Hey i am female, 14, and im going into high school next year. I am not experienced in many ways, but i am mature. I dont sugarcoat things, and i am bold and tell it like it is. If you want my advice, let me know! xoxo
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Ok my brother [16/m] has been making huge mistakes with his life since he's started hanging out with some friends a few years ago. They all dress in black, and some have piercings. They act crazy ALL the time, within their group. They also smoke. It varies from one person to the next, but they all do some sort of drug.
Now, my brother was fine in 6th-7th grade. When he met these people at the end of 7th grade was when it all started. He started to dress in all black too. He started spitting hateful words at my mother and usually making her cry and go talk to my dad. My dad has always been my brother's "favorite parent", so my dad had an easy time talking to him and telling him not too do it again.
At first, it worked, and my brother didn't cuss at my mom for a month or so. Then he started up again, being sweet when he wanted something and cussing at my mom whenever he got it. Nowadays, my dad has been having to sit down with him and talk more and more often, and my brother disrespects my mother the day after he and my dad have a talk! This has been going on for years now, pulling me and my brother's relationship farther and farther apart.
We used to be REALLY tight. Then, he began ignoring me. He never talked to me, never looked at me, whatever. He wasn't mad at me, he just began to see me more as a "little sister" than as a "best friend". Last summer, however, he began to talk to me. Whether it was from his lack of friends, due to the vacation, or his boredom, we started hanging out again. We made jokes and talked just like the old days. I love being so close to him, and you usually don't find a sister and brother get along so well and everything. We hung out every day and stayed up for hours at night just talking, or playing video games and whatnot. Then, towards the end of the summer, he began telling me what he was doing. He said it casually, like it was no big deal. The first act was, him and his friends were at his friend's house, and they were digging in his grandfather's things. They found a cigar, dipped it in cough syrup, and smoked it. He told me all of this as if it was the most normal thing. I couldn't believe he would do that.
Then it was time for school again, and I was worried. He would be in highschool and hanging out with these friends. He's always had a very short temper, but that year, everything got out of control. We were still friends, and he still talked to me about everything, so I always knew what kind of crazy things he did. He began to come home angry all the time. He would yell at my mom and cause her to cry and yell, and he would get to the point of almost hitting her. Then he would punch walls or break things or slam doors, and just run out of the house. Then my mom would call my dad and he would come home early and drive around trying to find him. This was everything on the worst nights, but things weren't necessarily happy all the time either. This madness lasted for a while and then my brother drove my parents into a divorce.
Now, I'm NOT blaming him for the divorce, but I'd definitely say he was a small portion of it. He was absolutely terrifying. I can't even imagine what it is like for my sisters, who are 7 and 8. Even when they are just talking, he screams at them to shut up and cusses at them. He absolutely hate them. When he does that my mom will monotonously remind him not to, but then he'll argue back and yell at her. He's caused my sisters to cry many times.
And currently, He has told me he does Pot. He said, once, that he'd never do anything like it, but he is. He and I are still friends, but I have become the familie's peacemaker.
My parent's divorce has served as an excuse for my brother for him to do all of this. He has also come to the conclusion that he's an Athiest [Which i'm NOT saying is a bad thing]. I do not believe he is an atheist. I think he believes he is because all of his friends are and he has the thought in his head that atheists can do whatever they want with no consequences. He doesn't understand that not all atheists do bad things.
My mom vents to me after her and my brother have a fight and he runs out. My brother vents to me when we stay up late at night talking. My dad vents to me when I stay at his house every other weekend. I'm each of their personnal counselors, I talk everything through with them and point things out.
I know that our family is beyond the point of no return. Every one in our family has moved on from the divorce except my brothr, who still uses it as an excuse. I have talked to him about his Pot issue, but he claims he is not addicted, and that it is not harming him. I know it's not that nig of a drug, compared to others, but I also know that it is a "Gateway drug". He said he'll never do anything like Meth or one of those drugs, but he's lied about those things before, like when he said he'd never do pot. I'm pretty sure my parents are vaguely aware that he does pot, but they are in denial, and don't want to accuse him of something they don't have proof of.
My youngest sister, who is 7, has been catching some of these bad habits from my brother. She has a short temper also, and yells all the time. I know this is typical child behavior, but i'm still watching her. I just don't know how to handle all of this. How do I get him to stop? I've talked to him numerous times, and my parents are considering military school! I don't know what to do!
