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What do you do if you think you have appendicitis?
I think I have appendicitis. I always feel sharp pains in my stomach and shoulder. It hurts really bad. I went to the doctor and she said it might be appendicitis. They gave me some nexium pills but sometimes they don't work. I feel sharp pains in my stomach side and my shoulder. It hurts really bad.What do I do?
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You must seek medical attention immediately. Inform who ever is caring for you all symptoms, how long you've felt this way and such.
If a Doctor says 'might' 'think' or 'could be' you should get a 2nd opinion.
Demand a body scan, so you can find out the real problem. X-rays are for bones, but a scan is for tissue.
Good Luck
-Cinnamon B-
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Love is relationship or sex? (link)
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Love is a complex thing. Everything is included with love, except anything that opposes it.
-Cinnamon B-
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Me and my boy had been together almost 1 year and a half... we did long distance for 9 months while i was away at school. he started to act different after christmas... like a little less caring. He told me thats just how he is he's not an emotional or expressive person. We ended up breaking up after he forgot our one year... he told me at that point, after i told him im done with not being cared about, that he is not ready for commitment and he needs to experience things in life (hes 20) because now is the time. He cried to me saying how amazing of a wife id be and how he hates himself for feeling this way.. then two nights later he called back and said he made a mistake.. he sounded sincere. Well now here i am. ive been home frmo school for a month and we've been together every day. It's been the most different ever. We hardly had sex, he truely made me his last prioroty, and just always treated me like an annoyance. I asked him, do you still feel the same way as when we last broke up? he said no. I asked because i thought maybe he was unknowingly pushing me away. I always would say to him.. i wish you loved me, or you dont love me. he's say stop it i do love you. He has very rare cute moments where i feel slightly like he cares. The other night i brought up to him how im really upset cause i feel like im his last priority (when we hung out, we never hung out alone... he would invite his friends over and hang with them while i waited with his parents, he would work out, eat, shower, play video games, all while i waited, literally every single time we hung out) anyways, his response in a text was, ive lost feelings for you, they've faded, im not feeling this anymore, i havent had feelings for you for awhile.
How can i guy lose feelings when i've literally never lied to him, cheated on him, gone out without him, gotten into a serious fight, done everything for him, and we been together for that long. We also work together, which is going to be hard. Not only was he my boyfriend but he was my best friend we did everything together. Guys, or girls i guess, i need some advice on why he lost feelings or why he might of, or if a guy at 20 years old would really end a relationship with a great person just to experience other things. (link)
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Two words 'Still Young'. In life things happen, falling in and out of love, just happens. He loves you still, that is definitely without a doubt. Chances are, something came up in his life that he needs a break from everything. Want the space to venture out a bit. Life hasn't really started yet, and there will be a lot going on. If he's falling out of feelings for you, just relax. It's probably not a permanent thing, give him time.
Just let him know, that you don't really understand what happened between you two, but that you'll always be there. Give him that reassurance, so he wont suspect you hating him.
Sure you'll hate the situation and what to make of it, but in time things will change.
Good Luck.
-Cinnamon B-
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However lately I've had a lot on my mind.. For one my dad's health is getting worse everyday and there's no hope of him getting better because everything is a big joke to him... He just found out he had diabetes. My sis has cancer and 5 babies... My mom is as stressed as I am and she works 50-60 hours a week so she's not really here for me to talk to about stuff. I'm in college and I work part time and that's my only outlet.. I don't have tons of friends, but I'm just in over my head... Help, I need somebody.. HELP, not just anybody!! (link)
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Listen, everyone in your family is stressed out. Which is very unhealthy. And you need than just college and working as an outlet.
You don't need friends, (well not right now of course). You just need a good listening ear, or someone to communicate with when feelings gets to crucial.
I'm letting you know that I am here if you need someone to give advice. You can contact me via email if necessary. Or instant messenger.
