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Torn between 2 boys.
Even writing this is hard. I was dating my ex boyfriend for 6 months, for the first 3 months, everything went so well. We were so close, physically and emotionally. We have been split for 3 months now and all I can do is think about him. The reason we split up is because to me, it seemed as though he was getting really bored and I felt as though he lost interest so fast. We used to argue all the time, and I just got fed up, so I ended it. I changed my number and tried to move on, somehow he still crosses my mind, every day I find myself doing things when I'm really busy, and I still think about him. Sometimes, I can cry for hours about him. I am so deeply in love with him, but I know he's no good. He treated me like crap, and the countless arguments bored me. I've currently just got into a relationship, for about 3 weeks now, to one of my long time friendships. He's amazing, he brings out the best in me, he knows how to treat me & I feel a lot for him. I can't decide, the feelings I have for them both... My ex boyfriend sent me a message, telling me how much I meant to him. It made me cry for endless hours. I'm confused, heartbroken, stressed and I just feel like shutting everything out and moving away.
Female 16.
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You need to move on, If you must then block him. Currently being in a relationship while still hung up on someone eles isn't faur to your current boyfriend. If you aren't over your ex then you technically aren't ready to be in a relationship with someone eles. It is misleading and unfair.
You seem to be well aware if the fact that your ex treated you poorly. Why would you even second guess? I believe being in contact is allowing yourself to be held back. If you want to move on then allow yourself too. Block him and stop remaining in contact. Focus on what you have now as it could end up being something awesome, You need to leave the past the past. If you don't, You will loose what you have.
Stop allowing your ex to manipulate you because you finally found someone better. Jealousy is a funny thing and if you crawl back to him then you dug your own hole.... Your choice
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You already know that your ex is no good for you. I obviously wouldn't advise you to go back to a guy who treated you like crap when you have a guy who treats you great.
Right now you're in a tough situation. You need to move on from your ex. You also shouldn't be with your current boyfriend. You said you are so deeply in love with your ex, it's just not fair to him.
Take some more time and space. Don't talk to your ex, if you have his number, delete it, and don't be friends with him on Facebook.
And then with your current boyfriend, tell him you need some time to figure things out. And while you're not talking to them, figure things out and find a way to really move on.
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Hey there, I know how you're feeling. I too dated a guy that seemed right for me, only to end up heartbroken. We were close physically and emotionally as well.. But there tends to be a time when a guys true colors start to show - when you decided to break up with him. You say yourself that you felt as if he lost interest and you argued a lot with eachother; things that are unhealthy in any relationship. You were smart to change your number and try to move on. The only problem left here is your unwillingness to let go of the past...
A while back I dated a guy who I thought was perfect for me. We could talk endlessly, he would make me laugh, we had the same interests and goals, we were best friends. What was once a good friendship eventually turned into dating and then when we realized we were near perfect for eachother, he broke up with me. I'm not telling you this out of pity, but rather for you to learn from the experience. After that day when he broke my heart, I was upset everyday. I cried every day for weeks after and with no contact with him I grew sadder. But then one day I realized he was no good too. He wasted my time and had scarred my heart from the get-go and I had no idea. Your guy was doing the same. He made you fall for him with no intentions of supporting you whatsoever. I'm with a different guy now who is much better for me and so are you. You know it. You can't let go cuz you are caught up in the past. This is unfair to your current boyfriend. The only reason you cried over your ex's text is because he finally realized what he lost and you believe he can change. Hun, it is very rare that a guy will ever change. As the old saying goes: "fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." This means you cannot fall for his 'good' text when you know in your heart, you'll go back to arguing with him. This also means that you shouldn't take your current guy for granted, when you say yourself "he brings out the best in me". If he makes you feel great, why would you settle for less? People get out of relationships for good reasons. Realize that it was a good decision. You will be happier with the guy you're with - trust me. And if you ever have any doubts when it comes to two guys, always remember: If you truly loved the first guy, you wouldn't have fallen for the second.
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