Hi my name is Kayla aka musicmaniac94. I love helping people and giving them advice. If you need any advice on anything, I'm willing to help. I don't have the perfect life and I'm far from it too. I know how it is in relationships, family, friends, and other situations as well. I've been through a good bit of them. I hope i can help everyone with whatever they need. thanks :)
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Age: 17
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My friend found a baby kitten at her work and I ended up taking it because she couldn't. It looks about no more than 2 weeks. It can bearly hold its head up and shakes when it walks, its eyes are fully open and it fits in the palm of your hand. I have a bottle for it and it takes a few drinks then pushes away. How do you know how much to feed it? Do you know exactly how old it i? Do you know what I need to do for a kitten this young? Please help!!! (link)
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It sounds like the kitten is quite young, just as you mentioned. The kitten will push away if it isn\'t hungry anymore so it\'s okay if she pushes the bottle away. Also, you may want to try and keep the kitten on a schedule of when you are going to feed it. I\'d say feed it about 3-4 times a day (kittens are quite hungry little creatures). If you feel like you can manage to take care of the kitten then keep up the great work. If not, I don\'t know if you\'d want to take it to a shelter but you could always put ads up about the kitten. I hope this helped.
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Well ive been with this guy for almost 2 years. We broke up about twice so far. The first time i managed to get him back and he told me that he missed me and realized he still loved me. But it was also partly because i gave into him and gave him bj the two times we saw each other while broken up. But its cause i asked him straightforwardly the thirdtime when we were about to do it again. But the three months togwther then was mostly us doing sexual stuff like up to third base and thats it. But we didnt have much time to just bond and talk. Were also a bit long distance seeing eachother only once in a week or two. But this time he broke up with me again giving me a bunch of excuses. His friends even told him that we wouldnt work out which i think possibly influenced his decision. But his friends dont even know me because my parents are strict so i mever got to meet his friends. But well a month of no contact with him then the second the month ended i started talking to him and asking to see each other for closure. But once i saw him it wasnt closure but me asking to get backand being desperate. Then he blew up on me saying we should just let it go now hefore it gets even harder to let go later on and that hes trying to move on. Then i stomped out yelling i just dont get this. Then he texted me a day after explaining that he feels like hes in the relationship for sex. And then from tere we judt argued back and forth because i got hope from that. And on saturday i lashe out on him ecause he asked this girl to prom when he knew i still liked him and i wanted to go to prom with him since junior year. And then he lashed back put on me. And then we argued intensely until thursday. Because on thursday he told me the modt hurtful things like im annoying him that he cribges when e sees my texts and that everything was in the past its over and that he takes back all the hope an consideration he gave me a few days ago when he really thought of possibly geting back together. And that im lucky he hasnt blocked me yet. Well to be honest i feel so hurt but i still want a try but im scared to hear hurtful things. But i want him to be with me again. Idk if i should move on talk to him or what i should even do!!! I honestly want some possible way to slowly get his love for me back again. (link)
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Sweety, you need to leave this boy in the past and move on. You don\'t need him or the negativity he is putting on you. Breaking up is hard especially when you don\'t have a good closure. The best thing to do is do for yourself. Take this opportunity to go out and enjoy life to the fullest. Take a roadtrip, go shopping, whatever!! It\'s all about you now. :) I know this is hard, considering everything you\'ve done together in the past but it\'s time to move on and take time for yourself. I hope this helped.
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So, I'm a 14 year old girl and I honestly can't cope with the way my parents tell me to live, I feel like I am trapped in my home and I can't do anything!