-Cinnamon B-
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ok so i came back from a school field trip yesterday and when we got there she started being a little rude to me. As the day went on she got worse. When we got back to school she was completely ignoring me. Then today I came to school with a majpr sunburn from yesterday. When i got to school she wouldnt stop hitting it. I told her to stop many, many times but she would just ignore me and hurt me more. Later on today she was eavesdropping on me and my friend and i was saying how my sunburn on my left shoulder hurts really bed so she comes and hits me x3 harder. I snap on her and start crying but she continues hitting me. Can anybody give me any advice. She has been my best friend for almost 3 years now. Thanks by the way im 12 years old and a girl she is also 12 but 1 month younger. (link)
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Tell her in a firm projected voice, that she's not being much of a friend. She's being ANNOYING, and a PEST. Tell her, regardless of how long you tow have been friends, it doesn't give her the right to act like a complete stranger.
If she continues getting out of line, the its time to give the friendship a time out, until she knows how to act.
Good Luck
-Cinnamon B-
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16/F
Okay, my friend always asks me how my boyfriend and I are doing and I always just reply with 'fine. After all, I like to keep my relationship with him between us, that and we're both too shy to start gushing about how we cuddle and stuff. Not to mention, our relationship involves mostly talking to each other. I like this relationship and it's my longest and best so far. Well, my friend exploded one me the other day about it and she asked what the sex was like and I was like what the heck?! She's younger than me by a few months and she already has weird problems of her own. Yet, she kept saying that I should've had sex with him by now, three months is enough. Uhm, nooo, I'm only sixteen and he's younger than me, so there's definitely no freaking way it's legal. Is there anyway I can get her to shut up about it without actually being rude? Because I think she might be trying to anatagonize me... You don't HAVE to have sex in a relationship, right? Especially at age sixteen?! (link)
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Just continue your relationship, the way it is. Everything sounds just fine in your relationship. Don't pay her no mind. She isn't you, she isn't in a relationship with you. And sex is not a necessity in a relationship. That's why its called, an "Extra Curricular Activity" it doesn't make a relationship.
Respect, honesty, care, etc are the main essentials. Simply tell her that its your relationship, and your going about it the way you want it to go. If she's more of a friend, she'll snap out of it and leave it alone.
16 is young, wait until you're much older and emotionally/physically ready for those 'older people' responsibilities. Once that occurs, you're 100% responsible for whatever may happen during, and beyond that point.
Good Luck.
Let me know how things go.
-Cinnamon B-
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Okay so im a little tan and will soon be tanner right now i have medium reddish brown hair and im having trouble chossing if i should die my hair light golden brown or like a medium chestnut golden brown? which one will make me look tanner? i have green eyes by the way. thannk you :) (link)
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The medium chestnut brown works best.
Good Luck
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i liked this guy in my class
and everyone keeps on telling both of us that we make a great couple
but im not sure if he likes me back
he:
looks at me during class
he tells me everything(and im always the fist)
he always compliments me
he always laughs at my not so funny jokes
he keeps on telling me that im beautiful
he always listens to my advice and always gives me advice
my friends say that he doesnt ever stare at someone not even a girl the way he does(in a good way)
but today i was on msn with him and he randomly tells me that my best friend just asked him if he liked me(but he never told me his response)
Does he like me or not
(we are both in 6th grade) (link)
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First thing I'm going to say, how adorable!
Yes sweetie, he does like you, all the signs say so. He's just nervous to approach you. Give him some time, he'll come out with his answer.
Good Luck.
Let me know how it goes.
-Cinnamon B-
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What do you do when someone doesn't like you and nothing you do can change that... especially when this person is your boyfriends mom. (link)
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They always say "he/she will come around". But then there is that other saying "he/she is stuck in their ways". When you're in a situation like that, when someone doesn't like you for any reason, you have to confront them. Find out, directly from them, their reasoning for not liking you. If there isn't a reason (which would most likely be stated) simply inform them, that Disliking you for no reason isn't disliking, its Hatred.
That is what I call a disgusting act of immaturity, especially when someone is beyond their childhood years. They need to re-evaluate themselves because there are internal problems going on within them.
Family (general) of spouses, aren't usually the ones who would agree with the relationship. It happens, and you would either have to deal with it, or just walk away.
In time, you would see if things were really meant to be, as things happen for reasons which we will Never know.
Good Luck!
Let me know how things go.
