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So I haven't heard from my bf in a little less than 2 months. It's kinds depressing cause I could call him anytime. We used to talk everyday! I don't even no why he won't answer the phone!!! I've been talking to Z (let's call him that for privacy) a lot more that usual. He's one of my best friends and I've gotten to know him more and more. But here's the problem...I THINK I MIGHT BE FALLING IN LOVE WITH HIM!! Which scares my bc I love my bf. if he would answer his phone and talk to me again, than I could snap out of it. Oh and Z has a gf. Which makes it a million times worse!!! Help me. Please!! Ps I'm 15 and a girl. My bf is 15. Z is 16
Hi, first off I would say: try contacting your boyfriend again. If he doesn't answer, keep trying for a week and if after that you still haven't had any contact with him, really think about what you're going to do. As I always say, if you fall for a 2nd guy, you weren't really in love with the 1st, BUT if your bf is just away for a while, what you are feeling for Z is not love, but rather deep infatuation - Which is just a longing for a new bf while your actual bf is not around. If you choose Z, and your bf comes back around what are you going to do? To be completely honest, if he hasn't contacted you for that long he may be super busy or he has found another girl, it happened to me. What I would do is try to see what's keeping your bf so busy... and if he doesn't get back to you soon, I'd just talk to Z. See how he feels about you and his gf and see who he'd rather be with. The last thing you want to do is break up a relationship that is going good; you don't want to lose Z as a friend. Maybe you and Z are just meant to be friends anyhow. Fix the relationship you're in or find a guy who's not already taken. Inbox me if you'd like.
I usually don't ask questions, but well, this is important. So I am taking summer gym so I don't have to do it during the year and it's all the people from my grade from our district middle school and 3 students. I am friends with all 3 of them. One of them is a guy and we always run into each other everywhere and anywhere somehow. He and I talk a lot and whenever we walk together, we walk slower than usual. We talk a lot and we goof around together during class. Whenever were playing a game, were totally competitive and we try to out do each other. I really like him, but I have no idea if he likes me back. I love being around him and he makes my life so much more fun. Especially when he comes up to me and asks me if I'm hot and I respond yes, and he pours his water bottle all over my head!!! I laugh and yell in a joking way, "I'm going to kill you" while I'm still laughing and I chase him until we both can't breath anymore. I just can't ask him if he likes me...should I? And, when, how? Ugh! I'm confused! Someone help me! I'm love struck!
Hey there,
I think you should invite him to hang out with you. Next time he comes over and you two are chatting or flirting, just ask him 'Hey, I was wondering if you would like to hang out sometime?'. If he says yes, you're on the right track and if he says he's not available, ask him if another time will work for him. One time he will say yes and then you'll be able to hang out with him more and become great friends which will evolve into a relationship. Try it and I'm sure you'll be off to a great start :)
Well ive been with this guy for almost 2 years. We broke up about twice so far. The first time i managed to get him back and he told me that he missed me and realized he still loved me. But it was also partly because i gave into him and gave him bj the two times we saw each other while broken up. But its cause i asked him straightforwardly the thirdtime when we were about to do it again. But the three months togwther then was mostly us doing sexual stuff like up to third base and thats it. But we didnt have much time to just bond and talk. Were also a bit long distance seeing eachother only once in a week or two. But this time he broke up with me again giving me a bunch of excuses. His friends even told him that we wouldnt work out which i think possibly influenced his decision. But his friends dont even know me because my parents are strict so i mever got to meet his friends. But well a month of no contact with him then the second the month ended i started talking to him and asking to see each other for closure. But once i saw him it wasnt closure but me asking to get backand being desperate. Then he blew up on me saying we should just let it go now hefore it gets even harder to let go later on and that hes trying to move on. Then i stomped out yelling i just dont get this. Then he texted me a day after explaining that he feels like hes in the relationship for sex. And then from tere we judt argued back and forth because i got hope from that. And on saturday i lashe out on him ecause he asked this girl to prom when he knew i still liked him and i wanted to go to prom with him since junior year. And then he lashed back put on me. And then we argued intensely until thursday. Because on thursday he told me the modt hurtful things like im annoying him that he cribges when e sees my texts and that everything was in the past its over and that he takes back all the hope an consideration he gave me a few days ago when he really thought of possibly geting back together. And that im lucky he hasnt blocked me yet. Well to be honest i feel so hurt but i still want a try but im scared to hear hurtful things. But i want him to be with me again. Idk if i should move on talk to him or what i should even do!!! I honestly want some possible way to slowly get his love for me back again.
