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which girl should I choose?
Girl 1)
Kinda short
Thick medium length brown hair
Green eyes
Tan Assyrian skin
Nice smile
Wears a lot of makeup
Big boobs - Small butt
Nice curve
Flexible but not fit
Outgoing/Kinda Lazy/Not much talents/Parties/Drinks/Smokes/ Dependent/Sleeps around a lot and gives guys whatever they want
Girl 2)
Regular height
Long brown hair
Brown eyes
Tan Latina skin
Nice smile
Doesn't need much makeup
Average boobs - Big butt
Average flexible but very fit
Sings/Dances/Guitar/Piano/Smart/Skates/Chill/Artist/Independent and strong/Has values
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It really depends what you are looking for. Also you can never judge a book by its cover. Just based on the information you supplied.
If you're just looking for a girl to have a sexual fling. Then girl number 1 is probably the better choice.
If you're looking for a girl to have a long term relationship with, one that could lead to a life mate or a girl you could take home to meet mom. Then girl number two is the better choice.
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A relationship isn't about looks, "Picking" who to be with out of looks is the wrong concept of what a relationship is.
You choose based on who you can see yourself being with. Who has a good personality, Who makes you happy, Who do you have more in common with?
Someone can be attractive and have an absolute shitty personally while someone can be decent looking and have the best personality in the world.
It isn't about what someone looks like. To choose over looks is shallow, It is about the person and who they are.
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I think a lot depends on for what reason you are 'choosing' a girl.
Not saying any reason is wrong, but you need to be sure First of
1. what you are after in a relationship and what type of relationship
2. be honest with yourself and discover what your personal preferences are in looks, character and personality.
Starting with reasons. Some people look for someone cus they just want someone to be social with, someone to go do stuff with, an activity partner basically and this would also cover the 'party type' girls who drink to the point they can't be responsible for any decisions they make and then sleep with any old guy that comes around.
Others may not know entirely what they want yet or do know but are using the dating forum as a way to meet girls and date long enough to learn what they don't like so they can move on to another and hopefully find things they do like. If the things you don't like, outweigh the few things you do like about her, then she's not the right one for you and you're not right for her.
The end goal for the second type of person here is to eventually find someone who can make a long term or life long partner for them. Usually party girl is not in the picture unless she has changed her values over time.
Many men who have finally matured in age and from experience admit to having gone first after the party girl cus she caught their attention easier but in the long run were not happy because they were not considering the personality traits so closely which aren't important when you just want someone to socialize with at parties or for dating or just sex partners. They wanted someone who wasnt so shallow in what was important to them. An example would be a girl more into saving her 'nails' than saving the whalefis. All that matters are her looks and a guy paying attention to her cus most likely she has a low self image and a guy choosing her makes her feel important and special if just for the night, a day or a couple weeks.
It is okay to have a natural preferance for lets say brunettes. I do...and I like men with long hair too. Can't say why, its just appealing but beyond that, its more important to me what their presonality is like, their hopes and dreams, if their beliefs, moral views, values, etc...
So if you are a young guy and not serious yet about finding a girl to fall in love with, with whom you have a best friend relationship and are each others sexual equal, then you look for the gal who is also not serious yet, the party girl. I suppose for you, thats girl number 1.
If you are looking for a meaningful, loving, and wonderfully intimate and sexual relationship long term, then give girl number 2 a try. She may not be the one for a long term relationship for you and you will have to keep searching but number 1 definitely isn't it either.
Whatever you do, be honest with yourself and with the girl you choose to approach. If you dont want to be serious, just want the sex and partying, thats okay, as long as you're up front honest about it. Girls don't tend to ask guys enough questions about his actions or what he says and means and just assume things and that brings on all sorts of problems. But if there is a girl who is independant and has values, has a good self image, and you want her to be a short term party girl for you, then don't pretend or lie to her and say you love her to mislead her.
Some aren't able to see your intent right at the start and you will end up hurting her, others will see that you are barking up the wrong tree so to speak and will turn you down.
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Hi,
Coming from a girls perspective, I would say: if you want a fun, playful, short-term girl - go with Girl 1. And if you would like a smart, down-to-earth, long-term girl - go with the second girl. Remember, I'm just going by how you described them and if I were you, I'd actually call it by their personalities and how much feelings you actually have for each one. Oh yea, an as the saying goes "you wouldn't fall for the second one if you really loved the first one" ;p Hope this helps.
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