I am 30 years old and I live in Guatemala with my mother and one brother only, I has a boyfriend since last april, in my family don’t accept our love, especially my mom, but I am deeply in love with him, at the last weekend he propose me and I was agree to get married… we decided to lived in my house because I bought it, but I am fearful of their reaction.
Hi,
I would explain to your family that you really love this guy and that if they say they trust you, they should support your decision. They are your family, so they have to at least give him a chance. Talk to them about your relationship and the living situation; let them know you would really appreciate the support, that you accept their opinion, but that you have to trust your heart as well.
If you talk it over with them they will be more likely to accept the relationship and allow you to be with him. They may have a shocked reaction at first, but at least you will have told them and they will have time to warm up to your guy. Eventually your mom will love him too, you just have to show her how happy he makes you and how respectful he is towards you
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My boyfriend and I got back together, the night we did though he was explaining something personal to me, how he had been hurt really bad by his ex... and I know he loves me unconditionally... but the way he looked when he said her name... it makes me wonder if i'm his second choice.. that if she moved back that maybe i wouldn't even exist anymore.. and it scares me more than anything because i would go to the ends of the earth for him and only him.. and i'm scared that he feels the same way i do about her but he thinks he feels that way about me... i'm willing to be patient... i know he loves me and cares for me... i just wonder if he cares and loves her more.. but doesn't let anyone know...he gave something to me he said he'd give to only one girl in the world... but that fear is still there.. am i just paranoid?
Hey there,
I believe that when he told you, he didn't mean to worry you, he wanted you to understand what he is going through. He obviously trusts you and your opinion if he tells you about his ex. If he got back with you, he must love you more and if you know him as an honest person who treats you right, then he would not get back together just to get rid of you. Also, if his ex hurt him really bad, I doubt there is any chance of him going back to her again after whatever she did. No you are not paranoid, you are just concerned and you would like to know that everything is alright.
I believe his look was one of "I could never trust her again". When someone hurts you really bad, you can't help but look saddened or mad when you hear their name. One of my friends hurt me bad and whenever I hear her name my face probably shows hurt, but it could be interpreted differently by different people. I think he wanted to be reassured you would be there for him and that you wouldn't hurt him the way she did.
Every guy will have a little bit of emotion for the person they left, but that doesn't matter once they move on. If he said you are the only one girl in the world and he gave you something special, I believe he has moved on to you. If an honest guy tells you straight you are the only one, he usually means it. Let him know that you really care for him and that you don't want anything to come between you two (that way you don't bring up his ex, but he will know that you are there for him). If he says he feels the same way, there is likely nothing to worry about
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Okay so, This school year I met this guy and we were really good friends. We would walk everywhere together and we had the best inside jokes. We even stayed up until 5 o'clock in the morning just to help each other out, or just to talk. We were around each other so much that people started making rumors about how we were going out, even though we weren't. Every time we looked at each other we would smile, and there's not one time I can remember when we were mad at each other or unhappy together. I really like him, and I think he likes me back. From what is said up there ^^^ do you think I have a chance with him?
Hey there,
Yes. By what you said, it sounds as if you have found a guy for you. If you respect eachother, have things in common, make eachother laugh, and make eachother happy, go for it! You never know, unless you try ;)
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My girlfriend and I as of 11 months July27, are having an issue. There's this guy I CANT STAND. He's done a lot of things I can't stand him for, (they went out a long time ago for one) I know thats a stupid reason to dislike him and I guess I dont really hate him for it. It just makes me feel iffy but anyway, I was having a convo with him one day and he started calling me a "fucking retard" jokingly, I explained to him that it bothers me a lot and to please not do that because I have a 19 year old sister to whom is mentally challenged and its mean to speak of people with disabilities as a joke. After I explained all that to him he told me "get over it you big baby" and started laughing, we got in a fight and basically I want to kick his ass.. Hes always "harmlessly" trying to flirt with her. I trust her 100% I swear on my life I love her like no other. I just cant stand him. He also tried to "nibble" her neck while her and I were going out for 2 months. Is it to much for me to ask for her to just stop talking to him? I asked her not to and she keeps talking to him and he she says that im wrong for not trying to talk to him
Hey,
No, it is not too much to ask her to stop talking to her. You two are together, not him and her, but this guy is her friend. You cannot really stop a girl from having her friends, so she should at least be able to talk to him.
