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Theres this kid. I had a feeling he liked me about 1.5 years ago. I hadn't seen him much since then, until the start of this schoolyear. Lately whenever I look at him he's staring at me with, not an open mouth exactly, but his jaw is definitely kinda dropped. And its not like in the gross way haha.

I turn around a lot to talk to my friend who sits diagonally behind me & he sits beside her (but not behind me) & whenever I do, he's staring.

He's kinda quiet so he's never really made conversation with me, but he butts into me and my friend's conversations sometimes.

Do you think he likes me? (link)
i'm a girl and i noe boys defiently and i think he reallly likes you and does not know how to show it really well


i have a bf and we dont talk much we have fights alot but we make up again idk what to do =-[
plz help me (link)
mabey you should start talking and starting loving more and be all sweet if taht does not work then you have to go froward not backward that means leave him there is plenty more boys out there your not gonna ruin every chance with a guy just because of him if you try the first thing i say then mabey it would be better for you or you can just spend a lot more time together


theres a guy and we've been great friends for 6 years and this year we gotten so much closer we hang out atleast once a week and he says things like hes wants to be by me and wnts to sit with me and like we talk about college (im 15)and he says that he wants me to be his dorm buddie and he offers to buy things for me, plays with my hair , hold the door and says nice things about me. we both manipulate each other by doing things like he gets me to go somewhere if i really don't want to and i get him to go places too and we sing (link)
mabey he starting not to like you so you have to be a bigger person starting looking really good and acting like yourself and start hanging with your other friends taht are guys and mabey if he gets mad you know if it's just friends or not


18 years old female
i would like to know if you think he is joking or not, please dont judge me or tell me what or what not to do.

here's a little background, you must know.
i have a best friend. he is 17. we've known each other for about 3 years. he has a girlfriend of two years. i've always liked him, and im sure he knows that. this was his first girlfriend. they do everything together and i mean EVERYTHING (if you know what i mean) well im still a virgin, never done anything except madeout with two guys. me and my best friend drifted after he started going out with his girlfriend, and it really depressed me. we didnt talk or see each other for two months straight. i know im in love with this kid, and well tonight i got a text from him saying "wanna fuck" and he never randomly texts me saying that so i was like who is this! and he was like wow really, this is nick! and i was like no it's not. we havent talked for two months and you randomly text me saying that? and so i found out it really was him, i think he was kidding. but then we got on the subject of boys and i was like "i never get any action, or i havent gotten any in awhile" and he was like ha because i havent been giving any to you. and i was like i know nick why cant you give it to me and he was like i asked if you wanted to fuck and i was like hell yeah i want to fuck you. and he was like ok lets do it and i was like you wouldnt be able to handle me and he was like yeah right why not. and i was like i have a side to me you have never seen ;) and i was like im NOTHING like your girlfriend. and he was like why cant i see this side of you then and i was like oh you will, and i was like i will be better than your girlfriend ever will be and he was like ha ok!!! and then i was like ahhh i love you best friend and he was like love you tooo! and then that was it.

keep in mind that he tried fingering me and getting down my pants a few months ago but i just couldnt let him do that, because i KNOW he is not a player. but the bad thing is i have a really reallly strong feeling he isnt joking about the sex thing, and im not either. i would do it with him if he was being serious. i know its wrong, he has a girlfriend. but seriously ive waited for two years, im fed up. he is the ONLY guy i can ever see myself doing anything with.

what do you guys think? (link)
I don't think he is playing i think you hould tell him to go with you to the movies or something or to your house and then there we go


its a very long story but basically over the years me and my best friend have always wanted to be with each other. things got in the way. he was in a relationship for a while but now that recently ended. we're taking it slow for now but we both know that eventually within the next few months we're going to be dating. we talk on the phone multiple times a day and we love each other without a doubt and we're not afraid to say it. so i have two questions:

1)because we've been best friends for a while and do love each other how do you know when its crossed the point of loving to being in love with each other?

