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I've gotten use to being a loner..
However lately I've had a lot on my mind.. For one my dad's health is getting worse everyday and there's no hope of him getting better because everything is a big joke to him... He just found out he had diabetes. My sis has cancer and 5 babies... My mom is as stressed as I am and she works 50-60 hours a week so she's not really here for me to talk to about stuff. I'm in college and I work part time and that's my only outlet.. I don't have tons of friends, but I'm just in over my head... Help, I need somebody.. HELP, not just anybody!!
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Hello, It is not suprising to me that you are feeling like a "loner"...But, under all that stress and the weight of responsability on your shoulders it is understandable that a social life is lacking.
One thing I will tell you is that from what you have said it is clear you have your heart in the right place...Sometimes it is difficult to realise that we cant fix everything we want to, we cant make everyone listen to our concerns and take action on them, we cant do any more than humanly possible.
You sound like a caring soul who is missing out a lot already because of all you devote to others...
My concern is that you sound as if you may give up what YOU need because of your concerns for others.
What you have is rare, an open hear with the strength to make something out of your life...You are not a loner, you are just under too much pressure and stress to relax and enjoy the company of new people.
I am un well myself. I dont know the outcome of my health. I am 24 and home bound after an injury which confines me to the home. I have a mind that is strong and dreams...But I dont have a body that can walk those dreams for me...
My advise is that people around you can see you are trying and the best thing you can do for them is to help as muc as you can (as you are doing now) and make the most of a working body and an open heart that can and will do very many positive things in this world as long as it remembers about taking care of itself - YOURSELF...
Best Wishes,
Steph.
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your life is hard but that doesnt mean give up you are in college and you work thats great support your family to the fullest no matter how hard life may get it up to you to keep your head up and move on with your life cause at the end of the day you will always be you no matter what and you continue to take care of your family and so what if you dont have friends you dont need them because there just in the way and you have your family them all the friends you need and you have me so if you have any further questions feel free to ask me
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Hi,
I'm sorry that your Dad's health is getting worse everyday. I know how you feel when you say its a joke to him. My Dad has had diabetes for years now, which isn't a completely bad thing... as long as that person can take care of themself. My Dad tends to drink when he shouldn't, so I just remind him that its bad for him when he does do it.
There are a few precautions that your Dad should be doing to keep him healthy now, such as: exercising, monitering his insulin level and watching his sugar intake. Its not very hard to control once you get the hang of it. People can still live a long life with diabetes.
My Grandpa passed away from cancer a few years ago... it must be very hard on your sister raising 5 kids. My mom is a single parent who has two/sometimes three jobs, works 75hrs a week or more and is killer stressed most of the time too.. but she knows that all her work is to support her family. I am going to school, working part time and I don't have a lot of friends, yet manage to pull through; you can too. Have hope.
If you ever feel like screaming in a pillow, pulling your hair out, or are just having a bad day... you can always inbox me <3
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Listen, everyone in your family is stressed out. Which is very unhealthy. And you need than just college and working as an outlet.
You don't need friends, (well not right now of course). You just need a good listening ear, or someone to communicate with when feelings gets to crucial.
I'm letting you know that I am here if you need someone to give advice. You can contact me via email if necessary. Or instant messenger.
-Cinnamon B-
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