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im female/18 and my boyfriend is 19
Me and the guy i absolutely adore have been dating for the last 3 weeks. it seriously feels like we've been dating for months. Even he agrees.
the only thing is, hes started to get a bit weird after the other night, when i stayed at his house like i normally do. We were in bed being intimate (not intercourse though), when he pulled away from me and told me " I think i'm falling for you" i responded with "i dont think..i KNOW im falling for you too" and we were both smiling. then he says "but im scared, ive never ever fallen for someone so quickly..." and i assured him that there was nothing to worry about, that i wasn't going anywhere.
since that night however, things feel odd. Ever since i found out he was feeling the same way as me, that he was falling for me too, i've been able to openly confess to him how much he means to me, and that everyday i fall for him a little bit more. but the thing is....now whenever i text him anything cute or whatnot, he doesnt say anything cute back to me, he'll just be like "im none of those things" or "your lieing" and its really starting to hurt me when he doesn't take my feelings for him seriously. He's very insecure, but hes absolutely perfect in my eyes. and no matter how much better i try to make him feel good about himself, or reassure him that hes absolutely amazing to me, he seems to just push me away. Im a very insecure person myself, and i feel like he's out of my league. it would be nice to have reassurance and know what he thinks about me every now and then. i just feel like ever since ive told him im falling for him too, that im scaring him away when i tell him that hes amazing and stuff to me...
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Two insecure people in One relationship...leads to one thing. FAILURE! Not in a way that things will work out, that is less than likely. I understand how you feel. When someone is insecure, they have situations within themselves they need to work on. Being in a relationship with your insecurities doesn't make it wonderful, it makes more of a disaster than anything.
Pushing people who care genuinely about you away. And they're very unsure as to who is really there for them. Why? They can't feel that emotion from others. That particular sensor has been blocked for their senses. They have to work on themselves, as individual projects.
People like me, would be more than willing to help, as far as coaching/counseling goes. Therapy works best, only when the client is willing to want to help themselves.
Other than that, he's going to hear everything you say, and it wouldn't mean anything. No matter how much you try, or the emotions you'll show. He just wont feel it.
Its best to give him a bit of space, since he's pushing you away. Give him a bit of his own medicine. Only two things would become of it, either he'll realize that you've been there for him, and he pulls himself closer to you. Or, you'll end up drifting farther apart.
It is like a test in relationships. Everyone goes through something, and everyone gets that 'moment of truth' in their relationship, when their relationship is being tried or tested.
Good Luck.
Let me know how things go.
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Ok I have written you guyss many questions about this same person .Our whole story starts in Mar. of this year he had a gf but we still were flirtin and stuff.Then after they broke up we started to become a whole lot closer but we kept the whole thing on the low cuz he didnt want to deal with people sayin stuff to him.Then we started to get into "I love You's" He told me that he had loved me more than almost more than anything we had even made names for eachother like babe bae boo and stuff like tht.We were smooth sailing for a couple of months and then he kinda jus stopped talkin to me for like 2-3 weeks...Finally he told me he had been ignoring me because he had a gf and he wanted to be friends for now.That night i cried myself to sleep.Can anybody tell me what happened and is he still worth me? (link)
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Sounds to me that the relationship you shared was more of a 'rebound' one. He just got out of a relationship with his ex, the girlfriend at the time of your initial flirtatious behaviors. Since they're broken up, you stepped in as a bit of a 'I don't want to be lonely' stage for him.
Even though you two were together for a couple months, it seems like he was still looking around, until he found someone else. It wasn't fair or right on his part for drifting away and not speaking to you directly on what he was up to, during that 2-3week period of absence.
Then, you start to wonder, if he was already 'flirting' on the low with the new girlfriend, while still in a relationship with you?
People behaviors, sometimes tend to be on a pattern system. If he was flirting with you, while in a relationship, chances are he was flirting with someone else while in a relationship with you.
It wont be long, before he deals with someone else. It seems like a pattern in this case. Kind of like the old saying "If he/she cheated on him/her, what makes you think he wont cheat on you?"
The best thing I advise you to do, leave him alone completely. By remaining as 'just a friend' its going to eat away at you. He's not even worth being a friend, he'll just be taking up space in your life, taking the place of worthy people who belong around you.
Move on, get yourself back on track. Make more "YOU" time. Eventually, you'll build yourself stronger than ever, and ready for what's in store in the near future.