2)im a virgin, hes not but that doesnt really concern me. we're very open about sex and i would trust him with my life so after how many months of dating would it be acceptable to have sex. i know its up to me and whatever im comfortable with but i dont want to do it too soon. and i have to stress this point that we aren't just best friends who are sexually attracted to each other. we want to be in a relationship. (link)
well it's crossed a point that you love eachother and you now might show it and you know you like him and he likes you so i would say that you should wait for at least 5-6 months and when you think your ready then because it's important for you to feel comfortable with you and him being together


i was with a guy and he would finger me,
but he would finger me in my vaginia like not in the hole ware the penis gos for sex or tampon goes in,and it felt really good.
then i was with another guy and he fingered me in the hole and i screamed and made him stop!!!!!!!

number one SO embaressing
number two why did it hurt so bad? and how do i make it so that it will feel good?!?!

and when i finger myself i never finger myself in that hole! i just go aorund my vaginia, is that wrong? (link)
well it is wrong becuase you do it to yourself and you just pop the cherry which means now you can have sex with a guy dick up your vagina beacuse it won't hurt no more once you pop it your not a virgin i know it sounds weird but i can't really say its bad but be carful


ok so my best friend...we will call him Cole. Well he and I were hanging out at another friends house then we all started to lay on the bed. well all a sudden we strted to get closer and closer and then he grabed my hand I didnt think anything of it because he had done it before. Well then he started to bruch my hair back and blow in my face and rubing his nose on mine and I wanted to kiss him but I didnt. Then he finnaly kissed me. He tried hiding it from our friends but it didnt work then he sat up and gave me a bracelet and then kissed me again. Well then today a friend was over and he was all over her and I got mad as heck. Then after she left he came over to me and started kissing me and brushing my hair back then he fed me. idont know how to take it all is it a friend thing or does he care? (link)
well it looks like he does like both of you's and he probly wants to get something from you like sex and tahts probly all he wants and he probly knows he can get it and mabey he really likes you but you dont realize it and i think he does like you


sorry this is long.

For starters I am 17 years old. My son's father is 18. My Son is 1. I moved from Ohio to Missouri this past June.
Reasons Why He Hasn't Seen His Son:
- My son's father's father said he was going to stick his "thing" down my sons throat
- My son's father said the same thing and also
called him a bastard
- My son's father had my jumped by his two sisters and his brothers girlfriend
- He sold drugs and screwed up and one of his "associates" beat me up (a guy)
I let him take him for a weekend because i thought i was being a bad mother by not letting him see him he brought him home (after he refused to bring him home until monday) he had snot running down his nose, black feet, smelled like cake (birthday party was saturday)

he has given me 175 dollars and my son will be 2 january 2nd. sometimes he says my son is his child and sometimes he says he isnt.

my question is.. am i making a mistake by not letting him see him.. he doesnt even call to talk to him but maybe once a month.. im engaged and my fiance has been raising my son (being there for him taking him to the park, playing with him etc.) (link)
sorry but i dont think he should see his son if hed did that to you he is not a good father and your fiance is a good father and he should be the fATHER and not let his real dad take him because he might want to do sumthing to your son if he gets so mad at you


***I'm 13 Female***

Okay, so in my math class by my desk is this guy named Nick and this girl named Karlee. Karlee thinks I should date Nick and I don't want to. I don't want to date him and she won't leave me alone! I'm getting really mad at her, and she says everything out loud in a loud voice, so my friends know all this, and I'm going to go crazy sometime soon. And the teacher hears her and just smiles... I'm really mad and want to do something about it but I'm lost.

Any advice?