When she does something as if she is in a relationship with him (letting him nibble on her, kissing, or any touching), then you should talk to her and say "I really don't appreciate when you do ______", and be serious. If she doesn't listen, tell her 'if she loves you she wouldn't be so rude to you'. If you don't want to talk to the guy because you feel hate inside, then don't. If he smartens up, try to talk to him. At least let your girl know what this guy said to you. It will help her understand how you feel about him.
If she doesn't change her act, maybe it is time to move on. Since you do really love her, keep trying to talk some sense into her (nicely, by discussing problems). Eventually she will listen; it will take time and rough patches, but it is possible
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Hi im me and my best friends are 6th graders we mostly do everything together. She has this cute brother but his in the 8th grade. 1 or 2 of my friends say he night have a crush on me. But im scared to ask out my best friend brother out. So what do i?
Hey there,
I would ask your friend if it is alright, and then if she says sure.. go for it! My best friend dumped me for my brother and it crushed me. She didn't even warn me. I would talk to her first, that way she will be more understanding. Unless you, your best friend, and her bro are close, talk about it beforehand.
I would also ask the guy how he feels about you or send him hints so that you can see how he reacts before you ask him. It is fine if you ask him out, just see how your friend feels first
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18/f
So I was at a party and I seen this guy there that I havent seen in a few years. We will call him Luke. We talk a little and so on. I get really wasted and pass out. I woke back up a few hours later and went downstairs to the party. I went back up stairs to pass out again cause I was still wasted and Luke was in the room. He was drunk too. He asked if he could pass out in there too or something. I said whatever sure. So we are laying down and just talking about people from school and stuff. I asked him if he had a girlfriend and he said something like that they were on bad terms or something. He grabs my hand. Then our faces are getting closer and closer together and we start making out. Then before I knew it, my pants were off. Then he went to get a condom and came back in the room and we had sex. After that we cuddled the rest of the night and stuff. My friend comes in the room and says we have to leave and Luke is still passed out and nothing will wake him up so I left without saying bye. I texted him a little later and told him that I kinda felt bad about what had happened because he has a girlfriend. Then he texts me and asks what happened. WTF right!? I was thinking how the hell am I supposed to tell him this. So i told him and his reaction was just oh boy. Then he said that its his fault not mine and to just let it pass. So thats where the situation is now. What should I do? I want to talk to him so badly but I dont want to come off as desperate. I know im going to see him again. Thats a fact. Oh yeah, he has been dating this girl for like 3 years or so.
Hey there,
You should tell him to tell his girlfriend that: you two were pretty wasted, that he made a mistake, that he is sorry, and that he hopes she will forgive him. If he doesn't tell her, she is going to find out sooner or later. It is definately better for him to tell her straight or else she could really blow on him when she finds out from someone else or some other way.
I know you probably feel bad cause you want to do something to help. Just try what I said. She may be mad at him at first, but at least he will have been honest with her. The more likely she is to forgive him if he comes clean and tells her it will never happen again.. and the sooner he does it. The reason why he doesn't want to do anything is cuz he's a guy and guys just want to not have to deal with shit. But shit does happen, and if he tells her what I said, he may be forgiven.
If they've been dating for three years, they are obviously pretty close. Let him do the talking to his girlfriend. His honesty and love is the only thing that will help them get back on the same level
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Does having sex in the anus make you not a virgin
Hey there,
Most often people say when you break your hymen inside your vagina due to penitration, you are no longer considered a 'virgin'. But, it also depends on what the person believes. Some people believe that when they have any kind of sex (anal, vaginal, foreplay, fingering, etc.) they are not a virgin. Where some believe only vaginal sex will make you not a virgin.