I know I wrote an essay. Sorry, but it's hard to explain 3-4 years of my life and be "brief" about it.... please help. I'll rate you just for taking the time to read all of this. I just want him to stop. (link)
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First of all, i am so sorry about your family and brother and the divorce!! My sister smokes weed, and my parents have been fighting a lot. I think i am heading in the same direction as you. Well one night, go up to your brother and tell him that if he doesnt stop acting like this he WILL go to military school, and freak him out. When your sister acts up, tell her to stop or shes not going to get dessert or something like that. I know it sounds like you are threatening them, but you have tried so hard and the attempts dont seem to be enough. Again, i am so sorry, and idk what else to say. Tell me how it goes and keep me updated. Hope i helped!
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I have two questions:
1. I think i overpluck my eyebrows, because people are always asking me if i do. My friend always comments on them (=p)
How can i fix them quickly? I think that pencil looks too heavy on my face, but i have dark hair.
2. I see a lot of people with really short eyebrow hairs, so the effect is soft on their face. Did they get them done or something? Like at a salon?
Here's an example: http://www.wallpaperbase.com/wallpapers/celebs/lindaevangelista/linda_evangelista_2.jpg
Thankyou so much =) (link)
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1- You may have plucked them too much, but i dont know HOW much, but try to like use the eyebrow kits, idk where you get them, but they have sizzors and brushes and try to brush them in a way that looks good
2-Get an eyebrow waxer! Mine uses the sizzors and brushes and creams and all this to get my eyebrows looking amazing. It makes the hairs shorter, and sometimes lighter.
Hope i helped! xoxo
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I am making this really cute outfit so i can wear it for my boyfriend when he comes home on leave. I need a pattern for shorts this short. This is what the outfit looks like: http://plancksconstant.org/blog1/iamges/marine-uniform.jpg
Someone help me please (link)
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To me it is Navy Blue on the whole shorts, except on the sides, there is a red stripe. Then have a black belt. The stripe should be about 1-2 inches thick, i think? And the shorts should be bootyshorts. Hope i helped! xoxo
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if you want to fall asleep listening to music (looped), how do you do that and get the music to turn off...? (link)
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If its on itunes or an ipod, then make a playlist of a song with like 100 copies (or as many times as you want it to play) and just listen. After the copies are done, then it will stop playing. Dont loop it, then it wont turn off on its own
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What is this crusty pale yellow/yellow rusty stuff on my underwear and why do I feel wet in my underwear when its not my period? and why does it come out in clump or glops and then comes out without any glops for a little bit? Does anybody know what I'm talking about? No links please, oh an is there something wrong with me? thanks. (link)
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Dont worry...i had it too. It is just something that happens before or durring puberty. Just relax, it will go away. I think the glopy stuff is cum, because I used to have it and the same thing happens when i get horney. Hope i helped! xoxo
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ahhhh when is gossip girl gonna be NEW again?
does anyone know?
thanks! (link)
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Because of the writers strike, many shows had to stop, but i think the writers strike was settled, and they are starting to think of new episodes and film them so probably soon.
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I'm a 16 year-old girl and my 15 year old (first) boyfriend says that I should change myself COMPLETELY just for him. And when I asked him why he's still with me and why he doesn't go to someone else he says it's because of all the sexual things he wants to do with me. I'm like..wtf..You don't respect me. You want me to change for YOUR sick pleasures...Well, I'm not going to change. It upsets me...because everything I seem to do, he's not happy with. The way I dress, act...He LOVES the way I look. And that's about it.
I'm on the verge of breaking up with him. We've been together for a month and 2 weeks. Do you think I should give him another chance? (link)
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dump the dick, and then he'll wish he was with you, and he will NEVER find a girl like you, but thats not your problem. Good luck with the jerk
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help!
