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I'm known in my family for "Putting salt on my salt,", or having an excess amount of salt on my food. It's awful; I know. My family and I make jokes, and they've become accustomed to the way I eat my food. What I do is, I'll be eating with a fork or something in one hand, while I use my other hand's pointer finger to eat salt. Like, I'll wet it slightly with my tongue, and dip it in a large pile I keep on the side of my plate. I dip my finger in the salt on average about once or twice per bite of food. If I'm eating steak or Chinese food, it can be up to four or five. I use my finger, as well as load salt on the actual food. And I put it on everything. I even have to load up my Ramen noodles with salt.
As I mentioned earlier, my family is used to this. But if a guest comes over or something, they can get quite appalled. My older sister's friend, who is an extreme health nut, ate dinner with us, and we were having steak (Well, my sister and him are vegetarians, but the the rest of us ate steak). He stared at me as if he were watching a train wreck, haha.
The point is, it's really getting out of hand. It's been this way since I was about 5. When I was younger, I would even pour salt on my hand and lick it. I can sometimes get these excruciating pains in my calf's at night. I hear that can be caused from a lack of Potassium, which in turn can be caused from excess sodium. I looooove food. Problem is, I love salt on like, 80% of my food. I've tried having a meal without salt once or twice, and I couldn't make it through two bites. Everything tastes teeeeeerrible without it!
I want to live a long time. I don't want to leave this earth from a heart attack. I want to enjoy my life, be a grandparent, die old. I know I'm slowly killing myself with salt. But, even with this in mind, I cannot stop. I've come to terms with it: I'm totally addicted. It tastes sooooooo good. So I suppose my question is... Is there anything I can do to stop this? I don't want to be that dependent on something that can be so lethal. Can anyone help me? Thank you for reading this painfully-long question. (link)
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I can see where your coming from. I'm a huge salt addict myself. Although it's not such a severe case as yours.
Well, your body needs salt, also because it has iodine which your body needs. However, too much of anything is a bad thing. Salt in itself causes high blood pressure, amongst reserving water in your body, kind of like bloating.
These days, there's more salt already added to the food you eat than you need. So adding more salt is basically asking for high blood pressure.
Here's a reliable website about a few major things about sodium: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/sodium/NU00284
Start small, cut a little bit of salt out of your diet every day. You'll eventually become accustomed to food without salt and won't feel the urge to eat it so frequently, if at all.
Definitely take a glance at the website I searched because it really has some knowledgeable information.
Hope I helped!
Jackieee
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Well hey everyone!(:
This is going to happen tomorrow night! So please answer(:
So my really good guy friend said he wanted to have sex with me. He's been flirting a lot lately and has asked a lot. I'm 14 and he's 15 but we have been friends forever! He said cause its a new year I should do something new?! So I agreed and all cause he's nice and stuff and like we've been friends for a while and idk if he's gonna get mad if I say no or something. He also wouldn't stop asking. I'm just worried I won't know what to do cause I'm a virgin and he's not. He said not to use a condom. So can I get pregnant? I don't think I want a baby! That'd be bad. I don't think I can get pregnant because I have two weeks until my period and I heard its the worst time to get pregnant or something. I am also really petite so I don't think I would be able to like have the baby. He also said because its my first time I can't get pregnant. Will I bleed? I don't want to cause I'm scared of blood! Will it hurt during and after? Please answer(: Any other tips/advice/help would be great! I don't know lots about this haha! Thanks!
Thank yaa all(: Please answer(: Don't be rude! (link)
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I know this is a little outdated, but I just wanted to share some knowledge with you about sex and the common myths. Now, I have no problem with sex (although I think if you're under 17, you should wait) but you should at least know the facts. EVERYTHING I TELL YOU RIGHT NOW IS SOMETHING YOU SHOULD SPREAD TO YOUR FRIENDS AND EVERYONE YOU KNOW WHO IS YOUR AGE.
1. Sex while on your period is safe.
FALSE - you can get pregnant at ANY TIME.