Hi, as soon as you say that you broke up several times and that when you got back together it was mostly physical, it leaves me with a bitter taste. This means that you guys have basically been walking on eggshells since the beggining and that is not healthy in any relationship. First things first, you should NeVer go back to a guy and act desperate for a relationship because it Never Works! If he even said he\'s in it for sex, you\'re not going to be in a relationship with him ever, you\'re just going to be his sex toy. I think he went with the other girl to prom because he\'s trying to find closure for himself. Not to hurt you, but to remember prom with someone else, so if you two never get back together again, he won\'t always think of you and be sad about it.
I personally think you should move on, as hard as you may find it. I dated a guy for almost a year and became very attached too, but in the end I realized that it was never going to get better. A guy is always going to be the same way for the next 5-10 years. This means, if he has a habit of calling you names and using you for sex, it is not going to go away anytime soon. My ex still chooses alcohol over me and still says hurtful things when the opportunity presents itself, instead of talking it over first. If this guy doesn\'t want to communicate positively with you, trust me you are better off not getting hurt over and over and over again.. Even if you\'re hurt, you should both take some time off from eachother. Stop talking to him for a week, then two weeks then on the third week when he has cooled off, you could ask him if he wants to hang out AS FRIENDS and only friends. Whatever you do, don\'t be desperate and get sucked into his sex game because that gets you nowhere into dating him. It gets you in his pants and not his heart. You must take time off or you two will never cool down and talk reasonably. An once you do talk after those weeks of not talking, just try to be friends with eachother - no sex. Friends with benifits NEVER work out the way you want and once you\'re friends again, it can be easy to date again IF you feel the relationship actually enhances your life and doesn\'t take away from your happiness... because happiness is the key to any relationship.
Which thing is best as a birthday gift for my daughter (5 years old)?
It honestly all depends on what your child likes... but I would get her a drawing book with different colored pencils/crayons/markers, a play set of some sort, a giant puzzle, beads and stretchy string for bracelets, a couple dolls/toy animals or something she can cuddle with in bed. Ultimately, it depends what kind of kid she is and what she finds interesting. Hope this helps :)
She dresses like a freak, does stupid things, sticks her tongue out like an idiot, appears naked in her music videos, and literally only sings one song these days. WTF? She used to be my role model, but now I hate that stupid bitch. I know Ariana Grande defended her, but she defends everybody. What my friends say about Mileys “wrecking ball" is,“good song, bad singer" what is wrong with her?
I think Miley just did all those things to bring more attention to her name in the media. After an actress or singer starts losing publicity, they all do something drastic to gain attention to themselves, whether it be good or bad. Wrecking Ball was a decent song, but the video was made that way because her producers wanted it, she got paid to do it and she honestly didn\'t care what everyone was going to think. There comes a time when all artists change their style/voice to see how people will react. As long as you keep talking about her doing rediculous things, she\'s going to keep doing it because she loves the attention - everyone does. Maybe in the future she will go back to being a \'good girl\', but for now she\'s enjoying her fame and using her music to get her name out there. Her fans can only choose to take it or leave it. It is not \'what is wrong with her\' it is the decisions she\'s making that now have defined her as a negative person.
So my boyfriend & I recently discovered we both had chlyamdia. I got it cured. But my boyfriend on the other hand, hasn't yet. He went but they sent him somewhere else, anyways we were messing around we been using condoms since we found out but I was messing around & I was teasing him & didn't think anything of it but I just licked the top of his dick (the head) & just remembered you can get chlymadia through oral. I didn't think about it, but it was literally just a lick. Not a suck or anything. One lick! Lol he didn't cum or anything. Is there a chance I have a chlymadia? Please answer asap!
