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Should I get back with a girl that cheated on me and said sorry about it? (link)
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NO. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
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Hi,
I'm a 25 year old Female, who is having difficulties with my boyfriend. We haven't had an easy start to our relationship, and it's not good now as well. I met my boyfriend, who's 27, at my work. We flirted for about a year (I moved away and came back during that time period) and after a year I wanted something more serious. I told him I wanted to be with him and date, he said he just wanted to take it slow and see where it went. Meanwhile I overheard he was flirting with other girls at work as well. So, I didn't put much investment into him seeing that he wasn't ready. I met someone who did try to court me, and made me feel like he genuinely wanted to be with me. When my now boyfriend saw that, he then decided that he wanted to be with me. I stopped seeing the other fellow and dating my current boyfriend. If I told you all the ups and downs of our relationship I would be here all night. The gist of it is that, I haven't felt like he has ever put in that effort to date me, to make me feel special. I mean yes, he takes me to movies and dinners which is wonderful. But he doesn't put effort into making our relationship original or special. He is on his phone or iPad all the time when we are together. I feel incredibly bored, and I make a point to not be on my phone... But it comes to a point where I am so bored with the non communication that I give in. Recently I got a job in another city, I asked him to come with me. He was unsure about going for 6 months... As I looked for jobs, found apartments, planned the move. He was uninvolved for the process. And even to this day he had told me that he was unsure about moving until the day of... After we had signed the lease, and packed things up! So we have been here two months, and everything has gone wrong. I hate my job, I don't like the city we are in, and our relationship is as bad as ever. He said a week ago that he "made up his mind that he wants to be with me" and is trying. I guess he is but is buying flowers and trying to cuddle with me really trying. Sadly I feel like it is too late. I just feel exhausted with everything, especially our relationship. I feel numb. I told him that I don't think I feel romantically attached to him and that I don't think we should live together. He flips out on me and saying how I'm bailing (I guess I am in a sense) on him, and how he moved here for me. We've had these discussions for weeks now. He has a drinking issue, and tonight he came home drunk and proceeded to tell me how selfish I am and how I'm a "fucking bitch". Am I being a "selfish bitch" ? Should I put more effort in it, or when do you throw in the towel? (link)
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Wow. This sounds like something I just went through.
My advice: GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP NOW. Especially before you get married or end up pregnant with the man.
If he has a drinking issue, it's going to get worse. I learned the hard way.
The BEST decision I've made is to leave the man's sorry ass. Meanwhile, I'm back in my hometown, getting healthy, losing weight, lining up job interviews.
PLEASE GET OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP. IT WON'T DO YOU ANY GOOD. IT'LL JUST DO YOU HARM.
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20/F and 22/M
Okay. So I have a friend, call him Steve. I've known him for YEARS and I know his family well. During high school, we hung out with different crowds so we went our ways and now we're really close friends again.
And of course, NOW I like him more than a friend since we've been hanging out and going out for almost a year now.
Problem is... he has a girlfriend that he's been dating on-and-off for about 8 months. The girlfriend is not exactly a friend but more than an acquaintance. The girlfriend is a strong believer in abstinence and Steve is definitely NOT a virgin (Kudos to her but that's not my style).
So Steve and I have gone out a lot lately(without his girlfriend). I don't consider them dates. SO, we were going out this past Friday night. Well my mom and her two friends wanted to talk to him while I finished getting ready. So I walked out and who knows what all those crazy women said to him. Haha.
So, we go out, had a blast. On the way home I asked him what my mom and her friends were saying. Well they said 'that he should dump his girlfriend and sweep me off of my feet because that's what I want.' Which is true in a way. So I then asked him what he had said back to it and he said "Well, I kinda asked your mom for permission to date you."
Well, I text my mom and asked her if she remembered that (they were all drinking at the time) and she said she didn't remember it.
I asked him if he was serious about that and he said yeah he was serious. And that he was definitely breaking up with his girlfriend.
