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sending text pics
my boyfriend and i have been dating for a little over a month and its kinda a long distance thing and he wants to see "pictures" of me and wants me to send them through texting... im not really comfortable with that but he gets upset what should i do :/
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Technology today allows some amazing, and at the same time, scary things.
For instance, a naked picture of you (who are probably underage) is something that can end up anywhere.
Lets say you send him pictures. Lets say you break up in a few years and he's angry. Lets say he sends pictures of you to your family, his friends, anyone who he thinks might be shocked to receive them. Lets say he posts it on the internet somewhere and two days later its front and center in a thousand pedophiles personal jpeg collections.
The golden rule of nude shots. You should not let someone have compromising pictures of you until you trust them implicitly and you've been having sex for a decently long period of time (say more than 6 months)
Basically, never let someone have pictures of you unless you know without a doubt and without asking them that if you broke up they would delete the pictures rather than harming you with them.
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1) you shouldn't do that because those pictures
could come back and haunt you foreverr. they
eassilyyy get passed around at school
2) your boyfriend shouldnt ask you to do anything
that makes you uncomfortable. especially this...
3) if i were you i'd talk to him, and if he can't
seem to understand, then break it off. he needs
to be able to respectt youu! and of course you
deserve someone who doesn't make you do anything
your not comfortable with doing.
i hope that helpss and good luck! if you ever
need more advice then you can hit up my inboxx :)
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you should be extra careful. If they are just pictures of you then go ahead but if it involves taking clothing off then think twice. have you even met this guy? if not then if i were you i wouldnt send dirty pictures. but it is okay to send regular picturs. ive been asked to do the same thing. and id send him regular ones but i dont think i ever sent him a dirty one. i wish i could answer this better but i dont know what kind of picture sending you are talking about
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If he really liked you he would respect your wishes. so you don't want to send pictures its not something that is that imortant where he would break off the relationship just because you said no and if he gets mad at that then thats rediculous and maybe it should come to an end. also, you could just tell him your parents won't let you send pictures -- cuz it does cost money. Also, if the pictures have nudity in them...then over the phone may be the best place to send them BUT he could show his friends which is nasty if i do say so myself.
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Say no.
He doesn't accept that? Well unfortunately, that means he doesn't accept you. It would be best to break off the relationship.
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If you are uncomfortable, let him know that you're not willing to trust the through text messages.
See if you can send through email, or log on to a community site such as myspace or facebook, where that way, you wouldn't feel uncomfortable.
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If the pictures involve nudity, I feel that is too early in a relationship to engage in that kind of behavior. Besides that point, if you are not comfortable doing something, then don't do it. Your boyfriend should not be pressuring you to do something you do not want to do. He should respect your wishes, your feelings, your morals, you as a person and you as his girlfriend. Don't let him manipulate you into doing it, especially the famous ~if you love me, you will~ line. The truth is, if he loves you he'll wait. If he continues to pressure you, it is time to let him go as hard as it may be for you. You deserve someone who respects you. If I took it wrong and it is a normal picture of you (no nudity or explicit content) then I say why not? He already knows what you look like and appreciates your beauty. He should make you feel confident and beautiful. Him having respect for you still applies here but it is not an issue worth breaking up with him for. You may feel shy, but I don't think that is asking for much or asking for anything wrong. If he can call you his, he should be allowed to have a picture of you. You can have him send you a pick of himself first. I hope I helped. If you need anything else I'm here.
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