I would say no, you are still a virgin if you had anal sex, but it all depends on what you consider a 'virgin'. Everyones opinion is different, but you can talk about it with your guy to decide what you want to call it if it matters to him. Otherwise, the most common definition is what I said first
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Well its a long story..me and my relationship with my boyfriend. To me its like a romeo and juliet type of thing. His grandmother doesn't understand my boy friend, at all she doesnt want him to date me. She thinks im trashy? When I'm far from it :,( She was apparently stalking my fb page and my friends, they acutally went as far as to creat an account as lous cousin Cody..but it was really his aunt trying to figure things out about us. So we have to hide were dating, its so stressing and the thought of not being able to call him if I NEED him just scares me. He calls me every chance he gets behind her back, my boy friends the most amazing guy I have ever been with and I miss him so bad..He knows this to, he tells me just to keep strong and to think that we will see each other soon..*I'm going into highschool this year* I'm so stressed..and so depressed right now..i should be happy my birthdays coming up..:/ I've been threw the ringer with this guy, with people starting stuff between us, All i know is that I love my boy friend..and I want to stay strong for him, but I don't know if I have enough courage? What should I do?
14 1/2 f
Hey,
Don't take what his Grandma says to heart. She has her opinions of girls and only the person dating her would really know what type of girl you are (your boyfriend!). A lot of Adults think people can be something they are not just by what they wear or how they talk. I believe wearing or talking a certain way expresses who you are or who you want to be.
Yeah, she shouldn't of stalked your facebook page, but you know.. a lot of people out there look at facebook pages all the time so they can know info about a person. I am not saying it is right, what I mean is, if you want anything to be personal.. don't say everything about yourself on an internet page. Anyone is bound to read it, even employers when you are getting a job.
It seems rediculous that you cannot even call him. Tell his Grandma in a respectful way that you are not a trashy person and you didn't want to come off as trashy, so you hope she can put that behind her. Doing so will help her realize that you can stick up for yourself in a good way, you respect her wishes but you want some time with him, and that she should maybe give you more of a chance. Ask her if you could call him once a week. If she says no, wait a few days then ask again. Eventually she will let you call him once a week. Then after a while of allowing him to call you once a week, try to make it two. If you can, also try to make visits to his grandmas house to hang out with your guy. Do not hang out in a back room, be out in the living room watching tv or something. If you show a good impression in front of her, she will change how she sees you now.
To de-stress, listen to your favorite music, go for a walk, do something new, ask his Grandma if he can come over for your birthday. Call over when she is home and say "I was hoping I could ask you a question..", then ask if he can come over for your birthday. The more you talk to her one on one, the more his Grandma will think shes being heard. Make sure you say 'please'. If she says no, wait a few days, then ask again. Tell her you would really like it if your guy could come visit you anytime (eventually she will). His Grandma does have a nice bone in her, you just have to find it.
If people are starting stuff between you, prove to them that it is not true by being who you really are and telling them it isn't true. You are stronger than you think and you do have the courage in you. All you are looking for is a little support. Talk to your guy, tell him what you told me. That you are depressed and you love it when he talks/hangs out with you. Let him know you need him to help you do what I said to make his Grandmother feel like you are on the same page. He is likely to support you no matter what. Once you are working together with your guy; showing his Grandma that you and your boyfriend respect eachother and you are not who she thinks, anything is possible
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What does it mean?
Hey,
To 'have a sense of rebelling' means you do/say what you believe is right and not against what is right. It is not about drugs, drinking, or doing anything violent.
Say, if you really like pants with chains, so you tend to wear pants with chains.. Then your friends are all wearing jeans and tell you that you should wear jeans too. Since you like your own pants, you tell them no thanks. Once you tell them no, they may think of you as a rebel for not doing what they think and for being yourself, which may be a strange wierdo to them, but it wouldn't bother you.
Heres some info off the internet: Rebel's are about being individuals and refusing to follow a crowd that forces you to think the same way they do even if it means becoming an outcast to society. They know who they are and do not compromise their individuality or personal opinion for anyone. They are straightforward and honest and they will sure as hell take it like it is
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I'm a tomboy and none of the girls like to be friends with me and boys I like only like me as a sister?
My brother is always telling me that guys don't like tomboys. most of my friends are guys or other tomboys, they're exactly like me and i'm sort of a misfit or a person who doesn't fit in with anyone else. I have a couple of girls that are my friends. I still haven't had a first kiss yet. And I'm such a tomboy that one of the guys i like called me his sister. I don't like dress,skirts and heels. I don't feel comfortable in them. Most of the girls wear them and it always gets my guy friends attention and I don't ear that stuff. My friends tell me that they don't think i'm ugly they just think of me as a home girl because I like the same things they do and I hang with them too much and I don't dress girly. Is it bad to be such a tomboy that most girls would've dressed nicer like a dress or skirts everyday but I wear jeans and tennis shoes? And how do i know if a guy likes me?
