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okay so i have been dating my guy for 7 months and we each went all out for xmas time gifts so im kind of thinking i dont wanna go all out money-wise for v-day. but i still want it to be good you know? i also worry that he will go all out for me and then i will just feel bad so any suggestions would be great. i wont see him on valentines by the way so it cant be like dinner or anything like that... so far i think im getting him a new nice wallet with something in it-probably a note or a pic. and then a frame with a picure of us. maybe some cute boxers? and chocolate and other food of course...anything else?? thanks :) (link)
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If he goes all out on you and you don't go all out on him...do not feel bad. Guys don't notice who spent more on who...only girls do. It's better for you to not go all out on him because then YOU will be mad if he just gets you chocolate or flowers or something.
Make sure whatever you get him, is something he can use. My husband always says that he always loves getting socks, and under-shirts and stuff like that. He hates the cutesey teddy bears and singing frogs with hearts on them and stuff...because...well they just sit there and don't get used.
I know socks isn't really romantic...so ask him what he needs in his daily life. OR...you could just pay attention to what he says he needs...like a shaver or something like that. Practical is not always romantic so you could pair it with a picture of you two with a homemade frame that tells him how you feel about you two.
And yes, I agree...guys are difficult to buy for!
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The last two guys I've liked (One I liked for seven months, but I'm over him. The other one I've only liked for about two weeks and I'm not totally over him) have liked me "as a friend."
Yes, I know it's good to have guy friends (So don't go on and on about how good it is, please. I know!), but I don't want to be JUST THE FRIEND forever! It hurts seeing my friends get guys so easily when I can't even get a guy I like to like me. What should I do? (link)
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Well, I'm going to try and not sound shallow and mean when I say this so bear with me.
What do you wear when you are around your guy friends?
Do you do your hair and make up?
Do you try and flirt at all?
What do they know about you?
The reason I ask these questions is because ALL guys want girls who put an effort into what they look like...so if you're just hanging out in sweats and have your hair in a pony tail...they are probably not going to look at you in a sexual way (and trust me...when guys are looking for a girlfriend, they think of sex).
Try flirting with guys right when you start hanging out with them. I've noticed that if guys see you as a friend for a long time (no flirting) then they will probably always think of you like that. Try telling them they smell good...touch their arms...etc...
Now, the final question I asked is what do they know about you. If you want a guy to be your boyfriend...do not tell him everything about your life! Guys want girls who have a little mystery about them...don't burp in front of them, don't fart in front of them, don't say "I have to pee" when you go to the bathroom, and DO NOT tell them when you are on your period...because that totally grosses them out!
I'm not saying to not be yourself, but if you are doing anything opposite of what I said...that may be why all of them see you as friends.
If you don't do any of those things...then I have no idea...maybe you could try asking your guy friends why they don't see you as girlfriend material. Don't get offended and cry at what they say either, because they don't want to hurt you...but maybe you need them to tell you so you know what to do (or not to do) next time.
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so i met this kid about two months ago at a concert. weve gone out like 5 or 6 times. things are moving pretty fast and im fine with that. things just get really hot when we're together. were hanging out tomorrow, and were going to spend most of the time in my car. i know we're going to hook up, so far weve been to third base and he really wants to go all the way. im a virgin and i dont exactly know if i want to just yet. i do want to, but then i think about it and talk myself out of it. should i go for it?
16/f if it matters (link)
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If you "don't know just yet" then DON'T DO IT!!!
If you weren't a virgin I wouldn't even be answering this question because after I lost my virginity and got majorly hurt by the guy I gave it to, sex was more casual for me.
Do not do anything until you are completely sure and when you are that guys' girlfriend. From the looks of it you are just casually dating and I can say with 97% certainty that if you give it up to this guy that fast then you will never hear from him again. Believe me, I've been there! Do not do it until you are exclusively dating for a while and when you don't have any question in your mind about doing it!
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Ok.. so normally i get really wet but last night me and my boyfriend were having sex and it hurt and i had A LOT of i guess u could call it discharge it was wark i couldnt tell you if it was clear it was dark but pretty sure it was clear but it felt like a gush kind of like when you get your period i used a paper towel to like wipe and it soaked the paper towel.. what could be wrong with me i never had that happen before. (link)
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I don't know about the hurting thing...he may have just been too rough. But with the gushing, there is a possibility that you could've "squirted". My sister-in-law does that sometimes and she tells me it feels like she peed or just got her period. It's the same stuff that comes out normally...it just kinda squirts out. Next time it happens, however, make sure you inspect it to make sure that it is clear...if it is any other color you should go to the doctor and get it checked out.
