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my mom wont let me date my boyrfiend because we "did stuff"
okay so heres the storyy. I am 15 and am female. I have the most amazying boyfriend and we are soo perfect for eachother. We have been dating since 7-14-07. I know a lot of people say young love never last, that it's just puppy love, but i do love him for real! Believe it or not, the first time i met him, in january 07, i fell in love. at first it was obsession but then when we became friends i fell even more in love with him! it was love at first sight im telling you! =) we became best friend after a while he had realized some things and now we are together. We spent a lot of time together in the summer. We became so comfortable with eachother. We are crazy about eachother. we did a lot of stuff, we kissed did other things, we even had sex! (but thats not all that was on our minds, being with eachother was good too) One day he left hicky's all over my breast! my breast were seriously PURPLE! and i had to hide it from my mom! but my mom saw it. =/ So heres the thing. now i am forbidden to see him or have any contact with him! i can even talk to him in school! (but it do) My mom told me to break up with him. of course i didnt, and we talk all the time, just behind her back. it's so hard sneaking out to see him! anyway, she went nuts and its been about, 5 or less months since this happened and she still refuses to let me see or talk to him! she just doesnt understand us. we do things for a reason, not because were horney or whatever. i dont know if you understand that but we do. And my mom and i used to be real close and now we argue all the time. she wont even let me date n e more! (she said i cant date him till im 18) She keeps telling me im going to forget about him within a few months and he was only using me! well its been over a few months and we havnt done n e thing like that and he still loves me! he respects me. and plus it wasnt like he was pushing me to do n e thing it was my choice to let him! I wanted him to do that stuff to me! i used to get along with my mom and my step dad fine but ever since i was refused to see him i just get angry at everything! i cant stand not being with him! ilove him soo much! but my mom just doesnt care! i tried telling her but shes soo cold hearted and just wont listen and doesnt care how i feel! i just wish she would understand. not being able to hang with him and go on dates just depresses me and gives me anger! i hate having to hide him. i dont want to hide him i want to show him to the world! i want the world to knnow were together! i cant even see him on holidays or his birthday. i cant even have dinner with his family! because of my mom, everything between us is soo difficult. or is it my fault?
do you think this is all my fault, or my moms?
do you think she will ever forgive me and let me and my boyfriend date again before im 18?
Do you think i made a mistake? im just so confused! i've never been so depresed in my entire life! i used to love life, and i still do it's just it would be soo much more complete if i were able to be with my love without sneaking around! i cry soo much now because of this. i get angry at my parents for no reason just because i want to be with him!
I just need advice!! and my boyfriend helps me a lot! he's the only person that does help me get through this. hes not only my boyfriend, he's also my best friend.
i dont know mayb it is my fault. i just dont understand why my mom just wont listen to how i really feel about him. it really is love. it really is. gosh i hope you can help me! =/ im sorry if i made this too long. believe it or not, this is the short version of it.
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To answer your questions, I don't think it's your fault. I don't think it's your mother either. You said you and your mom are really close, maybe you should have talked to her first before you got so close to your boyfriend, so she would have felt more informed. She's the parent, she's just doing what she feels is best for you.
You should talk to her, explain your side of the story (calmly) and listen to hers also to see her point of view. Maybe it would help if you said you would slow things down with your boyfriend.Tell her how you really feel about the situation. Don't get upset and start yelling because that won't help.
I can't tell you if she'll let you date again, because I don't know her. But I think if you sit down and talk to her like an adult she may consider letting you date him again under certain circumstances.
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i had a similar thing happen to me..
i went to a therapist which actually helped. ask your mother to take you to one then she will actually realize how much pain you are in.. and if you are really that depressed they will give you pills..
if you don't want to do that just at least try not talking to him for a week, it might be hard. but it might be for the best and make you not be as stressed.
your mom can tell you who not to hang out with and see but she can't take him away from your heart.
i will tell you the truth babe, you won't get over him soon it will be hard but even though you think your mom is out to get you she is trying her hard to protect you. tell her you know what is right and wrong and you won't do anything you regret. sit down and talk to her and actually listen to what she is trying to say. it might not be what you want to hear but just see where she is coming from.
i still love the guy i was seperated from and its been 4 months..
if you want to talk about it i will be more that happy to. i actually think it will make both of us feel better. email me at cutiepiekma@sbcglobal.net or myspace me at
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i will give you a little advice if you want when this happens you can e-mail me at lopez.ivelisse@yahoo.com so i can help you feel better i'm a girl i understand. well you should of not had sex because you could of gotten pregnet but you should always abay you mother i think you should let it go and if he still loves you you should tell him to wait for you and tell your mom that you love him and that she can't do nothing about it and you should know that if she was going to tall you that from having sex you shopul of waited till you were 16 because by then you can go out and do what you have to do.Maqbey when your 16 you can go and get your liscend and see him when ever you want and she won't be able to stop you from seeing him.your 15 don't put yourself through all that pain.
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Thanks for the one. Merry Christmas.
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Your mom does not want to see you ruin your life, get pregnant, become a teen mom, get stds etc... She loves you and it is her job to be a pain in the ass. You need to realize that what you want and what is good for you are not the same things. When you were a child you wanted all kinds of things that would have been unhealthy and dangerous for you. It is the same thing here. You are still very young. Love is not sex and sex is not love. However, when you are young and especially female, the two become confused. It feels like love, it feels great. It never lasts. It ends badly. Your mom and every adult woman knows these things. Listen to those that are trying to help you protect yourself...even if it sucks right now, you yes YOU will be happy you listened in time.
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