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Q: i lost my virginity last night, but it hurt and it was reallllly hard for him to fit. he's pretty huge.. so i guess it's understandable.. but is this normal? im afraid that im just too small now. do you think this is perfectly normal? did other people go through the same thing? thanks

Dude. its your first time. your probably pretty young to so duh your gonna be small. The more u do it the easier and funner it will get. Dont forget to use a condom though

Q: my boyfriends at dinner with his ex because she said if they talked things out they could come to a conclusion. should i be worried? or is it just nothing?? i dont know what resteraunt they are at so i dont know if its a fancy dinner or not.

If he didnt tell u where they went then something is up. Worry. But dont freak out. Plus obviously if he went out with her he probably still likes her. I dont know why you let him go with her. that was dumb (no offence)

Q: i got drunk at a party
did really stupid stuff
people are really pissed at me and im scared to go to skool
i go to a public school which makes it even worse because thers like 100 kids per grade

im a mere freshman and it was a senior party and im so embarres and i did terriable stuff and im scared to go to skool

No offence but its ur fault. suck it up and go to school. time will pass and in a couple of years people wont care what u did anymore.

Q: Well this sunday me and my boyfriedn will be going out for a year . But last night we broke up with me , He said i was to jelous and he couldnt take it anymore . And he told me he wanted to break up and it broke my heart , really did . Then this morning he called and ask if i was going to school and i asked him why he broke up with me and he said he doesnt know what he wants right now . At schoolwe still walked together and then 2nd period he put his arm around me and kiss my head and said we'll talk about this later. Then going to 4th he pulled me to the side and grabbed my hand and said baby i dont want to break up i just didnt like the way things were going and i want to change things. So he said were still together kissed me and walked off , but we still needed to talk and stuuff because between classes wasnt long. So at lunch we talked and he said he felt bad breaking up but being without me made it worst . i said i was sorry for being overly jelous & he apologized about breaking up . Im just scared its going to happen again . It broke my heart so bad i couldnt and still cant eat. ShouLd i give it another go or am i just getting played ? i really love him i want it to work but im keeping my gaurd up . thanks .

Been there!!!!! It sounds like he is sincere though. Yall just need to work on communication because he just decided to end the relationship without even talking to you about the problem and thats not cool at all. So work on that and if yall get back together yall should be fine.

Q: Im 15 and havnt had a relationship...out of my own choice..i decided when i go out with a boy i want to make sure i know it will lead somewhere and that i have to truly like him..not just a 2 week stupid relationship. But now im getting to a point where im past waiting for boys...genuine boys. You can never find them where i live. They're all into this gansta r and b rubbish. I need a boy who accepts me as their equal and loves everything about me and dosnt want anything sexual. How long till i find someone like that?I want love...whether im young or not and im tired of waiting. My best friend has been hurt so many times and its just proved to us both noone is genuine and cares about the girls heart. Please can someone give me some help..why arent there boys like that ?

To find what you really want you have to have experience with guys first you have to have heartbreak in order to know what is really good for you. you can agree or disagree with me it doesnt matter but thats my point of view. ive been out with alot of guys and each time was a lesson learned. just because these people listen to r and b doesnt make them bad people. You should get to know someone first before you judge them. isnt that what you are asking for anyways? is for someone to just love you and not judge you and to take you for you? and there are boys that are genuine but boys are not perfect. there is not such thing as the perfect guy, so dont wait for something that will never come. im just lucky i found the right guy for me, and i did that by going through relationships that taught me what i needed and what i didnt. And right now i plan on being with this guy for forever. and one reason me and this guy work is because we actually talk to each other, i could never expect him to be perfect because hes human. love is seeing past the inperfections.

Q: Okay, so I've been a bit of a tomboy/goofball since the 3rd Grade. I love hanging out with guys (and I have WAY more guy friends than gal friends), I joke around a lot, and I'm a bit clumsy. But this isn't what I really want. I can't get dates, because guys usually thnk I'm joking when I say I like someone. It drives me crazy and I can't go through a day without thinking: "Am I ever going to get a boyfriend like this?"

So I want to turn my life around. The problem is I am NOT suitable for absolute girly girl. I mean, I want to change out of my old pants (meant for guys) and things but I don't want to be a pink loving, make up applying, small dog loving girly girl.

So... how can I start changing my life? I've tried before, and it turned out as a disaster. I don't want to change right away, because I'll be interrogated by hundreds of people if I just show up at school in a skirt on Monday.