Thanks! (link)
well you should tell her to stop or tell the teacher if you can move to another seat because she keeps bothering you or just say mind your own buisness and i do what i want


I am 15 and my best friend is 18 he just went off to collage today and last night he said he loved me and wanted to be with me. But he has a GF and he said he loves her more, but that he really wants to be with me and I really want to be with him more then anything right now and its been this way for around 8 months us both having these feelings. What do I do (link)
you should go out with him and be careful with what you do


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well how did i write because i did not realy do anything bad and i have not been on this i awhile so i don't now


okay so i have a boyfriend. me and his best friend(eric) are really close and he likes me and i like him. my boyfriend is out of town. so me and eric are hanging out one night and we have an inside joke that at 11 each night we will have sexy time.last night we kinda had it. we were in his bed and we would take turns taking off clothes. he was in his boxers and i stole his shirt so i had everything but my bra on.he undid my bra. is this cheating? (link)
yes dat cheating cuz u played him wit hiz best friend da luks bad


The thing is, I broke up with my girlfriend several months ago, through a note. Stupidest move ever, never try it. Supposedly we broke up because I'm emapthic and I express other peoples emotions. To her, that meant I didn't love her. So we broke up because of that. What really started it was the fact she mentioned something on IM that she would normally say out loud. I believe that if you can mention something in a message or IM, you can just say it. She wouldn't and the whole empathic thing whatever. So we broke up.

Now, I can't stop thinking about it. Turns out, I've figured out, according to myself, that I gave her a chance to come back and we could start over. I waited and waited only to find out she's dating some other guy. So I gave up and thought nothing of. Until now when I realize that I'm still thinking about her and she cares nothing for me, totally oblivious. I want to tell her to her face how much of hurts inside to be told I don't feel any love for her and then she doesn't even try to get back together...

Sorry about the lengthiness, I tend to over do it on the details. But what should I do? Should I tell her to her face, on the fact just looking at her might send me over the edge!? I won't call her cause she can avoid listening by hanging up, I won't message her cause a message is just as bad as the first time. Do I just sit here and do nothing? No one tell me Ill get over it, cause its been months that I've been thinking about her... I'm so lost.... (link)
well i would say tell her to her face and tell her she was never worth all that trouble because she really didn't like you at all


okay, so me and my ex (I am 14/ f and he is 13/m) broke up about 2 months ago.
About two weeks ago, i called him to just see how he was, and we ended up talking.
recently, he keeps telling me tht he misses me soooo much and he misses talking to me everyday
and he misses hugging me because my hugs are different then everyone elses and that nothing makes him feel better.
On the phone, we were remincing about old times like when we were laying on his trampoline and looking at the stars or when i fell asleep on him at my house and "how cute i looked"
and he kept saying "wow that was so much funn"
and it was him bringing up these times too not just me.
I also kept asking him what he was thinking about different times and he said
a. how many good times we've had
b. how theres nobody else like me and that im special
c. how cute im being
d. everything
e. me


Then, at 11:11 he asked me if i made a wish and i said "no, did you?" and he said yeah
and i asked him what it was but he wouldnt tell me at all

and this is the worst

there was a point in the convo where i said " i miss you"
and hes like " what? you love me?"
and i didnt say that, but i was like al tired i dont even know why i didnt correct him but i didnt and hes like
"i love you too....i love you too"
like he was repeating it.
and he called me babe more then once. i know it.
it might have been because we were both tired.
but i dont know.
it was about 12 30 when i was like "okay 5 more mins" because he had school the next day and he sounded tired.
and he was like "10 more minuties."
and then when 10 mins was up hes like "nooo. ! unlimited amount of timee"
and then he was like "im gonna talk to you foreverrrr"
and i dont really even know.
and he said he was going to go to a party today but then later in the convo he was like " if your not busy...can i call you tommorow?" then later
"im not going to the party anymore"

He said he still thinks about me alll the time
and then he said he still wants me in his life
and i was like "what do you mean?"
and hes like "i dont knoww"

Then the conversation finally ended when his mom woke up and he had to get off the phone.
The problem is, he has a girlfriend still. He doesnt really talk to his girlfriend on the phone, mostly me.
I dont know what his deal is, and i really just need somebody to tell me what his deal is and what they think about this whole situation.
help, please.? (link)
To tell oyu the truth he likes you but mabey there is something connecting you together.Or its just a bootty call but i think it realy isn't you should be like whats up with us two.


