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complicated relationship.
first off I'm 20/F and he's 19/M
Background information:
we dated in high school (my senior year, his junior year). He broke up with me. Not sure of the reason why. I know, how can you not know? Well believe me, I don't know.
Current situation:
We are both now in college. Me- Junior in college. Him- Sophomore in college.
In October we started talking again. We started talking about our past relationship and why we broke up. We both said that we still had feelings for each other and we'd like a second chance. He had a girlfriend at that time and I said that I couldn't continue talking to him how we were talking since he had a girlfriend, it was not fair to me or his girlfriend. He said he understood that and it wasn't fair but he wanted to still talk to me as friends. So we tried that and it didn't work. We couldn't talk as friends. So I said I couldn't talk to him anymore. So I stopped talking to him which was the hardest thing to do. A week later he messaged me and said he missed me, missed talking to me, and wanted to talk to me. A couple days later he broke up with his girlfriend.
We started talking a lot more after that and things were absolutely PERFECT. He came and visited me at my school and I went to his school a couple times. He's in a frat and he asked me to go to his frat's semi-formal and so I did. Everything was perfect. Things were better than before. We talked all day everyday non stop. He kept saying he didn't know why he broke up with me and he know realizes it was a mistake and he never should have. We hung out over our thanksgiving break then we went back to school and still everything was perfect. We talked all day everyday still and things kept going good. Then we hung out over our christmas break, we got each other christmas presents and we spent new years eve together. I've never been happier. When we are with each other we always have fun, we are always laughing and things are great.
Well, he went back to school 5 days before me and ever since he got back to school he's been short with me, giving me one-word answers. Not really talking as much, not messaging me first like he used to, not calling me babe or baby or anything. Not really saying much to me. I asked him if everything was okay and he said yes. I asked if something was on his mind and he said no, nothing is wrong. I don't want to keep asking that because eventually it's going to make him mad. I'm not sure what happened or if something happened or what I should do. I known you can not force someone to talk to you or force someone to do anything. It has to happen on it's own.
So I guess what I'm wondering is what you guys think is going on? What you think happened, or what you think is happening. And what I should do or what I shouldn't do.
ps: our schools are about 2 hours and 45 minutes away from each other and it wasn't a big deal before.
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I can't exactly tell you what is going on in his head, but I'll try to give you what could be going on.
Firstly, you guys are in college, and 2 separate colleges at that. You have no idea what he's up to and he could be interested in someone else for all we know.
However, he could be in a funk. Like maybe he did poorly on an exam or something along those lines. If he's giving you one word answers or not communicating with you, maybe you should give him a little breathing space. Something could've happened, but he feels embarrassed or ashamed to tell you so he just needs some time for it to roll off his shoulders.
If I were you, I wouldn't really talk to him until he talks to you, that way you know he's out of his little phase and he's feeling better. If he doesn't really heal from this dilemma here, I think he might be interested in moving on.
I can't tell you what's going on; that's his place, but since guys generally don't express their feelings, you may never know. Unfortunately this may not be something you can fix. It's really up to him at this point.
Good luck, I hope things end up how you want them to!
Jackieee
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