2. The withdrawal, or "pull out", method is safe.
FALSE - Pre ejaculation, or "pre cum", can happen at ANY point during sex and the guy normally doesn't even feel it. If he tells you that you can't get pregnant using the pull-out method, HE'S LYING.
3. You can't get pregnant at any time.
FALSE - you can get pregnant at anytime, even if you're on your period. See number 1.
4. A girl can't get pregant the first time having sex
FALSE - A girl's chances of getting pregnant are the same EVERY SINGLE TIME of having sex. Don't let anyone tell you different.
5. FACT - If you have a "regluar" period (a period that cycles every 28 days), you ovulate 14 days in, in other words 2 WEEKS, which is the BEST TIME TO GET PREGNANT!
6. Douching, showering, urinating or bathing after sex can prevent pregnancy.
FALSE - these are not effective uses of birth control. USE A CONDOM. ALWAYS.
7. Using Saran Wrap or a balloon as a condom and/or using vaseline as a lubricant are safe.
FALSE - If you don't have condoms, don't have sex. Simple as that. If you use vaseline as a lubricant, there's a higher risk of the condom breaking. Use a lubricant on the market that's scientifically safe to use.
8. You can't get pregnant if you jump up and down after.
FALSE - Whoever came up with this is an idiot, end of story.
9. If you have sex standing up or if the girl is on top, you won't get pregnant.
FALSE - See number 8.
Look, I know this is tedious and I don't care what you rate me. You deserve to know the facts, and so does every other 14 year old girl. Boys your age, and older until they're actually mature, will ALWAYS make up lies to take advantage of a vulnerable and innocent girl like you.
There have been cases of girls having babies as young as 9 years old and even though you think you're petite and can't have a baby, think again. Think wisely. Whether it be and STI, STD or get pregnant, it can happen to ANYONE, even you. YOU'RE NOT THE EXCEPTION.
Please take this advice seriously and be thankful all these other people were nice enough to take the time to answer your question because they were concerned. We don't care if you give us 1's, 2's or 3's, WE CARE THAT YOU ARE SAFE, and that's it.
Hope I helped.
And remember, help others by spreading this advice.
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so first off im 15/f
my boyfriend asked if it would be ok if he fingered me and i really dont know im a virgin and my friends all tease me about it but ive always been kinda proud of it but i am completly in love with him we have been together 5 months please help asap (link)
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There's a motto that goes around on Advicenators that goes something like this: "If you have to ask, don't do it." If you're ever unsure about anything in a relationship, don't do it.
Tell your friends to buzz off, that you have enough pride and security about yourself that you're in no rush for anything. Let your relationship take its own course between you and your boyfriend; it has nothing to do with your friends so they should mind their own business.
I was just like you when I was 15. A virgin in every way and VERY proud of it. It's not even a big deal so I don't know why kids these days make it such an atrocity if you haven't gone to "second base".
IT'S YOUR RELATIONSHIP. Do what you want. Don't ever feel pressured by your friends or boyfriend or anyone else for that matter. If your boyfriend is pressuring you (in the future), you need to break it off with him because all he wants is sex and not a relationship.
So, my advice to you is don't do anything yet. Just wait, you have plenty of time.
I hope I helped!
Jackieee
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Hey Everybody, Im 17 and I just had the IUD Mirena inserted two days ago, and that same night I had sex because I thought it would become effective immediately. Then I soon heard that it becomes effective in seven days. Is this true? (link)
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I just tried to find the answer on the website but I had no luck.
Many oral birth control pills say to wait for 7 days, but honestly, I think everyone says something different. My birth control pills say to wait seven days, but my friend's old doctor said to wait a month. I'm really not sure about an IUD though.
Anyway, typically that's something your OB/GYN should go over with you, or you should've researched/called him/her to get an official answer.
There can be no assumptions in the world of intercourse. You should alwaysalwaysALWAYS verify any questions with your doctor before you do something you don't have a professional answer to. Next time (and you may still want to call your doctor at this point), any questions need to be asked to a professional gynecologist because they'll have the most effective answer for you.
Good Luck!
