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doggy style doesn't work? neither does me on top?
I'm 18f and I'm 5 foot; My boyfriend is 6'1; We usually have sex with me on bottom, and I get bored. I like to take controll sometimes as well, and I have a hard time reaching the "0". I never have actually, so I figured new positions would help. We tried me on top, and It won't stay in, it's always coming out, and I try to go slow, and not move up as much but it still manages to come out. My boyfriend is 7 1/2 inches, so I don't think his size is why.
When we do it Doggy Style, it doesn't work, at all. Literally.No matter how much I spread my legs apart, or even bring my body up, he can never get it in, or even keep it in,
Any advice on some good sex positions, or even some tips to help me reach the "O" he's always getting his, which I don't mind, but I'd like to get mine for once, ya know?
Thankss!
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Maybe give some free advice about: Trouble Reaching Orgasm?
You don't say how long he lasts before he ejaculates. Quite a bit more foreplay might do the trick in getting you warmed up. And to be frank, he should be giving you manual or oral stimulation to orgasm before he enters you anyway. You might try a blindfold and see if that helps concentrate the sensations better for you. It's not usually a question of the positions as to why you aren't cumming.
You may also be putting pressure on yourself to orgasm, which will only delay things. Take some deep breaths and let your body go limp when he is on top or behind you and just focus your mind on the sensations and nothing else.
It appears to me that sex is still a little awkward for you guys. I think you're still figuring it out. Either that or you just don't have that much sexual chemistry. It happens. Nobody's fault and just one of those things.
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Hi, I'm old enough to be your grandfather; hopefully the wisdom that comes with age and life experiences will be helpful.
Before I dive into an area of any advice I would like to review some advice I give to women who are having sex for the first time. I feel some of this advise is important to getting the most from sexual intercourse for a women.
Are you having sex in a place that is secure from intrusion. Meaning are you rushing through sex for fear of being interrupted or being caught by one of your parents, or roommates.
Are you having a sex in a place that is comfortable both to you and for you. In my day the favorite place to have sex was the back seat of the old mans Chevy. My wife now tells me that for her and other women this was not very comfortable place for having sex.
Guys can get off almost anyplace. They don't worry as much about being caught as all they need to do is put it back in their pants and zip up. For a women it takes more to put herself back together. Getting caught is always a distraction, even to married couples with children.
Comfort, both your personal comfort and your comfort with where you are having sex is also important. As I said if you are uncomfortable this is going to be a distraction to and for you.
Assuming that you are in a safe place and comfortable; the problem is most likely that you are more clitoral than vaginal. If this is the problem their are two ways to help you have better sex with your boy friend.
To find out if you are more clitoral you should find a place where you can masturbate in private. There is nothing wrong with masturbation, according to a recent survey nearly 95 percent of the population masturbate. It is something we all do to each other during foreplay as well.
The reason I am telling you to do this is you can control how you touch yourself during masturbation. Stimulate you clitoris primarily during masturbation. If you hit that big O during masturbation the problem is 50% solved. Now all you need to do is teach your boyfriend how to touch you and stimulate you during foreplay. He will have to pay greater attention to your needs during foreplay as well. You may also need to extend the time you spend having foreplay until you are sufficiently excited.
To get the greatest enjoyment from sex both partners need to communicate. Moaning does not really tell your partner anything, you need to verbalize your needs. Touch me here, lick me there, don't do that, pinch me here and so on. He too needs to tell you what his needs are.
When I first met my wife she gave a horrible handjob; hard to believe but true. I had to teach her what I liked and how to give one without rubbing me raw; she too had to teach me what she liked. None of us are mind readers that is why in anything we do, sex included, communication is important. How is your boyfriend going to know what your needs are if you do not tell him and show him what you want. You also need to ask him what he likes and does not like.
Below is a website link I found that has some positions you might want to try which offers greater clitoral stimulation.
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My ex was taller than me too..try 5"0' and 6"4'!
The height difference can be problematic in certain positions, but I don't think that's what's causing you trouble with going on top, as that shouldn't be affected by the height difference.
For many women, being on top is the best way to achieve orgasm, although this isn't always the case. Try going in a sliding motion rather than just bouncing up and down and make sure he is holding your hips firmly down as you move. This should stop his penis from coming out all the time.
As for doggy style, try experimenting a little with the positioning. Perhaps try bending over a bed or chair. It might make it easier for your boyfriend to enter you at a more comfortable height. As with you on top, ensure he is holding onto you firmly, as otherwise he won't be able to stay inside.
Spoons, where you both lie side by side facing the same way and he enters you from behind is a good position for a big height difference. It also gives both of you the advantage of having your hands free, which could help you achieve orgasm.
Remember that many women struggle to orgasm through penetrative sex alone. Most of us need additional clitoral stimulation, so positions which give you or your boyfriend the opportunity to stimulate your clitoris are your best bet.
I would give you more help on this subject but we are unable to give explicit sexual advice here. Here are some links which may help you further:
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