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My Son's Father
sorry this is long.
For starters I am 17 years old. My son's father is 18. My Son is 1. I moved from Ohio to Missouri this past June.
Reasons Why He Hasn't Seen His Son:
- My son's father's father said he was going to stick his "thing" down my sons throat
- My son's father said the same thing and also
called him a bastard
- My son's father had my jumped by his two sisters and his brothers girlfriend
- He sold drugs and screwed up and one of his "associates" beat me up (a guy)
I let him take him for a weekend because i thought i was being a bad mother by not letting him see him he brought him home (after he refused to bring him home until monday) he had snot running down his nose, black feet, smelled like cake (birthday party was saturday)
he has given me 175 dollars and my son will be 2 january 2nd. sometimes he says my son is his child and sometimes he says he isnt.
my question is.. am i making a mistake by not letting him see him.. he doesnt even call to talk to him but maybe once a month.. im engaged and my fiance has been raising my son (being there for him taking him to the park, playing with him etc.)
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sorry but i dont think he should see his son if hed did that to you he is not a good father and your fiance is a good father and he should be the fATHER and not let his real dad take him because he might want to do sumthing to your son if he gets so mad at you
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The only mistake you've made is letting him
spend the weekend with someone who has
threatened to sexually assault him. You
don't have to send him to stay where people
use and or sell drugs or here they use
violence when things don't go their way.
YOU must see that your son is taken care
of and that no harm comes to him. Once he
is with his father, you know chances are
good he will not be taken care of. Harm
may come to him.
I advise not to send him to his fathers.
If he wants to see him arrange for you or
a trusted other to meet him for a play day
in the park or mall. SUPERVISED. Do not let
them out of your site. If he doesn't like
that he can take it to court, where hopefully
your story will result in the same outcome.
You owe him nothing. Getting someone pregnant
does not make you a father. Being an active
part of that child's life and contributing
to his upbringing and keeping him safe from
harm makes a good father. He loses on all
counts. Your fiance is more of a father.
You're not making a mistake by keeping your
child safe.
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