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an anal question
"This is a serious question and i would like serious answers"
For almost a week my boyfriend has been asking me if he could put it in my butt. I kept telling him no, it will hurt ect. but he keeps asking. Finally i told him i would let him "try" on Valentines day, and i let him down and he got mad. Last night me and him had sex and i told him i was going to let him do it this time, so he waiting till after i came, and tried to put it in there but i stopped him because the lub felt nasty. Now this morning he's calling me a bitch and saying i should die. I just don't get it. I don't know what to do about him. any advice?
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Signs to break up with him:
*Making you do something your uncomfortable with
*Telling you should go die
*Or bitch, and just being very disrespectful
*Using you for sex
But mostly he shouldn't do something your not comfortable with doin
Its time to break up :(
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What do you do? You DUMP him, right now.
No boyfriend seriously tells their girlfriend to die and calls her a bitch because she's not ready to participate in something HE wants.
Instead, he should have been understanding and told you to only ever do it if YOU want to and you're ready.
I know you only want to please him, but he just sounds like he's using you.
You know how he's behaving isn't right. and only you can do something about it.
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You are both too young and immature to be having sex.
For future reference, its not a good idea to date a guy who gets angry when you aren't comfortable with the kinkier aspects of sex.
Let me explain why you don't want to have sex with guys before you're both 18.
Guys are full of shit. Most of all in the teen years. Most guys are very logical. We think by that, rather than emotion. It takes time, experience, and maturity, to develop the kind of empathy that makes a man a good partner for sex. Guys are also generally selfish and have to learn how not to think only about themselves.
Case in point, your boyfriend.
Girls, on the other hand, require experience to learn what they want in a guy. Girls who start having sex early learn to love the excitement of sex without any of the deeper feelings behind it. You love a guy because he excites you, rather than being excited by a guy because you love him.
So, what does this turn into.
Your boyfriend is too immature to realize the gentle approach needed when a girl isnt entirely comfortable with things. He is petulant and immature, and rather than working towards experiencing something with you, he is simply working hard to grant his own desires and getting angry when he doesnt get his way, like a toddler.
You, are too immature to realize that you don't share intimacy with a guy too young to appreciate it. You don't know what you want in a guy and are willing to take this asshole's word that he is what you want. Unfortunately, thats not turning out well for either of you.
He's not what you need or should want in a boyfriend. I would dump him, and stay away from guys for a while.
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I love the 15 year old girl below who thinks that the reason people engage in kinky sex is either homosexuality or possession of deficient physical attributes.
Way to go honey. You can embarrass the nation during your beauty pageant someday just like this girl.
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He's using you for sex. A man who treats you like that only wants sex from you.
he has no respect for you common wants and needs, and you should drop him quickly and timely.
You don't need someone like that in your life.
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Honestly, the most common reason why men want to put their penis into a girls anus is because A) their penis is too small and an anus is tighter then the vagina, or B) they may be homosexual. Not saying any of these reasons are true, but they are possiblities.
But, just like the other advicenators said.. Any man that forces a girl to do something they are unwilling to do or tells you that you should die and that you're a bitch is not worth your time.
No means no, and I'm sure his mother taught him that a long time ago. So, he just needs to get over the fact that he may not get what he wants. Its your body and you should do with it as you please.
Hope I Helped & Please don't let him treat you like this..
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Oh yeah, but you won't like it. :)
If any man told me I should die because
I wouldn't let him have anal sex with me,
he would be history. It sounds as though
you are having sex. He is not being deprived
of anything. If he is so willing to make
you do something painful just for his enjoyment
he is scum. I'm sorry, if both parties aren't
up for something, you don't get it by being
a bully or by being a selfish ass.
Tell this selfish boy to grow up and find
a real man. Sorry sweetie. :)
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wow hes a dick. He shouldnt force you to do anything, and your boyfriend should NOT call you a bitch or say you should die. I say dump nhis ass, i mean if he treats you like that, trying to force you to do something you dont want then being mad at you for it, screw him. I dont know him but from what you said, i think you should dump him.
Hope i helped! xoxo
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Break up with him! Seriously...
It's obvious he's in it for the sex, and he doesn't respect you or your choices. He's not someone you want to be with, nor deserve to be with. You deserve someone who will respect you. You didn't do anything wrong, and I hope you don't feel like you have.
::Jasmine::
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this guy is NOT treating you with respect and you do NOT deserve to be treated this way. most girl's don't like anal at all, because it's nasty and uncomfortable. he shouldn't get mad at you if you don't want to try it. he may just be mad because he got excited that you were going to try it and then it didn't work out, but it seems like more than that. it's YOUR body not his, and it's not like you didn't try. plus, if you're already having sex with him he shouldn't be complaining. this guy is not treating you right and you don't deserve this. tell him you're sorry but you don't like it or want to do it and it's not comfortable for you, and if he doesn't top treating you badly you need to drop him.
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