Hey there,
It is not bad to be a tomboy. I wear jeans and runners pretty much all the time, I basically never wear make up, and I don't wear dresses at all unless its for something real formal. I only have a few friends that are girls and a few friends that are guys, but it is alright.
If a guy likes you, he will stare at you, not be able to finish a sentance and then look at you funny, blush, touch your leg/hand/shoulder, sit real close to you, try to make you laugh, or do sweet things for you. Such as opening a door while smiling at you, buying you a drink when you could pay for it, or helping you with homework even though you never asked.
If you want a guy to like you, get out of the sister zone and flirt with him! Look into his eyes and smile, wink at him, or when he is sitting on a chair come up behind him and put your arms around his neck. Anytime you touch his arm/leg it will send a 'I don't want to be just friends' message.
It is completely normal to be a tomboy. You just have to find common ground with people and then you will be friends with anyone. All that stuff about guys don't like tomboys... thats just for those non-believers ;)
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i am bi female in an open relationship, why is it so hard to find another partner?
everyone i meet it either crazy, controling or creepy.
most lesbians hate me-- bc i like men.
how can i meet people like me who wont judge me.
Hey there,
It is probably hard to find another partner for most females do not want to admit their bi, because they are picky, or for you aren't looking in the right place. Find a website/chat site where you can talk to other bi people. I find it strange that most lesbians hate you, they probably just find it a little strange because you are different than themselves. Meet people that won't judge you by finding those people that are just like you.
For some great websites go to google.ca and type in 'bi chats'. There are a lot of websites and I notice some free ones there. I am sure you will find someone who will be willing to talk to you about anything. Also if you are looking for a good man, you may find one there. Watch out for some strange people though, for the internet is a crazy place. Oh, or you could find a penpal that has simular interests. There are a lot of people looking for a girlfriend like you right now
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I am applying to a performing arts program and I want to stand out. Since the application shows nothing of my personality please give me some ideas to set me apart from the rest. Should I send a video? Pictures?...etc be as creative as you can with your ideas!
Hey there,
A video is definately a more interesting way to go, it will catch their attention and allow them to actually see what you can do. You could do a skit, perform a song, or do a drama act. Making a video could take a while, so if you chose to do this, find someone who could tape you well and spend your time editing it. Pictures are a good way to go too.
I would try and showcase all of your talents if possible. Being bold, suprising, and unique will set you apart. Find what is unique about you and use it to your advantage. I do not know if you watch America's Got Talent or not... but I believe you have to see this guy, he may give you an idea for your program..?.. The performing arts were definately meant for him!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4jgXi8bR-6k&playnext_from=TL&videos=9f73R5oo90o
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after i became single my friend and i liked eachother for a while but never hungout outside of our sport. i quit in june though. im 16/f hes 18/m and moving away to college this coming year. my friend creeped on him and is the result of us not texting much anymore, but i really wana give it one date to see. he really liked me for a while i just didnt want a bf atm. would that be for better or for worse? what could we do? how can i ask? he holds two jobs as it is so its hard to hangout and the last two tries fell through. i really like him im nervous, im used to ppl making the first move on me but hes shy. help?
Hey,
Just because your friend creeped on him doesn't really give him a reason to not text you as much. But, it could of been that he was busy. Saying no to him that one time would not change how he feels about you, if you tell him you still have feelings for him and would like to try again.
You could text him every now and then, tell him you are sorry you didn't say yes the first time, but you weren't ready. Say you are thinking about him and you were wondering if he was availible, for you want to spend some time with him. If he says yes, let him chose the day. You said he is busy with his job and now with college so, if he picks the day he will be more likely to come. Once he says yes, you could: go eat somewhere, grab a drink (if he doesn't have a lot of time), go to a movie, go to the beach, go swimming, play your sport together (if its doable for two people), or have a picnic.