They have these rules that I cannot go on my iPad/phone until 8pm every night, even at weekends I'm not aloud to use them. They say I'm to antisocial and I need to get out more, I go almost everywhere with them! I do go to town with friends aswell. They won't let me out of my town, I live in Barnstaple, devon and I'm not even aloud to Exeter or Bristol to go on a shopping trip with friends which is only about 2 hours away. Also I'm not aloud to be friends with a few people I know, one of them because there is a rumour going around that her mum is a prostitute and the other one who is my best friend and I still hang out with her secretly because she said something rude on Facebook like 2 years ago! It annoys me how I can't be friends with who I want to be friends with. My parents won't let me go out after school and I always have to be back home at 4pm if I go anywhere, which means I can't go out in the evening or at night and have a laugh :(
They also won't let me use social networks other than Facebook and Twitter, I want to be able to use snapchat, Instagram and tumblr but I'm not aloud to have it on my phone, another thing is that my dad still reads my texts and my messages with friends online!!! I'm 14 and I literally have no privacy! It's really annoying I want to just tell him "no, I won't give you my phone" or just not tell him the lock to my phone but he always makes me! :(
This is really annoying me now how I feel like I am stuck with nothing to do and no privacy at all :(
Anyone know what I could do? (link)
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In my opinion, that is going a bit to far. I understand they want to keep you safe from \"bad\" people and safe from possible \"dangerous\" situations but this is an issue of invading your privacy. It almost sounds like they don\'t trust you which isn\'t fair to you. Also, not allowing you to hang out with friends but tell you to get out more is a hypocritical statement. The best advice I could give you is try and do your absolute best to talk to them about how they can trust you and how it isn\'t fair that they invade your privacy in such a manner. I hope this helped.
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Today I was taking my dog out for a walk and this other dog came out of no where from behind us. My dog turned around and lunged at her and did this teeth snapping thing twice. Eventually the owner came and got their dog while I was pulling to get my dog away from the other dog. I had to pick my dog up and walk away (She's big and heavy.) I just want to know what it means. She snapped twice at the air, and the poor dog that came from behind looked like she was really excited to see my dog. (link)
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It sounds like a territorial thing. Your dog probably felt the presence of another dog was alarming and she wanted to stand her ground and "protect" you. That's what it sounds like to me.
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About 6 weeks ago, my best guy friend invited me over to his house. He started off giving me a massage and things went farther from there. All he did was finger me. He didn't know, but it was my first time ever being fingered. Due to the fact that he didn't know that it was my first time he went really fast, it didn't hurt though. it actually felt really good. I don't use tampons, i've never had sex, I don't ride horses, and I don't play sports. so why didn't it hurt?
Also, ever since that night things have gotten a little more serious between us, we're not dating but we talk more now and he wants to do it again, my question is if I do do it again and things go even farther and I end up having sex with him will it hurt for me since him fingering me didn't? does sex feel the same as getting fingered? Did your first time having sex hurt? and if it did what EXACTLY did it feel like? I'm asking because I really like this guy and I want to have this connection with him but I am scared of the pain that i've heard comes along with losing your virginity.. (link)
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Some girls bodies are different than others. Also, his finger isn't the size of a penis. Yes, I'm not going to sugar coat this. When you have sex though, you will feel some pain but it's not anything to be scared about. When you have sex, your muscles on the inside of your vagina are going to stretch because of course you have something larger going in and stretching them. Also, if you bleed a little, don't be scared. Some girls have a thing in them called a hymen. When a guy inserts his penis in your vagina, he will break this hymen which again, isn't anything to be scared of. It just means you've lost your virginity.
But I want you to be careful about this...it sounds like he wants to have sex with you more than know you as a friend or potentially a life time partner. If this is all he wants to do with you, I would avoid doing any sexual activity (for starters, you're not dating).
I hope this helped.
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Okay. I'm a freshman,
Female.
And I run cross country and may run track.
My classes are :
Theater, Spanish 2, physical science, English, introduction to visual arts, enriched geometry, & American history.
Can you give me some advice,
Personal stories, relationship advice, experiences to not miss out on , and some standard school tips.
PLEASE AND THANK YOU :) (link)
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Wow, I remember my first year in high school. I was so nervous because I was "freshmeat" and I didn't really have many friends. But here I am a senior in high school. The best thing I can tell you is make every moment count. The memories you create, you will never be able to replicate again. Enjoy yourself. For relationships, I'd say don't rush into them. My boyfriend found me...or we both found each other. Watch out though because being a freshman in in high school, some people might take advantage of you...it happens but you have to avoid those people at all costs. Join certain clubs or societies. Find clubs that interest you and join them. You'd be amazed to find people who share the same interest as you. Some school tips would be, do your homework. I know it sounds stupid but everything you do in high school counts towards college. Do your best in everything you do. You'll be amazed with the ending results.
