Hi. My name is Farrah, I am 13 years old and this is me. I love to crochet, read, listen to One Direction, help others, and other things, but I am chasing my dream of becoming a famous pop successful singer. One of my inspirations are Katy Perry and many more. I am young, but I am not too young to realize that a dream is wanted to come true! And I am still wishing and hoping it comes true. I am a nice girl, the shy type, generous, etc. You can talk to me so don't think you can't! I will try to help you the best way I can and you can help me answer my questions! Even though I may not know many of you, I will be your friend! :)
Gender: Female
Location: Richmond,VA
Occupation: chasing my dream of being a singer! :)
Age: 13
Member Since: July 21, 2012
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okay. so me and my best friend are both bi. The last time we had a sleepover we ended up making out and feeling eachother up, I loved it, but the thing is is that that night she said, okay, never again. but then the next morning we were making out even more. I just want to know is what can I do/sat to get her to want to do it again. ps I DO NOT JUst like her for her body, i like her 1. because shes nice and funny and 2. shes one of the only lesbians I know.
we are both 14 but VERY mature for our age. Please answer soon as our sleepover will be in 1 or 2 days. Thank you for taking your time and reading this. other info if it helps- we are both white, petite, GIRLS :), im bi I think shes either bi or lesbian because she has a boyfriend. (link)
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I would say talk to her about it. Tell her that you two are both best friends and you want to keep her friendship. Talk to her, that's your best friend!you shoukd be able to tell her everything. Tell her how you feel! :) And maybe you two fan work something out! :)
~Farrah:)
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My Dad is dealing with clinical depression and we happen to live in a government funded low income neighbourhood. We just happen to live around drug-dealing, low-class and uncivil people.
Anyways, the kids in this neighbourhood are extremely rude and disrespectful. They have added numerous dents and scratches onto my Dad's car and are extremely rude to him.
For example, whenever they see my Dad walking outside, they will all stop and stare at him. Another time, my Dad told me they were standing near our backyard and staring at them and he asked them what their problem was and one of the kids was like "Who do you think you're dealing with? What the hell is wrong with you fucking Paki's, don't mess with us black people."
I've had neighbouring kids run to our front yard and rip out all our roses. I spoke to their mother about it, and she yelled at them a little but she didn't really care as she went around to other neighbour's and starting talking about my Dad (I know because one of my neighbours told my Dad that this woman approached him talking about my Dad negatively).
Anyways, how should I deal with this situation? The parents are about as ignorant and disrespectful as the kids. My Dad approached one mother and told her about her kids playing in the parking lot and hitting my Dad's car and she just gave him attitude and asked him "What are you going to do about it?"
We have a superintendent in our area but he is friends with all of them and he doesn't like my Dad either. So he won't be much help. (link)
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First off Iwant to say I am so sorry you have to deal with those stupid people. You and your dad deserve to live somewhere peaceful. I would say report them to your landlord, that and tell the police. You and your dad arent really safe living around there. It is disrespctful and they have no manners or respect for you or their dad. I hope that you won't have to live there anymore around those fools. You clearly deserve better.
~Farrah :)
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My boyfriend promest me that he will engage to me a romantic engagement on the weekend of his 16th birthday and our plan is to get married on my 19th birthday. . . We both 15 now and he's birthday is in november which I think is a good time to think about it through. I love him, we never fight and we've been together for 3 years now and I don't mind at all spending the rest of my life with him! Do you think I'm doing the right thing? Even that I'm pregnant with his child and we planning on keeping it and every night. He tells me to tell little one that daddy loves him so so so much. . . I just thought I'd give that little detail aswell :) so do you think I'm doing the right thing?
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I can't imagine how happy you are. I am only 13 years old, and I can just see you being with him for the rest of your life! I may be 13, but I know what Love is. And you two have love. I think that it is so sweet and romantic to have him propose to you! You should get married and raise your soon-to-be baby with him. You would have a happy relationship! :)
~Farrah :)
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um hi, im new here, so hello every1! well im in a bit of a mess as iv started post traumatic stress disorder therapy just recently as i witnessed my elderly dad beaten to death + i cudnt stop it. im 33 with 2 children. i have been with a guy for just over 15 months. hes almost 38 with no kids and lives with his mum. he keeps saying he lives with me but he leaves everyday to go c his mum, she is well and only 61. im also bipolar and told him frm the start that life can b a little difficult with me. i was honest frm day 1. he told me im his miss rite etc, but he takes his stuff at least once a wk. i told him that if he left again +took all his stuff there wud b no coming back. well i had therapy yesday+ was in a bad way + this morning he packed his stuff+ sed he loves me but he cant do this anymore. im in a mess+ dont kno wat 2 do. do i ignore him + not contact him? pls giv me sum advice. thank you x
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I am so sorry. I can't imagine how horrible that is. I am so sorry. I will pray for you. You have to many things on your mind right now. I am only 13 years old, and I know you won't take this to heart, but he will be back. Men don't know what they want. Ignore him for a while and don't worry about it. He will be back. All men do that. You should be worrying about getting better. If he is not helping you or supporting you, why worry about him?! I don't think you should be with him if he can't take of your kids, take care of you, or be there to help you.