seriously i have a bad binge eating habit! i tired everything! so please spare me unless its something i haven't listed:
here are the things i tried:
A)going to the gym (i still go so i could maintain my strength to help around the house)
B)going to my school psychologist who told me to:
1)not deprive myself
2)keeping food available so i don't feel deprived
3)not keeping food so i don't snack (after the previous failed)
4)buy small plates to control portions
5) go for a walk
6)think of happiness when i feel a food attack coming on
7)surround myself w/ people
8)buy healthy food
9) only keep fruits and veggies at home...etc
i have such a serious problem! and plus i have depression (clinical) that is partially caused by family issues and so forth (which i cannot change so please spare me that stuff about leaving or think positive) anyway so i eat more because of it since we can't afford to buy my medication all the time
anyway i was wondering if there are any semi-safe pills or something that i could eat to curb my cravings?????? pleaseee i neeed it because i can hover everything and i meannnnn EVERYTHING! that is infront of me... the other day i finished 2 pizzas.... boxes that is .... i couldn't stop! its draining my wallet as well!
i went to doctors and everything and they said it is caused by the depression and coz i have so many chores and stuff to do (we're poor so i can't afford to not do that)
i'm 160 and 5'4 (link)
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Some people eat just because they are bored. When i am bored, i know i like to eat, but what i did to get rid of that habit was i started running and dancing. It was so much fun, i didnt even think about eating until after when i was hungry. And also i gained muscle from running and dancing. Find a physical activity you love and do it whenever you eat and you wont think about it, and you will figure out when you are really hungry. Hope i helped!
xoxo
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"This is a serious question and i would like serious answers"
For almost a week my boyfriend has been asking me if he could put it in my butt. I kept telling him no, it will hurt ect. but he keeps asking. Finally i told him i would let him "try" on Valentines day, and i let him down and he got mad. Last night me and him had sex and i told him i was going to let him do it this time, so he waiting till after i came, and tried to put it in there but i stopped him because the lub felt nasty. Now this morning he's calling me a bitch and saying i should die. I just don't get it. I don't know what to do about him. any advice? (link)
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wow hes a dick. He shouldnt force you to do anything, and your boyfriend should NOT call you a bitch or say you should die. I say dump nhis ass, i mean if he treats you like that, trying to force you to do something you dont want then being mad at you for it, screw him. I dont know him but from what you said, i think you should dump him.
Hope i helped! xoxo
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How do you pronounce 'Delias' (the store)?
thanks! (link)
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Deal-ee-uhhh's
hope i helped! xoxo
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I need a good quote. Right now i am talking to this kid, and i'm not sure if i like him or not... any ideas? the quote can be broad (link)
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Uhm, well i know a lot of sad love quotes such as:
I never thought it'd be this hard to lose something i never had
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I'm a bit underweight and I'm doing my best to gain. The problem is that I really don't like eating meat. I like eating chicken and turkey, but that's really about it. Is there anything I can do to bump up my nutrition without having to eat beef?? I do eat a lot of fruits & veggies, but are there any other foods I can try to replace beef?? Thank you!! (link)
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I am a vegetarian and a little underweight, and i eat mostly fuits and vegetables, but i love eating chicken with breading! I never used to like it but my uncle made me, we are italian and HAVE to eat twice as much, and that broke my 5 year streak of no meat. Im not really a vegetarian anymore. Also, beans are good. Try that! hope i helped! xoxo
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first i put clean face:
1) Clean& Clear-Blackhead clearing[scrub]
2) Neutrogena-Deep Clean[oli free]
3)Olay-age defying
4) sometime Dove[white]
is that good to use it all same time or one?
and also i have Clearasil-acen control[Pore Cleansing Pads] SOMETIME.
yea, is it good? or pick one!
my face is pimple, oncely acen, and OILY the most, and also after i washed them all then my face goes DRY which lotion or whatever help me less dry?
help thank
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Try using proactive, thats what i use, and i only use the clenser in the shower, then when i get out i use the green stuff then the moisturizer and my face isnt oily or dry! Also, acne free, and i only use it once a day. Try it, it really works!
