this is the short version of it.

To answer your questions, I don't think it's your fault. I don't think it's your mother either. You said you and your mom are really close, maybe you should have talked to her first before you got so close to your boyfriend, so she would have felt more informed. She's the parent, she's just doing what she feels is best for you.

You should talk to her, explain your side of the story (calmly) and listen to hers also to see her point of view. Maybe it would help if you said you would slow things down with your boyfriend.Tell her how you really feel about the situation. Don't get upset and start yelling because that won't help.

I can't tell you if she'll let you date again, because I don't know her. But I think if you sit down and talk to her like an adult she may consider letting you date him again under certain circumstances.


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what should I do my girlfriend is so mad at me that doesn't want to talk to me or see me I haven't seen her over a month?

A month? Wow, my guess is she probably thinks she has ended the relationship with you, even though she may not have said it.

You need to see her as soon as possible and talk to her! Really sit down and talk about your relationship. I don't know what you did to upset her so much that she wouldn't talk to you for a month, but you should apologise. The ball is definitely in your court, so you need to take initiative and find out where you stand with her.

I can't really tell you how you should handle the situation since you didn't give us much to go by, but if you need more advice feel free to drop something in my inbox.


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