I don't understand why I act in a way that is different from myself every time I am around a guy that I like in a date type situation. I mean I have only had one boyfriend in the past but he broke up with me because the relationship was weird, and it was my fault. It was my fault for not being myself and for trying to hide who I am. Ever since I was little I have been strange but I take pride in that and all my friends love me because of who I am. I like my personality too but I can't show that through in relationships. Like right now I really like a guy but feel like when I am around him he is not really SEEING the real me. He is only seeing the shyer, awkwarder version of me. Before I liked him, like before the flirting and more serious situations I could talk to him and try to open myself up to him. I just wish i could understand what my problem is, and i could be able to show people who I am. Because if there is one thing I hate its feeling like I can't control who I am. (link)
hey all you need to do is be around other guys as friends and you can learn by not be shy around them im like that to


Please forgive me if this is long...
I'm 16/m. I am straight. i spent the night at a friends house, he's 16. Me, my friend, and his brother, who is 17, spent the night watching movies, that kind of thing. Me and my friends brother didn't say much to each other, he just kinda sat there watching me. Anyway, my friend and his brother slept in their rooms, and i slept in the guest room. when i woke up the next morning, there was a camcorder next to me. i watched it, and it was a video of my friends brother basically raping me! now i've been getting calls on my cell from him, emails from him, he won't leave me alone! what do i do??? (link)
i'm a girl but if i were you i would seriously confront hima nd tell your friend what he is doing to you and when you sleep at peoples house lock your door and another thing beat him up


so. yesterday, i went over my friends house.
and we decided to talk to my friend on vf.
and ive had a huge crush on him 4 a really long time.
honestly, im not into the whole "online relationship" thing but hes just so sweet and adorable.
anyways, we were talking and my frend nos i like him.
suddenly, he got sad and my fiend tried to cheer him up.
he said he wanted to talk to me
so yea i tried to cheer him up
and it worked
then after that i was sad
(i.d.k. when ppl r sad it makes me sad)
so shannika (my friend) started talking to him again.
she asked em if she could tell him i liked him
i sadi no and she kept asking me and i kept saying no.
eventually i put a illow over my face and said fine.
she told him and this is what he said.

"awh meri.
swheetheart (link)
hey you can stop crying by telling him how you realy feel and ask him about the other girl and ask him out


13/f
ok so i got my very first period in february
and im on my third period cycle right now, well i've had it for 4 or 5 days
well the first 2 times i got my period and it lasted for 10 days
so i just assumed that the cycle im on now would last for 10 days but today i woke and i had very little blood even though i slept gor 10 hours.
and there was no blood in the toilet and when i wiped it was brown sorta like discharge.
so am i getting off of it early?

[sry for the the details, but please help] (link)
well it depends but you not because that happens it might be but wear a pad to bed today
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WE3w


Is dry-humping bad if you have a tampon in? Like, if he went a little bit in me kinda but with shorts and stuff on is that not good if you have a tampon in? (link)
your not even suppose to be doing nothin wen you have a tampon on... where you really in need... you couldnt wait?


well i've been with my boyfried for almost 2 months. the first month was great! amazing even. but lately its just seemed as if i were just another girl. i know he cares about me. when its just us two its different(most of the time) its better. im not sure whats change but something has. i feel like when im gone for a while he doesnt miss me..that or he doesnt show it. idk its crazy. i think we need more flirting going on. that could make it funner. but how exactly do i do that? like how do i be more flirty..any tips? thatd be great! (link)
well my friend has been in dat situation n her boyfriend was actin like yours 2.... you just need 2 do more things 2 getha... go 2 places... have fun... open up 2 him... dont b scared 2 do anythin with him or dont b scared 2 say n e thing.. you really think you need 2 b more flirty wit him????// well gurl just get closer 2 him wen you around him let ur self go... r u sure he really wants 2 b wit you??????????/ but n e ways... good luck i hope this helps you a little... by the way if you dont tell him how you feel den he dont know wats wrong wit you n wat he needs to change so you n him can b happy.. n you wont b feelin the way you feelin know..




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