Jackieee
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okay so umm im 13 and sometime when my gf and i are watching tv and it gets boring so i tell her to take her clothes off (no ones home so dont worry)and then i tell her to relax and then i go "down there" and start licking and then i go faster but she starts screaming and kicking and it gets on my nerves but she says it feels great so why is she screaming because i dont scream when she gives me "you know" so why does she do it (link)
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You're 13, why are you giving your girlfriend oral sex and vice versa? Shouldn't you be enjoying your childhood, playing outside, and calling your close guy friends over to sleep over at your house? Don't rush growing up, you're only 13 once and you have a lot of time until you should be concerned about why your girlfriend screams when you go down on her. And when you are older you won't have to ask adult questions to strangers on advicenators.com because you'll be old enough to know the answer.
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16/f
Everytime I get on my period, my vagina literally leaks a water-like substance. It isn't thick like discharge. It goes straight through my pants & I can't control it at all. It comes at the most random times. Even when I wear tampons, it's like it goes completely through it.
Is this normal ? (link)
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I can't say I've experienced this, and I haven't heard of this before. I'm no doctor but I've been on this site long enough to have seen every kind of question.
I definitely can't tell you I know what's going on. However, I think you should find out what's up by a professional because no one here can diagnose you with anything.
I think you should go to the doctor to solve this problem once and for all. It could be something that will go away in no time, without any medication or it might be something bigger. So you might want to get some verification of what may be causing the problem.
Good luck!
Jackieee
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16/f
I have the worst time trying to fall asleep.
It's been worse over the summer but even before I just couldn't fall asleep and it'd take me an hour or 2.
I think it started my sophomore year where I couldn't fall asleep. I'm going into my senior year and it's still bothering me. I mean it wasn't every night because I did have some good nights where it'd only take me 20 or 30 min to fall asleep.
I was thinking maybe I was making it into a habit. So I just tried going to bed at 10 or 11 but wouldn't fall asleep till like 12 or 1. I had to wake up at 5:30 for school but my body was used to the hours I slept so it didn't affect my grades or anything.
So I've tried different sleeping times and tried to get used to them but that didn't work. I tried reading before going to bed because people usually fall asleep during that time but that didn't work. Drinking milk didn't help lol. I would just lay there, for hours, just thinking about anything and everything. It's like my mind was still wide awake no matter how tired my eyes were.
I tried writing in my journal to let everything out, but even when I had nothing particular on my mind I couldn't sleep.
Now it's horrible, because last night is where it was really bad. I tried going to bed at midnight but I was laying there forever so I started reading. I read till about 1 or 2. Then laid back down and did not fall asleep till about 6. That was so bad.
When I fall asleep, I'm out. So I didn't wake up till like 1pm. I hate sleeping that late. It's so bad.
When I'm really drained, this isn't often, but I can naps very easily. But when I wake up, I feel sick like I'm going to throw up but I know I'm not going to. It's just my stomach feeling like it's twisting. Soo what's up with that?
Sorry that this was long but it's really starting to bother me and I can't have it be this bad during my senior year. (link)
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I know how miserable it is not being able to fall asleep and/or stay asleep. I also suffer from sleeping problems, except I've had them for basically my whole life. And I also know that reading doesn't help me at all...the only thing it helps is passing the time by quicker.
First, maybe it's something you want to get diagnosed by a sleep doctor because you may actually have a problem.
--When you're going to bed, make sure that your room is dark. No nightlights, TV...nothing. That way your body recognizes that it's dark and time to fall asleep.
--Try not to drink or eat anything with caffiene for at least a few hours before you fall asleep. Eating/snacking before you sleep may also keep you up because of the energy in the food. If you're hungry or thirsty, my best bet to you is water and something light and healthy like a piece of fruit or vegetable. Nothing with a ton of calories.
--Taking a sleep aid (you can find them at any drugstore...CVS, Rite Aid, Walgreens, etc.) could definitely help you as it helps me. I use non-addictive, natural pills and they help me stay on a healthy sleep schedule.