It is alright to be nervous about a guy that you like. If he is shy, help him not to be. Flirt with him when you are in person, make him laugh, and help him open up by asking about his life. If you already know he likes you, it will be that much easier to have him love you
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i have a best friend who is a guy. he's actually my ex's best friend..but they're not as close now because my best friend kind of chose me over him because he agreed with me.
but anyways. ever since december i thought i had feelings for my best friend. but they're on and off.
i always help him with girl problems and i love helping him. but i have this GUT feeling about him. and a good gut feeling. i don't know what it is, if its that i care for him, or love him.
i cannOT tell him, because he's not the emotional/feeling kind of guy and i wouldn't wanna ruin anything. he HATES talking about feelings.
what could this be??? has anyone ever been in this situation..and what happened?
Hey,
I believe what you are feeling is a crush. It could also be a caring for him feeling or a love him feeling as well.. but I also feel you don't know what to call it, for you don't want to say it is love and then mess up the relationship, you know? I am not saying if you told him you loved him it would turn out wrong, I am saying if you do feel as if you love him.. tell him slowly. Let him know you care for him, then flirt with him, then if he warms up to you, let him know you love him.
I believe what you are feeling is a sense of I really respect him, he seems well grounded, I would do anything for him, he is a great guy, and ultimately yes, you could be feeling love for him.. and not just the friendly love, relationship love. It is alright to love somebody, anybody, even if that person is your ex's best friend. There must be a reason why your ex has the name 'ex' attached to him now and if both of these guys are best friends, I am sure they will be okay with it. If you do not feel certain, maybe after you tell your guyfriend how you feel about him, talk to your ex, and then let your relationship with your guyfriend become more.
I havn't been in this situation, but my friend has. It worked out. It can work out for you too, just don't do anything unless you feel it is right. When your heart gives you a special feeling, believe me... you will know
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There's this guy i like and i have no idea how to show him my true feelings for him. How am i supposed to get his attention? and how to get him to like me, and/or spend time with me? thanx xoxxoxxo
Hey there,
To get his attention... stare at him until he looks at you then wink at him while smiling.. he should notice you and want to know what that girl is thinking ;) or you could write a note saying "I would like to get to know you. Would you like to get to know me?" with a heart and your phone number, then casually slip it into his pocket. Or.. flirt with him by sitting next to him and putting your hand on his knee, asking him if he would like to get a soda with you, compliment something he is wearing and when he says "thanks" make conversation with him, touch his shoulder, or you could find out what kind of drink he likes then buy him it and take it to him personally.
To have him want to spend time with you, be friendly, talk to him, make him feel comfortable (guys get nervous as girls do), and as I said before, you could ask him to go grab a drink with you, ask him if he would like to catch a movie with you. And once you get to know him, he will most likely want to spend time with you anyhow and ask you if you want to do something with him.
As for getting him to like you, just be yourself. Every guy loves a girl who is happy (smile), down to earth (has fun), relaxed, positive, someone who listens, someone who supports, and someone who is not afraid to let their true self shine. Once a guy sees the inner you, they will allow you closer to their heart
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Ok the LOVE OF MY LIFE is in prison for 7 freaking years! He really does care about me but thats so long! I love him but were in two tottally differents worlds ritte now. What should I do??
Hey there,
If he loves you the way you love him, then you could try to make the relationship work by writing to him as much as possible. If you really want this to work, then you have to be able to communicate with him and support him. It may be difficult to deal with the two different environments and not being able to see eachother, but you can get through it.
But, if at any time you find that it isn't working out or it is too frustrating trying to keep in contact, it may be time to move on... you do say he is the love of your life, so hold on tight, write him, and let him know how much you care about him. Keeping in contact is what will hold you two together. Tell him about your world and let him tell you about his
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It seems like my husband has been putting me down a lot from the way I grocery shop, cook, put grocery's in the car, in the house. He makes fun of my feet because they are cracked, my hands because I bite my nails, and he is constantly joking about stuff that is not funny. I'm to the point where I'm embarrassed about when he opens his mouth if we r in public. I have withdrawn from him and even though we have sex there is absolutely no emotional connection. I love my husband but I'm scared that we are growing apart and he doesn't even see it. I have asked him directly to please keep his jokes to himself n that jokes are not on me and then he tell me I don't have a sense of humor. What do i do to get him to see that this is not healthy in our marriage. I'm no saint and I think that I'm really angry inside n I do want to not be around or talk or communicate at all anymore and that frankly scares me.
