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my boyfriend promest me he will engage to me
My boyfriend promest me that he will engage to me a romantic engagement on the weekend of his 16th birthday and our plan is to get married on my 19th birthday. . . We both 15 now and he's birthday is in november which I think is a good time to think about it through. I love him, we never fight and we've been together for 3 years now and I don't mind at all spending the rest of my life with him! Do you think I'm doing the right thing? Even that I'm pregnant with his child and we planning on keeping it and every night. He tells me to tell little one that daddy loves him so so so much. . . I just thought I'd give that little detail aswell :) so do you think I'm doing the right thing?
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I can't imagine how happy you are. I am only 13 years old, and I can just see you being with him for the rest of your life! I may be 13, but I know what Love is. And you two have love. I think that it is so sweet and romantic to have him propose to you! You should get married and raise your soon-to-be baby with him. You would have a happy relationship! :)
~Farrah :)
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To be honest I think you're happy about the sitution your in so much so that you put it on here.
Also, people who answer this almost certaintly dont know you so they cant really tell your if it is right as we dont know little details such as how mature you actually are etc.
And also, I seriously doubt that after reading a comment on here you'd actually change your mind based on that one comment by someone you dont know.
Just go and live your life honey :)
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Not really.
You're already pregnant at 15, and so there is really no bigger commitment you can make with each other. If if you do not marry, you will still be bound by this child for at least 18 years.
In regards to marriage, 19 is way too young to be married. 15 is even younger to be thinking about engagement. The reason why everything is so fine, dandy, and romantic now, is because you are young and the relationship is still in the 'honeymoon period'. You haven't lived together, you do not have jobs, you don't pay bills, etc. When the harshness of reality hits, you may well realise that it won't work. This is why people wait until they are much older, and then they move in together to test the waters. If it all goes well, a few years later they get engaged. Then, if that goes well, they get married. And hopefully then, they live happily. But that rarely happens, because now, 50% of marriages end in divorce.
What I am trying to say is, you are at a period where any relationship will seem perfect. You need to know someone for a long, long time in all sorts of situations. 15 year olds are not capable of this.
I know it is not what you asked, but could you not think about adoption? How do you plan on caring for this child? You're too young to get a job. How will you get a job if you leave school? Who will look after your child when you are both working 20 hours a day just to pay the rent? If you give the child for adoption, at least you can get your education, work, enjoy your childhood, and then take the road that will show you if you two can survive the real world, and not be naive about the future.
Good luck, you're going to need it.
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