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does being fingered feel the same as sex?
About 6 weeks ago, my best guy friend invited me over to his house. He started off giving me a massage and things went farther from there. All he did was finger me. He didn't know, but it was my first time ever being fingered. Due to the fact that he didn't know that it was my first time he went really fast, it didn't hurt though. it actually felt really good. I don't use tampons, i've never had sex, I don't ride horses, and I don't play sports. so why didn't it hurt?
Also, ever since that night things have gotten a little more serious between us, we're not dating but we talk more now and he wants to do it again, my question is if I do do it again and things go even farther and I end up having sex with him will it hurt for me since him fingering me didn't? does sex feel the same as getting fingered? Did your first time having sex hurt? and if it did what EXACTLY did it feel like? I'm asking because I really like this guy and I want to have this connection with him but I am scared of the pain that i've heard comes along with losing your virginity..
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honestly fingering is alot differnt then acually loseing your virginity ! my first time was inbetween! the first couple minutes was a little painful but not bad. i felt preasure few a couple minutes then after that it felt amazing! i bled a little bit.. but everyone is differnt . if you dont feel ready for it dont do it! loseing your virginity is a big deal !
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Once you go past the friendship barrier--you can't go back--trust me, I know. He'll probably push you to go further than just fingering you. If you don't want to do anything after than that--SAY NO!
Honestly, it depends on the guy. Sometimes when I'm having sex it doesn't hurt but it doesn't feel great either. But when they fingered me, it felt amazing.
But on the other hand I've had sex where the sex alone was amazing. So it really depends.
You sound really young so please don't have sex with him--he's a teenager and they're only after one thing!! Wait until your in a STEADY RELATIONSHIP FOR A REALLY LONG TIME.
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Some girls bodies are different than others. Also, his finger isn't the size of a penis. Yes, I'm not going to sugar coat this. When you have sex though, you will feel some pain but it's not anything to be scared about. When you have sex, your muscles on the inside of your vagina are going to stretch because of course you have something larger going in and stretching them. Also, if you bleed a little, don't be scared. Some girls have a thing in them called a hymen. When a guy inserts his penis in your vagina, he will break this hymen which again, isn't anything to be scared of. It just means you've lost your virginity.
But I want you to be careful about this...it sounds like he wants to have sex with you more than know you as a friend or potentially a life time partner. If this is all he wants to do with you, I would avoid doing any sexual activity (for starters, you're not dating).
I hope this helped.
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