--Sleep in a room with a comfortable temperature...if it's too hot, you'll find it more difficult to try to fall to sleep.
--I know this may sound odd, but sometimes when I can't sleep, I switch sides of my bed. So when I normally sleep on the side with my headboard, I'll sleep on the side I usually put my feet. I've recommended this to other people and it works. Although I wouldn't recommend it every night, just seldom occasions, because then the trick might wear off and stop working for you!
--I was recently given "Sleep Body Lotion" from Bath & Body Works which (with the help of the Lavender Vanilla scent) relaxes the mind. I've only used it twice and I can't quite tell yet if it works for me, but I have a sample bottle so it's not a waste of money if it doesn't work out.
That's about all the advice I can give you...that I can think of anyway. I hope this helps, even just a little.
Good luck!
Jackieee
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I don't know if I like this guy or not, hes one of my close friends. we were playing around and I ended up on top of him and grinding. I'm haven't had sex and neither has he, but He wants too. I'm not ready yet but I don't want to stop what we are doing. I don't want a relationship, just the action. This sounds slutty, but he is okay with it that way too. Should we keep fooling around or not? (link)
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If you don't know if you really like him or not, then I say maybe it's something you might not want to get into further.
Before you think you want to have sex with him, I want to warn you (unless you're absulutely sure you'll have no emotional attachment to him afterwards) that there's a solid chance you'll get attached. If he's your first, it may be bound to happen. If I were you, I'd wait until the perfect guy for you came around so you won't regret anything. But that's just me. However, if you do decide to have sex with him, remember to be safe and use a condom...don't want any pregnancy scares.
Buuut on the other hand, if you're having a fun time with him and want to keep things how they are...then I say keep fooling around, but maybe just stick to 1st, 2nd, and 3rd base--forget the homerun.
To sum up my advice to you: have fun with him, but only to an extent.
Good luck!
Jackieee
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I've been constipated all summer and when I try to make my self go to the bathroom it hurts and stings. I've tried taking laxatives and green tea but it doesn't work. The first weeks I tried to make myself poop there was blood, but there isnt anymore, blood it just stings and hurts. When I feel like I have to go to the restroom I can't poop and I try to make myself but there's nothing. If I go to the doctor what will they have to do? (link)
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I can't tell you what they're going to do. It depends on if you're really constipated or something more.
If you're constipated, they might try a better laxitive or an enema (basically fluid squeezed into the rectum to cause a bowel movement...I've experienced it and it's not as bad as it sounds at all. I felt 10x better after I used one) if it's really painful to you.
Just be brave--constipation hurts a lot and at some point, you'll be desperate to do anything--don't worry about what the doctors will do, they're only going to help you.
Good luck!
Jackieee
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ok, so i shave down in that area. and everytime i shave i CANT get it perfectly smooth. i can still see the black little hairs where my hair folicule is. its sooooo annoying. is there anything that will work? how are you supposed to shave down there? i read that you are supposed to go side to side. but that doesnt get the hair down there. i need answers please! (link)
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The only real way to get rid of the whole hair is to either pluck it which seems to be way too time consuming or wax it. Waxing might hurt but it'll last longer than the shaving method and it'll be perfectly and desirably smooth. And you don't necessarily have to go to a salon to get it done. They sell wax in drugstores especially for legs and the bikini line so you can do it yourself.
My suggestion to you is do it shortly after you get out of the shower (when you're dry, of course), that way your pores have all opened up from the warm water and steam so waxing will be less painful.
I have tried using Nair, but it doesn't get rid of the whole hair. It's just a substitute for shaving basically.
Good luck and I hope I helped!
Jackieee :)
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16/F So I had sex for the first time a couple days ago and I started my period the next day. We did not use a condom so I was paranoid about him cumming inside me but he's experienced and said he didn't and I trust him. I have already had my cherry popped so I know it's not me bleeding from my first time having sex. I was wondering, if he accidentally DID cum inside me even if he didn't think he did, could I possibly become pregnant even if I'm on my period? I doubt I am but it feels better to make sure. (link)
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Even though you got your period the day after you had sex, anything is possible. Anything. If you look it up on the Internet on a college website or a .org or .gov website, you can find very accurate information about sexual questions you may have.
