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my boyfriend wants me to change.
I'm a 16 year-old girl and my 15 year old (first) boyfriend says that I should change myself COMPLETELY just for him. And when I asked him why he's still with me and why he doesn't go to someone else he says it's because of all the sexual things he wants to do with me. I'm like..wtf..You don't respect me. You want me to change for YOUR sick pleasures...Well, I'm not going to change. It upsets me...because everything I seem to do, he's not happy with. The way I dress, act...He LOVES the way I look. And that's about it.
I'm on the verge of breaking up with him. We've been together for a month and 2 weeks. Do you think I should give him another chance?
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I don't think you should give him a chance. He only likes you for your looks, not for your personality or anything else. He wants to pleasure HIMSELF, and only himself. He is a selfish sick jerk, and that is probably not going to change. So, I suggest you dump him before he tries to do something bad.
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Fudgin no! All the red flags to this guy,
1. He wants to change you. NEVER let a person change you even if you "love them"
2.SEXUAL THINGS-- there is lust here honey, not love. aka no girl wants to be a booty call.
3. If a guy is not happy with you, then he sure doesn't deserve you at your best! Tell him, that he's no better. And who does he think he is?
He just only likes you for what you have, your assets on your body. He doesn't like YOU he likes your body. This guy is a complete dick and needs a serious slap to the face.
Sorry, I got a little carried away, this guy is just so wrong and disrespectful he should be taught a lesson!
Find somebody who respects you for you, and not of what you have to offer. Be careful of those players, guys who use you. Protect yourself, and good luck!
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Wow.
First, date up, not down.
Second, are you kidding? I've never met anyone with less common sense here, I'd think you would at least have heard enough stories about guys with below average intelligence who only want sex to have left him by now.
No, you should not give a one month relationship a second chance when the guy says he wants to do sexual things with you. If you don't have enough respect for yourself to think you're better than that, you should at least have enough disrespect for him that you wouldn't stay with a guy that friggin stupid.
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No I don't think you should give him a chance either because he wats to change you to something you're not! If he doesn't like you for who you are then he doesn't deserve you at all. So tell him to hit the road. :-D
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dump the dick, and then he'll wish he was with you, and he will NEVER find a girl like you, but thats not your problem. Good luck with the jerk
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You should not give him another chance. He is obviously using your for your body, and that's not what any girl deserves. Nobody should tell you to be something that you're not. Not a friend, not a boyfriend, not a teacher, not an enemy, not even your parents. You recognize that he doesn't respect you, but you need to respect yourself and break it off as soon as you can. Look for someone who respects you for WHO YOU ARE, because I'm sure there are tons of boys who will.
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Why would you ever even think about giving this guy another chance? YOUR WHO YOU ARE! This guys a completely idiot not to mention younger than you! You should be telling him how it is! If he's not happy with how you are then don't bother! He's not worth your time!
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There is no way that you should give him another chance. You were absolutely right not to change for him, plus, you cannot change the person who you are just to please somebody else.
Leave him and wait for somebody to come to you, if you look then you might choose somebody who doesn't treat well either.
Good luck with the future,
triquetra
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my opinion, you've been with him a month and two weeks too long. you clearly have a good head on your shoulders and know right from wrong and i give you a lot of credit for not changing for a guy, so many girls would have just gave in to please their boyfriend, but that shows that you have some respect for yourself; so do yourself a favor and breakup with him. your a good, head-strong girl, you deserve so much better than him. you need someone who likes you for you and wont use you for sexual purposes. when your in a reletionship with someone they should make you feel good about yourself not upset you because your consently feeling as if you aren't good enough. there are plenty of guys out there and belive it or not they aren't ALL assholes. so goodluck with this one, but im sure if you stay true to yourself and stick to your moral values you'll be just fine.
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what the heck? this is NOT a healthy relationship! he dosn't even respect you as a person! respect for eachother is like the bare minimum you need for something to even be called a relationship. break up asap.
p.s. way to go for insisting not to change. thats really good. lots of girls aren't that strong.
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i think this needs to come to an end. its one thing if he wants you to start likeing a sport but changing everything?! thats rediculous. also, hes sick, he probally doesn't even like you he just wnats to have sex and stuff. end it now sweetie
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You go girl. And don't even think about giving him another chance. There are so many terrible names that I could call him right now- that's how strongly I feel about this. Break up with him, soon. He doesn't deserve you. And you're smart enough to know trouble when you see it- it's best to get out of the situation ASAP.
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OH HELL NO! i literally said that out loud when i read this. NEVER EVER put up with somebody saying that to you..he is obviously disgusting and just wants action and ALWAYS stay true to who you are and if hes THAT much of a jerk to try to change you then he has serious serious problems. he doesnt respect you, dont put up with him. definetely time to find someone else, i promise youll be better off without that jerk.
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Time to get rid of him and find someone else.
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I wouldn't give him another chance. He TOLD you he only wants you sexually, thats a bad sign.
I'm glad you did the right thing by not changing for him. If I was you, I'd break up with him, but its your decision.
xxtiffany
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I really don't think I'd give him
another chance. "he says it's because
of all the sexual things he wants to
do with me." That about says it all.
I'm pretty sure you can find a guy
out there who likes you because you
are fun to be with and who thinks
you are the most fantastic girl on
earth.
Lifes to short to waste time playing
with losers. :)
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