A final quote that I want to share with you that I believe will help you when things get tough (which they will sometimes) is this:
"When you feel like giving up, remember why you held on for so long in the first place."
Have fun and enjoy those last 4 years!! :)
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okay, so i am 15/f and i really want to ask this guy out. he is my age and we are practically best friends, i have put my head on his shoulder and have held hands with him at a ballgame and we talk all the time. i really like him, and i am almost positive he likes me, but i have always initiated things. should i wait for him to ask me out? or should i go ahead and do it? i dont want a relationship where i have to hold his hand through though. If i should ask him out than how, his birthday is on wednesday - should i suggest something for then?
thanks for any advice (link)
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It sounds like you two are really close. The best thing about relationships is the best friend perspective...at least that's how I look at it. If you feel like he's the one and your heart isn't just playing games with you, then I'd tell him how you feel.
When my boyfriend told me that he liked me more than a friend I was overjoyed because i liked him the same way. but I wasn't ready to be in a relationship. The wonderful thing is he told me he'd give me all the time in the world. I felt bad but I made him wait a whole month until I was ready and here we are 16 going on 17 months later.
the reason why I am telling you that is because just in case he really likes you but he's not ready to be in a relationship, give him time and let him know you will wait. Not only will you be relieved to know he likes you but he will feel so much better knowing you are not going to rush him in to anything.
Also for birthday idea, you don't have to give anything materialistic but you this could be the chance to tell him you like him more than a friend. But a cool idea would be, go do something you both would enjoy. my boyfriend took me out to eat and then we watched a movie for my birthday. it may not seem like much but you'd be surprised just how wonderful it makes you and your other feel.
good Luck!
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im 9 years old and im a girl i have a boyfriend and i dont know if i should tell my parents if you think i should how? (link)
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Sweetie, being 9 years old and having a boyfriend is very young. If that's what makes you happy then that's very good. But maybe you should introduce him to your parents as in what the other advice giver said.
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So my boyfriend and I had sex with a condom and I know I shouldnt worry of any pregnancy but I am still scared I could be ? Should I worry?? (link)
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I know this isn't my place but I'm here to help.
I don't know how old you are but you sound young (sorry if I'm wrong), but you need to be careful. Having sex with a condom may be safe but they can break too. are you on any birth control? If so then, having safe sex with a condom and birth control is okay to a point. If you are scared about getting pregnant even when you are using a condom, maybe you shouldn't have sex until you are really ready.
Hope this helps. :)
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I did snakebites.on my self a lil while ago. And I just noticed they were slightly crooked. I don't know what to do. I pierced a. thicker part on my lip on the right side, and a thinner part on the left. Any advice on what I can do? And I always get this crust around the ball on my stud, I don't know what it is, but when I clean it off. It always comes back. What can I do to help with that also? And any tips on healing them quicker? Thanks x3 (link)
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Cool snakebites! I don't have any snakebite piercing but I have my cartilage pierced. My ear would get crusty stuff behind the hole and in front. I believe it has to do with an infection. but don't worry, mine went away when I went from a loop to a stud. I would maybe check to see if you are allergic to the material the piercing is made of. for the crookedness issue, I would consult someone who knows how to do that stuff, like whoever you got your piercing through. I'm sure they will know what to do for you and they might know what to do for the crusty stuff around the ball.
As in trying to heal them quicker, I'd keep cleaning them as often as you can.
Hope this helps. :)
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Hi, I'll try to make this as short as possible and get right to the point. My boyfriend and I have been dating for six months and we're completely in love with each other. He has a lot of friends that are girls, which is not a problem of course since we trust each other. But, lately, this girl has been really attached to my boyfriend. She keeps leaving him comments on his facebook that are paragraphs saying she loves him, he's her "bestie" and is always there for her, etc. The thing is that I've only met her twice and I'm always with my man since we live together, so when did she suddenly become best friends with him?