Also, if you or anyone believe that just because he said he didn't cum inside you, you need to brush up on your sex-ed because you can easily get pregnant from pre-cum which is basically ejaculate a guy doesn't feel during sex. So technically he could've and very well might have cummed inside you without full-on cumming inside you.
Pre-ejaculation: something you may want to consider going to the library or using the internet to research. And tell your friends about it too.
Jackieee
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Hi! Im Gracie, my names Melinda but people call me gracie. Im a girl(obviously. Im 13 and I still dnt have my period. My sister Melissa got hers a few months ago and we're identical mirror image twins, were supposed to be,physically,just alike! Most of my friends have theirs too! My dad says that all girls get it sooner or later, but hes a boy so im sure he doesnt kno much about stuff like this. My dads girlfriend katie says that its jus bcause im small for my age but Lissa's small too! I kinda dnt want my period bcuz when Lissa got hers she cried and said it hurt real bad. Im scared. But its still not fair that Lissa got hers before me. I dnt really want my period but I wish Lissa didnt get hers either she gets everything first. Why dont i have it yet? is something wrong with me? (link)
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This is completely normal! Your period could come tomorrow or when you're 14!I know it seems like you and your sister should've both gotten it at about the same time, but just because you're twins, doesn't mean everything you girls do/get will be at the same time!
Once you get your period, you'll feel silly for even writing this...feel lucky you haven't been cursed with PMS yet! Don't feel envious or jealous that she got her period first, you're definitely luckier in this instance!
I remember I wanted to get my period too, and I remember thinking "I have the wider hips and growing breasts, so why haven't I gotten my period?!"...now I wish I'd never ever gotten it!
Your sister's right, it does hurt! And it's an annoyance and the idea of it is just gross!
Best of luck when you get it, sweetie!
Jackieee
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Firstly. We're both 17.
So my boyfriend had a party last night, and a couple of hours before he went he decided to call me. The call consisted of me asking him if he would please please skip any flirty, snuggly, huggly, kissy dares, because he had been very liberated about that, even when we're together.
His response was basically that there was something wrong with me, that I wasn't all right with that. That "no-one else seems to have that problem but you". Followed by "Why can't I be with you, AND have fun?"
I then asked him how he would feel if I had my lips pressed up against someone elses', and he said he wouldn't mind, which tore my heart out.
He kept repeating "I don't want to ruin everyone's night by chickening out of a dare just because I have a girlfriend", and "why does it have to be either A or B with you..hy does it matter if it wouldn't mean anything anyway."
I'm just very hurt right now, that he doesn't see kissing as a special thing that I only want to share with him, and he replies with "you've been with plenty of people and kissed them too." which is true but only before we got together.
I'm just extremely upset and hurt. Is this normal? Am I over-reacting?
I appreciate any advice/help.
Thank you
Kkytha
17/f/Aus (link)
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Surely, I don't think you're overreacting at all. I would be very hurt, as well.
First off, truth or dare is ALL about those kinds of things...so you should avoid the game in general, unless you want it to end on a bad note with your boyfriend.
The fact that he nonchalantly said he wouldn't care if you kissed another guy in front of him (whether or not if it meant anything), signals to me that he might not value your relationship. And if he is telling you he doesn't care if you kiss someone else, he could be doing the same thing to you, and you might not even know.
His reaction is very suspect and I, for one, absolutely would not trust him. Who knows what he could be doing to you? You need to have a serious sit-down talk with him about valueing your relationship as a couple (and no third parties, whether or not it's just truth or dare) OR maybe you need to walk away from him until he can mature and fully take on the responsibility of a relationship instead of being concerned solely on "truth or dare" which is very childish of him.
Don't let him turn this around on you. So you've dated other guys before and obviously you've kissed but not in a cheating fashion, so what? Your boyfriend is incompetent and he needs to change or you need to get our of your relationship, because it seems to me that he WILL cheat on you (in front of you or not) or HAS already.