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Okay,
well ive given a handjob before,
but like theres this guy im with,
and i just really want to do it...good. lol
um well guys,
can yew explain to me how yew like it.
And girls can yew give me some tips.
Thankss! (link)
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I personally hate giving hand jobs (mostly cuz my wrist and arm start to hurt after a while). Anyway, I would say that your best bet to get him to like it the best is for him to demonstrate how he hold his penis while he masturbates. All men masturbate differently and if you do the same technique he does he will like it A LOT more because he's used to it. :D
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well i have a boyfrind and we have kissed but it only lasts for like one second becase he like pulls away. i really want to make out with him and i think he really wants to make out with me but we just dont...what do i do?? (link)
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This could be for a lot of reasons. Do you kiss when people could show up at any minute? Do you kiss when you are about to do something else? Think about the situations that you are in. Also, he may not want to maul you because he wants to respect you and not make you feel violated. I would say that when you get alone with him and you have the time and privacy to ful-on make out...grab the back of his head pull him to you kiss him deeply and say "I want to make-out with you" and I can pretty much guarantee that he'll be totally on board for it!
Hope this helps!
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Ok well there's this guy, named ummm B. Yeah, it was a wednesday that I met him. Sometimes I instantly like people. Sometimes I instantly dislike them. Besides that though he was one of the ones I liked. Well we started dating later that night or whatever. See he doesn't live in the city I do. It's kinda the next one over but it's kinda close. Well Friday I asked him to come to my school's football game. I'm 15 and he's 17. So he graduated already. & he showed up and everything was good. Later Friday night though he tells me that we rush into a relationship. Which I understand. & That he'll need time getting to know me. Well the only thing he's asking is for me to send him "pictures". Only because he wants to see if he trusts me or I trust him. Some bullshit.
Am I being used though? (link)
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Yes you are definately being used. Do not send "pictures" of yourself to anybody unless you are wanting to pose for playboy or you are doing it as a gift to someone you are engaged to be married to.
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I have a strange situation here. I'm 18/m, in college, and there is a girl in my class with whom I was really good friends with, then we added each other on myspace (I REALLY like her by now), I ask her to the movies, during the movie we cuddle/hold hands. If felt right and she was the one who initiated everything.
Then the next day she asks me if we are dating, to which I say yes, then she says that we should be going out instead, and on her profile she puts the 'in a relationship' status. Then the next day we have class together, and she seemed really seemed more quiet. That night she tells me she might be a lesbian, or bisexual, but she still really likes me and wants to work this out. Then she tells me she only likes me as a friend but we can still hang out and stuff. She changed her relationship status to single. We went out to dinner, it was awkward, and she kind of completely stopped talking to me since. I asked her about it and she told me she wasn't mad at me, and she'll explain next class. She didn't. I asked her about it again and she said she'll explain this weekend. Well, its Sunday night, and she still hadn't said a word to me. She won't even look at me.
I'm confused. First she was telling me how much she liked me (I believe she was being genuine, just trust me on this), then how she didn't like me that way and how she still wants to work this out, now she isn't talking to me at all. And we are in the same group of friends and she still talks to them. Whats happening? What should I do? She is 17 by the way but also in college. (link)
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I would have to say that she is a lesbian. Girls don't tell guys that they are bisexual or a lesbian unless they are trying to get attention at a party, unless they actually are.
Believe me, I would just give this girl space. My mom is a lesbian and this girl is probably a lesbian but is very scared about it and is very confused. She probably did rush into a relationship with you because she wanted to hide her feelings for a girl...but then realized that wasn't fair to you so she told you about what she was thinking. I would tell her that you are here for her if she wants to talk and let her know that you still like her but you will respect any decision she makes in her life. If she is a lesbian she probably really does like you....but she's a lesbian...and just doesn't like guys like that.