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i know what my valentines day is going to be like. my ex is going to be withh his new girllfriend. they go to the same school. we broke up a month ago. we were together 5 months. im not going to see them on valentines day, but im going to know that theyre together. ill be thinking about him all day. him and her. im not over him at all as you can tell. does anyone have any stories about how bad their valentines dayss gonna be cause i need some support. make me see that im not alonee here. thanks (link)
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Well, im spending my valentines day alone because i am in love with a guy and i told him and he told me he loves my best friend. She is going out with a different guy but the guy i love and her are "together" we got in a huge fight, and now i dont have a bf, a guy i love, or a best friend. My ex bff said that she was spending V day with her fam when shes going out with the guy i love, and ditching her bf. I told her bf she was cheating on her but he just wont break up wit her bc he loves her. Hows that doe a bad V day, and dont worry, you will get over him, and i got to take my own advice. Sorry about being alone on V day, it will all get better. Xoxo
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my old best friend thats a guy who i love told me he doesnt wanan be my best friend or makeout and do stuff with me naymore. i cant stop crying and i love him so much for so long. i really just need to get over him hes not even nice to me anymore! and please give me songs like tied together with a smile by taylor swift that show how pretty you really are in the inside. thank you so much! (link)
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well since you like taylor swift, i love her, i like these songs, they are sad, but amazing! Try them
Teardrops on my guitar_Taylor Swift
Beautiful_Christina Agulera
You're Beautiful_James Blunt
She will be loved_Maroon 5
I miss you_Hannah Montana/miley cyrus
Hate that i love you_Rhianna
Breathe Again_ Too sorry for apoligies
Cry_ RHianna
Noone_ Alicia Keyes
Those are just a few :]
if you want more, message me, i can give you like 100! Hope i helped. Feel better babe xoxo
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im 14/f ok
and my current bf is 14/m. ok so we have been going out for about 2 weeks now and so far i have seen him every day! i usually go out with guys from other schools so i don't have to see them every day bc that makes it mean more when you do see him. and its almost valentines day and he wants this shirt but to tell you the truth i could care less about what he wants! im not really in to him. hes not my type at all.. i don't think im over my ex Patrick ether! witch sucks even more. bc he was the first kiss first love and what not! it hurts not to be with Patrick. every time i am with andy i end up thinking about Patrick and it pretty much makes me cry! i can't be with andy any more bc im not over Patrick at all.. but if we break up then theres no friendship bc he isn't friends with any of his ex's witch sucks bc i want to be his friends but he hates them!ah:[ it makes me cry even though i don't even like him like that!
so how do i break up with him or should i give him a week or two? (link)
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Break up with him now, it will get worse if you dont. Also, my ex bf was my first love/kiss and what not, and he never stayed friends with his exs, and i had to wait a long time to get over him and i avoided him, then about 4 months later we were friends. Now we are really close, and i love having him as a friend, hes like the one i go to for love advice! So i hope i helped
good luck! xoxo
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Okay while wearing a tight shirt, my ribs poke outabout an inch more than my waist, length wise. Also, you can see the outline of everyone of them. In August I weight 101 and now I weight about 90. I'm about 5 feet and 2 inches. I am a 13 year old girl. I skip breakfast, and for lunch I eat a small bag of baked hot cheetos. Dinner, soemtimes I eat, and sometimes I don't If I like it, I will eat a lot. but sometimes I'm just too lazy to make me something. Am I healthy? (link)
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I am 13, and 5 feet 4 inches. For breakfast, im not really hungry yet, but i eat a small stake of pancakes. For lunch, i eat a salad or a bagel, which fills me up, and between classes sometimes i eat a little cerial. After school i eat a small snack, of like a thing of broccoli, and i dont like sandwiches but try it. And if you dont like dinner, made a small snack like an hour before you go to sleep. You are not healthy and you have to eat a little more. So i hope i helped!
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hi i am 13/female and am having a real hard time moving on after last night. ok. so i like this guy.a couple nights ago we went to this indoor fun house with 2 of our friends. and we had a lot of fun. then during the last 15 mins we got dared to make out and we did (that was the first time ever for me). then last night he invited me over to his house and my friend was supposed to come and his friend was there. it ended up just being us three (me being the only girl). we watched a movie and ate for a while and then without a dare we started doingg EVERYTHING! we made out, we madeout on top of eachother, he went up my shirt and touched my boobs while making out, i gave him a lap dance (not intense though, just sat on top of him and moved around easily) i pulled up my shirt with my bra on, then at the very end we started making out and i waws pretty much humping him and he was grabbing my butt and pushing it into him and he touched my boobs and yeah thats it. and i dont know. i feel regret causee we aren't even going out and his last gf everyone called her a slut because on the 4th day of their relationship he went up her shirt (same thing as me). and i feel like a total slut. and i like him and i want to go out wtih him and he told me he likes me, but wouldn't he ask me out? i really confused and i only told me one best friend who was supposed to be there about it all and she said she didn't think he was using me but idk i have mixed feelings???? i cant talk about it with my family or anyone else except for my one best friend. please help me. should i regret what i did? am i a slut? is it bad since we aren't even going out? do you think he is using me? he told me he liked me. but why hasn't he asked me out? i'm really sad about this. i need SOME ADVICE FAST!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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well i think that doing all that stuff and not even going out or in a relationship is slutty, but you are not a slut. Just take it slow, and if he doesnt ask you out, then ignore him, and he'll miss you and ask you out fer serr. Hope i helped!