Well, of course, Facebook sucks in some ways. The girl that he is currently dating always tags them wherever they go. So last night, they were having dinner together. And I haven't heard much of him since Friday night. Does this mean that he's not interested or something? He's still in a relationship on his FB (and he has an iPhone if it makes a difference).
UGH. Tips? I'm a very impatient person. I'm VERY independent. I don't need him, I just want him more than friends. But like I said, I don't NEED him.
I don't want to be pushy/clingy/crazy. That's definitely not me. So, should I just ignore him until he messages/calls/texts me first? Btw, I hate waiting too. Been there, done that and I absolutely hate it.
Tips, suggestions, ANYTHING at all would be a great help. :)
Thanks in advance!!
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Hahaha. This is too funny. I recently found out that Steve was gay and he was using his girlfriend as a cover up.
Oh too funny! :)
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About 6 weeks ago, my best guy friend invited me over to his house. He started off giving me a massage and things went farther from there. All he did was finger me. He didn't know, but it was my first time ever being fingered. Due to the fact that he didn't know that it was my first time he went really fast, it didn't hurt though. it actually felt really good. I don't use tampons, i've never had sex, I don't ride horses, and I don't play sports. so why didn't it hurt?
Also, ever since that night things have gotten a little more serious between us, we're not dating but we talk more now and he wants to do it again, my question is if I do do it again and things go even farther and I end up having sex with him will it hurt for me since him fingering me didn't? does sex feel the same as getting fingered? Did your first time having sex hurt? and if it did what EXACTLY did it feel like? I'm asking because I really like this guy and I want to have this connection with him but I am scared of the pain that i've heard comes along with losing your virginity.. (link)
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Once you go past the friendship barrier--you can't go back--trust me, I know. He'll probably push you to go further than just fingering you. If you don't want to do anything after than that--SAY NO!
Honestly, it depends on the guy. Sometimes when I'm having sex it doesn't hurt but it doesn't feel great either. But when they fingered me, it felt amazing.
But on the other hand I've had sex where the sex alone was amazing. So it really depends.
You sound really young so please don't have sex with him--he's a teenager and they're only after one thing!! Wait until your in a STEADY RELATIONSHIP FOR A REALLY LONG TIME.
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I just adopted a year old cat from the humane society and took her to a free exam at a local vet.
She's completely healthy but the vet said I should bring in a fecal sample to test for internal parasites.
He really scared me with all the talk of how they can harm humans. But they're really expensive and with buying the cat and all her things I can't really afford that this month.
I would like some advice from experienced pet owners, please.
Do you have your cat tested for internal parasites even if they're completely healthy?
Are they THAT big of a threat to humans as long as you wash your hands after cleaning the litter box and before you eat?
I mean, people had house cats ALL THE TIME before things like internal parasite testing existed and I've never heard of the great blinding epidemic from house cats..
I'm worried... but I really can't afford it this month.
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I work for a vet and a payment plan is a great idea but a lot of vet's don't offer the payment plans anymore because PEOPLE DON'T PAY when they say they're going to. (Like at my office--we have people that owe almost $1000 and we can't do anything about it--even though the owners promised to pay--they aren't)
ANYWAYS, testing for intestinal parasites is really easy. It has us techs look at the fecal sample under a microscope to see if we see tapeworms, hookworms, roundworms, coccidia, and other parasites. But tapes, hooks, rounds, and coccidia are the most common that I see in cats. The fecal test should be the least expensive test possible (at least in my office it is).
I definitely recommend it, especially if you have kids.
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Hello, i'm Melanie. My bestfriend's name is Lily. Ok so she had a boyfriend named Jake. Well, I've liked Jake for a long long time.. Now I think I love him. I'm serious, here. I can't ever get him out of my mind, i've written SO many songs about him, I listen to songs about him, ect. Well, Lily still likes him. At least I think she does. Anyways, I think Jake And Lily will get back together!! If they do, i'll cry so much.. What do I do? I feel so bad for loving him when she likes him. What do I do?! (link)
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Don't let a guy come between your friendship. It'll just end badly. She obviously doesn't want to give him up and neither do you... soo.... either throw your friendship away and TRY to date this guy which is iffy at this point. Have you thought about if he likes you or not?