I wish you all the best.
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Ok I am a 24 yr old female... I have been friends with a guy for almost 8 years now. He has always had a crush on me but we have always just been friends... he understood that I didn't like him in that way and we have remained friends since. However recently we have been talking to each other alot and I think I am starting to like him. The problem is I am not physically attracted to him AT ALL!!! I know this sounds crazy but for the past 3-4 years he has been long distance in the military so I only see him once a year. So its really his personality and how much he cares for me that I like but when I think of trying to be in a relationship I just can't picture it. I am just not attracted to him. What do I do? I keep telling him that I am just not ready for a relationship but its really because I don't want to hurt his feelings by telling him something like this. I am ready to be in a relationship and if I start dating someone else it will crush him because he knows that i kind of like him but i try to convince him otherwise. What should I say or do ?? Help please!! I don't want to hurt him but I don't want to lead him on either,,, we are very close friends and I don't want to lose that. I hope I don't sound like a stuck up person because I am not... I wish that I could be physically attracted to him so I don't have this issue but its just not the case. (link)
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Physical attraction is one of the first things that people take into consideration, before anything else. Understanding that he has one of the greatest personalities that every girl in the world wish could find, out of the choices of men, you have a tough situation here. Let's think about how you feel about him, with out picturing his face, he has all qualities you want of a person on the inside, and that's great to have. Then, picturing him...doesn't feel the same (almost like we're referring to two different people).
Inner beauty is something that's authentic, just can't ever be created. I think you should get to reversing the psychological of outer beauty is most important. Once you consider that, then you'll be able to look far beyond his physical appearance, and more into the perspective of his "true being". If you ever find yourself not able to do this, then the best thing you can do is tell him the truth. All in all, the truth will always hurt, but he'll be more appreciative behind it, rather than you keeping closed in. You're friends, and that's what you might want it to remain, so don't ruin it over a relationship. Friendships lasts longer than relationships.
I wish the both of you the best, and take some time to really think on what you're going to do.
Good Luck!
Let me know what happens
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17.F
In the last several months, I have discovered true happiness and am on a quest of self-improvement. I have come to realize that one of my best friends for years is one of, if not, the, most negative person I have ever met. I love and support her, but I have come to realize that I need new friends who are positive like me. I feel the need to associate myself with positive people.
There is one girl I know from school, but we are not friends necessarily. We had a couple classes together last year, and I realize that I really want to be friends with her and have her positive attitude rub off on me. I have two classes with her this upcoming year. We each have our own friend circles, but I really want to get to know her and I feel that she will be a really great friend to have in my life. I am pretty good at making friends, but does anyone have any advice for me? Maybe I can ask her to be my partner in those classes or sit near her. I don't want to come off as forward and obsessive, though.
Does anyone have any advice for this situation, or life advice for me? I appreciate all comments and criticisms. (link)
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Well, one of the hardest things in our lives, are to make a mutual connection with people, in general. Friendships can always be created, but in this case, your situation is more serious. You're not only looking for that connection, you're looking to build something that would be life term. Its terrible that you have surrounded yourself around the negatively energetic people, glad you realize its very unhealthy.
You have someone who you feel can potentially lead to something long living. Friendship that feels like the relation to sisters (of course everyone would want that). Seems like you would have to initiate either the meet or conversation. Start off with a random topic about the class that you share. Or maybe how the school year is going for you two. Trust me, there's nothing that can go wrong accept if she doesn't want to be friends (which is unlikely, but may occur).
You have a greater chance just getting to know her, not necessarily jumping straight into personal discussions. Stick to generalization, until the conversation drifts elsewhere. You'll be fine!
Good Luck!
Let me know how it turns out
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okay so i started talking to this guy, we talked for probably 4 hours. some for facebook. then over text, he was telling me how pretty i was and how my ex was stupid for breaking up with me and all this stuff, and how we should hangout. The next day i texted him, and i never got a response, and i haven't talk to him since that night which was friday. Nor has he been on facebook. What do you thinks going on, also my phone keeps messing up and not sending texts to somepeople but idk if he was one of them. (link)
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Continue trying to get in touch with him, whether its on Facebook, or texting. Have you tried contacting him by phone? I'm sure that could be another possible way.
