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Im sick of ungenuine boys
Im 15 and havnt had a relationship...out of my own choice..i decided when i go out with a boy i want to make sure i know it will lead somewhere and that i have to truly like him..not just a 2 week stupid relationship. But now im getting to a point where im past waiting for boys...genuine boys. You can never find them where i live. They're all into this gansta r and b rubbish. I need a boy who accepts me as their equal and loves everything about me and dosnt want anything sexual. How long till i find someone like that?I want love...whether im young or not and im tired of waiting. My best friend has been hurt so many times and its just proved to us both noone is genuine and cares about the girls heart. Please can someone give me some help..why arent there boys like that ?
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College, maybe. Go to a big university, there's better selection.
The problem is, that at 15 you want a guy whos a bit more grown up, and at your age the guys you are around aren't anywhere near that yet.
Though, finding a guy who doesnt want anything sexual? Not going to happen.
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Well, somewhere out there, there IS a boy who is going to love and respect you and be absolutely crazy about you. But you won't find him until you start giving guys a chance. And he WON'T be perfect... there's just no such thing. Every guy has certain faults; and that's what dating is all about. It gives you a chance to figure out what kind of faults you can live with, and what kind you can't. When you find a guy whose good qualities outweigh the bad, then you're in good shape! You'll never find a perfect guy... but you will find one who's perfect for YOU!
Another thing. You say you want a guy who doesn't want anything sexual. By that, I'm guessing you mean a guy who doesn't ONLY want something sexual. Because if you're looking for a guy who doesn't want ANYTHING sexual, then you're looking for a friend, not a boyfriend. All guys want something sexual... that's the way God made 'em. And if a guy really loves you and feels some attraction and affection for you, of course he's going to want to be close; to hug and kiss and make out, etc. Of course, if he really loves and respects you, he won't force you to do things you aren't willing to do; he'll be willing to wait until you're ready (whether that's a few weeks, months, years, or until you're married). But if he truly has romantic feelings for you, he's definitely going to WANT to do those things. If he doesn't, then it's just a friendship, not a relationship.
But like I said... there's a guy out there for you somewhere, and I can promise you, you WILL find him! But you don't want to pass him over because he has a couple faults. So give the guys a chance, and you may be surprised by what you find! =]
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To find what you really want you have to have experience with guys first you have to have heartbreak in order to know what is really good for you. you can agree or disagree with me it doesnt matter but thats my point of view. ive been out with alot of guys and each time was a lesson learned. just because these people listen to r and b doesnt make them bad people. You should get to know someone first before you judge them. isnt that what you are asking for anyways? is for someone to just love you and not judge you and to take you for you? and there are boys that are genuine but boys are not perfect. there is not such thing as the perfect guy, so dont wait for something that will never come. im just lucky i found the right guy for me, and i did that by going through relationships that taught me what i needed and what i didnt. And right now i plan on being with this guy for forever. and one reason me and this guy work is because we actually talk to each other, i could never expect him to be perfect because hes human. love is seeing past the inperfections.
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There ARE boys like that out there, but you have to find them yourself, they aren't just going to fall out of the sky and right into your lap. But you love and you learn, just because your friend got her heart broken many times, don't give up on finding that one special person. The nice guys are out there, and I hate to tell you this, but we aren't perfect and guys aren't either, so before you judge a book by it's cover, give the guys the beneift of the doubt and see how they are. And you can never know how long it will take to find that guy who will sweep you off your feet, you either wear your heart on your sleeve and risk it all, or wait and wait and wait for that guy who may also be waiting.
Good luckk
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honestly, your never going to find the PERFECT guy there is NO guy that has everything you want. don't let yourself fall head over heals that will keep you from getting hurt. but if you give guys that are close a chance you may find that what isn't perfect is what makes them perfect. you can't except them as an individual unless you actually give them a chance
good luck
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