A person who has chlamydia can be re-infected. So yes, if your boyfriend hadn't been treated yet or completed the entire treatment of medication, you are at risk of getting it again - even by licking the head of his penis. If I were you, I'd go to my gynocologist or doctor to get prescribed medication again. You can explain that you think you caught it again from your boyfriend, they'll go over the 'you should both be treated first before having sex' speech, then the doctor will give you new meds and you'll be cured again. Just be careful next time... you don't want to accidently catch it, simply because you couldn't be patient enough for both of you to complete your full treatment. Go get more meds, Best of luck to both of you
I am a Christian and I'm working on being a better one, but I'll be the first person to admit that I'm far from perfect. I have debilitating guilt and shame about my past and even the way I came to Christ, even though that sounds strange now that I'm writing it.
I feel like everyone else has really great, inspiring stories and I have kind of a cowardice one. Long story short, I wanted to come to God for years, but thought that I was too bad to do so. Like God wouldn't want someone like me. I didn't have the courage to find out if that was true or not until I was sick and thought I might be dying soon. When I found out that you can be forgiven for anything, I asked Jesus into my heart. (I'm fine now BTW).
Getting to my problem, my dad will not stop judging me, or my family for that matter. He judges us for missing church and any sins we commit. He'll imply or flat out say that we won't go to Heaven because of certain things that he himself does.
I hope this doesn't sound like I'm being hypocritical and judging him, but he's got problems as well. He talks hatefully to my mom, he does rotten thing to people, he uses filthy language, he lies, he takes our things that don't belong to him and these are the kinds of things he judges us for. He'll come home from church and act this way. I've never habitually done all of these things and I've repented, but when I drop the ball, he's all over me. I'm not saying that my dad's a terrible man or that he's not going to Heaven, but I don't feel that he's in a position to look down his nose at me.
The worst is when he judges me for missing church. I admit that I've been bad about that, but church isn't the only place where I worship God with other Christians. I've heard that you don't have to go to church as long as you worship somewhere. It's not in the Bible. It's not that I don't like church, it's just a long story of why I don't go every single Sunday.
He's confident about his own salvation and that of certain people close to him. He just judges his household. It bothers me that he thinks I might not go to Heaven when he and some of the people close to him are no better than I am. It just plain bothers me that he judges me at all.
One reason I think it bothers me is because it makes me feel like such a loser. It brings back the guilt and shame I mentioned earlier. It also makes me wonder if I'll ever be the Christian I need to be. If my own dad doesn't have confidence in me, how strong of a Christian can I be?
What do you think of this situation?
Hi there,
I am glad you came to realize that Jesus will accept anyone regardless of their circumstances/past. No, you do not sound hypocritical or judging, just as if you are expressing your concerns. I know of other Christian Dads that are this way, which is a shame. No need to worry about his faith; John 3:16 "For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life." I feel as if your Dad just needs to look into Jesus' word in a different perspective. Jesus was forgiving and encouraging.. I believe your Dad should figure out how he can react the same way as Jesus would to certain circumstances in your household/general life. No, I'm not saying you can change his ways, but you can help him realize God's intentions.
Romans 2:1
"You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge another, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things."
I believe too that church isn't the only way you will worship God. Hebrews tells you to learn, pray and encourage eachother. Which does mean you should take time to worship with other Christians so you can grow your faith and further build your relationship with Him. Hebrews 10:25 says: "Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some [is]; but exhorting [one another]: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching." Thessalonians 5:17 says: "Pray without ceasing," and Psalm 119:1-176 says: "Blessed are those whose way is blameless, who walk in the law of the Lord! Blessed are those who keep his testimonies, who seek him with their whole heart, who also do no wrong, but walk in his ways!". Nowhere does it say you absolutely, positively have to attend church to do so. God just wants you to have Him in your heart and for you to share His word with others. Attending church is definitely a great way to do this, but it is not the only way. The Church of God is made up of His people and is not a building made with hands.
You are not a loser and you should not feel guilty either. If you want to be the Christian you wish to be, you only need to read and live God's word - it is that simple. Reading the Gospel is the best way to understand eternal life and as long as you are willing to let Jesus into your heart, he will always let you into his. 'The kingdom of God is a treasure hunt'. You are as strong of a Christian as you make yourself. Your Dad's criticism and confidence in you doesn't define your Christianity. YOU make YOURSELF a better Christian. Always remember: Proverbs 3:26 "For the lord will be your confidence and keep your foot from being caught" and Philippians 4:13 "I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me." You will always have the strength of an awesome Christian, as long as you have faith.