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(this is long but I would really REALLY appreciate you reading it
and giving me some advice.)
Ok, So there's this guy. We met at a bible study.
And when we first met I noticed he starred at me alot
and whatever and he eventually asked for my number.
So we start talking on the phone, Then one day he told me he
liked me and that I was cute.. So I told him I liked him too.
At the biblestudy there's this stupid rule that says you cant date
anyone there. Like nobody can date eachother, or if they do they will get kicked out. So One day I asked if we were dateing, b/c I was confused. Like he didnt say we were but he acted like it.
He said no.. That hurt me.
So I made a small lie, One day he asked me on the phone what
I did that day, and I said just hung out with Kevin.
-who's Kevin?
-Oh this guy,
-What guy?
-A guy
-Do you like him, (ect.)
and you know getting all jelous, and he said,
Well I dont like other guys going around the girls I like.
and I said, Well you said so yourself, were not dateing,
So why does it matter?
He said, Its not that he didnt want to date me, he just didnt want
to get kicked out of the study again, (He's been kicked out before
for dateing someone.) Excuse or not?
We didnt talk awhile after that, Then later when we werent
talking he came up to me one night outside the biblestudy and
put his arms around me and asked me what was wrong,
(I was avoiding him.)
I said we havent been talking.
Later things were still weird, then I was having this stupid
breakdown about my Exboyfriend, I talked to my friend about it
but she had to go somewhere real quick and he came and put his
arm around me asking me whats wrong. he was so understanding,
He asked me if I still had feelings for my ex, and that its his loss cause I'm a wonderful girl, and when we were done talking and we hugged, Without thinking, I kissed him on the cheek, He noticed this and kissed me on mine.
The next week at the biblecamp, We somehow ended up alone ouside,
and he had his arm around me, Then we french kissed.. XD
Ever sense then weve been just like we were before, Except alot
more flirting and touching.. I was so confused, Beacuse I dont want to be a whore. I really like this guy, But I'm not going to do crap with him if were not even dateing.
So yesterday on the phone I said..
"You know that were technically dateing right?"
"We are?"
"We have been for awhile now.."
"Ok."
"What?"
"Ok."
WTF DOES OK MEAN??
Yes? whatever?
I'm so lost. PLEEASSE HELP ME! (link)
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Sorry to be the one to tell you this, but he's not all that interested with you. Seems like he's trying to play you. More like, no one else can have you...
Be careful, don't give away your true feelings too soon, you may be the one to end up getting hurt later on. Take more time to get to know what he's about. He is acting this way because he might be considering a relationship, but could be scared of commitment. Yes sweetie, he has commitment issues, and isn't willing to settle with you yet.
But don't give him too much of a time, you might be missing out on the next guy waiting for his opportunity to get to know you.
But in the mean time, keep "shopping around" believe me, life is too short to settle for less, and I know, you deserve better than him.
Good Luck!
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There is any way i can call back a restricted # from my cell-phone cause somebody keeps calling me private?? i mean what steps i have to follow?? Please help.. (link)
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Unfurtunately, that's unlikely possible.
But if you're paying a monthly bill, you should contact your phone service provider first, and find out if you can block private callers from calling your number.
If they don't have that type of service to help you follow these steps:
Answer your phone the next time and see if someone would speak with you, and the reason for their call.
If they're playing pranks and jokes on the phone, you need to inform them if they keep calling your number joking on the phone, you can have the police trace that call.
Trust me, they don't want the cops after them.
Good Luck!
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well my friend's parents are getting a divorce because her mom cheated and she is leaving her current husband for the man she cheated and my friend doesn't know what to do and she's asked me for advice...but i don't know what advice to give her...the only thing that i told her is that things like that is a part of life...but i don't think it's good enough so if anyone else has better advice out there could you please help me??? thanx in advance
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First let her know, that during this devastating time, she will have a great friend in her right corner when needed. Divorce can be hard to go through, but things like this is common.
Let her know that its ok, and that she'll still be able to communicate or spend some time with her dad (the mother's ex husband) whenever she wants.
