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parents dont understand bout my rela with my bf
hi so i have been dating this guy for 9 months now but i only told my parents bout it 2 months ago ... n by now we have had sex already and are completely in luv .. n in 15 days we r going to uni in a different uni n hence we talk a lot on phone n text a lot but my mom keeps getting pissed bout it .. she is like m a horrible daughter n do nothing in my life n is concerned if i will study in uni or kee texting like i do here .. n i wont .. its jsut that he is leaving .. doesnt she get that ... could u pls suggest wat can i do in a situation like this .. when someone i luv madly is leaving ,... n my mom thinks we r chatting or texting or talking too much.
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Parents tend to be that way. If you are happy with this relationship, then your parents need to accept that. Your happiness should be important to them. I don't know your parents but hear me out. :)
I have a boyfriend and we've been going out for 16 going on 17 months. My mom complains that I text him too much but I told my mom that, he's my best friend and I love talking to my best friend every chance i can. I don't know if that will help, but you could elaborate on that.
I know how it feels when someone you love is leaving. My boyfriend left on a trip with his family and we text and talked a lot. Yes my mom was a little upset by this but I had to remind her that I love him and just want to know how he is.
Just try and explain to your parents about this relationship of yours and why talking to him so much means a lot to you.
I hope this helped.
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Your mom does understand, she is probably just scared. She cares about you and wants to protect you and your situation with this guy makes her uncomfortable. Probably the main issue here is that she thinks you've only been with him for 2 months. After 2 months, you shouldn't be talking that much or be so madly in love with him as you are because it's actually been 9 months. Parents also have a hard time understanding texting and having so much communication with a boyfriend. Back when they were your age, boyfriends and girlfriends weren't so connected and didn't talk as much. Nobody had a cell phone and relationships went much slower. I had a huge falling out with my family over my boyfriend, who I am now married to. It got really bad and I didn't talk to them for years. It's been a long time now and things are still not back to normal. My relationship with my family has been damaged. Maybe they're being unreasonable and maybe they should be more supportive of you, but they're family. Years from now, you're not going to want a damaged relationship with them like I have. Try to avoid this at all costs. Family is important. What you need to do is be honest with your mom. Tell her that you've been with him for 9 months. She may get upset about it because you lied, but if you forbid yourself to yell or say nasty things to her and have a calm, adult conversation, things may go better than you think. If she starts to yell or make nasty comments, don't do it back. Be the adult. I didn't do that, I left them and I didn't look back and I know now that this was a mistake as I'm trying to rebuild the relationship I had with them. If you can show her that you're being an adult about this and own up to her that you've been with him for longer and that you've developed stronger feelings, that you have had sex with him, she may understand a little better. As long as you approach the conversation in a very calm, non-accusing way with no crying, nastiness, or saying that she doesn't understand, and as long as you keep it there, it could go well and you'll be in a better place than you are now. Just be totally honest and open, tell her how you feel about him and about what she's doing. Apologize for lying! Good luck!
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