How can I watch a movie online with another person? I already know how the Skype share screen but neither of us are subscribed to skype and therefor cant use it. We've tried synaptop and watch2gether or whatever it's called. Neither work or don't have anything to watch on them. Needs to be free. And we don't wanna do the "you press play when I do" thing
Lol I personally find the 'press play when I do' method amusing.. but other than the sites you mentioned, you could try 'youtubesocial.com'. I've had success with it, so hopefully it'll work for you too.
I don't even know this guy. He randomly asked me for my number, then a teacher I was with said "What did you say?" Then he said "I can't tell you. It's business"... I'm really confused about it honestly. I don't want to give him my number and I didn't, but it's creeping me out. What should I do? And what did he mean by "business"?..
I'm not exactly sure, but maybe he was just hitting on you cuz he seen you and wanted your number? Maybe his friend made a bet with him? Or maybe he was actually just wanting your number so he could give it to a survey company. None of us would actually know why and if you're still curious you could just ask him why if you see him.
Girl 1)
Kinda short
Thick medium length brown hair
Green eyes
Tan Assyrian skin
Nice smile
Wears a lot of makeup
Big boobs - Small butt
Nice curve
Flexible but not fit
Outgoing/Kinda Lazy/Not much talents/Parties/Drinks/Smokes/ Dependent/Sleeps around a lot and gives guys whatever they want
Girl 2)
Regular height
Long brown hair
Brown eyes
Tan Latina skin
Nice smile
Doesn't need much makeup
Average boobs - Big butt
Average flexible but very fit
Sings/Dances/Guitar/Piano/Smart/Skates/Chill/Artist/Independent and strong/Has values
Hi,
Coming from a girls perspective, I would say: if you want a fun, playful, short-term girl - go with Girl 1. And if you would like a smart, down-to-earth, long-term girl - go with the second girl. Remember, I'm just going by how you described them and if I were you, I'd actually call it by their personalities and how much feelings you actually have for each one. Oh yea, an as the saying goes "you wouldn't fall for the second one if you really loved the first one" ;p Hope this helps.
I'm 12 and have hemroids I'm to embarrassed to tell my mom what should I do
Hi,
First off, are you absolutely sure that's what you have? Second, the odds are that your Mom has had hemmerhoids before and so you shouldn't be nervous about telling her, that's what Moms are for - to help. If you really need to you can ask someone you trust to take you to the doctor, it is completely confidential. Try not to 'wipe' so much as it will irritate you more, have a 20 minute warm water bath at night or a few times a day and eat more fibre foods such as whole grains, apples and hummus. Otherwise, you can purchase hemmerhoid cream at a pharmacy; though I would highly suggest telling your mom first.
I am a boy of 23 and My girlfriend likes me since past 7 years and we had been in commitment since last 4 years but due to her fear of being in relationship she breaks with me within 15 days or a month and comes back after 6 months or some gap because she miss me every time also she has been the only girl ever in my life. initially i didn't knew how to handle my relationship and was too much of possessive about her but after 3 years of relation i have changed a lot and want to be with her for rest of my life but again like before her fear for being in relationship haunts her how can i make her understand that i can be the perfect guy and would make her feel special all the time and she need not to be afraid of relationship anymore?
Hi,
From what I read, maybe she thinks you'll be posessive again. My ex broke up with me and now he wants to get back together, an I love him dearly.. but the thought is still there that he'll just do it again. So to put it in different terms: actions really do speak louder than words. If you want her back you have to do it by being that better guy you talk about. Ask her how she is doing, listen to her and most of all - be her friend again. You may not realize it, but girls are scared of commitment simply because they don't want to be hurt. Whatever you do, don't try to force things on her, she just needs a guy to be there for her. It's obvious she still has feelings for you, so be her friend first again, and becoming her boyfriend will come naturally like before.
