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Why would he cheat?
this is a bit long, but it is some juicy stuff! (I'm 21, almost 22)
So, there's this guy and I used to like him back in high school and maybe a bit before. I've known him for.. 14ish years. we were never really friends.. maybe early on in like 3rd/4th grade. We kind of had a mutual hatred for each other in High school as well. ANYWAYS
So it all started with a FB poke. I poked him, because.. I still consider him the hottest guy I've ever liked. and a few weeks later I was super surprised when he poked me back, whatever. No big deal. Then on april fools day, he said hey text me (and put his number). I didn't it being april fools day. I was convinced it had to be a prank, because to me nothing else made sense. I asked him a few days later, he said it wasn't.. he wanted to ask me something but never mind. I was like okay. and still continued to think it was a prank. (paranoid, I know!)
so then.. one night he just FB messages me and says basically oh hey, let me come over.. let's hook up.. I have never been more.. baffled/surprised/confused in my life. So, I know, not very lovely but I did see him that night (he lives super close). We didn't have sex. But I gave him a bj. (I'm 21, don't lecture me on how bad it was, I know.. I know.. awful, but I used to like him! so.. that counts for something) So after he says oh don't tell anyone about this I have a gf. (not that I would tell anyways)
but okay, here is my question. Obviously he was drunk (well not obv. but he was), and obviously he was just using me because he knew I used to like him and because I lived so close. But why would he cheat on his gf? I mean in general are guys really that.. uh.. I don't know desperate they'll hook up with some random girl.
I'm just super confused about everything in life now!, I haven't talked to him since. I haven't told anyone about it. and I just need some thoughts about all this. please share. (and I know! I'm awful, so don't feel the need to tell me that)
thanks for anything!
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Wow. That was so extremely disrespectful for him to ask you to hook up. Not only disrespectful to you but to whomever his girlfriend is. Imagine how many other girls he had done that with while being with his girlfriend. He obviously cheated on her because he wanted to try someone else. But at the same time he is making her his main girl while he is using you. I think he is just doing it for fun. You made a good decision to not talk to him. He sounds like a guy that likes to use girls for the wrong reasons.
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I agree with Brandi. You didn't know at the time. Asshole, lol.
Anyways, he could have cheated for whatever reason (they come up with hundreds and hundreds of excuses). Next time he tries to message you, don't respond...at all. One, it will show him that he doesn't deserve you. Two, it will show him that you have more respect for yourself.
I KNOW YOU LIKE HIM, BUT NEVER NEVER NEVER DATE HIM!!!! If he's cheating on his girlfriend, he'll cheat on you. Just giving you a head's up.
Hope everything works out!
-Ginger
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Haha, you have cracked me up. First off, you are not awful lol. You like him, so there's nothing wrong with that. & second, guys cheat for many different reasons. There's still some that I have yet to figure out, but maybe because he's not happy with his girlfriend, he's not getting what he wants from her, or because he honestly doesn't know what he wants. Guys are confusing creatures.
The next time he tried talking to me though, I wouldn't reply to him, that'll get to him the most. Remember guys want what they can't have.
I hope this has helped ya some, & good luck (:
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