How can I approach this without making a complete idiot of myself?

ive been there and done that. ive been in this situation too. i use to be just like you with all the hanging out with guys and i played sports alot and everything. it was really hard to just change but that kind of what you have to do. The first step i took was wearing my hair down and acutally straightening it and making it look good instead of throwing it up in a pony tail. And then i got some eye liner and some coverup and started with the basics. go shopping just one day and buy some nice jeans that make you ass look good because that is what every girl wants is nice ass! lol but anyway you dont have to necissarily start out with a skirt. heck i only have two skirts and i only have one pair of shorts. so you can rock the jeans like i do if you want. if you want me to tell you more or if you think i didnt quite give you enough information then just message me, ill be happy to answer any quesion you have.

Q: how can i seductively tease a guy without coming off too strong...?

ha. this is my specialty. it is so easy to tease a guy. but it depends on what kind of teasing you are doing. are you with this guy? or do u just want to tease a guy for fun? if u tell me more about this then i can answer your question with ease.

Q: my boyfriend and i have been dating for a little over a month and its kinda a long distance thing and he wants to see "pictures" of me and wants me to send them through texting... im not really comfortable with that but he gets upset what should i do :/

you should be extra careful. If they are just pictures of you then go ahead but if it involves taking clothing off then think twice. have you even met this guy? if not then if i were you i wouldnt send dirty pictures. but it is okay to send regular picturs. ive been asked to do the same thing. and id send him regular ones but i dont think i ever sent him a dirty one. i wish i could answer this better but i dont know what kind of picture sending you are talking about

Q: ok im 15 now and i don't know if theres something
wrong with or what because ive only dated people on the internet its like nomatter what i do i can't seem to get a boyfriend . its not like i want to date someone o just be with someone i only want tto date people who care about me and are interested in what i have to say. so my question is why isnt any guy interested in me ?
because im like outgoing and stuff im in the 9th grade now and im gettin worried that i'll never find a guy so if anyone can give me any tips or anything that would be great thankies.

In order to see your personality they have to see past ur looks. Weather you are ugly or pretty. but being pretty you will be apealing to guys so they will take interest in you. boys your age dont really think about personality. So if i were u i would make sure i look good when i go to school and then when a guy takes interest in you then you can show him your personality. when you get older it wont be as hard because guys wont be as immature but for now thats what you gotta do.

Q: Got your attention with the title I know haha!
Well I have a few questions.
ONE:
My boyfriend is 16, I'm 14. Not a big age difference and like my mom says it's a matter of maturity and responsibility. Well am I too young to go on a "date"? I've asked before and everyone said no but if so then how can I convince my mom I AM responsible and mature? HELP!
TWO:
T.J. and I have been together three weeks and two days. Every thursday makes a week thats why I know haha! Well I was wondering when should you usually have a first kiss with your boyfriend? I've kissed a guy before but I mean is three weeks too soon? I've known him almost a year in total so we were friends before we started dating.
And if not, who should make the first move? In other words, what's the best way to have a good first kiss? Suggestions appeciated!

ill start with number two. girl you should of done kissed him already! im surprised he hasnt tried to kiss you yet. If it were me the first kiss would of been done and over with. and about number one. just do little things around the house or do things for her to butter her up. Then bring home like a good report card or something and while shes looking at it ask her if you can. Of course there are other ways to do it that is just one example.

Q: Okay,
All my friends complain when they get cramps. I never get cramps and ive been on my period for 2 years. Is this normal? My friends say im lucky, but is something wrong?

thanks alot

Theres not a thing wrong with you. I only get cramps the first day and the rest of the week im cramp free. so your completely normal.

Q: if you 'subscribe' to your friends (like on the homepage) does it tell them you're subscribing to them???

Nope, it doesnt!

Q: is it ok to still be taking birht control if ur already pregnant? ive been takin it for a year and if i get preg. is it ok to still be takin it?

No its not okay to take while ur pregnant. If you were using it not to get pregnant then you dont have to take it anyway bc you cant get pregnant again till after you have the baby anyways. so have all the sex you want lol.

Q: 15/f

i'm mad right now.
ha. ok,so this kid, i really like him alottttt, & i know he would tottaly like me if he got to know me. i know he already kinda likes me. but i just dont know how to take it to the next level..we talk in classes, and flirt, but thats as far as it gets. how do i get his like number or screename?

pretend like you need help on an assignment in class, and then get him to help and then say " hey you really helped me out alot can i get your screen name or number so i can call you if i have any more questions and then smile at him. Ive done that before, it works!!