I went out with my boyfriend for 7 months we broke up before and he left me for his ex he then he begged for me back and ended up leaving me again he use to go to different schools now he goes to mine and I have him in a class I love him so much I fell in love with him I have begged for him but it doesn't work I'm trying to make his gf mad do she can dump him buy she doesn't what can I do he needs to be mine again I live him so much I'm 17 btw
I have to agree with the other advicenator hun. If he loved you, he woudn't have left you for his ex AND then left you AGAIN. It is one of the reasons why I won't get back with my ex... he left me and he learned the hard way that if you love someone - you don't just drop them, you Stick With Them to the end and back! The first time your ex left you it was a warning and the second time, you just let him take advantage of you, which is something a girl should never let a guy have power of. Trust me, date someone who actually cares about your feelings, that way you'll never have to be let down and heartbroken. You'll feel more loved and wonder why you didn't let that guy go sooner... there's always a good reason why an ex is an ex, realize why and then move on to better and greater things
I am a 25 year old female who is still a virgin and I have been dating this guy for about 4 months now and he is 26 years old and the other other day he asked me how I felt about having sex with him and I told him I would but I said I think you need to know that i am still a virgin and then as soon as I told him that he said he didn't think it would be a good idea after all and I asked him why was that ? He said he didn't want me to regret losing my virginity and wanted me to keep it as long as I could so then I explained to him that I have done everything else I just haven't gone all the way yet so he said I still want you to wait to make sure it's what you want to do . I told him I was sure that I wanted him to be my first he said I know you say that but what about after you lose your virginity ? what's the big deal ? why won't he let me go all the way when I really want to ? I mean I know he explained it to me but I have never had a guy tell me before that they didn't want to fool around. why is he different from the others? Thanks for all your help in advance everybody .
Hi,
It appears that you have a real keeper on your hands. This means: he respects you so much, he wants to make sure that you are absolutely, positively 100% sure that he is the one you want to share that first time with. Now, why would he do that? It is because he is different, and he is different because he royally respects you unlike the other guys you may have met. Most guys would not think twice about taking a girls virginity and that is because they weren't raised with the morals and wisdom your man has. The other guys Just Don't Care.
What you must understand is: that when you give someone your virginity you are giving them something special that you will never ever get back. It can be the feeling of honesty, purity, heartbreak and of course undeniable love. It all depends on the situation. You will think about that guy for the rest of your life. If for some reason it doesn't work out you could be shattered and in all honesty, girls will either: feel soo much more in love after the act Or it can break them into little pieces. He knows this. He doesn't want you to break into pieces if suddenly you think you did the wrong thing, but it also sounds like this guy will be there for you if you ever feel like it was the wrong decision. I believe you have thought about this for quite some time, but do yourself a favour and think about this everyday for the next week and make sure he is 100% the guy. Trust me, he will be honoured if you say yes, but he will also still love you if you say no. It is and always will be your choice.
Ok. I'm 16/f. So there's this boy I really want to get to know better in my class. I want to give him my number, or get his, or find some other way to talk to him. But I don't want to scare him off by just going up to him and giving it to him or asking him. That's not a good idea at all, it's way too strong.
If it helps, my teacher gives us class assignments where we turn around and work in groups of 4 with the people behind us. I sit right in front of him.
Also, if it helps, he's very gentle, very quiet and mature, very tall. I'm also tall, but I'm energetic, I talk a lot, and I'm a little clumsy. So when I trip, I make a lot of noise.
What do you think? How should I go about this? Any answers you may have are appreciated.
Hi there,
I think if you do assignments with him in class, he is probably more comfortable around you then you think. This means, you could write him a note during class asking him if he wants to have lunch with you or if he's doing anything after school, etc. Slip the note under his binder or somewhere only he can find it, then wait for a reply. If he likes you too, he will definitely write back and then you are on your way to hanging out with him outside of school. Once you become good friends with a guy, it is easy peasy to get his number/for him to ask for yours because you'll know eachother better than you do now. So, use a note to start talking independantly with him, see if he wants to hang out with you and then you'll not only get his number, you will become great friends.