~Farrah:)
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Hi, 19/f
I know you guys aren't doctors or anything- I just wanna know if anyone has went through this before and what not.
Anyways, I'm sexually active. I'm not pregnant-know that for a fact.
Last year- I went to the ER for stomach cramps. It wasn't like 'period' cramps it felt like someone was twisting my insides up and squeezing them- the doctors took a pregnancy test-negative- and gave me some pain relievers- said they had NO idea what was wrong. Took a cat scan- and nothing. The doctor told me that what I was feeling was 50x worse than a woman have contractions & giving labor with no medication.
Well, that lasted about a week. Worst pain I've ever been in. I took some Prevacid and suddenly it went away. (So I'm guessing, it might have been acid reflux, & gas)
Well, for the past 4 months everytime I go to bed, I feel like I'm going to throw up, but I never do- Sunday night, while I was laying down, I started having similar stomach cramps as a year ago.
I woke up every hour to poop (it was diarrhea);; went to work && the pain got worse from there.
All day yesterday, I diarrhea'd every 30 minutes-1 hour and had constant stomach cramps.
I took a pregnancy test- and it came back negative.
Now today, my stomach is still uneasy- I'm still diarrhea maybe every hour and a half- two hours. My butthole itches & burns while I'm pooping and after. So i'm thinking it might be raw? Or is there something wrong in that area too??
Any idea whats going on? I took another prevacid- and nothing; and I took something for gas- and nothing.
My normal bowel movements are usually 2 a day.
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I don't know what is going on. The ER was the worst place to go to,I will say. And another thing I don't think this is a site you should be askinv that question. It is too personal. You need to see a doctor or get treatment. Something has to be wrong! :)
~Farrah :)
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Hey, 17/f
Basically I have a bit of a problem with talking to the opposite sex. You see, a relationship two years ago (over in 5 months) only came about because I talked to a guy, and he took it as me leading him on abit.
So now, I cant really have a conversation in class with any guy because I'm worried they'll think I fancy them. So basically in class I ignore the guys and talk to the girls. However, this cant continue as I'll be in a v.male class next year and they'll think I'm odd.
So How do you talk to guys without them thinking you fancy them?!
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I know what you are going through. First off, try not to talk to them in a flirty type of tone. Talk to them in a friendly manner. Second, to make them think that you are not interested in them, introduce yourself like say your name and then give them a hand shake if you please. Lastly, tell them that it was a pleasure to meet them and smile and walk away! That will help you! :)
~Farrah :)
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My girlfriend wants to have sex and I don't know how to have sex with another girl. I need like serious advice!!! (link)
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By the way you are asking this question, I can guess that you are in the age range of 12-18 years old. You shouldn't be thinking about sex right now, if you are between that age range. You are too young. I am 13years old and it breaks my heart all of you young people are on this site talking about sex.
You need to focus on other things like going to college and finishing school. Don't let sex be a priority right now. And don't let anyone pressure you into having sex.
~Farrah :)
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Okay, so I've had a crush on this boy for about two years already. I don't really get to see him because he's graduated from my school and gone to high school. And every time I'm pretty sure I'm getting over him, he just pops up somewhere. I know I don't have a lot of things in common with him and he wouldn't want to be with a naive little eighth grader, but I just want to talk to him. He thinks I'm a bit annoying and obvious because of these past couple years, but I want him to see I've changed. But how am I supposed to do that if I never see him? I have only ever said a few words to him, but I want to have a conversation with him. (link)
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I know what you are going through. This is called "Life". This Septemeber I will be an 8th grader.
All I can say is don't waste your life on ONE guy. And you shouldn't have to change yourself just for a guy to like you a certain way! And the thing I don't understand is why are you making the first move? Girls shouldn't have to do that. It is not gery romantic. Girls making the first move on a guy is like a girl asking a guy to marry her and he wears the ring! If you like him, but you don't have the guts to talk to him, I think you should be patient and wait for a moment to happen!
