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lesbian sleepover
okay. so me and my best friend are both bi. The last time we had a sleepover we ended up making out and feeling eachother up, I loved it, but the thing is is that that night she said, okay, never again. but then the next morning we were making out even more. I just want to know is what can I do/sat to get her to want to do it again. ps I DO NOT JUst like her for her body, i like her 1. because shes nice and funny and 2. shes one of the only lesbians I know.
we are both 14 but VERY mature for our age. Please answer soon as our sleepover will be in 1 or 2 days. Thank you for taking your time and reading this. other info if it helps- we are both white, petite, GIRLS :), im bi I think shes either bi or lesbian because she has a boyfriend.
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I would say talk to her about it. Tell her that you two are both best friends and you want to keep her friendship. Talk to her, that's your best friend!you shoukd be able to tell her everything. Tell her how you feel! :) And maybe you two fan work something out! :)
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Just talk to her about it. She might not have been completely comfortable with it, even if she did it again.
Like maybe she isn't sure what she wants. Plus she has a boyfriend so keep that in mind.
She did say, "Okay, never again".
I've been in a situation like this with a guy. I loved kissing him and making out but I was never totally comfortable with it because he wanted more than I could give him. So I'd be like, "I can't do this anymore." But it happened again and again..
So the best thing to do is to talk to her and figure out what is going on.
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Clearly, your friend is not entirely comfortable with what happened between you. It could be for any number of reasons - perhaps she doesn't think she should be attracted in this way to another girl, or she may feel that she's betraying her boyfriend, or she might not be as "mature for her age" as you believe she is.
She may also be scared of ruining your friendship, which could happen if you rush into things at this point. I suggest that you talk with her and figure out exactly where you both stand on this. Clearly, you want a physical relationship with her, but is that what she wants? Do you want the kind of relationship where you kiss and hold hands in public? Is she comfortable with being "out"? Are you? And specifically, why did she say that she didn't want to make out with you again, and then do it again the next day? SOMETHING was clearly bothering her about it, but then something else made her forget about that when the chips were down. It's important that you both figure out what's up with that, because that's the thing that will blow up on you if you don't defuse it.
Have this conversation in a semi-public place, like a park bench or something, so that you're essentially forced to talk about it instead of just saying, "screw this, let's just make out." There are a lot of questions that need answering between you, and if you ignore them, they'll eventually come back with a vengeance.
And you probably shouldn't have another sleepover, even though the temptation to do so is probably huge. Think about what it would be like if your parents walked in at the wrong moment!
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