That's not what has me jealous, though. A few days ago my boyfriend told me that this girl wants to use him to make her estranged husband jealous. She's been tagging my bf in posts, saying she's at his house "as usual" and that my bf is giving her money and they're getting matching tattoos. We have a lot of mutual friends, so I have a lot of friends hitting me up asking me if my man is cheating with this girl. i think it's immature no matter who the man she's using for it is. I mean, come on, she's in her thirties and she's using Facebook to make her husband jealous?! Ugh. So my bf asks me two nights ago if it's okay for her to write his name on her ring finger with hearts, and for him to do the same on his ring finger with her name. Then they want to take a pic of it, post it on Facebook, and make her husband think they're tattoos. I said I didn't want him to do it, it's stupid and disrespectful to me as his girlfriend. I'm being humiliated with y friends thinking he's sleeping with her. Of course, though, i look like the big bad bitch for saying no. My bf said that I can't take a joke.
Sooo my question is.. Am i right to be jealous over this? I mean it may not seem like a big deal but I'm a laughingstock to my friends right now who think he's cheating on me with her. When i'm not with him and she puts up statuses saying that she's laying in bed with my boyfriend I can't help freaking out thinking is it true? I think she's being very disrespectful to me as his girlfriend, but am i right to think that? Should I confront this girl? She's very pretty, which also puts me on edge due to my own insecurities, bu she's also very obnoxious and cocky. She thinks she's the hottest thing on earth. I just don't know what to do! My bf says he doesn't like me getting jealous but i never get jealous over his friends.. It was only when this girl started texting/calling constantly, leaving those facebook messages (she constantly refers to him as baby and says i love you.. my family sees that), and now this STUPID ring thing. Am i right to be upset, or am I overreacting? (link)
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Your boyfriend and his "friend" have a lot of growing up to do. If he really loved you, he wouldn't be doing this to you. You have every right to be upset. You need to tell him how you feel about this. He's your man and your "property"( I'm using that lightly) and this "friend" should keep her boundaries. It sounds like she wants your boyfriend and will do whatever it takes to get him. She needs to grow up and deal with her problems like a grown woman and keep your boyfriend out of them. You need to let him know how you feel about this situation and if he can't respect your feelings and how this impacts you, then sweetie, he needs to go. I'm sorry if that seems cruel but why should you put yourself through so much pain? i hope this helps.
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Hi i'm a female in my teens. when i am in a happy place, and i wouldn't change that happy moment for the world, i tell myself that nothing could ruin that moment. then, since i am telling my mind that i dont want to ruin it, it's like reverse psychology. my mind starts to think of a way to ruin that moment. so, it results in me saying wishes and curses in my head, but it's not my fault. it is the OPPOSITE of what i want to happen. and then i get lethargic and depressed because i dont mean what i am saying and then i spend every waking minute praying that these wishes and curses dont come true. other times, i convince myself that things are real and true, when they're not and they're just in my mind. as soon as i get words or a picture in my mind, it controls my thoughts and never escapes my thinking. so, the bottom line is, my mind plays tricks on me, by manipulating my thoughts and turning them into something i dont want to happen.it's a very hard concept to explain, and i hope that someone understands what i am saying. i don't know what to do. at first, it wasn't that bad. but its gotten worse to the point where my mind is always somewhere else, because i can't get my mind off of it. and i think im a bad person, because of all the horrible things in my head. what should i do? is there no hope to my serious problem? is there something wrong with me?has anyone else ever been through this, or is it just me? should i be concerned or am i paranoid? if anyone answers this question, i really appreciate it, thank you (link)
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You know, I was sort of in the same shoes as you. I would have good thoughts in my head and then they get overcome by bad thoughts. I believe some of it comes from anxiety, at least that's what mine was. I've learned to control these thoughts. One thing that really worked was, I need to sometimes just stop thinking. I need to clear my mind out. Music was a major help because all I had in my head was my favorite music. Another great thing is consult a best friend. Friends are here to help in anyway possible. Maybe by consulting a friend, they will help you overcome your thoughts. Don't give up. it happens to everyone, especially when they are alone to long and let thoughts go through there mind like crazy...it happens to me.