Hey there,
It is not right that he can treat you this way. What you need to do is sit him down and tell him from the heart that you really do not appreciate the way he has been treating you. If he does not listen, try seeing a relationship counsellor together. They can help you to discuss things better with your spouse and allow you both to open up about how you are feeling. You should not be having sex with someone you cannot put your heart into. If it is mindless sex, it is pointless sex. If he does not listen to what you have to say or does not want to see a counsellor with you, then maybe it is time to move on and get a divorce. But, before it comes to that, try to talk it out and have him understand what you are feeling.
If you cannot talk, it is not a relationship. You deserve someone who will listen, support you, and treat you how you deserve to be treated; with respect. You need to have a life where you are happy and free to be yourself. It is alright to love someone, but just because you love someone does not mean you have to live with them
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We are both 16 and i'm not sure what he means. I have been friends with this guy since I was in second grade. He has always been like a brother to me, so I dont think that this has anything to do with sex. We have never dated or done anything. He helps me when I'm in trouble, but i'm not a bad peron who gets into trouble either. I've never had any desires or urges to become sexual with him and he hasnt either, sometimes he tells me I'm like one of the guys.People keep telling me its only about sex thats why I'm sying its not. He keeps our relationship non sexual, fully respects me, never says anything sexual and is always being nice to me,so what did he mean he wanted to teach me about life?
Hey,
He may of meant that he wanted to show you new things, go new places, and explore the new with you. He could also mean that he wants to be more than just friends. If he isn't a sexual person, then I rather doubt that he means he wants to have sex with you. I believe you know him better than those people that tell you he's only in it for sex. So, if you feel he has been wanting to become closer lately.. then you are probably correct. Since he respects you, do not be afraid to casually ask him "what did you mean that day when you said you wanted to teach me about life?...". He should be willing to let you know what he meant.
He sounds like a great guy, so do not let him slip between your fingers. Let him know you were questioning what he said and when he explains it to you, say "thanks for helping me understand" and smile at him. If you want to ask him out, ask him. If he says he wants to be closer, tell him it is alright with you :) When you let a guy know you inner thoughts, it brings your hearts closer together
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thanks to anyone in advance!!!
ok so i want a Kodak easyshare camera!! any tips or advice?? my main question is does the "share" button work?? it shows on the comercials you click the share button and then select "facebook" and it uploads. does this really work? thanks!!! ill rate you 5 if its worth it!! thank you soo much!! :)
Hey there,
Yes it does work. I personally do not own a Kodak camera, but my friend does and she says it is simple, easy, and she loves it. I have seen her use it. Heres a website I found that may help you, check out the cute video! ;)
http://store.kodak.com/store/ekconsus/en_US/ContentTheme/pbPage.1004_share_cameras_lp?pq-path=9355&pq-locale=en_US&_requestid=12019
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OK so i am 13 and boys keep trying to feel me up i keep wondering why then my friend tells me she told a boy i would do anything cause i was desperate.Why did she do this?To be popular! Please what should i do i am dying from embarrisment :(
Hey there,
She probably did it because she feels insecure about herself. When someone is insecure, they feel the need to bring other people down in order to make themselves seem higher. Maybe she is having problems with her home/school life. It was definately wrong to start a rumour about you. Perhaps she wasn't thinking at all..
To clear things up, tell this guy straight that you aren't that kind of person, that you would appreciate it if he stopped this kind of behaviour to you, and that if he tries anything again you are going to report it. It takes courage, but sometimes if a guy keeps bugging you inappropriately, then the only way to get out of the situation is to tell someone you trust.
Try to hold your head up high; you can be stronger than these people. Explain that you are nothing like your friend said, continue stating who you really are, and in time people will start believing your inner self. Not hanging out with this guy will also make people see you in a new light. Obviously this girl is not really a good friend for you if she did this to you. Let her know it was wrong of her and she should have more respect for people. Be yourself, hang out with the people you trust, and don't let this incident bring down the true you. If you let the real you shine, no one will even stop to think about what happened that day
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