Q: well to start, i know i dont have old-woman wrinkles, im 16. but when i wear makeup and smile alot, i get these parenthesis-like lines on either side of my mouth. deep creases in my makeup. and not wearing makeup isnt the answer. whenever i rub my fingers over them to take them away, i get red streaks from where my foundation has been rubbed off and my natural skin tone shows through. is there anything i can do to make these lines go away, or be less noticeable?

it sounds like you are caking on that foundation. Try using a mineral foundation, its looks better and its good for your skin. Try using not as much foundation around your mouth or something. There isnt really anything you can do about the lines. At least people will know you smile alot!! lol

Q: I'm a bit underweight and I'm doing my best to gain. The problem is that I really don't like eating meat. I like eating chicken and turkey, but that's really about it. Is there anything I can do to bump up my nutrition without having to eat beef?? I do eat a lot of fruits & veggies, but are there any other foods I can try to replace beef?? Thank you!!

Eat mashed potatos or something like that because that has alot of carbs. I cant think of other things that have tons or carbs but look it up online. Because thats how i gain weight most the time, if i dont watch my carb intake

Q: im a freshman in highschool
turning 15
im about 5'
[yes im short]
but i have really small boobs
i know its normal to have small boobs
especially if your a small person
but im only a 32A
and it bothers me that i cant even fit into a 34A
my other friends:
one is about 5' 2' or so
and she wears a B or C
also, i have a friend who is almost the same exact height as me
but she wears a B
it just bothers me :/
what should i do?

Well. if it bothers you then wear a padded bra. Those always help or get a pushup. Pushups are the best, lots of girls wear them. Also it doesnt really matter if it is 34 or 38A or whatever. Its just because you are skinny that the number is smaller

Q: ok so i just found out im pregnant. and im only 15. DONT JUDGE ME I JUST NEED ADVICE.

i have to tell my parents. but i dunno how. any help on that?

also, the father doesnt know im pregnant, either. how can i tell him and my parents?

and please please please dont tell me to get an abortion cause im so against that.

so yeah just gimme advice on how to tell my parents and the father.

Just recently my bestfriend got pregnant. She was 14 but turned 15 in december. but anyway if you dont tell them you will start getting stressed out and that is not good for your health and really isnt good for the baby. There is only one way to tell your parents and if i were you i would be like mom, dad i need to talk to you and sit them down and be like im pregnant. and of course they might be like what the hell or something but im sure after a while they will be okay and will be trying to helping you. And the only way to tell the guy is to flat out tell him. you need to do this soon though because you dont need to be stressed out.

Q: Okay, sooo here I go. sorry if this is long =/

me and my boyfriend just recently started having sex, it was both of our first times by the way.
Yes, we use a condom. EVERY TIME. I'd refuse to and he says hes not that stupid anyway especially since his dad got some girl at 17 pregnant with no condom like that. (Hes 17 almost 18 in july and im 15 almost 16 in september)but anyway when i get my period, my cramps are horrible, my period is for about 8 to 9 days and sorry for the over share but i bleed really heavy. yes i am a heavier girl and its normal to bleed heavy when your a heavier girl (i'm 5'2 or 5'3 and about 183 lbs. yes i know i'm overweight and i need to find out a way to get rid of that too but i have a size F bra if that helps)
but its really annoying to feel like even if i just changed my pad i feel that im going to bleed through my pants.

to get to the point, i want to ask my mom if i can get birth control not only because there is always that TINY chance the condom can break but because i know that birth control will make it less days, lighter and less cramps also. i know A LOT of girls that are on birth control at my age because of their period but the problem is i dont know how to ASK my mom about it. It'd be awesome if you could give me a few ways to ask without her being EXTREMELY overwhelmed please? thanks in advance!

Just tell her flat out your whole period promble. She should understand. I dont know why she would be overwhelmed and you could look up some stuff on birth control and print out that it helps with periods to ease her mind. Thats what i would do.

Q: Why is it that life always takes a dump on the nice guys and gives all the great shit to the assholes who dont deserve it? Im fed up with it, Im nothing but nice to people and i love being the nice, sweet guy, but why is it so hard to be happy? All these jerks get everything, why? Do i have to be an asshole to get what i want? Nice guys never get the girl...

usually in high school girls go for the "bad boy" but when it really comes down to it nice guys are always better. So stay a nice guy because when you get older that is much more attractive to girls. just always be there when the assholes arent. if you get what im saying. Every girl needs that one guy they can run to when there isnt anyone else that will listen. i hope you get what im saying.

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Hey im Charlene! Im 15. In highschool. I mainly just answer relationship questions/friendship questions. but i dable in other topics too. Im a pretty easy person to talk to, ive made tons of mistakes, but ive learned from them. So if u got a question ill probably be able to answer it.