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I really like my exboyfriend....I dated him a couple years ago. We just got back from a field trip and he seemed interested in me more than he usually does. I kept catching him watching me and seemed to make an effort to be around me. On the way home, he sat next to me and let me fall asleep on his shoulder. Do I have a chance? If so, what do I do? (link)
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I'm a strong believer in "There's a reason why you two broke up in the first place and you'll just find out why you're not with him again the second go-around"
So I wouldn't really even try to be honest. Unless you want to learn the hard way, feel free.
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I know this is long, please bear with me, here. I sort of just wrote what came to mind. I'd greatly appreciate your response, this is really something I just keep to myself
For some reason I'm mainly attracted to guys with medium-length shaggy brown hair and blue or green eyes who are really into music as I am, and it just makes me instantly swoon. I'm occasionally attracted to other guys, too, mainly if they're into the same music as me or are attractive in a different way, but I've noticed I have this trend since I was pretty young. How does this sort of thing develop?
It sort of weirds me out because I'm black, and I don't like how there's controversy over "interracial" relationships, so I'd be afraid of what others thought if I got in one, but at the same time, I'm rarely attracted to guys of my own skin tone, cause I either feel that they're like family or I'm not attracted to them cause we have conflicting personalities. Growing up, I lived in relatively diverse upper middle class areas, and traveled around, so I often feel like I don't really fit anywhere. Maybe I'm not supposed to, but it just causes me to often feel lonely, but something I really connect with others is music, and I just happen to mainly like so called "underground" music so it's harder for me to find others with that same passion (especially where I live currently), so when I do it's a big deal to me. And I've only met a few other black people IRL who are just as into this sort of thing. It may seem like I'm exaggerating but I really feel like music was the best friend I had in high school, cause I can think of so many bad days where I'd come home and instantly be comforted by songs. I like going to concerts a lot, too, and feel comforted when there's some other black people there, too, so I don't feel like such a weirdo, too (if only people at concerts went to my school.. everyone's always really nice and I always come back with good new friends)
I'm the sort of person who's nice to everyone, cause that's just how I like to be treated in return, but I suppose cause of my background or something in school I never really got on with most african americans I met, as one might expect. I don't think it could be due to my african roots when other kids with african parents seemed to get on great with others. could it because I never fit any stereotypes or anything, and never felt the need to apologize for it? I don't know. But maybe this is why I'm typically not attracted to african american guys, cause I'm reminded of the ones I wasn't compatible with in the past, even if I had been attracted to them. I actually see other foreign black guys better, cause I'm originally foreign myself, from the uk (been living in america since I was a kid, though), so I feel like I can really relate to that. I relate to a lot of other immigrants too, but sometimes I feel kind of left out when, for example, indian immigrants treat me different from the way they treat their other indian immigrant friends. I literally treat everyone the same, but I've just been hurt so much in childhood I'm sure it's hurt my self confidence and everything. I don't know what I'm doing wrong and what not.. but I'm not going to change myself to something I'm not, I just wish I could connect better with others or something, even though at the same time, I want to connect with others more?
Anyways, to bring things back to what this question was originally about, i'm not racist or self hating about me being black or w/e (wasn't brought up that way) and I think its fine for people to be in interracial relationships like any other relationship, but I'd feel insecure about personally being in one. And people assuming things about me and judging me and what not, when they don't really know me. And I also wonder if I'm supposed to mainly like guys who look like me, cause most of the world is like that, and something's wrong with me or something? It's embarrassing to say but that just makes me feel insecure, when at the same time, I like my personality and how I look. I feel like it's a paradox, which leads me to not feel like I can date anyone, and nobody wants to be alone forever (link)
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I think that you shouldn't worry what others think and just be with whoever you fall for.
As for the "types" that we seem to want... I have no idea. I ask myself that all the time Lol.
