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We're both scared to make a move ...I think
20/female Ben 19
So me and Ben have been friends for about 5 years now. We have always had an attraction to each other BUT neither of us act on it. We've never kissed or anything ...we used to cuddle a lot and he's touched me all over but nothing more and that was about 2 years ago when things were really hot and heavy. Now it seems as though things settled down and we haven't cuddled or anything for a while but still flirt ALOT.
Obviously we're still attracted to each other but it's kind of like ...neither of us wants to make a move because we're not FOR SURE that the other one wouldn't be like "why did you do that, that was awkward, you got me totally wrong" To be honest, every time I see him I just want to start making out with him haha it's pretty bad but I hold myself back.
I usually put myself out there more by flirting hard core and he definitely responds. For example, one time we were outside our friends house in the driveway and he was leaning up against a car and I was standing right next to him and put my arm around him and then he put his arm around my waist basically holding me. Or one time we were standing in the kitchen and I had these short shorts on and he came up from behind and gave me a hug and then tapped my butt, it was kind of cute haha.
Also, one time we were in my cousins garage and he had his shirt off and he came and hugged me and then he was like let's go inside in my room and I didn't know if he was joking and I was like yeah lets go kind of joking around back but nothing happened and my cousin was like oh god you guys!!
Just little things like that. Also one time I was leaving and he was outside and I got in my car and he walked in the street and I rolled down my window and he said something I can't remember, but he got really close to me like he was gonna kiss me and I freaked out! But didn't show it ...but once again nothing happened.
I'm almost 95% sure that if I made a move and kissed him he wouldn't care. But I wouldn't want it to be awkward afterward like "okay ....well bye"
I don't know what to do! Do I just keep flirting with him and if nothing happens, nothing happens? It's still fun flirting but I'm too scared to make a move!! And I feel like he is too. Any suggestions!? Do you think he could be into me or at least into hooking up? i KNOW that people say don't just hook up with you guy friends but please don't say that, I just need advice on if you think he is interested in me or if i'm doing something wrong??
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He's definitely into you, no doubt about it. Now, its up to one of you to take it to the next level. Maybe next time you guys are really flirtin & no ones really paying attention, & say your faces are close together, just your index finger to tell him to kiss you if you know what I mean. Bite your lip, bat your eyes, make good eye contact, when he taps your butt say something like 'ooh dont tease me ;)',. Basically let him know how much you like what hes doing alottttt. Or maybe just kiss him out of the blue! He'd totally be down. Obviously you guys are very comfortable together so just push the boundaries a little. It'll happen at the rate youre going,
its inevitable.
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x sweeethoney
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Honestyl i think that he does like you! if you two have sparks after two years that definetly means something. Now i know likeing someone is extremely scary and taking it to the next step is even scarier. from the feeling i get he wants to take it to the next level as much as you. you will never know what will happen unless you try to kiss him. i would go for it if i were you hun:)
Just think. If it's this good right now,. think how good it will be if you two become more!!
Goodluck
Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*
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