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ok so ive had like 2 boyfriends before in my life, and i'm 15, sophomore. My relationships didnt last tht long because one is moving and he had complications and the other one had to go to college. But I'm really desperate for a new boyfriend. And I dont want to be desperate, its so annoying, i cant even be myself around guys anymore, without expecting that something "magical" or amazing will happen. I just want to be myself! Yes I would love a boyfriend! But to tell the truth I dont have a very good self esteem. most people cant tell unless I tell them. But I do. I think that I dont deserve to be skinny (i'm a little overweight and im in the process of losing my goal of 15lbs), i think i dont deserve to be happy, or i dont deersve to be loved or have a girlfriend. I'm not emo lol, but I think I do have some depression issues. I go through depression spells especially when I'm stressed out, or the fact when that I dont think I'm loved. And at my school, like alot of the guys are players and are rude, but alot are nice too. I just think I'll never be good enough for anything or anyone. It's like I'll always have the feeling of being alone forever.
15/f/usa
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Okay...so I know what you are going through. You are actually ahead of any game that I had...I never even kissed a guy until I was 16. I have had 3 boyfriends in my life and I married my 3rd boyfriend (I am 19). Now first of all, I know how it is to have low self esteem. I had very low self esteem until I got my first kiss. Only then did I think I was actually pretty and attractive. After that, I started to not care about having a boyfriend. I concentrated on myself and having fun with my friends and within a few months I got my first boyfriend. My advice is to relax...do not put so much pressure on yourself to get a boyfriend. You are 15 years old! Focus on school and your friends and making yourself feel good. I know it sounds cheesy as hell but you are most attractive to others when you feel attractive. Nobody is going to think you are worth anything until you think you are worth something! If you want a boyfriend to save you from your depression and to make you "feel pretty" it is not going to happen. Reality of it is...guys suck at being nice, guys suck at giving compliments and guys your age are very selfish. Most guys are not ready to "save" someone ever, and none of them should have to. I would suggest doing a lot of soul searching and fixing a lot of issues within yourself. Nothing is more unattractive to guys than a desperate, unconfident girl...so quit being desperate and get some confidence! Once you stop thinking about needing a boyfriend....a guy will actually want to be your boyfriend. Oh and p.s. You said that you only want to lose 15 lbs....if you are only needing to lose 15 lbs you are not overweight at all and are not fat at all...just thought I'd let you know.
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1 are NYX cosmetics really that good? especially theres an advantage to how cheap their products are ?
2 From one to ten ten being the best, how would you rate the cosmetics?
3 are their eyeshadows good and highly pigmented?
4 have you tried their concealer sticks? they look like this:
http://www.nyxcosmetics.com/Main_Pages/Profile_CS.htm
thanks mucho! (link)
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I have used NYX eye shadows and haven't had a problem with them...I use their eyeliner because it is cheap and it lasts a long time. I haven't tried their concealer or foundation because I don't trust cheapos for that...that's just how I am...I don't have experience to prove whether or not it is good or not...I just don't use it. Their mascara is okay...but I wouldn't suggest using it....their lip gloss is very nice and very cheap and some of it actually tastes good which is nice too!
Hope this helps!
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So my hair was medium to light brown and i decided i wanted it blonde. So i bleached it (cant remember the name of the product) and it turned bright yellow! so i put in some lighter caramel highlights which look fine but the problem is the rest of my hair apart from the highlights. Its still quite yellow and goes orangey at times. I have a shampoo called shimmer lights which has toned down the yellow to a large extent but its still quite yellowy and i dont want it to be yellow at all. I want it a natural blonde colour but not as light as platinum blonde.
So the question is, should i use a toner? or should i put the colour of the highlights all over my hair? if the worst comes to the worst i will save up to go to the hairdressers, but id artehr try and fix it myself first. My hair isnt a disaster, but it isnt the blonde i wanted.
Any advice would be helpful =]
Sorry for the long question.
xxxxx (link)
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The first mistake you made was bleaching your hair yourself. I too have made this mistake and the only way I knew how to fix it was to turn it brown again.
GO TO YOUR STYLIST and NEVER try and bleach your hair at home again!
Dark colors are easy to do at home....NEVER BLEACH YOUR OWN HAIR!