You don't deserve this.
Best of luck and I hope I helped.
Jackieee
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Sorry this is long...hope you like novels :P
I was going out with her for 9 months but it was the slowest relationship ever! We enjoyed each other’s company but we were so shy. We hardly ever went on dates and never got very far, it was a bit pathetic really. By the time we got to the point where we could have had a normal, awesome relationship she’d lost interest and we broke up a couple of months ago. Of course we said “we’ll still be friends” but that’s always just the nicest way of saying “I want to break up with you”. Stupidly I took this to mean that we both just wanted a break (that’s how I felt anyway) so it was pretty heart wrenching when she got a new boyfriend about a month ago. I’ve spent the last 2 months trying to get over her, forget her etc but I can’t seem to do it. I spend every moment at home trying to convince myself that it’s over, it’s for the best and I don’t love her anymore etc but as soon as I see her again at school that all goes out the window. I’m always daydreaming about her coming back to me or about how I could have done things better and stuff and then I realize how pathetic it is that I’m still doing this after 2 months, snap out of it and get really angry with myself. Then 10 minutes later I’m doing it again, it’s tearing me apart and becomes a huge distraction (I’m meant to be doing an art assignment right now :P) I love her but I guess I have 2 options:
a) use advice from you guys to move on (realistic)or
b) use advice from you guys to get her back (desired)
Thanks soo much :)
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I know how this feels. As much as I wanted him back the first few months after my break up after dating over a year, there was a point where I realized getting him back was just not going to happened. I had hoped with everything in me that we'd get back together, but I knew it was wishful thinking.
With that, it's a blessing we never got back together because I met a guy (my current boyfriend) who was everything I wanted and more.
I know it feels like you can't imagine yourself without her in your life, but, for the time being, you guys might not be "meant to be". If you were meant to be together, you will be.
Look forward. You might just find someone bigger and better than her, just as I did.
The very best of luck to you and
I hope I helped!
Jackieee
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can i be pregnant if my boyfriends hand had barly any prurm on it and fingered me (link)
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Sperm can live in air unlike the myth that is commonly heard of. Sperm lose most of the ability to swim once they hit air, but so long as the semen (the fluid sperm live in) stays moist and wet, the sperm live. When that semenal fluid dries up, the sperm die.
Do not believe it when people tell you that sperm die when they are outside a body. Absorb the information above and spread the word!
Also, there is a possibility of a pregnancy. A normal, healthy male can release between 40 million and 1.2 billion sperm cells in a single ejaculation, so anything is possible. However, it is unlikely.
Next time you guys are intimate, be sure for him to keep one hand designated for you and one hand designated for him. In other words, he can pleasure himself with one hand while he uses the other hand to pleasure you. If he wants to switch hands, make sure he washes his hands throughly or keep a bottle of hand sanitizer nearby.
Hope I Helped!
Jackieee
If you're (or anyone else) questioning my information, I gathered the websites I recieved it on :)
http://scienceline.org/2008/06/ask-olson-sperm/
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/pregnancy/AN00281
http://www.ehow.com/about_5447549_long-sperm-live-outside-body.html
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so i am a young female and still growing and stuff but i know girls and guys get pimples and what-not but i think this is a problem. I thought people get pimples here and there...but on like one side of my forehead i am getting alot i mean alot of pimples and its really bothering me. they are not huge they are actually not even that big or pussy or anything but there are lots on one side and i think its gross. what is happening?! i dont do anything differently for whatever reason from one side of my forehead to the other...i dont know why i am getting these pimples on just like one side...thanks for letting me know AND also because i havent used any acne solutions or anything but if you guys know of products that cure or help acne blemishes, please tell!!! thank you guys! (link)
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Many people don't even think about their pillowcases. Try and change your pillowcase weekly because oils can build up on it and cause blemishes.
Also, I make sure I wash my face twice a day. Everyday. I generally use Neutrogena Oil-Free Acne Facial Cleanser that you can basically get at any drugstore. However, recently I've been using Hibiclens Liquid, which you can also buy at your local CVS. It's generally used for surgical reasons (it's an antimicrobial skin cleanser that helps reduce bacteria). It basically rids of any kind of bacteria, including acne-causing bacteria.