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Just under 6 months ago a friend of mine needed a place to stay after breaking up with a live in boyfriend. I offered my home and she moved in. I had just purchased my first home and had bitten off a little more than I could chew in the amount of money the new home cost me in mortgage payments and other associated expenses. After my friend had been there for 3 weeks, I determined that we could reasonably get along as roommates and asked her if she wanted to make the situation more permanent and she agreed to pay one third of my home expenses. I thought I had found the perfect solution to my money problems as her rent would allow me to make my payments without problem and even give me a little extra to pay off some credit card bills. Unfortunately that was not to be the case. Shortly after she moved in, she lost both her full time job and her part time job and even though she found another full time job right away, she had money issues in that her wages were garnished for back child support and other expenses. Even though she had agreed to pay me a certain amount every month, this money never materialized and things got to the point where I had to beg her for money. I realize that she has money problems and other than the money situation she makes a great roommate, but I am hurting financially and find myself not only covering all of the bills, but also paying for the majority of the groceries and even giving her money for essentials such as gas to get by. I want to be a good friend and help her through her problems but am afraid that if I continue like this much further that I may lose the ability to pay my own bills which could jeopardize my keeping my new home. I am on medicaton for depression and other medical problems and have always had a problem with confrontation and feel guilty at the prospect of asking her to move out when I know she has nowhere to go. How do I stand up for myself without totally ruining our friendship and putting her in an even worse situation at the possibility of being homeless? (link)
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This is a hard situation she has put you in. Sit her down and talk to her. Tell her that you have had money problems, and need her to pay the rent, and tell her you want to help her, but you also need to help yourself and not go into debt. If she says she cant pay, tell her that she has to start looking for her own home, but can stay in yours until she moves into her new home. It may hurt a little but its better than pretending nothing is wrong, and getting youu into financial trouble.
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So first of all I'm a sixteen year old junior. I have my tight group of friends, 7 other girls, who I'm practically always with. I am pretty well known around my school, not for anything bad, I just am involved in a lot around my school. I have no problem meeting or talking to people, I'm not socially awkward. The problem is that recently my friends have ALL been in relationships. We all have jobs and sports, so schedules conflict. But when they dont, they all hang out with their boyfriends. Its not that they've never been in relationships before, but now they are all in relationships at the same time. I'm extremely alone. I've never been in a relationship, never been kissed. I have been asked to dances, which leads no where except the boy grinding on me, which is not enjoyable. I've been told that I'm extremely attractive, really funny and fun to be around. I'm blonde, medium height and skinny. My eyes are blue/green, they change color, and I dress cute/fashionable without putting my whole body out there. I am really athletic too. I dont portray myself as desperate cause I'm actually somewhat confident. I get crushes and normally the guy ends up liking me too. Then he meets my friends and he starts dating one of them. Three of my friends boyfriends are guys I liked who I introduced them too. I would like to know, what i should do. I cant see my friends anymore and I can't get a guy to like me. My life has basically become work, school, studying, and ice hockey. I'm not satisfied. Please help. (link)
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if you want flirting tips:
http://www.wikihow.com/Flirt
http://www.wikihow.com/Flirt-Physically
-and just make eye contact, count to three, then look away.
-look them up and down then do a cute smile, like you approve or think hes hot
-when you walk by, turn your head to him to show he really turns heads
-another good way to get a guys attention is to get closer to him, if he's at a table don't sit at the other end or across from him, plant yourself in the seat right next to him, scoot closer even. if hes standing just stand a bit closer to him while you talk than you would normally.
http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/LoveSCat/192
http://myjellybean.com/guys/flirting/flirting.htm
http://myjellybean.com/guys/flirting/flirting.htm
if you want to spend more times with your girlfriends, visit them on their lunch break, or organize a sleepover, i know it might seem young-ish but it works. hope i helped!
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