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stop being a whore
i was never really a slut. i was expierenced but never slutty- then i went from 0-65 in so short and started being rally slutty and now everyone hates me. i dont know what to do. im so upset at myself and i dont know why i do these things even.
how do i stop?
how do i change? and make people stop talking.
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Well, to start off people see you as what you make them see you as, so if you have slept with diffrent guys, and your not in a relationship with them or if you use guys for your satisfaction that makes you seem like one. I know girls who "seem" slutty when there not.
Don't be upset over this, just take a deep breath and relax. It shouldn't matter if people dislike you, do you still have close friends who care about you? If you do that means, not everyone hates you. Plus people start rumors and start things, so you don't need everyone loving you, being liked isn't a important thing. If you have close friends who care about you, thats all that should matter.
Just start over, anyone can. Don't do anything with any guy unless you feel like you love this person, most girls classified as "slut", or "whore" are girls who don't realize that guys have feelings.
If you do things like that because you feel unloved, stop everything and realize that letting guys use you, doesn't do anything for you. You don't gain confidence, it makes you feel worse, it makes people think your easy, when your not. Just think before you act, people always say this, but its's the best thing you can do, like I said don't do anything pyshical or even just kissing with someone unless your in a relationship with them and you truly care about them.
I hope I helped,
Emily <3
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Hello, first off i would like to say that sleeping with numerous men does not make you a slut.People are going to judge you and call you things that you arent just to get under your skin. Also you need to be happy with yourself and who you are. How do you stop, if you want to stop you should try to put your self in situations that you feel would benift you from not sleeping/messing around with men.Change takes time and takes alot of effort and anyone can do it.Just remember be your self, and dont frown upon what others think.
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How are you defining 'slutty'? Are we talking sleeping around or just kissing alot of guys? And how do YOU feel about it? If you're happy 'being slutty' then perhaps you should accept that people are going to talk and be done with it. Do make sure you're using appropriate protection though.
If you want people to stop talking about you then I'm afraid you're going to have to stop being slutty.
If you stop, eventually people will find something else to talk about. The trouble is that a bad reputation is very, very easy to gain but incredibly difficult to lose. It will take time for people to see you differently but eventually they'll get over it.
If you're unhappy with your behaviour then you need to address why you do it. Promiscuity is a classic manifestation of low self esteem. Does getting with alot of people make you feel good about yourself? Give you a confidence boost? Make you feel loved/wanted/attractive? If this is the case then I can tell you, first hand, that sex does not equal love. Sleeping with multiple guys will not make you happy. You may wish to consider councilling to address the issues behind your behaviour.
The bottom line is this: If you behave like a slut, people will treat you like one. Whether you enjoy it or not, you will lose respect from your peers. If you want people to stop 'hating' you then you need to stop being slutty.
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