~Farrah :)
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hi im toby,12 im confused but i think little girls/boys no too much bout adult things right?? well.... ive seen questions about little kids masturbating or they wanna have sex right? well i think tht its gross little kids shouldnt think abour those things they should wate till they are mature right? idk ifthis was a stupid question or if this is all in my head plz help me (link)
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Hi Toby! I hope I can answer your question the best way I can!
Yes, kids the ages between 5-18 are too young to be thinking about sex. I feel like the more kids turn into teenagers, they start thinking about sex. They should be ashamed of themselves doing that anyways. That is not a way that they should be thinking. They shoukd wait until they are married to think about sex. And they shouldn't have sex until they know they are ready for a baby and they can afford it! :)
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I've become a 'sexoholic' with my boyfriend,the thing is that he's great at sex:)so it's become like my addiction and even when we don't have the appropiate place to do it(we don't live together)I get mad and suggest going anywhere,even outdoors or in the car.I'm crazy!What can I do?it's not that we do not do other things,though,but it's like my favourite part of the relationship and it's starting to make me worry,thanks! (link)
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First off let me say that being a sexoholic in a relationship is like smoking weed. They are both BAD! Being a sexoholic is not a good thing in a relationship. It will not help you grow a strong relationship with your boyfriend. Don't give me wrong, relationships are supposed to be intimate, but not that intimate! Maybe you should get therapy for that. Relationships shouldn't be about sex. :) Hope I could help! :)
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Hi, I'm an 18 year-old female, fresh out of high school, and I've never dated anyone. Ever. Never had a boyfriend, never been kissed, never been on a date even. I've been asked to a couple dances, but that's about the extent of it. And that's sort of on purpose. See, I never wanted to date anyone, firstly because most of the guys at the schools I have gone to have been complete jerks, but mostly because I'm very serious about relationships. Most middle school relationships last about a month max. Plus at the time I wanted to focus on having fun with school and friends, and sports. High school relationships have a bit more potential than middle school ones of course, but they're so drama-filled, time consuming, and just plain stressful. Plus, there's a slim chance they'll actually succeed after high school. So, I made the decision not to date anyone until college, and that was probably one of the smartest decisions I've ever made. I could just focus on growing up, focus on MY issues, and I was free to do what I wanted, when I wanted with my friends (with my parents' permission, of course, haha).
Now that I'll be in college, I'm allowing myself to date. But... I'm EXTREMELY inexperienced. So I know basically nothing about relationships. The main problem is, I'm a Christian, so I really want to save myself, my virginity, until marriage. It's just... something that I've had a long time to ponder and pray about, and it just feels like something God wants me to do. And it's something I want too, for me and my future husband. But nowadays, ESPECIALLY nowadays, that's not an easy task. We're bombarded with sex on TV, in movies and media, it's just everywhere! Even a lot of my own friends are no longer virgins. And the majority of sex is featured with non-married couples. I know it's okay to go without sex in high school, (although it's becoming increasingly uncommon), but is it the same with adult relationships? I mean, premarital sex has just become a common thing.
Basically, I just want to know if I'll be able to go out into the relationship world and not be a laughing stock who'll end up dying alone (after all, that is a huge fear of mine). >>; I mean, sex seems to be this regular activity for couples, and I don't want to be laughed at by a boyfriend when he goes to take off my pants and I tell him no. I'm prepared for that, but I want to know if it's possible nowadays to even have a successful relationship without sex. Is it possible? Do couples HAVE to have sex? Thank you for your time. :] (link)
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First off let me say I like you! You were not worried about relationships until college. You are a smart girl! To answer your question, let me say that NO! When people are in a relationship, they do not have to have sex. They can you know cuddle, kiss, and just be intimate with each other, but who said they had to have sex? You are a grown women and should do things your way now that you are grown. But I honestly think that you should not have sex while you are in a relationship……………or if you are in college. The cost of college is approximately the amount of money to raise a baby! You should wait till you are married and you have the amount of money to take care if your baby. I hope I tried to answer your question! :)
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hi my name is ashey im a girl im 11 and i was wondering what should i do i wanna hav sex so badbut i dnt wanna get pregnant, i no ppl say use condoms but they still get u pregnant.. and i dont find any lesbians to do it with...... please help me...... (link)
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Are you serious?! Hun, you are a 11 year old girl who should be thinking about school and other things. You shouldn't be thinking about sex. You are too young! Especially if you are thinking about having sex with a lesbian. That is not what a 11 year old girl should be thinking about! I respect you that much that I am NOT going to call you "insane" or "crazy in the head" Please keep your mind off of that stuffff! You have a lot of time before you have to worry about sex. You are a kid. Stay a kid. Be a kid. :)
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The guy I've been off and on with for 3 years (mostly on with a few breakups)is not the perfect guy for me in just a few ways. All these ways have nothing to do with personality. He is addicted to rescription pills and just about any drug when he gets in his lows. I've constantly tried to help him but he always pushes me away and then comes back.Fact is, I was probably enabling him more than helping him back then.