I'm a white country girl from Florida so obviously I'm a sucker for southern/country men and also military men. If I find a southern man that is or was in the military I swoon there on the spot. I have no idea why Lol. Especially since I try to avoid military men...but at the end of the day ill probably fall for someone in the military.
Good luck! And don't worry what others think, do what you want and fall for whoever! Its your life not theirs!
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Ok so my golden retriever is 2 1/2 and he has hip dysplasia in both of his hips... His vet told him to go on a diet and lose some of his weight. But I was so confused when my parents told me he had it in both hips... So I was just wondering... Will he die young? How much time does he have left? (He is also a very big boy. His bones grew faster than his body did) (link)
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Like the person below said, it really depends on the dog. Hip Dysplasia is a form of arthritis. The best way to help your dog is to make him lose weight like your vet said.
Also, if he's not already on a good form of food. My boss's dog has hip dysplasia and he's 10 years old. (I work in a vet's office).
Purina has a prescription food (only sold through your vet) called JM (joint mobility) and it's great for dogs with hip problems! I definitely recommend it!
Or Hill's Science Diet has a product out called J/D (Joint Diet).
Both of these foods are scientifically proven to help dogs with hip/joint issues. I definitely recommend either of these foods along with a good glucosamine/chondroiten supplement(Spelling, not sure if spelled right...sorry!) Some products that may be sold through your vet would be Glycoflex, Phycox, etc. Or you can get the glucosamine/chondrioten supplement from any pharmacy.
If you have any questions, please send me a message. :)
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Hello, we have three cats in our house and a recurring problem with what appears to be mange. The source seems to be a cat across the road, which my mum says has a bad case. Unfortunately, we don't know who owns him (or if he even has an owner) and he's only seen occasionally. They've been treated before, but two of them are now showing symptoms again. The third seems fine but I don't want to take any risks.
My mum seems hesitant to get them all treated again because 1: she can't afford it, 2: we can't stop them catching it again from that other cat and 3: she insists that they will 'get better', though what I've read suggests that is impossible.
I'm currently unemployed having just got back from uni, but still have a small chunk of my student loan left over which should sufficiently cover all three cats.
I just wanted to ask if anyone has advice on how I can prevent them catching it again. I don't have enough money for future treatments and unless we do something about the other cat there's no way of really stopping it recurring.
I've considered going to the RSPCA or something, but the cat's lack of address and sporadic appearances may make that useless. Does anyone have any ideas on what I can do? If you have any other advice for this situation, feel free to throw that in as well.
Thank you for your time. (link)
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Ok, first of all I currently work in a vet's office and it depends on the type of mange. There's two kinds: Sarcoptes (Scabies) and Demodex. If it's scabies, it has to be treated with Selamectin (Revolution) which is a prescription drug. It can be sold to pet owner's if the cats have been seen within a year. Revolution is generally not very expensive (unless you buy a 6 pack or more).
NOW, Scabies has to be treated with an injection form of Ivermectin, which has to be given by a Veterinarian. And I'm guessing the veterinarian is going to charge an exam and probably skin scrapings on both cats...so that's where it might get expensive.
In any case, a shampoo WILL NOT treat either forms of mange, you need to know which type of mange they have and go from there. Either way, A SHAMPOO WILL NOT GET RID OF IT.
As for the other cat, ask your neighbors if he belongs to them or anyone they know. If not, get a cat trap, trap him and then call animal control. That's the only way your cats are not going to continue to get mange....unless you keep them inside 24/7. Since they interact with the other cat, they are indoor/outdoor.
Good luck and if you have any questions, please send me a message.
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do girls wet they panties (link)
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Lmao. I love the person below me, FYI. :)
Yes we do if we are turned on or if we wait wayyyyyy too long to not use the restroom and can't make it in time. ;P
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Hi.I am 17 yrs old girl.I am from India. I had read that you shouldn't phone your bf more than twice a day as it will make him thinking about me and he'll wonder when i'll call him. I had tried it once but instead he was so angry with me that he didn't speak to me for 2 long days!! what can i do??? please advice me!!! I want attention from him (link)
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Don't give him any attention and he'll wonder what your doing. Don't tell him what you did today or yesterday. Be nonchalant and "disconnected" from him, it'll drive him crazy.