Also, make sure you moisturize your face with an oil free cream. Just so your face doesn't dry out and peel. You might also want to invest in a dermatologist, they can prescribe you with a topical cream or oral medication that can help your face.
If you use any kind of make-up, like cover up or concealer, try to buy oil free products. I use Neutrogena SkinClearing Oil-Free Makeup cover-up. It's blemish treatment with salicylic acid so it covers any blemishes while getting rid of them!
I really hope I helped!
Good luck!
Jackieee
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hey i gotta test coming up really soon, so reply ASAP. thank you! so i just want to know the spanish terms of "is"- esta, estas, estan, estoy, estamos. when do u use them? can someone clarify that? For example you say "you would use esta if the sentence....." blah, blah and for the rest of them. im kinda confused, thank you again. (link)
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Use "estar" with the acronym HELP:
H - Health (I am sick--Yo estoy enfermo)
E - Emotion (We are sad--Nosotros estamos tristes)
L - Location (He is in Mexico--El esta en Mexico)
P - Present Progressive. A.K.A. english words that end with -ing. (She is swimming--Ella esta nadando)
-AR verbs end with -ando
-ER/-IR verbs end with -iendo
*You probably won't have to use the "P" in "HELP" but, better safe than sorry!
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first off I'm 20/F and he's 19/M
Background information:
we dated in high school (my senior year, his junior year). He broke up with me. Not sure of the reason why. I know, how can you not know? Well believe me, I don't know.
Current situation:
We are both now in college. Me- Junior in college. Him- Sophomore in college.
In October we started talking again. We started talking about our past relationship and why we broke up. We both said that we still had feelings for each other and we'd like a second chance. He had a girlfriend at that time and I said that I couldn't continue talking to him how we were talking since he had a girlfriend, it was not fair to me or his girlfriend. He said he understood that and it wasn't fair but he wanted to still talk to me as friends. So we tried that and it didn't work. We couldn't talk as friends. So I said I couldn't talk to him anymore. So I stopped talking to him which was the hardest thing to do. A week later he messaged me and said he missed me, missed talking to me, and wanted to talk to me. A couple days later he broke up with his girlfriend.
We started talking a lot more after that and things were absolutely PERFECT. He came and visited me at my school and I went to his school a couple times. He's in a frat and he asked me to go to his frat's semi-formal and so I did. Everything was perfect. Things were better than before. We talked all day everyday non stop. He kept saying he didn't know why he broke up with me and he know realizes it was a mistake and he never should have. We hung out over our thanksgiving break then we went back to school and still everything was perfect. We talked all day everyday still and things kept going good. Then we hung out over our christmas break, we got each other christmas presents and we spent new years eve together. I've never been happier. When we are with each other we always have fun, we are always laughing and things are great.
Well, he went back to school 5 days before me and ever since he got back to school he's been short with me, giving me one-word answers. Not really talking as much, not messaging me first like he used to, not calling me babe or baby or anything. Not really saying much to me. I asked him if everything was okay and he said yes. I asked if something was on his mind and he said no, nothing is wrong. I don't want to keep asking that because eventually it's going to make him mad. I'm not sure what happened or if something happened or what I should do. I known you can not force someone to talk to you or force someone to do anything. It has to happen on it's own.
So I guess what I'm wondering is what you guys think is going on? What you think happened, or what you think is happening. And what I should do or what I shouldn't do.
ps: our schools are about 2 hours and 45 minutes away from each other and it wasn't a big deal before. (link)
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I can't exactly tell you what is going on in his head, but I'll try to give you what could be going on.
Firstly, you guys are in college, and 2 separate colleges at that. You have no idea what he's up to and he could be interested in someone else for all we know.
However, he could be in a funk. Like maybe he did poorly on an exam or something along those lines. If he's giving you one word answers or not communicating with you, maybe you should give him a little breathing space. Something could've happened, but he feels embarrassed or ashamed to tell you so he just needs some time for it to roll off his shoulders.
