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There's this guy... of course.
20/F and 22/M
Okay. So I have a friend, call him Steve. I've known him for YEARS and I know his family well. During high school, we hung out with different crowds so we went our ways and now we're really close friends again.
And of course, NOW I like him more than a friend since we've been hanging out and going out for almost a year now.
Problem is... he has a girlfriend that he's been dating on-and-off for about 8 months. The girlfriend is not exactly a friend but more than an acquaintance. The girlfriend is a strong believer in abstinence and Steve is definitely NOT a virgin (Kudos to her but that's not my style).
So Steve and I have gone out a lot lately(without his girlfriend). I don't consider them dates. SO, we were going out this past Friday night. Well my mom and her two friends wanted to talk to him while I finished getting ready. So I walked out and who knows what all those crazy women said to him. Haha.
So, we go out, had a blast. On the way home I asked him what my mom and her friends were saying. Well they said 'that he should dump his girlfriend and sweep me off of my feet because that's what I want.' Which is true in a way. So I then asked him what he had said back to it and he said "Well, I kinda asked your mom for permission to date you."
Well, I text my mom and asked her if she remembered that (they were all drinking at the time) and she said she didn't remember it.
I asked him if he was serious about that and he said yeah he was serious. And that he was definitely breaking up with his girlfriend.
Well, of course, Facebook sucks in some ways. The girl that he is currently dating always tags them wherever they go. So last night, they were having dinner together. And I haven't heard much of him since Friday night. Does this mean that he's not interested or something? He's still in a relationship on his FB (and he has an iPhone if it makes a difference).
UGH. Tips? I'm a very impatient person. I'm VERY independent. I don't need him, I just want him more than friends. But like I said, I don't NEED him.
I don't want to be pushy/clingy/crazy. That's definitely not me. So, should I just ignore him until he messages/calls/texts me first? Btw, I hate waiting too. Been there, done that and I absolutely hate it.
Tips, suggestions, ANYTHING at all would be a great help. :)
Thanks in advance!!
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Hahaha. This is too funny. I recently found out that Steve was gay and he was using his girlfriend as a cover up.
Oh too funny! :)
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The way I see it is that you are not sure weather to answer his question to go out with him or not.
I think that you and your friend are pretty close together and deserve to be more than friends. In my opinion Steve has an on an off girl friend for 2 reasons: 1. He likes you and doesn't want you to think he is not available, but at the same time not a single loner. 2. He just wants to have a girlfriend. I think that you should not rely on Facebook because some people forget to update. I think that the reason he hasn't called you yet is because he feels sort of shy about asking your mom and then telling you what she said. I say that he is probably waiting for you to make a move and say that you want to go out with him. At the moment that you say you want to go out with him, he will dump her. Guys don't like to be considered as someone desperately waiting for an answer, but usually they are waiting for girls to make the first move. So I say call him, or text him, and ask him again if he really meant it. If he answers yes, say that you like him too. You guys should be together!
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He has a girlfriend. What kind of guy goes out with another girl while he has a girlfriend? Put yourself in her shoes. Not cool. He may well break up with her. But obviously he's in no hurry.. which says a lot about his character and there relationship. As hard as it is, back off this one until you know for sure he's broken up. If you set your standards low, trust me, a your guy will live up to them. So aim high. That's what you deserve. You DON'T deserve to be second banana. That's tacky.
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Well, you seem you really like that boy , but even if you hate waiting so much , you should probably wait for him to call or text or anything but if he doesnt then that means he's enjoying his blast with his gf .
That means he doesnt only like you , he might like you and her or not like you both , he's clearly hanging out with you two girls and
maybe he's trying to see which one's better or
95% is that he's really now into his gf and has something for her and considers you and him as just friends so try to get over him ,untill he calls or something .
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Hope this helps :D
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