If he asks you what your doing, tell him that you have plans with friends. If he wants to see you, tell him maybe another day because today isn't a good day.
Honestly, I would completely stop talking to him and see what he does. That's what I would do anyways.
Goodluck!
-Ginger
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this is a bit long, but it is some juicy stuff! (I'm 21, almost 22)
So, there's this guy and I used to like him back in high school and maybe a bit before. I've known him for.. 14ish years. we were never really friends.. maybe early on in like 3rd/4th grade. We kind of had a mutual hatred for each other in High school as well. ANYWAYS
So it all started with a FB poke. I poked him, because.. I still consider him the hottest guy I've ever liked. and a few weeks later I was super surprised when he poked me back, whatever. No big deal. Then on april fools day, he said hey text me (and put his number). I didn't it being april fools day. I was convinced it had to be a prank, because to me nothing else made sense. I asked him a few days later, he said it wasn't.. he wanted to ask me something but never mind. I was like okay. and still continued to think it was a prank. (paranoid, I know!)
so then.. one night he just FB messages me and says basically oh hey, let me come over.. let's hook up.. I have never been more.. baffled/surprised/confused in my life. So, I know, not very lovely but I did see him that night (he lives super close). We didn't have sex. But I gave him a bj. (I'm 21, don't lecture me on how bad it was, I know.. I know.. awful, but I used to like him! so.. that counts for something) So after he says oh don't tell anyone about this I have a gf. (not that I would tell anyways)
but okay, here is my question. Obviously he was drunk (well not obv. but he was), and obviously he was just using me because he knew I used to like him and because I lived so close. But why would he cheat on his gf? I mean in general are guys really that.. uh.. I don't know desperate they'll hook up with some random girl.
I'm just super confused about everything in life now!, I haven't talked to him since. I haven't told anyone about it. and I just need some thoughts about all this. please share. (and I know! I'm awful, so don't feel the need to tell me that)
thanks for anything! (link)
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I agree with Brandi. You didn't know at the time. Asshole, lol.
Anyways, he could have cheated for whatever reason (they come up with hundreds and hundreds of excuses). Next time he tries to message you, don't respond...at all. One, it will show him that he doesn't deserve you. Two, it will show him that you have more respect for yourself.
I KNOW YOU LIKE HIM, BUT NEVER NEVER NEVER DATE HIM!!!! If he's cheating on his girlfriend, he'll cheat on you. Just giving you a head's up.
Hope everything works out!
-Ginger
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i've been masturbating since a while now and my periods have been irregular since the very beginning, is the delay in my periods related to masturbating and can a person get pregnant by masturbating? (link)
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For one, I'm guessing that your a girl.
Two, how old are you? Shouldn't you have had sex-ed class in elementary school? Read up, google it.
Masturbating cannot get you pregnant if you're by yourself. With no males around, whatsoever.
I'm guessing that you're young so your periods are going to be irregular. If you want to regulate your periods, try birth control of some point.
By the way, I've learned from experience.
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soon is a very hard choice in my life, i'm unsure whether to go to college next year, as i'm almost 17 as i stayed in sixth form for a year
im unsure whether i should go to college (unsure what to do) for 2 years or get a job for a year and then do an apprenticeship in something once i have a better idea. the only thing is, where will i find a job? there is hardly any here and my parents do not listen to me and just get angry at me because i'm not doing well at sixth form therefore im going to have to leave
i am feeling very stressed out and bored in my life at the moment with my gf dumping me almost 3 months ago now all these hard choices and pressure with driving and deciding what to do. (link)
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Don't take a break from school. Go to a community college and get your AA. It takes two years. And you can work (if you happen to find a job and I hope you do).
I finished my AA while working part-time to sometimes full-time. And community college is really a great way to start college. It gives you an idea on how university will be like.
Good luck. Hope your parents don't get under your skin too much.
