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Funeral Proceedures
If it's not too...big of a commotion or problem for you, could you tell me about a funeral you went to?
I'm going to my friend's grandma's funeral and it's the first one I ever went and I have no idea what's going to happen, what it's about, and not really sure what it is except that it's something that happens after someone dies.
P.S, do you HAVE to wear black? Not to be disrespectful or anything but this is just how i see it: "If I died, I'd like everyone to wear colourful clothes, to kinda celebrate that i moved to heavon in the afterlife"
thanks
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A lot of people see wearing black as very respectful and you might upset someone, or it may even be offensive if you don't wear black. Wearing black is the safest choice.
Although some people consider white to be the proper color because some people think that death should be celebrated, not mourned.
I don't know what kind of funeral you'll be going to; it's different for different religions...if you knoe their religion or what kind of funeral they'll be having yo can look up the exact procedure online.
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Ok first it is not necessary that you wear black, but it is good etiquette and respectful. Other dark colors would be acceptable. When you walk in there will be a guest book for you to sign. During the service the pastor will talk about the life that that person lived. They will talk about who they married and where they went to school, worked, ect. Friends and Family may get up talk about how they knew the person and how much they will miss them. Then there is a burial. The pastor will say a few words the the pall bearers will carry the casket to the grave and they will bury them.
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I went to three funerals in my life.
For my grandpa, grandma, and Kyle. The one that hurt a lot was my grandma's I was SO close to her, but yet so young, so I didn't grieve the right way, or understand it even completely. Kyle's was so hard too, it was last year June 16, 2007. He was in a car accident, he went to my school, we didn't talk much in highschool, more in middle school. But nonetheless, he was an amazing person, this funeral was so hard, pretty much the whole school was there, they showed pictures of him, had students his best friends talk about him, his girlfriend talked, his family, it was super hard. ..
Funerals are so hard, make sure your friend grieves, and let her know you're there for her. She needs that. At a funeral, sometimes they have open casket, or closed casket, meaning you can look at them,, and obviously.. they are no longer alive, so its sometimes really hard to deal with. Every funeral is different, its a service in memory of a person, talking about their life, their accomplishments, what they've done, what they have meant to others, its kind of saying goodbye, it all depends on the person.
You don't have to wear black, but to be respectful I would wear something appropriate. I feel its probably easier for you to go to this than your friend, because you didn't lose a loved one. Also, the way you look at life is different then some, tons of people would want to say that.. and be like woo hoo celebration, "i've gone to heaven be happy" but.. a lot of the times people are way too broken to even try to be happy. Its a huge healing process, just be respectful and be there for yoru friend.
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I recently went to my grandmother's funeral. For 45 minutes we stood around the body, and people talked among themselves. Then there was a 30-minute church service. Then everyone drove to the graveyard, and there was a 10-minute ceremony there. Everyone dispersed, and some went back to the church for lunch.
I didn't notice anyone wearing more black than usual. It would probably be best to ask your friend, though.
It was mostly just boring; similar to a normal church service.
You may want to bring some tissues for your friend and others. I noticed a lot of people were crying at the funeral.
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