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hi so i have been dating this guy for 9 months now but i only told my parents bout it 2 months ago ... n by now we have had sex already and are completely in luv .. n in 15 days we r going to uni in a different uni n hence we talk a lot on phone n text a lot but my mom keeps getting pissed bout it .. she is like m a horrible daughter n do nothing in my life n is concerned if i will study in uni or kee texting like i do here .. n i wont .. its jsut that he is leaving .. doesnt she get that ... could u pls suggest wat can i do in a situation like this .. when someone i luv madly is leaving ,... n my mom thinks we r chatting or texting or talking too much. (link)
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Parents tend to be that way. If you are happy with this relationship, then your parents need to accept that. Your happiness should be important to them. I don't know your parents but hear me out. :)
I have a boyfriend and we've been going out for 16 going on 17 months. My mom complains that I text him too much but I told my mom that, he's my best friend and I love talking to my best friend every chance i can. I don't know if that will help, but you could elaborate on that.
I know how it feels when someone you love is leaving. My boyfriend left on a trip with his family and we text and talked a lot. Yes my mom was a little upset by this but I had to remind her that I love him and just want to know how he is.
Just try and explain to your parents about this relationship of yours and why talking to him so much means a lot to you.
I hope this helped.
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My girlfriend is currently on her one month trip.. She left June 22 and I will see her July 24..
She spent a couple of weeks with family on her trip and the rest of the trip is with her old friend who she had to move away from. Soon she will be back.. But lately I feel like I am going crazy, before she got to her friends house she seemed fine, she made time to talk to me and she texted me normally and seemed happy and seemed to want to talk to me.
Now it has been a week since she got to her friends house and I feel like I'm losing her.. She is always partying or something and she doesn't make time to talk to me and if i was in her position I would try to talk to her and she hardly texts me.. but I noticed on her twitter she started to text her guy friend that lives here where we live and she doesn't even seem to see my tweets about her or like today I posted on her wall that I love her.. she never seemed to notice and I barely ever do that but I just noticed that. We have been together for 3 months. I told her how I felt and that I felt more friends with her cause of how she treats me and the other night we took a break, well space from eachother and she said she wouldn't do anything with any guys so I believe her but I just feel like I am falling apart and I don't know what to do..
I felt this way before with another girl where i felt i was going insane. I never figured out how to get over it. I have been cheated on before and I think that has caused part of it. I'm not sure what to do to make it these next 10 days from ruining my relationship and i have cried alot lately and I don't normally do that. Any help is appreciated and this isn't the full story cause that would take forever to type out but thank you for help (link)
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Okay, so I can understand not answering a text because of being busy...but for this situation, something's up. It's not right for her to be brushing you off like this. You need to find know if she still has feelings for you. You also need to remind her that you're still her boyfriend and don't appreciate being pushed a side. If she keeps making you feel like this, the best thing to do is to find someone else instead of hurting yourself like this.