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Me & my ex recently boke up. we were together for 2 years and I been thinking but I dont know how I feel anymore. How do I know if I love him or not?I still care stongly for him but he's been....different..i dont know what to do.. (link)
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This is hard to answer. I've been single for years now (by choice).
My theory is that if that person doesn't make your heart smile, there's no hope. I won't settle anything less than that.
He's changed and your doubting your feelings for him. I would break it off because you are doubting your feelings for him. If you weren't doubting your feelings, then that would be another story.
Hope this helped and good luck.
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Ok, so my family and I are currently planning to buy a horse for me. We already know where we are going to board her but is there anything I should know about this? What should I buy for her? I know I need tack and grooming stuff, blankets, all that. Byt is there anything else??? Thanks! (link)
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Oh goodness. What don't you need?
Like the person below said, saddle/bridle depending what she is trained in.
Grain, hay, TREATS (but not too many :P lol).
Saddle pads, boots, jeans/breeches, grooming tools (curry comb, brush, hair brush, hoof pick, shampoo/conditioner, etc).
Lots and lots of hay. You'll probably feed her quite a bit of hay. Depending if she's going to be on grass 24/7 or if your in Florida you have the oh-so-wonderful sand. lol.
Your vet can answer a lot of these questions. Also the owner of your barn that your keeping her in can definitely help you. Ask for lessons (even if your a good rider already, it never hurts to get a lesson to keep improving!!!)
Have fun, good luck, and fall in love with that pony. :)
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I have a 10 week old black lab/german sheperd mix puppy, she is very aggresive, everytime I try to play with her she bites me and even if I say ouch!! she doesnt stops! She just doesnt again, when I get up and ignore her, she jumps on me! I know she wants to play but she is just too agressive, She just doesnt know how to play, I have tried so many times to diciple her in a calm and asservite way and it just doesnt help!! What do I do??? Thanks a lot (link)
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It's not so much that the dog is aggressive. It's that she's a puppy and doesn't know her own strength. She doesn't know what the word 'ow' means. If she bites you, smack her on the nose and tell her "NO" sternly.
She's just testing her boundaries. Take her to puppy classes. They really help.
Make sure she has had ALL of her puppy shots (Distemper/Parvo is a series of 4 injections 3 weeks apart from each injection, Bordetella (aka Kennel Cough), Fecal exam, physical exam and start her on MONTHLY flea and heartworm prevention that is recommended by your vet).
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My 8 year old Bichon started limping the other day. Yesterday, she stopped using her back legs completely. She hasn't been eating or drinking water. Does anyone have any idea what's going on?
Please don't tell me to take her to the vet, I know I'm going to have to, I just don't have the money at the moment. :/ (link)
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A Veterinarian can't give a diagnosis over the internet, phone, etc. He/She has to physically SEE the animal in order to diagnose. It's like asking your human doctor if you have strep throat without the doctor doing an exam on you.
It could be a pinched nerve, spinal injury, osteoarthritis, etc. The list is endless. Take the dog to the vet. Put the bill on a credit card. Or ask if a family member will pay and you can pay them back.
The dog needs to be seen. Good luck.
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There is this puppy i'm attached to. It's up for adoption.
I'm more attached to her than my other dogs.
My mom and me want to keep her, but my dad doesn't seem like he wants to.
My brother likes her, and my other brother doesnt. But my 3 sisters like her. We all want her except 2 people.
Well, here is my point: If I don't have that puppy, I will have NO reason to live. I don't know what to do. (link)
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Please keep in mind that pets are already expensive. And I'm not sure how many you already have but adding another is going to mean more money.
You have to keep the dog on monthly flea and heartworm prevention, regular vet visits, puppy vaccines (Distemper/Parvo is a series of 4 vaccines 3 weeks apart from each vaccine plus rabies, bordetella, etc). And have to have funds readily available for emergencies.
Not including the daily care of the puppy is a lot. I know puppies are all cute and everything... trust me, I know... but you have to be realistic at the same time. Good luck!
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