This is life changing and she has to remain strong. Give it a couple of months, the feeling of "Divorce" would start to ease, and she'll begin feeling better about herself.
Her mom is the one changing life for herself, and the child just has to go along with it. But divorcing shouldn't be the cause to break the communication lines.
They will always be family, no matter what.
Wish your friend lots of luck, and don't leave her side, she'll need you for moral support.
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I know this is a crazy title but anywayz, I need to know what can I do to tighten up my thighs, I have like "big thighs" and there shaky LOL! so I want to know what kinds of exercises can I do to tighten them, and also what kind of exercises can I do to flatten my stomach like Cassie's or Beyonce's Lol thanks (link)
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Easy simple crunches and sit-ups would work great for getting the flat stomach you've always wanted.
Jog, Run, Power Walk, and Squats would definitely tone you thigh muscles.
If you're the type that's not so into the "getting on the floor" technique, you could also take some dance classes that focuses on the Hispanic Culture. Those dances are really fun, and would get your entire body into the best shape ever!
Good Luck!
Let me know how it feels to be comfortable in your body again.
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16/f
Alright well i have never been kissed before. I just got a boyfriend on saturday named david and i really like him. We "talked" for a month and a half before he asked me out. So, we know eachother well. He knows i haven't ever kissed a guy before and he told my friend that he wanted it to be a good one. Now, i don't know when he wants to kiss because he walks me to my classes and we hug and thats when couples usually kiss but i'm just not sure. I don't know what to do after we hug and i just don't know what to do or how to act or when he is going to do it and i am just really confused and nervous. I'm not sure when he wants to do it or what i should do and i am definatly not talking to him about it. Please help!
My name is rachel. (link)
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Well for starters you don't have to have any experience to know how to "lock lips" with someone. There is no right or wrong way, and by this, you can now feel a bit at ease.
Kissing between two people is a natural action that mostly occurs when the two feel that "certain vibe". Trust me, it wont be that bad if you think you did an awful job, for your first time. Just keep practicing, you'll get better at it.
Being that you boyfriend knows that you've never kissed anyone, and him being fully understanding, goes to show that its not a problem and he's willing to teach you.
So, play his student, and enjoy every moment your lips touches his, it'll be worth it...
Good Luck!
Let me know how your first kiss goes.
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15/f
my parents are so strict,
i dont know what to do to change it.
i got 2 a's on my report card and the rest b's and tehre mad. they dont want me to have a bf cause im "too young", even though everyone else has one. and the other day i couldnt sleepover at my friends cause my mom didnt know her, except fro teh fact she saw her late at night with guys.
they suspect i go out and drink, or they think i hang around wtih people that do(but they do)but they know im responsible, like they dont trust me at all! like they dont want me to drink at all, even thought i KNOW they did when they were my age. there so strict and its not like they just get over it, like if i had a boyfriend theyd go tell all my aunts uncles and there friends, so its pretty intimidating too. i dont know what to do cuase its not fair, i wanna go out and stuff but there so strict about everything like drinking, boys, and grades. i know theyre just watching out but still im 15 and i wanna have fun! and 2 a's and the rest b's isnt bad!
its driving me nuts and there pissing me off!
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Try to have a "sit down" with both of your parents. Let them know how you feel, and find out why they are being so strict. That's basically what the family needs, to communicate more, lack of communication leads to bad relationships between a parent and their child.
Show them how much of a mature and responsible young woman you are, sometimes they need to see for themselves how you take care of yourself.
I just hope you don't have brothers and them treating him different, if his younger. That's when you know they're pulling off a 'Double Standard' on you, and that's not healthy, nor fair.
I understand that you want to live like a teenager, and experience things early in life, but if you look at it from their perspective, they really, truly care about you. They don't want to see what goes on in this world happen to you, such as catching diseases, teen pregnancy, hanging around the wrong crowd and serve time in prison. Those are just some of the things they are trying to prevent. So give your parents a break.
Compared to stories I've heard and actually saw for myself, most parents don't care about their children. In most likely cases terrible things happened to them, physically, emotionally or even mentally.
Just be careful, times are changing, and I understand them completely.
Good Luck, hope future positive bonding with your parents, and communicate more, they are for you when you need them. Don't turn your back on them.
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