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What should i do
Well ive been with this guy for almost 2 years. We broke up about twice so far. The first time i managed to get him back and he told me that he missed me and realized he still loved me. But it was also partly because i gave into him and gave him bj the two times we saw each other while broken up. But its cause i asked him straightforwardly the thirdtime when we were about to do it again. But the three months togwther then was mostly us doing sexual stuff like up to third base and thats it. But we didnt have much time to just bond and talk. Were also a bit long distance seeing eachother only once in a week or two. But this time he broke up with me again giving me a bunch of excuses. His friends even told him that we wouldnt work out which i think possibly influenced his decision. But his friends dont even know me because my parents are strict so i mever got to meet his friends. But well a month of no contact with him then the second the month ended i started talking to him and asking to see each other for closure. But once i saw him it wasnt closure but me asking to get backand being desperate. Then he blew up on me saying we should just let it go now hefore it gets even harder to let go later on and that hes trying to move on. Then i stomped out yelling i just dont get this. Then he texted me a day after explaining that he feels like hes in the relationship for sex. And then from tere we judt argued back and forth because i got hope from that. And on saturday i lashe out on him ecause he asked this girl to prom when he knew i still liked him and i wanted to go to prom with him since junior year. And then he lashed back put on me. And then we argued intensely until thursday. Because on thursday he told me the modt hurtful things like im annoying him that he cribges when e sees my texts and that everything was in the past its over and that he takes back all the hope an consideration he gave me a few days ago when he really thought of possibly geting back together. And that im lucky he hasnt blocked me yet. Well to be honest i feel so hurt but i still want a try but im scared to hear hurtful things. But i want him to be with me again. Idk if i should move on talk to him or what i should even do!!! I honestly want some possible way to slowly get his love for me back again.
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Relationships aren't easy.it hurts to feel like something that once was so perfect could turn so wrong. But somethings cone to an end whether we want them to or not.i think he dies care and part of the problem could be his friends .but if the only thing you guys could be was only physical, that majes any relationship toxic.my advice is to take it slow and be friends. He cares enough to be honest. Go to him and say you want to have a clean state.no drama just be cool and asjs to be friends, if he cares enough then he'll accept your request. Then you guys can get to know each other and maybe find love. If for some reason you can't work it out.then maybe he wasn't meant for you.
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I'm sorry for the delay. I've been sick the past few days, and needed rest before I could give you any helpful advice.
Now, I know this is difficult for you. Breakups are never easy, especially when you care as much as you do about them. But I'm sorry to say that he doesn't seem to show any interest in getting back together.
You said that he told you he cringes when he sees you. I don't think that's because he hates you or you disgust him; I think he said that because either it's emotionally painful to see you or it's easier to tell you that than the truth.
It seems to me like he feels like he was using you for sex, and feels bad about it. Unfortunately, he doesn't seem to be interested in a serious relationship with you, and he doesn't want to just use you for sex because he respects you.
I think it would be a better use of energy to focus on trying to move on without him. You can be a strong, independent person. Someone somewhere would love to be with you, so give your time and energy to those who deserve it.
I genuinely hope you start to feel better about this and move on without him.
Best of luck,
~Panda
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You already said you don't want this answer, but it's the only one. Move on. This guy is over you. You need to accept that as FACT, even though it is hard. He does not KIND OF SOMETIMES want you, he DOES NOT want a relationship.
Even if he DID want it, relationships like this just DON'T last. I'm sorry to say it, but it's the truth. You guys are incredibly young, and you're not the people you will be in a few years, whether you believe that to be true or not. If you are already at odds with one another, it will only get worse over time. He even admitted that he was only in the relationship for sex, why do you still want to be with him?
You need to have the self confidence to realize that you deserve better than that, everyone does. A relationship should never be only about sex, especially when it is not that way for both people. If you truly still love him, let him move on. But more importantly, LOVE YOURSELF enough to let YOU move on. Trust me, you will realize you are better off without that kind of drama.
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Move on. He is toxic and using you. You cannot get his love back because it was never there. This is not someone you want anything to do with. You deserve so much better. Get him out of your life and be glad he is gone.
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Hi, as soon as you say that you broke up several times and that when you got back together it was mostly physical, it leaves me with a bitter taste. This means that you guys have basically been walking on eggshells since the beggining and that is not healthy in any relationship. First things first, you should NeVer go back to a guy and act desperate for a relationship because it Never Works! If he even said he's in it for sex, you're not going to be in a relationship with him ever, you're just going to be his sex toy. I think he went with the other girl to prom because he's trying to find closure for himself. Not to hurt you, but to remember prom with someone else, so if you two never get back together again, he won't always think of you and be sad about it.
I personally think you should move on, as hard as you may find it. I dated a guy for almost a year and became very attached too, but in the end I realized that it was never going to get better. A guy is always going to be the same way for the next 5-10 years. This means, if he has a habit of calling you names and using you for sex, it is not going to go away anytime soon. My ex still chooses alcohol over me and still says hurtful things when the opportunity presents itself, instead of talking it over first. If this guy doesn't want to communicate positively with you, trust me you are better off not getting hurt over and over and over again.. Even if you're hurt, you should both take some time off from eachother. Stop talking to him for a week, then two weeks then on the third week when he has cooled off, you could ask him if he wants to hang out AS FRIENDS and only friends. Whatever you do, don't be desperate and get sucked into his sex game because that gets you nowhere into dating him. It gets you in his pants and not his heart. You must take time off or you two will never cool down and talk reasonably. An once you do talk after those weeks of not talking, just try to be friends with eachother - no sex. Friends with benifits NEVER work out the way you want and once you're friends again, it can be easy to date again IF you feel the relationship actually enhances your life and doesn't take away from your happiness... because happiness is the key to any relationship.
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Two words move on!!! He told you he wants to move on. But you keep pushing him. And frankly annoying him. He movedon. There is nothing to try for. If you continue to try you will be the crazy ex gf. Its time to forget him. Seriously. Stop.
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Sweety, you need to leave this boy in the past and move on. You don't need him or the negativity he is putting on you. Breaking up is hard especially when you don't have a good closure. The best thing to do is do for yourself. Take this opportunity to go out and enjoy life to the fullest. Take a roadtrip, go shopping, whatever!! It's all about you now. :) I know this is hard, considering everything you've done together in the past but it's time to move on and take time for yourself. I hope this helped.
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