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my boyfriend and my bestfriend
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years now. We are happy together and it has been a great relationship. There is only one problem. My bestfriend that I have been bestfriends with for years dosen't act very supportive of our relationship. She likes my boyfriend and we have all hung out together before but whenever I have exciting news she just says "oh cool" without any real response. It makes me upset because we are also friends with this other girl lauren. Lauren and her boyfriend have been dating for about a year now and my bestfriend always talks about how cute they are, saying how he is the best boyfriend ever, liking their pictures on facebook together, when lauren and her boyfriend fight all the time. Call me jealous, but I just don't understand my bestfriend is acting this way and not being supportive of my boyfriend and I. Maybe it's because she has been single for 2 years now? I'm not really sure what to do about this situation. I don't want to tell her all this because I feel that it's childish. I'm just not sure what to do. I want the love and support for my bestfriend with the guy that I love and someday might marry.
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She could be jealous. Honestly, if you really want her support then just talk to her. Don't turn it into a huge deal and make sure it doesn't turn into a fight. Just talk to her calmly and see why she acts the way she does. If she blows it off then there isn't really much you can do. Just enjoy your relationship and maybe she'll come around.
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Your friend is jealous. She also may feel left out to some degree and in some way she envies you.
It's shitty after being single for so long. While some people enjoy being single others get bored out of their wits being alone and not having things to share with someone. Either way, I think you need to be honest with her. It is never childish to express how you feel and if you both have a good friendship then communication is important.
Also remember, This may be your best friend but you never need someones approval to date someone. Instead of be jealous, She should be happy for you and respect your wishes.
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honestly, telling her how you feel is so not childish. You're only telling her how you really feel. If you feel the need of the loving, caring of your bestfriend well, you guys have to fix it. Why not try and hook her up with a guy she's interested in besides your Boyfriend?? Just a thought.
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Well if she likes him it's obvious that she won't be supportive. You're so worried with getting your best friends support that you don't see what she's going through, do you? She's stuck between being a good best friend to you and nursing her own hurt ego. She has to focus on forgetting him and you have to focus on putting yourself in her shoes. If she was with the guy you like, how would you feel? How would you react when she said good news about him? How would you feel if she said how happy they are? You see, she must be very confused and hurt right now. You have to give it time. Maybe she talks about the other couple because, as mean as it sounds, it's the only couple she can stand. And yes, she may be dying of jealousy right now but if you're truly her best friend you should sit her down and talk to her about it and help her get over your boyfriend. Don't let a guy, no matter how much he means to you, break a friendship. Best of luck! {:
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