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i want to have sex but what if i get pregnant?
im 18..me n my bf we r planning to have sex and i really want to do it2 bt i am afraid wat if i get pregnant? sometimes condoms are not fully the protection and i waz just thinking whats the good thing to do?
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I suggest you make a trip to your local Planned Parenthood. You can make an appointment (which I suggest because they definitely get busy) and tell them what you're there for. You'll go in, they'll probably take a urine sample, and you'll eventually see a nurse. She'll ask you questions, and she'll determine if they have to examine you further. They might have to, they might not, I don't know because this process can be different for everyone. If they do examine you, it's a pretty quick process (about 5 mins, maybe 10 at the most) and then you're done. They'll give you birth control pills (sometimes a years supply) and they send you off. If you have questions, ask them while you're there. You might actually have to wait a little bit to have sex because they don't work immediately.
I do think you should always use two forms of contraceptives because you can never be too careful. Birth control pills and condoms work great. If something goes wrong with one, you have a back-up method to fall back on. And there is always the Plan B contraceptives should you get even more nervous. I'm glad you're thinking of your safety though (whether it be pregnancy or diseases) because most girls don't take these things into consideration and end up forgetting that there is a place to get free contraceptives. Be smart about your body. If you're going to have sex, use protection.
But in all seriousness, hit up Planned Parenthood. They are amazing.
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I say you just go for it if you have been planning it, its a special time but only share it with him if you really do care about eachother because things could happen but usually it doesnt. As long as you wear a condom and change it frequently, (depending how long you guys are in sexual intercourse) and if you feel he busted in you theres always plan B, its only 50$ but its worth it, its a 100% accurate and its alot cheaper then adding a baby into your life. I say go for it, if you really want. dont let that get to you and be on the back of your mind, if you use protection and are smart about it, thats nothing to even worry about. Hope this helped! - Angie
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well think of things do you really love him does he love you? do you think it will mess things up with him? Protection just make you sure you handle it right. It never is 100 percent safe but as long as you use it and use it right it shouldnt be a problem. If you are scared dont really do it. You will know when the right time is. Hoped i helped a little.
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Condoms aren't the only way of contraception here, which is generally what most people think.
Before you engage in sexual activity, I highly suggest you and your boyfriend go through which ways of contraception you should/want to use. With that, no matter how many methods you choose, always use a condom.
If you go onto a local drugstore's website, like CVS.com or walgreens.com, which ever is closest and most convenient for you, you can see what kinds of contraceptions (and condoms too) you can use.
They have many films, gels and foams that females can use. For instance, they have vaginal contraceptive foams which can be used like this: "Insert one applicator full of foam in the vagina no more than one hour before each act of intercourse".
They also have a dissolving contraceptive film, which works like this: "Lasts up to 3 hours! The dissolving contraceptive you both can't feel! Laboratory tested. For prevention of pregnancy. Begins to dissolve instantly. No hormonal side effects. Kills sperm on contact. Sexually enhancing. Contains the spermicide doctors recommend most. What is VCF? VCF is a translucent square of material containing the active ingredient Nonoxynol-9, a widely used highly efficient spermicide. Placed high in the vagina as close as possible to the neck of the womb (cervix), it dissolves into a gel which exerts a powerful contraceptive effect against sperm. It is a potent spermicidal agent used successfully by million of women".
And they also have gels and jellies that work just the same: "For maximum protection against unwanted pregnancy, follow the enclosed directions exactly. Put an applicatorful (about a teaspoon) into the cup of the diaphragm and spread a small amount around the edge prior to inserting diaphragm (see complete, illustrated directions on package insert). Diaphragm with gel is affective immediately and up to six hours after application. An additional applicatorful is required prior to each act of intercourse, regardless of time since last application".
Also, you might not want to have sex while you're ovulating. I've been tracking my period on an online calendar for two years and it has an accurate ovulation calendar which tells me approximately when I'm ovulating. If that might be something you want to try, use www.mymonthlycycles.com.
Last but not least, use the pull-out method. Before he ejaculates, make sure he pulls out of you, just in case. By the way, for whomever may be reading this, this is absolutely NOT a reliable method of not getting pregnant. Girls can most certainly get pregnant from pre-ejaculation, which a guy generally can't feel or notice.
If I were you, I wouldn't use just one of these methods. I'd generally use 3 of the 4 I told you. But most importantly, and I can't stress it enough, ALWAYS wear a condom! No matter what method of contraception you're using.
I hope I helped you!
Be safe!
Jackieee
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