OK! So I have gotten really close to a guy I have known for a year now. He's a little older than me (Junior boy-Freshman girl) and I think he likes me! I'm at the point where I kind of want to start flirting. Physically and verbally. Like breaking the touch barrier a little more (he already broke it) we both are shy for a heads up (he's kind of shy and awkward- its adorable) but he has told me- I am beautiful (twice!) that he doesn't look forward to graduating because he'll be leaving some friends behind, especially me. Also we talk everyday after 5 o'clock (he has a summer job working for his dad) and we have a lot in common (dark music, Egypt-related stuff, writing/ reading and Marching/Concert Band) SO I would love some advice on how to flirt with him (physically/touching him and talking) and I also have one more question. Why is it that when a guy texts/calls you everyday at the same time is a 'sign' that he likes you?? I'm confused/curious about that... Thank you a lot. I have band camp coming up and he says he can't wait to see me! So yeah please help me with flirting advice... I need help!
Ok, considering that he compliments you, you talk everyday and are excited about seeing eachother, it shouldn't be hard to flirt with him. Since he is abit shy, I would start by complimenting him - 'I like your ___ you're wearing today' 'your ___ is sexy' 'I would love to cuddle with you right now', things like that. Physically: touch his leg if you're sitting next to him, walk over and hug him when you catch him looking at you, run your fingers through his hair, hold his hand if you're comfortable with that, offer to give eachother back massages then do it and if he accepts all that I just mentioned, you can then lean in and kiss him.. it's a pleasant surprise for a guy. I personally think cuddling is the best flirtation though (: Ask him if he wants to watch a movie at your place one night or learn to play a new song together - find something you both enjoy and use it as flirting/getting to know eachother more time.
When a guy texts you a lot in general, its usually a sign he likes you. Why? Well, why would a guy want to talk to you so often if he doesn't like you? An if he does it at the same time everyday, that tells me that this guy is making/saving time for you - cuz you're special to him. Everytime you see him, smile and give him a hug. This is a guaranteed way to get you out of the friendzone! :) After a while flirting will just become natural to you. Find out what he likes and you'll be on your way to becoming more than friends. .. (:
So my hair is naturally wavy/frizzy and I was wondering if there are any products I could put in my hair... without blow drying or straightening that would get it to dry straight or smooth?
I got the keratin treatment done but was unhappy that I had to still straighten it.
I have naturally curly hair (super frizzy some days) and what works best for me is NOT shampooing my hair when I wash it and then using a anti-frizz serum or leave in conditioner after I towel dry it. Another tip is instead of 'scrubbing' your hair with the towel to dry, just 'squeeze-dry' your hair. By doing this you prevent your hair folicles from' frizzing' up more than they have to. Hope this helps!
So about a year ago my mom met some dude named Jim. One night I was at my dad's house (divorced parents) and he had trouble breathing so he tried calling my mom but she wouldn't answer. So he just drove us there (because he REALLY needed to go to the hospital) and waited for my mom to answer the door. It took about five mins of knocking and waiting before she answered. She was wearing a bathrobe and she said she was sleeping and her phone was off. There was a pair of Hanes on the floor in the living room. Jim's truck was parked behind my mom's SUV. She made me go to bed and then jim left. Do you think she had sex that night?
I think it is possible that your Mom had sex... but I wouldnt know for sure. I think the real question is: are you concerned that your Mom might have slept with a guy that's not your Dad? If so, you did say your parents are divorced and therefore your Mom is free to see/date whatever guy she likes. Kind of sad, but true. My parents are divorced as well and my Mom currently has a boyfriend. It can be odd to see your Mom with another guy, but it will happen as long as your parents are divorced. Same for your Dad. One day your Dad might meet a woman that he likes and start dating her. What you need to know is that your Mom and Dad made a decision together not to be with eachother so they could both be happy with someone new. That could be happening right now for your Mom or in a week or several years for your Dad. Either way, your parents would want you to know it was for the best. If you feel like it, you could ask your Mom about Jim and see what she says. I think I'd ask her if she likes Jim as a boyfriend and then you would know. You can inbox me if you'd like to talk more.
Hi . I have a cat who is about 3 1/2 years old . She has been an outdoor cat since a young age. On July 24 , 2012 she gave birth to her first litter of kittens. On April 8 , 2013 she gave birth again for the second time. Her abdomen is bulging again and I'm am 99.9% sure she is pregnant. My mother can't afford to bring her to a vet but her babies usually come out perfectly healthy. Her last 2 pregnancies were pretty much normal her nipples were larger and pinker, bulging abdomen , and more lenient around other animals. But this pregnancy seems strange. Everything is normal except her attitude towards her daughter that we kept from the first litter. Lately she has been attacking her own daughter which has never happened before. So I have a few questions.