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I didnt mean for any of this to happen. I wish none of it had... but it did okay well hmm ok i will call them max and dane. Okay so I am perfectly happy and loveing my life completley in love with my boyfriend dane me and dane have been together for quite a while when I meet max and i begin to like him to me and he likes me well we became great friends but i decided i didnt wwant anything bad to happen and i was getting to close to max and i dont want to breakup with dane so i made a mistake and told max i didnt want to be friends anymore and i hated him and that i wanted him to hate me but i lost him and i know i shouldnt but i wamnt to at least befriends with him and he wont answer th ephone so i keep emailing him and saying im sorry but he wont say anything back, but then i still love dane and he has no idea about max. what hsuold i do? (link)
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If you love your boyfriend so much then why are you so scared to "accidentally" fall in love with someone else. You are young...you are not married to Dane and if for some reason your friendship with Max would blossom into an even better romantic relationship for you then why are you worried about it? If you loved Dane as much as you think you do...you wouldn't worry about falling in love with Max and you wouldn't worry about being close friends with a guy.
Just something for you to think about.
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HEY! for my publications class we have to write an artical for the school newspaper. and i got the topic top 10 high school based movies.... i can only come up with 4. someone help me?
i already have..
the breakfast club
high school musical
mean girls
never been kissed
HELP PLEASE.
its due wens. (link)
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Bring It On!
Not Another Teen Movie (lol)
She's All That
Scream
Remember the Titans
John Tucker Must Die
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So I have a friend with benefits who has a girlfriend.(She suddenly decided to deny him physical contact of any kind) I know that's against some people's morals on here, but that's what it is. Anyway, my roommates know that there is chemistry between the two of us and that we both want one another, but they do not approve of him hooking up with me while he's in a relationship. Basically they're being really strict about him coming over. We all have our own rooms and share a common living room, but when he comes over they won't let the two of us go into my room alone. Is there any way to compromise with them? I'm getting really frustrated. (link)
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I would say that you need to go to his place if your roommates are being really pushy about their beliefs. I too have done the same thing you have...just make sure you do not become emotionally attached to this guy because he is very much so emotionally unavailable. If you are fooling around with him in an attempt to one day have a relationship with him...it won't happen. He is just a jerk of a guy who's really horny but loves his girlfriend too much to leave her for you (the person who sexually pleases him). If you are in it just for the sex....then by all means go ahead and have fun girl! I've done it...it's no biggie without emotions!
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okay soooooo, i dated this guy for about 2 years. i was in lovee with him. for about the last 3 months of our relationship he broke up with me like 3 times! but he would always come back to me within a week or what not. the last time he broke up with me he didnt come back.. i tried really hard to make it work and be with him but he said it wasnt like that anymore. so for about a month we still talked and i told him i still loved him and i always would, but then i realized that he really only thought of me as a friend and that only being friends with him would be too hard for me.
so i stopped contact with him and for the next month we didnt talk at all! i ended up seeing him at this get together and i didnt speak to him at all. the next day he ended up texting me? and was like ohh thanks for saying hi to me at the party! i was just like haha ok. and then he was like haha! and i didnt text him back. a week later he texted me telling me he was going off to college. i dont know why he was telling me this considering we didnt talk and he even removed me from his myspace friends list? anyways i just responded like ya thats cool.
about 3 days later he called me and we actually talked for about an hour, he told me that he wanted me to visit him and i just told him that it wouldnt be a good idea.
the next day he called me again saying i should really come up that weekend and i just said idk. and he was like i miss you, i think i really do love you and all this stuff, and it made me of course miss him again.. so that weekend i went up to see him and it was really good! he kept holding me and kissing me and calling me babe and stuff but when i left he told me "you know we're not dating tho okay?" like why the heck would he even say that? i know we're not dating..? and i didnt even say anything about us dating? it just kind of confused me like idk.