If I were you, I wouldn't really talk to him until he talks to you, that way you know he's out of his little phase and he's feeling better. If he doesn't really heal from this dilemma here, I think he might be interested in moving on.
I can't tell you what's going on; that's his place, but since guys generally don't express their feelings, you may never know. Unfortunately this may not be something you can fix. It's really up to him at this point.
Good luck, I hope things end up how you want them to!
Jackieee
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I'm 16 i have been with my boyfriend for about 4 months now, and its gotten to the point where we fight a lot but any time i try to leave him, he talks me out of it, i kinda wanna be with other guys but im not sure, i love him. But i've been talking to this other guy (just friends) and i fell for him, and i just dont know what to do about it because i love my boyfriend, but there;s always that temptation to be with someone else.. HELP! (link)
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You're young and you should experience other guys if you feel the one you have isn't working for you. Of course, if you love him, then maybe you shouldn't leave your situation. We, as advice givers, can't make decisions for you, you have to go with your gut and heart.
Personally, if you were really dedicated to only be with your current boyfriend, you wouldn't be tempted to be with anyone else; and that's because you'd know you have the best. Does that make sense? Like I never and would never picture myself with any other guys because I'm so head over heels with my boyfriend and he's someone who complements me so well.
Think thoroughly about your decision. I have faith you'll make the best of your situation.
I hope I helped!
Jackieee
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im 18..me n my bf we r planning to have sex and i really want to do it2 bt i am afraid wat if i get pregnant? sometimes condoms are not fully the protection and i waz just thinking whats the good thing to do? (link)
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Condoms aren't the only way of contraception here, which is generally what most people think.
Before you engage in sexual activity, I highly suggest you and your boyfriend go through which ways of contraception you should/want to use. With that, no matter how many methods you choose, always use a condom.
If you go onto a local drugstore's website, like CVS.com or walgreens.com, which ever is closest and most convenient for you, you can see what kinds of contraceptions (and condoms too) you can use.
They have many films, gels and foams that females can use. For instance, they have vaginal contraceptive foams which can be used like this: "Insert one applicator full of foam in the vagina no more than one hour before each act of intercourse".
They also have a dissolving contraceptive film, which works like this: "Lasts up to 3 hours! The dissolving contraceptive you both can't feel! Laboratory tested. For prevention of pregnancy. Begins to dissolve instantly. No hormonal side effects. Kills sperm on contact. Sexually enhancing. Contains the spermicide doctors recommend most. What is VCF? VCF is a translucent square of material containing the active ingredient Nonoxynol-9, a widely used highly efficient spermicide. Placed high in the vagina as close as possible to the neck of the womb (cervix), it dissolves into a gel which exerts a powerful contraceptive effect against sperm. It is a potent spermicidal agent used successfully by million of women".
And they also have gels and jellies that work just the same: "For maximum protection against unwanted pregnancy, follow the enclosed directions exactly. Put an applicatorful (about a teaspoon) into the cup of the diaphragm and spread a small amount around the edge prior to inserting diaphragm (see complete, illustrated directions on package insert). Diaphragm with gel is affective immediately and up to six hours after application. An additional applicatorful is required prior to each act of intercourse, regardless of time since last application".
Also, you might not want to have sex while you're ovulating. I've been tracking my period on an online calendar for two years and it has an accurate ovulation calendar which tells me approximately when I'm ovulating. If that might be something you want to try, use www.mymonthlycycles.com.
Last but not least, use the pull-out method. Before he ejaculates, make sure he pulls out of you, just in case. By the way, for whomever may be reading this, this is absolutely NOT a reliable method of not getting pregnant. Girls can most certainly get pregnant from pre-ejaculation, which a guy generally can't feel or notice.
If I were you, I wouldn't use just one of these methods. I'd generally use 3 of the 4 I told you. But most importantly, and I can't stress it enough, ALWAYS wear a condom! No matter what method of contraception you're using.
I hope I helped you!
Be safe!
Jackieee
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