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I try to run away from hard problems by completely avoiding them, making them even worse. I don't know why I have this low self confidence when I know I'm able to do things great when I put my mind to it. How do I get out of this funk? It's seriously causing major trouble to my life right now. It's just easier to put things off and procrastinate. I have dreams I want to reach but it's like.. I don't bridge that gap. Like right now I'm supposed to be applying for college (one that's still accepting people for the fall 2012 school year) and my application is due in 1 week, but I'm putting off this very important thing in my life for no good reason. it's the reason why i'm even applying so late. why i didn't do well in high school for my senior year. this entire year has just been total hell, and i think it's mainly my fault, and don't know how to fix things. i don't have any close friends irl so i try to make up for feeling lonely and etc by keeping my mind busy on other things, at the expense of my schoolwork and everything. but this is not the right course to take for my future. it's not the right course to take if i want to go after my dreams. so why do i keep sabotaging myself? i went to a therapist a month ago and while it was nice to be able to talk to someone about personal things, i still feel the same, unfortunately. why am i keep causing this pain to myself when i know I can write a really good essay? it's like, i'm so afraid to even start taking the essay seriously. i'm still at the beginning stages and it's been this way for the past month. it's pathetic. why do i keep doing this and how do i stop
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As we mature, our body and mind mature too. Our brain is the root cause of everything that we feel, emotionally and physically. You know, I'm a senior in high school and I still don't know what I want to do. I also have fears in me. Like what if I can't get the career I always dreamed of having and what if I don't get accepted by this college and etc. Take things one at a time. Don't over-stress over things. What happens is when your brain comes across something as important as what you are doing, it makes you feel all these emotions from excitement to fear. The best advice I can give you for this essay and when you do other things in life is to take a few deep breaths and clear your mind. when you have a clear mind, you can start the task at hand. This fear you are having sounds a lot like anxiety. Being anxious yet your body gets these uncomfortable feelings like the fear you are having. Just remember: take a few deep breaths and clear your mind. If you can't relax like that, try listening to some soft music. Music always helps me feel better. If you set your mind to it, you will achieve it. Here's a quote that I just love, "when you feel like giving up, remember why you held on for so long in the first place." Stay Strong.
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Hi my name is Haley im 13 and im from Georgia I like this guy and ive liked for going on 2 years and idk how to ask him if he likes me i know its not the proper/right way to make the 1st move but it seems like ill have to does anyone have any suggestions..? (link)
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Hi Haley,
I know this feeling, but maybe the best thing to do is get to know him a little more. Although, 13 is a young age to want to date someone. Anyways, Hang out or do something together. I wouldn't tell him at first that you really like him...but if you do, ask him if he likes you the same. If not, don't be upset. It's a big world and there's probably someone very special waiting for you somewhere. But if he does, start out as friends and work your way up to "more than friends". Reminder: Don't rush into things. Being in a relationship takes a lot of time and work between two people.
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SORRY THIS IS LONG IN ADVANCE . Okay so I am a 14 year old girl & am going to the 9th grade . For most of my life I have these moments when I wake up and just am in a bad mood for absolutely no reason . I am no longer cutting & my friends are helping me with my drinking & drug problem . I know you're probably thinking what is a 14 year old doing that stuff for . Well to tell you the turth i do it to escape the real problem . I have a great boyfriend who supports me 100% & a lot of friends that to as well . I can go from laughing & havimg fun to a dark place where i just get a blank look on my face & anger , sadness,& hate just take over & i have no reason as to why , but i'd really like to get better for my friends & myself . When I tell my parents about it they just say that im acting . they know that i have cut before but i nnever went to therapy to talk to anyone about . & as much as i hate talking about my feelings i even asked them to send me to one so that i could get help . they fight all the time & take it out on me which make me grab the ciroc & the vodka & the knife . Please help me . (link)
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For a 14 year old girl, that's a lot to take in. I'm 17 and I know how hard high school gets to be. Drinking, smoking, and cutting yourself is not going to solve your problems. If anything, it's going to encourage them. I too have times where I can be fun and wonderful to be around and then there's these moments where I wake up and I don't feel like that girl anymore. It has to do a lot with maturing. Our bodies do weird things and our brain makes us feel things that we don't want to feel. I know how it is when parents fight, my do a lot. But you know how I escape it? Sometimes, I'll listen to music...it's always my best escape. I like to drown myself in beautiful music. And for the therapist thing, the best therapist is your best friend. I know it may be hard to tell your best friend, or even your boyfriend, about how you feel and what's going on but your friends are there to support you and be there for you and to listen to you. they won't judge you but they rather they will help you. Don't let life's obstacles get in the way. And don't take it out on your body by drinking, smoking, and cutting yourself. A quote I live by every day and I hope it helps you is this, "When you feel like giving up, remember why you held on for so long in the first place." Stay strong.
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