and then after i left he didnt text / call me or anything. so the next night i texted him and he didnt text me back. so i texted him later and said "thanks for texting me back!" and he texted me and said "you'reee annoying" like wtf? so i called him and i was like "whats your problem?" and hes like "nothing you keep texting mee and im busy. your crazy" like what the hell is his problem? and i was like "why are you acting so weird all of a sudden just yesterday you were telling me how much you loved me, now im annoying?" and hes like "i gotta go i have to write a paper ill call you later" and i was like ok.. and we hung up. he didnt call me that night or the next day. im soo confused like whys he being like this? we dated for 2 years, he put me threw so much pain of breaking up with me and coming back to me, all i wanted was to be with him, and i finally started to get over him and now hes coming back to me, is he breaking it off again or is he just having a bad time, what do you think. i really love him again, and i want to make it work again, but i cant if i dont know how he feels. but i dont want to straight out say "how do you feel tell me how you feel, what do you think about me" cause that sounds weird. but what do you think? does he still have love me? or whatts going on with him and what should i do (link)
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Okay, forget about this guy. I KNOW it hurts and I KNOW you have a lot of history and I KNOW you want to make it work...believe me I KNOW. He is not worth your time...he obviously only wants you around when it is convenient for him and he misses the idea of a girlfriend...he doesn't actually miss you.
Don't text him, don't contact him, and for heaven's sake do not go visit him again. He is a loser and not worth your time.
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okay, this guy x and my friend y have got off a few times, but shes been with other people in between, but he's not cause he quite likes her but she just uses him because he's there. and i've liked x for quite a while, but i have no chance with y(i've known him all my life and we're quite close) but i hate when i see them together or people are talking about them. and i've been really bitchie to her recently because of it; i don't mean to be but i can't help it. what should i do? (link)
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Okay, so I'm thinking that x is the guy you like and y is one of your friends who x is obsessed with but she just uses him. I say you tell y that you like x a lot and what to know her reaction to it if you told him about it. Then if your friend is okay with it...tell x how you feel. I hate to burst your bubble but chances are he will tell you that he really likes y a lot and wants to see where it goes. You will just have to accept this and see where it goes, eventually x will find out that y uses him and will be crushed and you can be there to help him through it and eventually you two will become closer. Then hopefully, you'll be able to be with x...if you still feel the same way about him, and your friend y will be okay with it because she already said she didn't care. Now if y says that she cares...you better just stay away from x because a guy is not worth ruining your friendship over...no matter how much you think you like a guy.
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Alright, so each month in the few days right before my period I get excessively horny. I end up feeling the need to masturbate a couple times a day even if my boyfriend and I do have sex. Is it normal to get horny like this? (link)
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Yes this is definately normal...I was too worried about this...not just being extremely horny before my period but being extremely horny all the time. My husband and I have very satisfying sex everyday but I end up masterbating at least every other day. When my period is supposed to come it gets even worse....so yes that is very very very normal.
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okay how can i prepare myself for this? ive been dating him for a month and im ready. im 19 years old. ive been fingered/everything else besides sex. how much more painful is it going to be? i remember my last boyfriend when he would finger me i think he may have used 3 fingers because it hurt for the first time. is this how sex will feel? i dont mean to sound like a 12 year old who doesnt know anything but im nervous. helpppp!!! and also.. do you have any tips to make it seem like im really not inexperienced? and what position will be best for this? any other advice would reaaally be appreciated! (link)
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I know this isn't what you want to hear because I'm sure you've heard it a million times...but make sure that you are emotionally ready before you have sex. I was 17 when I lost my virginity (now 19 and married...not to the same man) and I do not regret it (surprisingly) but it wasn't very good and it wasn't special at all. Just because you are 19 doesn't mean you have to hurry up and have sex...there is nothing wrong with waiting until you are emotionally ready to have sex.
Anyway, I do not really know how to make it less painful. My first time wasn't painful at all. Earlier that day my boyfriend at the time and I were fooling around and he actually "popped my cherry" with his fingers. I have come to know that when you are actually really aroused and very much into having sex with a person you get really wet and it doesn't hurt. My first time I was on top and I didn't feel anything and it really sucked...and I have come to find out that when I am on top now I still can't feel anything and it really sucks...so obviously that position isn't right for me...but thats the least painful posistion I have ever done. My favorite and most pleasing posistion would have to be "doggy-style"...but if you do do that one make sure that you do not have any excess air up in your vagina otherwise it will hurt and will hurt very badly...but thats not from the sex...its from the air being pushed up there.
Thats about as far as my advice goes with the pain factor....if you are in foreplay and are worrying about how bad it will hurt...you won't get very wet and it will hurt. I suggest waiting until you are very comfortable with who you are with and so you won't worry about it hurting and then you'll be very moist and then it won't hurt.
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