1.) Is this normal?
2.) Will she stop after the kittens are born?
3.) Is it dangerous to not bring her to the vet?
4.) What can I do if I cant afford a vet?
5.) Should I do something about it?
Thank you for your time (:
Hi there,
My mom is a vet assistant and having several kitties of our own, here's my advice:
1. She probably is attacking her own daughter because she is pregnant and moody/doesnt want to be bugged. When we kept a kitty from a previous litter, my cat did the same thing. So yes this is normal.
2. She will likely stop once her kitties are born and they can take care of themselves. As any mother, she will be protective of her babies.
3. It is not dangerous to not bring her to the vet if she has had successful deliveries in the past. You shouldn't worry unless she looks hurt or gets sick/doesn't eat properly.
4. If you can't afford a vet, you could get an adult friend who has had kittens of their own born before to look at your cat and let you know what he/she thinks so that you will feel better and know what to do.
5. I think at this point, you should just let her be and just make sure she's getting love from you and proper food/water.
By the sounds of it, your cat will likely have another batch of healthy kitties and you will be very happy (: If you have any other questions, feel free to inbox me. All the best to you and your soon-to-be kitties!
Even writing this is hard. I was dating my ex boyfriend for 6 months, for the first 3 months, everything went so well. We were so close, physically and emotionally. We have been split for 3 months now and all I can do is think about him. The reason we split up is because to me, it seemed as though he was getting really bored and I felt as though he lost interest so fast. We used to argue all the time, and I just got fed up, so I ended it. I changed my number and tried to move on, somehow he still crosses my mind, every day I find myself doing things when I'm really busy, and I still think about him. Sometimes, I can cry for hours about him. I am so deeply in love with him, but I know he's no good. He treated me like crap, and the countless arguments bored me. I've currently just got into a relationship, for about 3 weeks now, to one of my long time friendships. He's amazing, he brings out the best in me, he knows how to treat me & I feel a lot for him. I can't decide, the feelings I have for them both... My ex boyfriend sent me a message, telling me how much I meant to him. It made me cry for endless hours. I'm confused, heartbroken, stressed and I just feel like shutting everything out and moving away.
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Hey there, I know how you're feeling. I too dated a guy that seemed right for me, only to end up heartbroken. We were close physically and emotionally as well.. But there tends to be a time when a guys true colors start to show - when you decided to break up with him. You say yourself that you felt as if he lost interest and you argued a lot with eachother; things that are unhealthy in any relationship. You were smart to change your number and try to move on. The only problem left here is your unwillingness to let go of the past...
A while back I dated a guy who I thought was perfect for me. We could talk endlessly, he would make me laugh, we had the same interests and goals, we were best friends. What was once a good friendship eventually turned into dating and then when we realized we were near perfect for eachother, he broke up with me. I'm not telling you this out of pity, but rather for you to learn from the experience. After that day when he broke my heart, I was upset everyday. I cried every day for weeks after and with no contact with him I grew sadder. But then one day I realized he was no good too. He wasted my time and had scarred my heart from the get-go and I had no idea. Your guy was doing the same. He made you fall for him with no intentions of supporting you whatsoever. I'm with a different guy now who is much better for me and so are you. You know it. You can't let go cuz you are caught up in the past. This is unfair to your current boyfriend. The only reason you cried over your ex's text is because he finally realized what he lost and you believe he can change. Hun, it is very rare that a guy will ever change. As the old saying goes: "fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." This means you cannot fall for his 'good' text when you know in your heart, you'll go back to arguing with him. This also means that you shouldn't take your current guy for granted, when you say yourself "he brings out the best in me". If he makes you feel great, why would you settle for less? People get out of relationships for good reasons. Realize that it was a good decision. You will be happier with the guy you're with - trust me. And if you ever have any doubts when it comes to two guys, always remember: If you truly loved the first guy, you wouldn't have fallen for the second.