Last time he relapsed (a month and a half ago) after going 90 days clean and being in rehab, I figured enough was enough and ended it. He keeps coming back here and then saying he still loves me. And it sucks cause I still am SO in love with him but know I can't be with him.
I'm just hoping for some advice on moving on. I know the first step is accepting the decision to and I'm having trouble doing that. I keep wishing that he would just get clean and we could be together. This guy is like perfect for me personality wise. We click so well and only ever fight about the drugs. Plus we have an insane physical attraction that I'm also missing :/ I feel like I'm never gonna get through this. I just really really crave to be happy again. I can't stand this pain :( (link)
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First off let me say, I am not going to judge you or your on and off boyfriend. No one should judge you. I am going to answer your question with the best advice as possible.
I am just a 13 year old girl who is still waiting for a moment that I can find love. But it's hard and I am too young! I shoukd be lisgening to One Direction and be going to Justin Bieber concerts!
I honestly think that you should leave him. Yeah I know, it is hard to let go of the people you love,but he needs help. When people say that enough is enough,they mean it. They don't keep running back. If you keep doing that, he is going to expect that. Just because you two won't be a couple, doesn't mean you guys can't be good friends. You can support him in every way and be there to comfort him when he needs to be consoled. Hope my advice can help! :)
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I'm uncomfortable with my.boyfriend taking to other girls. What should I talk to him about to let.him know I don't want to be controlling , but I would rather he didnt talk to other girls that he use to talk to? (link)
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Well, let's put it this way! Telling your boyfriend to not talk to other girls is like your boyfriend telling you not to talk to guys. It doesn't take rocket science to figure that out! Here maybe this would help:
Let's just say you are a guy named Johnathon. You and your girlfriend, Macy, have been dating for 3 months and your relationship continues to grow strong. You love your girlfriend till all the mountains come tumbling down. And she feels the same way for you. You catch her one day talking to this guy she met at work. You get this uncomfortable feeling in your stomach and you want to just go over to the guy and threaten him to stay away from you and your girlfriend! What do you tthink? If you did just show that action and actually threaten him, how would your girlfriend feel? Think about it!
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Alright well I'm 14 and my best friend is 13 and were both guys, I'm just wondering if we have a good friendship and if I should hold onto it. We have had some trouble in the past because I'm bi and I used to like him and I told him about 4 months ago but then I decided to lie and say I didn't like him so we could stay friends.. Anyways we are really good friends in my opinion we can hang out with each other for 5 days and not get sick of each other we hang out all the time, we don't really talk about EVERYTHING tho.. We talk about everything except my being bi or "used" to like him or anything sexual, but I mean we have lots of inside jokes and when we hang out we always laugh and stuff. The other day I asked him in person how good of I friend I was and I said be 100% honest and he told he I was at the top :) It's hard being friends with someone you like but I feel like I need a good friend like this. And also is it a problem that I always text first? And usually I am the one to ask to hang out but when I do he ALWAYS says "sure" and we always have fun? Good friendship!?!???? (link)
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Hey. I read your question. First off let me say that there is nothing wrong for being who you are; If you are bi, gay, a lesbian, transgender, etc. It doesn't matter. You should have people that love you and support you!
Now, here is my answer. I honestly think that this is not a good friendship. I think the hanging out, laughing, making jokes, etc. all is great for a guy friendship or any friendship, but what I am trying to say is that maybe if you told him that you like(d) him, it wouldn't have been a good friendship. The thing is, you should always be able to talk to your friends even if it is something stupid. Talk to him, let him know how you feel. He is not a good friend if he says "ew" or tell other people about it. He should be the type of friend to tell you "If you are bi, then I support you! I am sorry I don't have the same feelings about you. Let's keep our friendship instead!"
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